March 2013 Mk III - Hopefully the nausea will wear off soon...

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Thanks for the welcome everyone

Probably HaitchJay, been awhile since I've been on MN. Been a busy year and I've been taking a break.

HermioneBoo, I hope so! Hopefully we can put a plan in place to make sure things go easier. I have a good team so I'm hoping they will help.

zoeymlucas, sounds like we have similar problems although different reasons. I have to have the cervical length scans from 18/20-24 (depends when they decide) even though there's no sign of it being an issue. I'm fortunate enough that it's a quick bus ride (one driver did it in 8 minutes last year, not great when you're pregnant!) and DH works around the corner so sometimes he comes with me.

ThreeForTea, I'm still breastfeeding so not having a proper cycle. I feel so normal that we didn't think I could too far along.

JoJoBella84, not much sanity? I'll fit right in I've had to actually take his paper work into the GP surgery and book him an appointment to make sure he does! I'm quite cross with him because pregnancy isn't a good thing for me yet he's more scared of a lunch break proceedure.

Sheldonella, good advice here. Brown is usually old so you're not actively bleeding. Sex can sometimes cause bleeding at the time which you see the next day or so as brown. In one of my pregnancies I stopped telling people because I figured out it was sex and happened so often I thought they'd get fed up of me. If you're worried then make a fuss and get seen, tell them you've had previous miscarriages and stressing out about it.

sheldonella thinking of you. I am very much with the other ladies on this one - if you think you need medical attention jolly well demand it as this is too important to you for you not to be taken seriously. Even if the EPU thinks all is wellpart of their job is to reassure you. As rainbow says make a fuss if necessary or better still take along someone else to make a blooming great fuss on your behalf.

Zoe delighted by yur admission of McD craving - I admit that it's BK onion rings for breakfast for me some days and only they will do!!

confuddled welcome, welcome. As jojo says its a lovely thread with just the right sprinkling of crazy.

Three thank you for your lovely words. I utterly relate on the whole better one on one thing too. I am pretty happy in myself but in a new group I sometimes feel that I am not the 'easiest' and possibly an acquired taste ( I imagine that this proves that I'm a seething mass of insecurity deep down). Am a little worried I'll be the 1 out of the antenatal group who doesn't get invited to ( or doesn't want to go to ) the post baby meet up!!

Its either macdonalds or chicken burgers with salad (no mayo) its like all I think about, lol! However the other night was laid in bed at 11.30pm and sat bolt up right to tell hubby I want meat somosas the next day, lol!

Like you and dame and three I know I am hard and an acquired tast have a habit of saying what I think so have my close group of friends but not really into antenatal groups for that reason and worried about how clicky they seem and dont want to feel like an 'outsider' plus have issues with trust and people I dont know and it takes a while or me to feel safe :(

Me moved in July and have been badgering DH to find my maternity clothes as are much needed right now and he has just text to say the box is lost so I have nothing and nothing fits - am gutted!

I never really get cravings very often and they don't last long (apart from sour cream with everything that I still do 7 years later!) but wanted salad with raita the other night and he wouldn't go and get me any I asked if I could order a curry so I could get the free salad and raita he said no too

This is one of the problems with my cravings, they're so short lived and nearly always at night I don't get to satisfy them.

Pickled onions. Crunchy strong ones. Luckily we have loads we did last year.

I've gone off cheese though and it's my staple. I'm veggie and every day at work I have a pile of sandwiches it's a good job loads are off as someone would have noticed.

Argh! I'm so angry I called the EPU and got quite upset on the phone. Again, they told me they wouldn't scan so I told them what happened last time when they made me wait weeks and how I ended up having counselling for it. They agreed to let me go in and be examined by a doctor, so I did.

I waited 4 hours and was examined by a doctor. She took a swab which had some blood on it and checked my cervix. She then told me they still wouldn't give me a scan as it is too early to be useful anyway so I just have to wait and see. She said nothing reassuring at all. I cried a lot and eventually she got a nurse to come and talk to me. She said she had seen the doctors notes and it said my cervix is closed which is a good sign - why didn't the doctor tell me this?! She said I definitely can't have a scan and even if they thought I should I couldn't because they were too busy. She then gave me the number for a private clinic.

I'm so so upset, if it is going wrong I need to know so I can deal with it and not wait and suffer for so long like last time. I'm going to look into a private one but there is nothing on the site until the middle of next week.

I'm being very naughty and having a weak wine spritzer to calm me down

Thanks for your messages of support today, it really helps.

Hi ladies!

Right first things first sheldonella I'm so sorry to hear your news, as many have said before brownish is better than reddish so stay positive - feel free to not read on as I had my scan today.

So, I had the wonderful experience of meeting my baby this afternoon :)
Baby-singular. Very very cool, waving away and body popping.
There was one slightly concerning moment when the midwife asked me one of those questions 'have you been experiencing any pain in your right hand side?' I explained about the stabbing pains I'd been getting but that they hadn't worried me as they were in short bursts. Anyway, it turns out I have a cyst on my right ovary about 8cm large.
Baby was in the wrong position for the nt scan so I had to have a walk around for 20 mins and empty my bladder etc to try and change the position - it didn't work!! The midwife had me rolling side to side, jumping up and down, jogging, even jigging the us wand quite vigorously to try and shift him/her but nothing worked!!
Anyway because I've had two scans I have EIGHT pictures :D
I also have to have another scan in two weeks with a consultant just to keep an eye on the cyst, they hope it will shrink but need to watch it as its in a bit of an awkward position, if the stabbing worsens I have to seek medical help as there is a risk it could burst or bleed. They think it's too close to the baby for surgical intervention.
So on a whole it's not affecting the baby and I'm on cloud 9 :)

Sheldon- So sorry to hear what you are going through. I don't understand how services can be so inconsistent all over the UK. Im sure many women on mn had a scan at EPU even during the early stages.

sheldon that's really piss poor from your EPU. I had brown bleeding with my last pregnancy and they took me in for a scan straight away with no questions asked. Why is it so different across the country. Bonkers. I hope you get some answers soon x

JoJo congrats on the scan!

I just don't know what to do when nowhere will help me. There is nowhere I can get a private one until Wednesday at the earliest. I can't believe they can just kick out a hysterically crying woman like that :(

Sheldon and this is what the MN miscarriage campaign is for. Good news that your cervix is closed though, especially as it's brown things are unlikely to change. Anyway, nothing wrong with a little alcohol as long as you're not regularly going on a binge. I won a case of wine from MN last year when I was pregnant and was telling a MW after she was born and she said "you could have drunk it" unfortunately my tolerance is so low in pregnancy that most of it would have gone to waste. I still have most of it as the baby is still so young and I haven't had a big enough break [sigh]

Sheldonella that is absolutely disgusting my blood is boiling on your behalf!! Read that to DH and he thinks the same. Especially what you went through before, I've always read that a good doctor worth their salt will scan you to ease your worries/stress as not good

Anyway glad you are trying to calm down I've everything crossed for you that it will be alright.

sheldonella I can't believe how badly you've been treated. Is it worth trying the gp route on Monday if you're going to have to wait until Wednesday for a private scan in any event? At least what little they did tell you was positive, please try to hold onto that and take good care of yourself this weekend. I have my fingers and toes are crossed for you!

Huge congrats to jojo; what an amazing way to go into the weekend and here's to it being the first of many

shel that is so awful :( I'm sorry you have to be under them. No chance you could register to a better hospital is there?

Congrats jojo! 'body popping' baby made me smile.

tinker so sorry about your grandad.

Jojogreat news on the scan.

confuddle welcome!

sheldonella can you get in touch with PALS or whatever it's called and make a complaint?

8 weeks here tomorrow. Scan letter has arrived 10th September.

Quick catch-up here

Welcome confuddled- are you thinking of stopping bfing or keeping going through pg? I ask because I decided to stop (ds is 21 months), but I believe someone else (sorry can't remember who) is still bfing. Just interested; for me the timing was right to stop, but it might not be for you.

Tinker sorry to hear the news about your Grandad; expected or not, it still leaves a huge hole in your life. Hope you are getting lots of support. What terrible timing for your dd to be ill too. Ds had something similar earlier this year and it was horrible. Hope your dd recovers quickly, poor thing.

JoJo Whoopee for lovely baby pics! Hope the cyst doesn't give you any further trouble; at least it is being monitored.

Shel Sounds like good news that your cervix is closed. Fx for no more spotting and everything to go back to normal. Please keep talking about it on here; we want to support you.

MrsRigby Any news? How's things going? Still thinking of you.

Ethel Yay, a scan buddy for the 10th; after changing from the 3rd, I was feeling lonely!

Had to smile at some of the cravings. I wolfed my way through a good portion of ham slices today; couldn't get enough. Had banana cravings before I knew I was pg; can't face them now. Right now...oooh I could murder a curry!

Hello all you lovely ladies. Especial hello to newbie confuddled and really hoping you have an easier time this time round. Nice to have you on board with us!

Sheldonella I can understand how desperately worried you are, especially if this is how your last MC started, but from what (little) I understand, no two pregnancies are the same and there can be lots of different reasons for bleeding. 4-hour wait for a doc sounds hideous, you poor thing, and then no scan at the end of it ('too busy'?! WTF!) Can you afford a private scan? I got one next day here in Oxford so might be worth looking on the web to see if there are other clinics than can see you as an emergency, even if it means travelling very far afield. May be worth the expense / hassle to get some idea of how things are looking inside. Take care of yourself. Hope you sleep okay tonight and feel brighter tomorrow.

Really pleased you had great scans rainbow and JoJo and I'm not at all jealous that at my scan two weeks ago there was no waving or body popping! Your morning post made me laugh JoJo - fab to be so excited and a much better state of mind than being worried so I shall try to emulate that in 2 weeks time at my 12+4 scan! Hope the cyst behaves itself.

Glad you're feeling a bit more human today, tinker!

Reassuring to know that others' cramps have eased too - thanks

And it's really nice to hear that lots of us don't find it the easiest thing to make friends, keep friends, and not over-analyse 'levels' of friendship etc. Makes me feel (almost) normal! Yes, perhaps the series Friends has a lot to answer for, three!

Oooooh you made your own pickled onions haitch? Fab. We've got a glut of cabbages down the lottie and thinking we'll have a go at sauerkraut (sp?)

Kept my head down today as I was determined not to get (nicely) distracted from finishing a big chunk of a chapter. Have just completed the bastard aforementioned chapter, so I am rewarding myself with a bit of chatter when what I'd really like is a pint of cider. Am home alone this weekend. Suggested DH goes to spend one of his weekends helping his DM with DIY and garden (his DF passed away last summer, so they both get a lot out of these odd weekends together) and I'm just going to work through. I have to submit the arsing book on the last day of the month so I desperately need every single hour. It's going to be a really dull weekend for me so I'm hoping to be cheered by all your antics and exploits, peeps!

Oh and I don't know if it's writer's fatigue or growing twin-beans but I have had an irresistible desire to eat almost constantly today -- three bags of crisps, two cheese salad sandwiches, a raspberry/banana/yoghurt/oat smoothie, a whole pack of sesame rice cakes, two apples, last night's leftover spuds fried up with leftover onion gravy, glass of V8, glass of OJ, glass of grapefruit juice. And it's 11.30pm and my tummy is rumbling and I can't stop thinking about the potato waffles in the freezer. I'm going to be bloody HUGE at this rate!

(sorry for essay!)

I tandemed through my last pregnancy but the six weeks in hospital got them out of the routine, it's been strange only feeding one this time. So I'm happy to let her decide when she's ready.

I'm jealous of you all having your dates sorted, although I had a scan this week, I think my biggest thing is just not knowing if I'm booked into the hospital or not yet.

I'm hating my needles already every pregnancy it seems to get harder, I'm struggling to find somewhere that doesn't hurt to do it. My bum used to be the best place but I have a lump now from doing it last night. I'm going to be doing this probably until mid-March, my legs and belly are going to be a mess!

I'm still breastfeeding, that's what alerted me to being pg. dd3 complaining the milk was all gone! Dd1 gave up when I was pg with dd2 cos she didn't like the changes but dd3 is powering through! It's not hurting as much now so it's ok.

Thanks for all the messages, it really does help and I'm very grateful

I'm trying to find somewhere that will do a private scan this weekend. I definitely want one now. I was reluctant before as I wasn't sure how they would handle it if it was bad news. The nurse told me that they would contact the hospital for me so I feel better about that. I really wish there was another hospital near me.

JoJo that is really great news about your scan :) Sorry I didn't congratulate you yesterday.

Welcome confuddled.

manda I measured 12+5 yesterday so if you'll be 12+4 at your next scan I'm sure you'll get some form of body popping or breakdancing or waving! So my EDD has changed for what I hope to be the final time to 17th Feb 2013 :)
Which just happens to be the mid point between both our birthdays and the date we got engaged this year! Feb is a very busy month!!
sheldonella I hope you're feeling a bit more positive this morning and that the bleeding has stopped. Its a worrying time and I hope you can get through the next few days with relative calm!!
Somebody in earlier posts mentioned the scanning department at the hospital showing images of happy families and healthy babies at the end of a pg, was it you rainbow? Where I went there was nothing like that, there were lots of scan posters and pictures of artisticy scan images, posters telling us how to behave in a hospital etc but no happiness at the end of your pregnancy kind of stuff, which actually surprised me as everyone who was waiting for their scans looked petrified!! Even coming out clutching their pictures, they were a bit dazed!!

I think I had to look happy, I'd just spent 10 mins doing some combination of the funky chicken and a rain dance... Trying very hard to shift baby into optimal NT scanning position!! Without success I might add! S/he was stubbornly staying in the 11 o'clock position shifted briefly to 10 o'clock and then back to 11. Cheeky body popper!

JoJo I now have a lovely image of you doing the funky chicken :)

Private scan booked for Wednesday evening. Heres hoping...

Quick catch up for you busy chatting ladies..

sheldon .. Awful, awful treatment. I am seething on your behalf. Thank god you have managed to get a private scan for next week. I hope you are ok. Like the others, brown blood suggests to me that you are just losing something from way back, but of course you need to see baby to relax.

tinker sorry about your grandad. I hope you are your family are coping at this sad time.

jojo .. How lovely to see the bean dancing and grooving. Possibly that was your first time embarrassing the wee one with your mum moves. Try them in 11 yrs at the year 6 disco!

confuddled .. Welcome and what a back story. Wishing you luck for this time round.

We told the in laws last night and they were so so happy. I felt really nervous telling them. I am getting on a bit now, the boys are growing up so going back to baby world probably does seem a bit odd to some people, but they we really pleased. Tears were shed!

I am still feeling headachy and sick. Possibly less so, occasionally, but I dare not think I am getting over the worst of it. I am 10weeks tomorrow and t'internet tells me most people feel better at about 12 weeks. So only 2 weeks of over eating and groaning to go.

My nt scan is booked for 2 weeks today .. 25th August .. So can start telling people then. Actually jojo if they could not get an nt measurement, how did they leave that? Are you going to go back for another one?

Thanks ted no I'm not going back for another nt. you could see the area quite clearly and even I could tell it was not enlarged, the MW said the same but baby has to be lying flat for accurate measurement so all I can do is hold off for 2nd trimester blood screening!
I'm not too concerned though as I could clearly see the area. I'd looked at loads of nt's online before my scan!!
I should probably have dance lessons before the year 6 disco... Or just steer clear!!! Poor child!!
Actually it was really sweet I was calling the baby stubborn and the midwife was defending it!! 'oh, the baby doesn't understand what we're asking it to do, it's not the baby's fault'!

Good morning.

JoJo- Congrats on your scan.

I got an automated phonecall from the hospital this morning but I have no reception at home and it cut off. grr.

I got worried I hadn't got a scan date yet so I called the hospital on Thursday and they did not receive the referral from the GP. Good bloody job I phoned them. Spoke to GP yesterday and said she would fax it over again. So im thinking its probably something to do with my scan date or to say they received the referral. Then im thinking maybe its not. So a bit anxious now.

Lovely day today. Enjoy the weekend.