November 2012 - baby shopping time has really taken off

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Swelling! I had such bad swelling with DD1 the midwife had me in weekly she was concerned about my BP, but that remained reasonably low. As it was my first I though weekly appointments were normal until it came to DD2 and queried it and she said it was because she was so worried about my oedema.

I regret not chilling more and carrying on like normal through it, I should have been kinder to myself. I wonder now though if it was so bad because DD1 was breach, I didn't have it to the same extent with any of the others.

DS's birthday party today, sausage rolls in the oven, meringues made, cake ready, but pyjamas still on , toys all over the floor and the paddling pool still out from Wednesday, Wicked Stepmother will be horrified and surely have some advice to impart, paragon that she is

mrsW it could be your MW is off sick? Can you just book in to see the midwife at your GP surgery? As it is the weekend, how about calling Triage and explain you are still worried and want checking. You should have a team of midwives looking after you, so any of them should be able to be seen. You need to talk about the birth ASAP, as the nearer you get to the event, the more troubling your previous trauma is likely to become. You need peace of mind now. That is not too much to ask, especially as you are not feeling 100% at the moment.

How are you today swiss ?

I have been in my PJs for over a week. Not the same ones obviously. I do wash and change. I have to get dressed today as going out! Woo hoo! Just to Grandmas, as my brother is visiting.

Hope the party goes well sophia how old? And just ignore the witch

mrswee I've been having such regular tightenings that I have been timing them. For the past two days they've only been two or three during the day, ive also been on antibiotics for an infection but midwives have been non commital about whether the infection was causing the tightenings, but before then I could easily have 4 or 5 in an hour. It's a bit scary isn't it. I never had these with my first, but hopefully they are settling down. Do you have a maternal assessment unit at your hospital that you can call?

I went and spent a teeny tiny fortune on fabric today - but it was 50% off so I have stocked up! They put it in the sale once or twice a year so you have to take advantage of that!! I will be trying to sew a quilt or blanket or maybe a taggy blanket (will have to buy some ribbon).

The Beatrix Potter fabric sounds adorable. Does it have Mrs Tiddlywinkle on it? The hedgehog? She's my fav. Although now I have typed that it sounds wrong and a bit dirty.

Terrible two VQ! I will put my best ignore face on and try to suppress my hormones

mrs W get yourself off down to the antenatal ward and sit in! You may of course be having mega BH but isn't it best to always err on the side of caution, or can you try feet up doing nothing and see if that changes anything?

MrsWee she sounds about as crap as my mw! Luckily I'm much more laid back than DH as he wants to demand another one. Hope you get some answers soon x

My top wisdom teeth are coming 5hrough with avengeance the past 2 days. Sooo painful. In the past I'd have knocked myself out with a bottle of wine or doped up on cocodomal - obv both out the window now. Dreading having to make a dentist appointment. I have a genuine phobia of dentists and don't think my stress levels going there would do baby any good!! Might try the ben and jerrys solution to everthing..

Tiggywinkle, although I prefer your version Iheart ! Yes, she is on it, along with all the rest, and they are all really small and detailed, just like in the books.what fabric did you get? It is so expensive these days.

sophia have you remembered the wine? At age two it is essential, and you can have the odd teeny weeny bit. Terrible twos indeed. DD2 is a quarter of the way through thankfully!

Wine. Mmmmmmmm. I have been having a couple of small glasses a week tbh. I did with all the others. Like you say vq is a necessity with a terrible two in the house!

So lacking in confidence over the potty training thing. Guess because its something big & hardwork and not a lot I can do to help DD learn it any quicker iyswim. The ball is totally in her court. With weaning etc, if she didn't 'get' it straight away, it didn't matter, there was always breastmilk for example as a back-up. She recognises when she leaks a bit of wee, says wee wee and is beginning to know when she needs to go, but this morning just REFUSED to sit on the potty and pee'd on my kitchen floor instead. She didn't poo yesterday & her nappies at night are REALLY full, whilst she only seems to have 3 maybe 4 BIG wees during the day. I'm worried she's withholding, but this kind of normal? I mean, its only day 4...

Going out with the girls tonight. All have toddlers so not a BIG night but still... Have had a couple of small glasses of wine & a v small beer this week already (had forgotten about the beer when had the glasses of wine Wed & Thursday) and had a drink last Thursday with dinner as it was the end of term.

Parents get far too stressed over potty training IMO. It is easy to look at wee tots who are already trained and think that their mummy must be better or their kid must be brighter cos they can wee in a pot. I like to think that my child is more interested in learning to talk, working on their social skills etc. If it is upsetting you, then just pop the nappies on again. It is different if the child refuses to wear them. Remember it is not a pissing contest. Excuse the pun.

I went and bought flight socks for my elephant-like ankles. I don't know whether this is the right thing to do or not but I'll let you know how I get on after a (hopefully) full day of work on Monday. I've broken my ankle once and sprained it (I think) 15 times so the swollen up ankle really gets to me. I also bought an ankle support as it's mostly the repeatedly-sprained one that swells up so I thought I would alternate flight socks with the support. Having a bath yesterday helped - the swelling went down almost completely.

I left potty training very late with DS1, he was well over three but I wanted to wait until I was off on maternity leave with DS2. It ended up taking about a week from nappy first coming off to him being completely trained because he was physically ready for it. I think there's a tendency to try and toilet train too early because MIL says hers were all trained before they were two or some other BS but they just can't be trained until the nerve has completely formed. DS2 was toilet trained by the childminder because she had two others in nappies and was fed up changing nappies all day. That was great! She just let DS2 run around outside with nothing on his lower half so it didn't matter if he had an accident, he just needed a quick wipe with a baby wipe.

Neither of my two EVER peed in the potty. Not even by accident. They both ended up going on the toilet with one of those cushioned seats. If you have a few young kids around then I would recommend getting one of the toilet seats that have an extra seat in them with a smaller opening for young children, as the cushioned seats can slide around a bit and can get a bit yucky.

Thanks guys. DD just asked to have a nappy on then immediately told me she was weeing (and she was, the pull-up thing disappeared). Changed pull-up & a poo followed!! I figure she's happy in nappies and its just too stressful for us both if she's not ready. Although it seemed promising at first, I think its more luck that she got it in the potty. Everything else she has done when she is ready, she'll ask to leave nappies off when she's ready just when I'm 39wks pg I expect. Might try pull-ups during the day when we're at home and nappies the rest of the time - the potty is in plain view in the bathroom if she wants it and I prob will get one of those toilet seats, my sister has one. The only time I'll HAVE to do it is when she's over 3 & about to start nursery/pre-school, so ages yet... :)

I agree. I have a family seat upstairs and downstairs. Bit of a shock if you sit on it by accident.

Unfortunately my midwife is the same midwife as the one at my doctors she has a surgery twice a week but you have to call her to get an appointment rather than the surgery. I was up at the hospital before with the tightenings when I was in pain with them. I have them occasionally about once a week now and I just want a follow up appointment to double check what it all about. I have shared care midwife and doctor. My doctor did my 22 week appointment and agreed I should get to see a consultant about it but that has to be booked through the disappearing midwife!!
I had this midwife the last time. Tbh she was really scatty and a bit useless before. I didn't want her this time around but when
I saw her in my booking appointment I warmed to her as she remembered me and my DD that she had been a midwife for. But now she is being useless again!
I need to change surgery anyway when we move around 6 weeks. I was going to try and fight to keep the and care until the baby was born but now I am thinking I could actually get a new midwife if I change.

valium yes I got 7 size 1 wraps and 10 size 1 nappies. I'm quite excited! Will I need more wraps? I am guessing wraps dry quicker.
I am tempted to buy that all over again and have double that while they are on offer.. But then I've spent a fortune.
I see they have flush able nappy liners that you flush away with the poo on.. They sound good!

Did you by the wraps that were a quid each? I would think 7 wraps for 10 nappies is ok. You could buy more, but you may not rate them. Or you could buy more and sell them on ebay if you do not like them! The wraps dry a lot quicker. The quid wraps may leak, hence they were a quid. May not though.

I never got on with the flushable wipes. I would not want them next to my bum, they crinkled, never contained bf poo, so I used home made fleece ones. I reused these obviously. They were so easy as the poo just fell off.

plumbers and people who work in sewers hate (so-called) flushables.

chunky re potty training, I did this with my DD in may. I remember thinking on day 4 & 5 that I'd started too early as we were going through about 5 outfit changes a day! I didn't stop going out or doing our usual routine so we were out quite a lot. I used pull ups sometimes but she treated them just like nappies. I think it was on day 6 that something just sort of clicked and she seemed to get it. It took a while longer for poos, she was quite scared of pooing in the toilet or potty but would get upset when she did it in her pants. don't be disheartened, if you feel your DD isn't ready then just stop and try again later. When she is ready it will be quite easy and you'll wander what the fuss was all about. The early days are easily forgotten.

Thanks Eliza I think you're right - I wasn't sure if it was a natural process of learning when she almost deliberately wet herself twice today but as she actually requested to wear the nappies, I figure she'll just as easily say "no nappies" when she's ready & willing. I'll let her decide!!

How is everyone enjoying the cooler weather?

I had my first antenatal class today, it's a course of 5 classes every week and I realised how completely CLUELESS to do with labour!! The class was really helpful but I kept thinking omg I need to do some reading, didn't think id have to give it a second thought until later down the line!

I really want to try and make something simple for the little one, I would just love her to have something that I put alot of time and effort into making for her and it looks amazing but what? I need something simple and easy, any ideas? :)

Hello everyone,
Sorry I've been absent, I've just been at work alot. I went to the midwife last week and everything is fine. I have the midwife on tuesday, for bloods. I've been very busy while I've been away.

I have my antenatal classes booked. :)
I have my breast feeding classes booked. :)

My baby's room will be finshed on Monday, and it looks fantasic so far. My next door neighbour came down with:
a huge black bag of baby clothing,
a Moses basket with stand,
a baby bath,
a microwave sterilizer,
a unused breast pump,
several bottles with different size teats,
And a potty
All for £30, talk about a bargain.

I hope you are all well, and I'm going to read the previous posts.
Evil.

Thanks Detective (I do believe you added me on FB?) Totally agree they have a twat disorder, and yet he always told me he was soooo different to all of those typical blokes.
Today he was supposed to come over and see DD, and I found out he'd been out drinking last night. Different my arse.
I got very angry about it actually, which maybe I shouldn't have, but I don't think he should have done it, given the situation.
I got so angry that I just didn't want him near me, so he didn't come over. I now feel guilty because I know DD would have loved to see him, but also wondered how it would have affected her to have him come over for a couple of hours and then leave again? It's all so confusing.
I've been a horrible sobbing mess today if i'm honest, but the housework has just about been done, go me!

Anyway - i've joined a "facing pregnancy alone" thread on here, so I can talk to women in similar situations.

Sorry to hear about all the swelling, i'll probably be joining you all soon with that.
I didn't with DD, but I was doing a lot less during my pregnancy with her!