November 2012 - baby shopping time has really taken off

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Swiss, so sorry to hear what has happened, especially now of all times.

swiss be sure to keep an eye on your mood. Any concerns go to your GP. He clearly knows nothing about depression, and I think you know he is spouting shite on that front. Sometimes being on medication is worth it for the benefits in pregnancy even though there may be concerns.. Not phrased well, but it is only something you and your GP can decide. I cannot recall if you work. If you do, get signed off.

Thank you Shelly

Valium When he threatened me with that, it broke me. He knew it would. I always said, if anything were to go wrong between us I would never stop him from seeing the baby as often as he liked, and eventually he did back down on that one.
I just hope he doesn't change his mind as he knows how much it scares me.

As for his mum, I wouldn't ask it of her as she's just had an op to remove cervical cancer, and then got an infection so has been going through that. She stays at his sisters every day (who unbelievably lets her help with her two children) so I wouldn't even consider her for support.

My own mother on the other hand is fantastic and I know she'll help when she can, she's on holiday at the moment (typical) so I will wait until she's home to explain the situation to her.

I feel as though i'm filling this thread up with all of my problems, and it's making me feel bad. I really do apologise :( I'll stop moaning as it's supposed to be a lovely time for us all!

• Also will be talking to GP asap. I'm a SAHM so need as much help as I can get to stay sane!

Vent away Swiss - it's what the thread's here for. So sorry to hear your sad news and wish there was something I could say/do to help. DH and I went through a rough patch last year while I was on my final teaching placement. He'd just been made reduntant and was slipping into depression and it got to the point where we were arguing every day. I'd drive a 200 mile round commute some days and stay with my mum just to avoid arguing with him over trivial crap he'd had all day stuck at home to think up. In the end we separated for 6 weeks. In that time we realised how much we really meant to each other and how a bit of compromise from each side would make the world of difference in our relationship - we are two impossibly stubborn first borns.. When all the dust has settled and you've both had time to really think then a good long open and honest talk makes all the difference. It was a lot easier for us as there were no children involved and getting pregnant 3 months later was never the plan and at the time we were both selfishly looking out for number one. Everyone says things in the heat of the moment they later regret but thre can never be just 1 person to blame. Maybe time will make him realise this? Hugs to you though - keep strong and don't feel embarassed about asking for help. Xxx

I'm 22 +3 today and havent felt baby move for a few days. I know i've been doing far too much with the house move next week and i'm really achey and sore. I have an anterior placenta and hadnt felt a huge amount of movement anyway - just really low dull flutters. Should i be worried?? goes off to look for doppler

swiss your story is heartbreaking and I hope you have some good rl support out there for you. Look after yourself and try to focus on you DD and the baby.

missmummy, if you are really worried give the midwife a call, but if you have been really busy you may just not have noticed it. I realise when I am really use that I have not felt the Blob moving.

I am having a poo day, we are in the middle of selling our house and moving to rented, all the solicitors were rushing us to move on 7 aug, but we couldn't sign a rental agreement unitl exchange and now some muppet in the middle of the chain has decided they want a survey. I have thrown my toys out of the pram and we have booked the boat to go back to Northern Ireland for a long weekend next week. So if they want to exchange then TOUGH!

Anyway then DH has booked me in for a spa day at a fab hotel so a silver lining and all that. It would really like to be settled somewhere so I can concentrate on having the baby.

Disposable nappies, me, philistine!

Sorry, moan groan moan. I am a happy person really.

Miss Thank you, and i'm glad you and your DH sorted things out :) Time apart may well be what we need, although he always said we needed to talk through things instead of having time apart so again a contradiction on his part. Time will only tell I suppose.

Try not to worry about movements, your baby could just be in a position where you can't feel much, i've had quiet days too and also have an anterior placenta, but the doppler is good for reassurance as long as you don't use it all the time!

And thank you Sophia :)

I second Sophia missmummy - if you're worried just ring your midwife for a chat. I'm 24+1 today :) felt good to reach the 24 mark. However from about 23+4 until yesterday baby all of a sudden disappeared! I too have an anterior placenta so haven't felt her a lot but there seemed to be regular movement. Then on Monday she just went so quiet...there were a couple of flutters, but nothing I could definitively say was Baby :( DP was great, helped me to remember you don't necessarily monitor 'kicks' until 28 weeks or so and kept reminding me of the anterior placenta. I still got myself into such a state though, really sobbing. I avoided the thread for some reason too because others were talking about feeling baby a lot - silly I know!! Anywaaaaay we went shopping on Wednesday and I did a fair bit of walking, got home and since Wednesday evening she hasn't stopped! Even kicking DP so hard yesterday he felt her properly for the first time, and if something had been balanced on my tummy it would have been kicked off! :o

God I ramble - basically when I was at your point I hardly felt baby much at all, nothing regular at least. But when you have worries sometimes it's hard to get rid of them so to avoid stressing like I do ring the midwife it you feel you need her, that's what she's there for :) x

swiss I am glad your mum is good. Typical she is on holiday eh? Never worry about filling up the thread. That is what it is for x if we can be of any help then we want to be, even though we cannot really do anything, just chatting to other mums can most definitely help. If his lordship does decide he wants to come home, I would strongly advise some couples therapy, Relate or similar. Your baby is lucky to have what sounds like two wonderful grandmas x

I recommend Ben and Jerrys. For everything. Twatty partners, difficult Mothers in law, lack of movements. Fractures. Very therapeutic! Not so good for fat arses though.

I find when I'm active baby doesn't wiggle much, I think it's because the movement rocks them to sleep, as soon as I'm relaxed and still he goes nuts, no harm in calling the mw if you're worried though.

I second Ben and Jerrys Try the Karamel Sutra. mmm!

24 weeks today and it's friday and payday. Woohoo!

Arghh why can't people drive at the speed limit!!! It's 30mph not 15!!!! God im grumpy today, I've been stuck behind people not doing the speed limit then stand still traffic for and hour and a half which made me really late for work now I'm dying from the heat not moaning about the sun

Aw tits some maternity photos look lovely

swiss you havent ruined anyone's future, ovb don't know the details but I'm sure it's not all you! Don't do to much, try out your feet up relax and enjoy your DD :) he can't take your child off you! If he didn't want to be a weekend dad then maybe he should have stayed and tried to put more effort it I really hope your okay!

sophia enjoy your spa! I had a pregnancy massage a few weeks ago and it was heaven n

Yummm valium Ben and Jerry's! Is it recommended for just plain moodiness? Then I could have it

Ooooh I could so for some ice cream right now!! Stuck in with a napping toddler so no chance. Although there is a mars bar in the fridge...

swiss don't feel bad. Sometimes its good to get the little irritations of pg in perspective iyswim. I agree with Valium on the subject of counselling.

Caped as Tits said, I used to find that DD would go quiet on my busier days, when I was physically active, but as soon as I panicked, I would get a cold drink & lie on my left side in front of a calming TV programme. Invariably I would get a fair bit of movement soon after. I also had an anterior placenta with her & found movements were on the sides rather than the front.

nervous I think you could get it on prescription! Double dose. I thought speed limits were a top limit, not a minimum? >

I don't have an anterior placenta and I don't have big movements everyday. I do feel the baby every day and if I'm lying on my back I can in most cases get him to move but its quiet more than really active. I think I just have a lazy baby that likes to be on my right hand side with its back to my belly so all the kicks are internal. I'm 24 wks on Sunday. Woohoo!!

My movements go from nothing for hours to absolutely bonkers with big visible kicks. Vary a lot according to position. I am 26+1. Getting there!

Same here Valium Baby was quiet all day yesterday then late afternoon went crazy and was kicking me like mad. I feel him every day but not all day long. It?s still quite sporadic.

I do think babies vary hugely in their movements as they do in everything else!! I thought my DD was a wriggle-pot (that was her name for a long time, even after birth!!) and she was nowhere near as active as this one. My Mum said that I used to kick a lot, sometimes so hard, it would wind her, but until she was pg with my sister, she didn't understand why people thought this was weird. My sister was a sleepy baby after birth too, but it was almost a good thing, as I was seriously ill in hospital a lot at the time.

I get prods & pokes high up, particularly if I bend over, and then little kicks & punches lower down when I'm sat.

6mths Valium woo hoo!! I'm still a way off at only 23+4...

I know! Six months sounds proper dunnit? 13 weeks to (section) baby, unless he comes early. I think I am getting my head around him being a boy, but no nearer to finding a name. So far we have:
Solomon
Silas
Darragh
Erasmus
Grayson

None of them really grab me.

One middle name will be Eoin as my dad is John, and his dad was Ian. Eoin is a mix of both those names apparently. It is pronounced Owen I believe.

I have spent 2years of my life being pregnant so far.

Thank you for your advice ladies - I wasnt too concerned. Used doppler and all fine, he/she has moved up again hence me not feeling anything.

I like Solomon. I taught a lovely wee boy called Solomon once but he had it shortened to Solly which he really suited.

Our boys list consists of:
Aulay (almost a definite if we're team blue)
Ruaridh
Thom
Flynn

We so far have no girls names we both like (although I see somewhere between last night and today DH has scribbled Ruby on our list on the fridge....) so any suggestions welcome! Our surname is quite long and clumbsy so short names seem to work.