November 2012 - baby shopping time has really taken off

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swissarmy love Bonobo too! Really must update my iPod with some new stuff

Is def funny how bodies react differently. My waters broke first with DS, I didn't have any contractions at all and had to be induced 48 hours later, even then it took a while to get going!

I have a question for all the mummies with DCs already. Childminder was asking what our plans were this morning. DS goes 3 days a week 8.30-5.30 while I'm at work. I do want him to continue going for continuity and to give me a break, but seems silly for him to be doing (and us to be paying for) such long hours there when I'm going to be at home. But don't know whether to reduce the number of days, or just hours, and whether I should be thinking about adding some nursery to the mix before he's 3, when we'll be wanting to make use of our free nursery hours. He'll be 2.2 when the new baby comes along. Just wondered what other people in similar situations did while on maternity leave with a second DC?

dixie I'm wondering the same. My DD is 2.9, will be just over 3 when baby arrives. I think I will want some time to bond with new baby without the (lovely) distraction of my DD. Plus when baby naps, it means I might be able to grab 40 winks too. She currently goes to nursery for 3 mornings per week and as she loves going, I think I'll keep it at that to start off with and see how we go.

Right, off to do some more cleaning / sorting / decluttering.

Dixie I'm planning to keep dd in her nursery for first 3 months while I'm still on full pay. She will then be straying ore school nursery in January 9-11.30 every morning.
I think I will need the time and she will need the support of nursery too. She is only in one full day and one afternoon but I am thinking if upping it to two full days. She loves it anyway !

Stupid phone! Should have said- she will then be starting pre-school nursery

I've got a place at works nursery :) so happy!! Sooo much closer to everything and cheaper and good reports!! Ah relief!!! Phoned them back in an almost mad panic lol

Not sure who also was talking about nesting but it's bizarre isn't it? I just keep tidying and cleaning. Unheard of unless it was a stable!!

Before I had DS2 my DS1 was in a nursery near my work so I had to take him out of nursery when DS2 was born. Now when I had DS1 I followed the rule 'you sleep when the baby sleeps' or sit quietly reading or sewing or something relaxing while the baby is asleep. You absolutely DO NOT run round doing chores while the baby is asleep until he/she is sleeping well at night (only waking you once or twice a night). I can't stress enough that the sleep deprivation needs to be minimised.

With DS2 however, whenever he was asleep then I had a 3.5yo DS1 needing attention so I ended up very tired out for the first few months weeks. So if you have the option for someone else to take your older DC(s) even for one day a week for the first couple of months then it will be very helpful unless you're one of those lucky sods whose baby sleeps through the night from very early on.

Hi all, it's been ages since I last posted though I try to keep up with the thread (usually when I wake at 4am needing the loo and can't get back to sleep!)

I've had an eventful few weeks. Just back from holidaying in a cottage in Suffolk which was lovely but since then my DP has been admitted to hospital with severe abdominal pains. Not sure what is causing it but they are keeping him in for a few days to do some tests.

whilst mainly I am concerned for him, a little bit of me feels sorry for myself as It was only a few weeks ago that we were in paediatrics for a couple of days with my son's breathing problems. I thought pregnancy was all about taking it easy, getting cooked for and having lovely foot massages?! Doesn't appear to be going that way for me.

Sorry to come on here and moan but I'd don't want to moan in real life as I know that I'm being incredibly selfish, I just feel so tired and worn out by all the drama in my life at the moment.

I've bought nothing for the bump yet. think I just need a double buggy and will try to get one from eBay to save some money. Probably a Phil and Ted's unless anyone has any better ideas?

Everything else will be hand-me-downs from DS 1 (unless we have a girl in which case we'll need a quick trip to the baby clothes shops!)

I've got the runs and I've got to go to work in an hour. Boooo for pooooo :(

detective you Cougar! >

Re Nursery: I kept DD1 in nursery mornings only when on Mat Leave with DD2. I have done the same with DD2. She has been home this week, and I have loved it, but she needs the structure, and stimulation, and I will need the rest and time to bond with DS.

I made sure I chose a nursery that qualifies for the funded nursery places in plenty of time as getting wrap around care can be tricky. There was one nursery in the village that would collect and drop off, but you did not get a penny discount. It is amazing how much it reduces the bill actually. One thing to consider though is that your child may not be with any children who are going to the designated school, but DD coped fine.

Vallium we moved into a new area just before I started primary school and I don't remember having any issues with making friends. The same happened at secondary school as well. I just got on with it and happily made new friends. I can't say it's something I've thought about to be honest. There's no feeder nursery into the primary school so guess they all start together at 4/5.

Oh dear rowing I do hope your fella is soon fixed. Must be a worry. Do vent away.

shelly is it wise to go to work? Hope you soon get formed x

Talking of venting, it is never a good thing to get a call from an Orthopaedic surgeon I have an avulsion fracture, unlikely to require surgery, but I need to go for further examination and a cast tomorrow. Shit!

StuntNun - My DH has made me promise to rest when the baby is sleeping. His ex was a use it as an opportunity for mad chores type and got into a complete state. If DSS2 wasn't starting school in September I'd certainly be suggesting he had an extra day at nursery rather than having him on a Thursday which I currently do.

rowingdowntheriver - Moan away. DHs mum has a brain tumour and I've been a bit (secretly) petulant that I don't get as much of his attention. I'm the perfect DIL on the surface but feel a bit like she's taking the shine off what should be such a wonderful time in my life. So there, you're a far nicer person than me! (I hope he gets better soon).

You are very lucky with the nursery horsey. I am guessing it is fairly near, if not in the same building. I am 40mins drive away from mine, and getting a call to say they are ill or hurt is horrid at the best of times, let alone when you have to fight through traffic.

Good luck with the cast Valium. Rowing and Waiting, hope you get some moments to savour your pregnancies and be spoilt (you're really not being unreasonable expecting a wee bit of fuss), I totally understand where you're coming from and isn't it wonderful to have MN to be able to admit to things we might not admit in real life.

I'm still on a cleaning bender. It is totally unprecidented. I was even cleaning stuff outside in the garden like the watering can, planters and front door so they're all shiny (WTF?). DH is doing the bathroom again tonight (delegated nesting hehehehe I still can't bear cleaning the bathroom) and the only room left to do is the lounge. And Mount Washmore (aka slatternly much neglected washing pile) is down to one wash. WTF... I think I've been possessed. Theoretically I'm doing all of this cleaning and tidying to get the house ready to sell but it's made me realise what a lovely house we have too, I still want to sell though and get back closer to family.

Thanks all for the reassurance that it's not just me early nesting - otherwise I'd be worrying that baby was packing their bags and making early travel plans. I spoke to my sister about being a tad less paranoid and freaking me out about stuff last night, she was lovely as ever and apologised that she never used to be this nuts - it's only since having a premmie....

And guess what, we can't do any NCT classes (the nearest is 200 miles and would require £1500 of flights as its over 3 weekends) and our birthing class (NHS one) is week before my due date, so DH, on the drive into work this morning informed me that he would really rather like it if we could start pulling the birth plan together as he's worrying - so Detective cheers for that doc of yours!

Epic post sorry!

So any tips on birthing books and other tools - please shout. xxx

detective happy birthday to your dp! He's the same age as me

YW i'm impressed! Shamefully I'm still lounging in bed today, although it is my only day off this week and I've been up at 5.30 4 days in a row to take DH to work...

Really need to make a start on packing up the apartment today as we get the keys for our new house 2 weeks today. Still don't know when DH is going down to Southampton for his course - will be either next week or insert face of dread the week we move - so really must get organised!!! Feel free to throw some of your energy and motivation my way.

Saw your lovely sister and the kids yesterday afternoon YW. I didn't realise it was next week you were coming down I'm blissfully ignorant that July is almost over. Let me know when you're free and I'll pop round (slightly further than the house next door now!) for a catch up! Xxx

We found out that DH had a tumour on his optic nerve when I was 8mths pg with DD1. Only found out it was benign and slow growing when I was 2days overdue. Somewhat took the happiness out of the situation. He still has the tumour as removing it would result in loss of the eye, so it is just being monitored.

Vallium huge relief to have got a place!! Confused as to how and why as I know my friend hadn't got in (baby before me etc) but anyway all good!!! Guess just luck? Or maybe they liked me lol!!

Oh, and THANK YOU SO MUCH to you lovely ladies who mentioned the avulsion possibility. I am very grateful x

Wahey MissMummy will give you a ring when we are back in the Shire! I don't recommend early nesting to be fair as at present I am having one day on, one day off after I feck my hips and back doing too much cleaning... hmm rock and roll eh?

Hi ladies, will catch up on the thread in a bit but just came on to let you know that if you've joined the Asda baby club and haven't used your voucher for the Huggies starter pack then now is a good time to do so!
The voucher is for £5 as that's the normal cost of the starter pack, however it's on offer at £3.50 at the moment, but when they accept your voucher it still takes £5 off your bill so you can get something else for free (or £1.50 off anyway)
I know it's not much but every little helps...wrong supermarket but you know what I mean!

horsey they may not have had any spaces for when she needed it possibly.

I'm also nesting, yesterday I went through all of dd's old clothes and sorted them, now that I know I'm having a boy I can actually pass them all on. Was knackered after though, and was told by the physio not to Hoover or clean or anything! So a bit peeved about that because I just want to clean and sort everything!

rowing sorry to hear about the problems with your family, it's tough when you have to look after everyone else while pregnant!

I'm getting so many kicks every day now, really belly jigglers too. Should I start counting them now do you think? Is baby big enough to have a pattern yet? should know this already really