Due Dec 2012.........the one where we all have at least 1 picture of our little fruits!!

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Hi everyone, as we were close to the 1000 message limit i thought i should start a new thread so we could link this one (and we don't all end up wandering in cyberspace for a few days again )

my gp infuriates me
i had been hospitalised in week 6 of preg due to hyperemesis, and had to go to him for a check up a week after release
was still HORRIBLY ill (havent been back to work yet and currently at 13+ weeks!)
he looked me right in the eye and said he thinks i should be at work..
was it wrong that i laughed at the fact i was sick on his desk 5mins later?

im going to ask to see a new one
[insert empowered (s?) women emotion]

Bubbless, try different GPs at your surgery until you find one you like. I was chatting to friend who uses the same place i do, she loves the one that told me he wouldn't couldn't treat my depression further (i hadn't even seen a psych!) and doesn't rate one of the ones i think is fab! You have to trust this person with some pretty private stuff, find one you trust and click with :)

Hi everyone, not posted in a while as I've been busy or sleeping!! I had some great news today, the consultant is referring me back to the midwife, apparently my cervix is over 3cm which is the length a cervix should be even without having had some of it removed. Not only that but the scar tissue from my polyp removal shouldn't have any bearing on giving birth and no increased risk of hemorrhaging as I was v worried about that, in fact I had convinced myself it would happen.

I'm going to buy the baby one item of clothing when I find out whether it's a boy or girl on Saturday, so excited. I am going to tell my close family but no one else, is that a bit silly? I just feel like it's really personal and I don't want any comments that people feel they have to make regarding gender. I will tell you all though!

I had a really busy day today now I'm exhausted, dh outside cooking chicken wings on the bbq with dd (fingers crossed everyone) while I watch some rubbish tv. Hope you're all enjoying the sunshine.

Bubbless, I guess with all the hormone changes with pregnancy it might have been a good idea to take you off the medication to see what changes might happen with your mood. However I'd have thought he'd follow that up with some appointments to see how you were getting on...

Bubbles - don't be afraid to answer your dr back, they don't know everything (and if your still not happy then try another dr. They might not like it, but your the one who has to live with it.
Strawberry that sounds like great news.

Problem with MIL iis she's an impulse buyer which results in the financial problems. I have no issue bailing out if it's needed but often it's down to her being frivolous but forgetting the mortgage/MOT. We've asked every family member who's offered to buy us an individual big item. When we asked her she was talking about all the trimmings which would easily add another £100 to her purchase. I'm happy that my baby is going to have such a denoted grandma but it's all a bit much.
I told everyone at work today because I've been retching all day. I kept running out of the room and coming back red eyed they thought I was really upset. It really made me feel better though.

Bubbless I talked to GP and psychiatrist before we started trying for a baby - we decided to switch me from the antidepressant i was on (it was a relatively new one which they didn't have conclusive facts about effects on pregnancy for) and change it to one that has been tested more thoroughly. There was never any question about me coming off them - all medical proffessionals i spoke to agreed it was a lot better for baby to have a stable mum than anything else. The possible side effects for baby are a v.slight increased chance of cardiac development problem, although that is most likely in the first 3 months so you would be fine by now, so we're having a cardiac scan to be on the safe side. When i saw the consultant last week she agreed with the others that it's def better for pregnant women who have been using antidepressants to keep using them, if that's what seems right for them, and it's much more dangerous to risk unstable mood. Sorry, bit of a ramble, but it's something i have a LOT of experience in. Feel free to PM me if you want any more details/advice :)

Wow I've missed so much in a few days! You have been very busy chatting. Haven't got long to catch up with all, but bubbless I too had anti depressants stripped from me the second I told the doc I was pg. Since then I've been back to gp several times, even spoken to the nurse and MW about not having been 'doing' very well. They've all been bloody useless. Now Been offered CBT but recently been feeling bit better anyway? Honestly if you want to chat drop me a message, I've been at my wits end begging for ADs to no success so I know how you feel.

Oh and I've grown everywhere. Especially on my thighs and love handles.

I bought some nappies and wipes the other day as they were on a good offer. As soon as I know gender I will be making a purchase and as for reusable nappies -not a chance here I'm afraid.

And whoever said no to SMA just wondered why? Coz I was against it with DD but can't remember why??

It was me re the SMA. They have very bad ethics and always go against the WHO guidelines on advertising.

They also did some awful things to women in Africa according to my sister but she thinks all formula is poison so don't know how true that is

Evening all! Well we went to the Dr today, appointment was at 17:45 think we went in around 18:20ish bit annoying!

Anyway, they had the lab test result and there is a 1:500 odd chance of baby having a development problem (that I can't translate from German), it is one of the illnesses that generally means baby won't live beyond a year.

OH and I are very happy with our Dr and she was great, she gave us all the info and explained that there are many factors that may have affected the result from the blood test, one being that we were a little early to the test because of our holiday. Anyway, we have to go for a special ultrasound and they should be able to tell us at the scan (which needs to be done before I hit 14weeks on Thursday... ) but she is very experienced and I have to say I'm also a little happy I'm not relying on the NHS

Good luck with the scan Nutella, it's really good that you like your doctor. How are you feeling about it? I suppose it's good you don't have to wait for six weeks or anything

actually that looks much worse in black and white than I think it is. OH and I are feeling totally relaxed... well pretty relaxed. And we should have the result pretty sharp so we are saved that sitting by the phone frustration.

Dr was apologetic that she hadn't been able to reach us on the phone but explained that she wanted to give us the info face to face and make sure we understood but also it was lovely because she was so reassuring and it definitely helped to put us at ease. I'm certain that having that news on the phone would have been very complicated with lots and lots of questions following.

Thanks Spotty I'm feeling actually very optimistic because our Dr is a specific lady Dr who also does all the pregnant lady stuff and scans and so on. She told us that she knew what to look for and how to do the scan but she isn't allowed to "officially" do this kind of scan so she has to send us to a special centre.

When we had the scan two weeks ago she showed us arms, legs, feet and hands, the brain - that is has two nicely developing halves and - if i've understood correctly- these are things which they will be checking again.

My mil is very abrupt and says what she thinks so its taken me at least 10 years to get used to her way but when I had ds4 she was literally waiting at the door when I arrived home from hospital, took ds out of his car seat and then plonked herself down and asked for a cuppa! I then spent 3 long hours with mil and fil jigging him about the room while I sat trying not to nod off. They also feel that bf is selfish and means others can't see the baby so while ds was searching for food she pretty much refused to give him back! So I've just had a tactful conversation with dh that this will not happen again I will decide when I'm ready for visitors and if baby needs feeding I will be feeding for as long as it takes

Good luck nutella your dr sounds really great - fingers crossed.

Well I bought an angel heart monitor, stressed myself out nt being able to find a beat but DP found it in minutes (typical!) was so lovely hearing it's whoa whoa beat. I got it off eBay for £19.99 which I thought was great (brand new). I'd really recommend it.

MW appt on Friday...it's all becoming real. I've even started buying a few little bits...

Hello all - been lurking over the weekend while feeling a bit crappy. Congrats on all the good scans and hearing of heartbeats.
Nutella - good luck with the scan, i hope it all goes well and your dr sounds fab.

Have to admit, MW appointment last week went much better than expected. I see the practice nurse fairly often for various ongoing things and i get on very well with her. I was so upset after booking DH actually phoned the nurse to ask her advice and she and i spoke a few times about options but i think that she may have had a few words to MW about how upset and confused i'd been after booking and MW was lovely! We heard Bump's heartbeat and chatted through all my concerns.

We've already started buying bits and pieces when we see them in the sale/2nd hand - we got a moses basket and stand, a carseat (neither of us drive so we didn't want to spend a fortune on something Bump will rarely be in), and a bouncy chair from a wonderful little nearly new kids shop which has been set up by a couple of mums - all v.good condition and about quarter of the price of new. We've also got a couple of bits and pieces of clothes - some sleepsuits and bodysuits - that we've seen in the sale and that will work for boy or girl. ASDA have some good deals on massive packs of nappies but i'm dubious about spending too much and getting too many in advance until we know what size baby is! Those with DC alread - any advice on that one?

Right, epic post over. Will get back to replying more regularly to avoid long posts!

Oooh, sorry, also meant to say, we got one of the Angelsounds heart monitors around the 12 week mark and it has been so reassuring to have (although DH strictly limits how often we use it!). I'm very much of a 'what if...' worrier and being able to reassure myself that bump is still happily floating about is lovely. I'm sure once i start feeling regular movement i'll use it less, but MW said as a first time mum, it's unlikely i'll feel anything till about 22 weeks. Which is reassuring in a strange way - although i thought i might have felt a few flutters i've decided i'm not going to believe it's movement until i'm sure and therefore won't start worrying that i don't feel it every day till a bit later, if that makes any sense!

Honey I've had babies of 7lb and one who was almost 10lb and they both spent a decent amount of time in newborn/first size nappies so I'll be stocking up on them too

Wow you have all been busy over the weekend its taken me a while to catch up.

Nutella - good luck with the scan.

I have my 16 weeks appointment with the mw looking forward to hearing the heartbeat.
So far I have ordered my pram and car seat we decided on a bugaboo bee and
a maxi cosi pebble car seat both in red. Mothercare do a baby plan so have put them both on that and I keep going in to pay bits at a time to help spread the cost.

• 16 week appointment with the mw tomorrow

Ooo cherrypie we'll have the same prams!

COD I love it we decided on it because of space in the car with already having 3 dc.

That's why I've chosen it, I have a 7 seater and when all seats are up space is limited. I also decided with the school run I wanted something easy to fold/unfold. Still deciding on colour at the mo

I just spent nearly an hour catching up with the weekend's posts, had several replies in my head to make and then when I refreshed the page mumsnet went offline :( so now I can't remember what I read and have nothing much to say, sorry.

Except that I am planning to use reusable nappies but probably not quite from day one - I think with some of them you can get a 'newborn' size then the next size up is adjustable and can be used right from 10lb until pottytraining, if I remember correctly, so that's what I was planning to do.

pidjin- i do have a select few docs who i like to see, but because im at quiet a small surgery they dont have a set schedule of whos in and when so its kinda pot luck, which is annoying!

strawberry- wow, congrats on good news! how are you finding out gender so early [jelous emotion]

stacks- thats what i thought, my mw has written down 'mental health issues raised' in my file under management schemes or whatever, but thats it?!
i mean, as far as they are concerned they have taken away my meds, my coping strategy (work) has been out of reach due to illness (which they know as they sign the sick notes..) its a bit concerning that they dont care!

honeymum- thats what me and my dp agreed on, that the risk of me getting too low again is higher than the potential small risk to the child, as i will be primary care giver etc etc i may very well message you later, thank you :)

cookies- its stupid isnt it, they must assume that we are all loving being pregnant so much and spending so much time buying baby booties that we forgot to 'be depressed'
ive had CBT in the past, i went for 3 sessions and then the councellor lady never called to arrange another not very inspiring, sorry! but it may be a good way to make progress?!

cod- are you being serious?! this sounds horrific?! glad youve talking to dh and sorted that out, sounds like a nightmare!

im going to bed, exhaused! night guyssss

tomorrows another scan filled, mw appointmented, pregnancy related day!

Hi - I am now really confused and a bit worried about my bloods results, and can't get through to my midwife or the testing team. Can anyone help??

I got my results by phone a couple of weeks ago, combined risk of 1 in 100,000. All well and good, so I thought. But the letter came through today - don't the blood results look bad? I thought they were supposed to be c 1 MoM?

HCG: 0.43
PAPP-A 0.88

Does anyone know more?? Thanks
xx