Am awake so thought I'd put down why I dislike the Gina Ford advice GT.
Obviously this is just my opinion and I appreciate that there are others out there that think she is great but I'd say her advice drove me close to PND.
She strongly advises routine for babies from day 1 and the routine is extremely rigid. I hadn't read anything before DS1 was born and was plodding along reasonably well at first but craving some sleep and and started hearing all my nct friends talking about routines and whether or not they had one (baby was only a couple of weeks old at this point). I started feeling that I'd already been neglectful by not reading anything and assuming that I would just know what to do.
I got a book - not GFord as had already heard bad things (it had driven a friend to PND) - instead got one called the baby whisperer as had heard it was more relaxed than GF.
On day 1 of reading it and trying to implement the routine that was advocated I pretty much broke down and was a huge puddle of tears by the time DH got home. DH told me that the pile of books I'd just had delivered should be burnt as i'd done such a good job before they arrived and he couldn't believe how bad this one had made me feel.
First, it tells you the exact order you should do things - eat, activity, sleep (on repeat through the day until baby's bed time). So far so good. However in practice many babies seem to want to eat then sleep then maybe a few minutes of activity before eating again. This means waking them after they doze off. Always a v stressful thing to do when you are sleep deprived and need to rest and don't know when they'll get to sleep later.
Second,you have activity for a prescribed amount of time. My baby wanted to sleep so I was basically forcing him to stay awake and play for the allotted 15 mins or so during which time he got tired and unhappy.
Next it is time for their prescribed 40 min nap. My baby was overtired by now and I spent the whole 40 mins desperately trying to get him to sleep. But couldn't as he was overtired.
Due a feed - dilemma is do you continue trying to get them to nap as they've not done this yet or do you, according to the timetable, feed them?
Continue this cycle if you wish, with a screaming baby (vvvvvvv upsetting to listen to when it is your own), and with no confidence in yourself and suffering from serious sleep deprivation.
All the time be very aware that GF is telling you that this routine works for EVERY baby (therefore in your head you are being crap and doing it wrong), and without it your baby will NEVER get to sleep at night on it's own, never sleep through the night, not be stimulated enough during the day (and hence be retarded developmentally and it'll all be your fault). Obviously this paragraph reflects how I interpreted her advice and not what she actually said!!
It took a few weeks for me to regain confidence in myself and to stop feeling the need to check what the books / internet said at every opportunity and I can honestly say that when I did stop checking EVERYTHING, then I was so much happier and started to enjoy being a mum a lot more.
The best advice I was given was to read / listen to all advice and then ignore everything you don't like. Unfortunately for me in the early days my filter didn't seem to work and j felt I had to follow every bit of advice I got. Some of it which was good and some, for me, was shit.
I know there are people that love GF and swear their baby dropped perfectly into the routine and slept beautifully through the night from week 1. I can't help but feel that they are giving themselves and Gina too much credit for their babies own natural temperament. As all the baby books (frustratingly say to give themselves a caveat for their advice not working) 'all babies are different!'
Rant over
and I'm happy never to mention Gina Ford again!