Due in August Thread... Part Five!

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Congratulations again to poppy, here's to the rest of us still with increasingly big bumps or of your choice!

Bring on the final trimester in all it's glory!

Hi all,
After a great night's sleep on Thurs I was tossing and turning again last night. Thankfully DH dealt with the plasterer this morning and let me have a lie in! Been busy pottering today as our bedroom (bar coving) and the nursery (bar windowsill) are finally finished. In fact I'm sat in the nursery now admiring our handy work. Kitchen still all over the house in flat pack form but the appliances have all been delivered now. Just got to wait for the plasterer to finish and then paint in prep for my dad fitting it all in two weeks time. He is taking a week off work so he can get it all finished in one go. Need to think of a really good father's day present to thank him. Any ideas?
Poppy, I love the name Thomas but my sis just married one so had to rule it out. How big is he now. Thinking about you and him lots as my baby must be a similar size.
Keep smiling everyone, not long until the real fun starts xx

frilly I found DH was a bit like this when I was pg first time round, with DD. this time he has been amazers! I think it's because they don't have any of the hard work to do whilst baby is growing inside, therefore they just don't get how hard it is. Their life doesn't change at all until baby is born, so they just carry on as normal. DH really stepped up when DD arrived though, and once he'd been party to the night duties and general 'babyness' in the first few weeks, he could then see how hard it was for the previous 9 months!
No consolation at the moment I know
Try and keep talking to him about how you feel though, maybe agree to a 'codeword' or something, so that when you're feeling really tired/ down/ lonely, you can let him know without having to explain in words of more than one syllable
Trying to catch up on all the other posts now whilst getting DD into bath/ bed!

I'm allowed a VB!!!! . Very happy although still verrrry scared all risks are to me not baby which are increased with a section so consultant said best to go for vb in first instance risks of needing an emcs are the same as any other person but risks to recovery are a definite if I have the emcs. Baby is also breech but she has plenty of time to move (29 + 4)

Love the Name Mini Pop !!

Can't believe how tired have been yday and today, lay on sofa when came home from work but typical couldn't sleep ten mins before felt could have slept stood up!!

Keep getting shooting pain lower tummy is this braxton hicks not often only about 8 a day feels sharp stops as quick as started!!

Last Question why do different apps class the weeks different baby centre I'm 31 but 32 on Emma's diary confused!!

Thanks for all the lovely comments re the name. :o

Ok, rant warning - my F**KING breast pump broke. I am SOOOOOO I've only had it two weeks!!! Grrrr.... I only discovered it today, buy it must have been like that for a couple of days.
So frustrated. God knows what it's done to mess up my milk... gah! Took me an hour to hand express tonight. Ok, rant over!

Ham Glad the scan went well, the picture is lovely. I miss my bump :( although I still do have a bump, a smaller one not sure how long it'll take to go down properly.

Oh Frilly sorry your DH is being a man. And you're entitled to moan :o I agree with glimpers mens lives just do not change very much at all.

Gnomi I've also eaten my way through a whole packet of jaffa cakes

MiniPop is doing ok, he's started to put on weight again now which is good and has been sleeping like a trouper, which is good as it means he's not wasting any energy which is needed for growing.

I have a slight clothes issue at the moment, all the ones I bought were maternity clothes, I have no breastfeeding friendly clothes (or rather kangeroo cuddles and expressing-friendly tops).

I nearly squished MiniPop yesterday trying to get some cuddles.

I am also living in the same three pairs of leggings as they are the only ones I've got which go over my nump, and don't rest on my scar. Hadn't got to the post-natal shopping stage!

Opps, sorry for the long post

Re: cramps - I get those much more often than sex, flexing the ankle towards the bum stops it from becoming a full blown pain session.

Re: reusable nappies - me too! In fact, I am now officially obsessed and wanted motherease wizards but they are expensive. I now have my heart on bumbles... i wonder what tomorrow will bring.

Re: sleep - been getting loads but napped yesterday afternoon so having trouble now.

Re: maternity bags - good info on the dark throw away panties and dark clothes. NHS list just said to take a few clothes and panties and not what kind. That said I am taking DH's old shirts even for labour. we'll see how that plan goes.

Got a mei tai in the post today! I and dh love it! Now hopefully baby will cooperate...

MW says fundal height is measuring big and has sent me in for a scan on tuesday. strangely i am not worried.

Anyone else wondering on life without the moving belly? I just can't imagine it...

Hi geekette my bump measured big so the MW sent me for a growth scan, LO is measuring 4 weeks bigger than she should, if this continues I have another growth scan at 34 weeks. May mean she comes early by a couple of weeks or according to lots of people I have spoken to it may mean absolutely nothing and she will come on time(ish) and be ave size!!

Also... I need some advice especially from second time mums, MIL has her 70th birthday when LO will be about 3weeks old, they want us to go and stay in a holiday apartment for three nights with dinners out etc. the thought of being away so soon afterwards gives me collywobbles, or should I just think that as she will be so little she'll be easier to cope with??

Morning all!

Welsh I'd say you'd be alright 3 weeks after the birth of the baby, if everything goes well. But.... your LO might not be born on time, might be late and thus only a week old that date.... but if he/she is early they could in theory be +1 month old at that date. Is one of those beautiful mysteries of life that no one knows what date babies will come! But you'll be in a holiday apartment so can come and go as you please and have privacy if you or LO is tired.

The one thing I will say is a slight rant: when DS was 2 months old we went out for a family celebration of FIL's bday in a super fancy hotel. In-laws are a bit odd about breastfeeding (despite the fact that MIL bf all her babies) so when DS got hungry I was told by them to go sit in the corridor to do it, or to ask the waiter if there was another room I could go to I was so very not impressed, totally starving and pissed off at them all sitting eating happily while I was shufted out. So, what I'm saying is think about whether you will be breastfeeding or not, and if you are think about if your family will be more supportive than mine were.

(29+2)

Just had the worst night. Did a lot yesterday, moving, scans, housework etc and felt really tired all evening. Started with the sore ribs and back as usual around 4/5 and got worse and worse so at half 8 went to bed. Lying on my side was agony so lay on my back. Dozed off and woke up like an hour later with a temperature, headache and nauseous from the pain in my ribs. Also was really out of it and couldn't focus to speak properly etc was quite scary. DH had to get the fan to cool me down and had to take paracetamol for fever etc. Whole night I felt like I was in a crazy dream and only started to feel better early this morning. Plus my bump was really sore. I think it's just the weight and lying on my side but everytime I moved it was sharp pains in ribs and right underneath. Horrible. Baby seems okay and kicking as usual and I feel a bit better now but seriously though, how much discomfort is too much? Did I just overdo it yday and not rest quick enough, or should I be worried? Got midwife not this week but next. I thought all this intense discomfort was meant to be right at the end like last few weeks, I've still 9 to go. Advice welcome :(

needles I get a stitch halfway through sometimes that gets sooo painful I have to stop!! Very annoying!

Took ds out yesterday to a soft play centre and he seemed a bit under the weather but thought go anyway he might enjoy it. He did but only for an hour or so. He is still not good today poor might and had to sit up with him last night for a bit at 2 ish then couldn't get back to sleep until 4 as my mind started thinking! Was pissed if with dh as he was up till 2 playing his stupid computer game then came to bed just as ds woke!! If he'd come to bed at a normal hour maybe he coulf of got up instead of me. He keeps coming to bed late at the mo and am getting really fed up of it! He tells me to nag him into coming to bed but unless I stand over him and make him come (making me late to be) then he won't come on time. Arrrg it makes me so mad cos then he is grumpy in the morn. He is still in bed now!

poppy thomas is a lovely name I would choose it except its my cousins name. Glad to hear he is doing better. Sorry to hear you are still struggling with expressing and a broken pump is awful! Mine still works from ds and has spare parts but is a manual one so not a lot to go wrong.

Welsh, I actually think that it would be reasonable to say no to your mil to going to this do. This is your first baby isn't it? So you have no idea how you'll be feeling/coping. In an ideal world all will be fine but you may be exhausted. If you do decide to go reserve the right to change your mind at the last moment and definately reserve the right only to go to the holiday home and not out to fancy meals unless you want to and feel up to it!

My mil is in the same age bracket and I have found that she has 'rose' tinted glasses on when looking back at having her children. Only remembers the good stuff and thinks I should be able to just 'get on' with it all. Is there a slight case of this here?

My first organised outing (overnight anyway) with LO is in November for a wedding and I am reserving the right not to be the life and soul of the party!

What does your DH think about it?

Morning,

Ham, sorry you had a crap night. Take it veery easy today, rest as much as possible, and keep an eye on things, and if you don't feel right, get in touch with Doctor/MW.

Welsh, if it were me (having just had a hectic weekend away last weekend for a similar thing), I'd also jack it in. I'm not accepting any invites for a good while after baby, as I don't want the disruption, the "excitement", the travel or the stress, as I've no idea how things will be post-baby. Perhaps you could organise something a bit later to make up for not going, but I wouldn't want to be away from my own home and bed with so small a baby. But I am wierd fussy and OCD about other beds .

Susie, annoying about DH. That would really wind me up too, esp as you need your rest as much as possible. Could you perhaps have a wee chat and explain how you feel? You need as much support as possible at the mo IMO.

Imiss, HOW FRUSTRATING re pump. Can it be returned/swapped for a new one somehow/someone pop out? Just what you don't need? Hoe it's not too tedious today without it.

Am interested too in hearing your bump sizes. Have also got another scan on 2nd July, but there might be even another before that, as am measuring 3 weeks smaller than 30 weeks which worries me a bit (although Mum and DSis had little babies, so suspect it's a family thing too).

Having a quiet day again today after doing naff all yesterday watching Made in Chelsea for hours on 4OD. Need to clean a bit, look at baby stuff for bags and possible do some more sorting out. Then we're going to the cinema to see Men in Black 3 . Cheesy-good!

Enjoy your Sundays ladies and chins up xx

Urgh back to work tomorrow. Don't want to go. Only 6 more weeks to summer hols but also only 7 1/2 weeks to due date! At least an early arrival would get me out of work early! We are nearly sorted. Just need to get isofix base for the car seat after we pick up the new car this week and still waiting for the change bag to arrive but other than some PJs and big knickers I think I'm good to go! Just want to get on with being a mummy now rather than putting up with other people's snotty kids all day! Anyway, must mark some books, plan some lessons and write some reports before we go to our first birth basics class this evening. Hope everyone is chilling xx

Oh forgot to ask. Have you written your birth plans yet? Any tips? Not sure what format it should take; not covered in KS3 English curriculum! Thanks xx

He he he to birth plans at KS3. That may raise eyebrows!

My midwife told me she'd start looking at the birth plan at my 32 week appointment, which is next week. I've been thinking about it from what I've read and from my yoga/active birth classes, but nothing on paper yet!

white Boots have a sample one, could give you some good ideas. Have a look here birth plan

When I was having DS I just wrote a few things on a sheet of paper and put it in my ante-natal notes. Now, 2 years later the hospital have included a 2 page section on 'birth plan' where they ask questions about what pain relief patients want, about consent to give baby Vitamin K etc etc. Am impressed at them including this section, esp think it'd be handy for 1st time mums.

HAM I think you just over did it. I had that earlier in the week, I totally over did it (28weeks, you are further along) and I hurt, bump hurt, ribs hurt and I couldn't sleep, it was awful. Don't panic but see how you are tomorrow and if you are still bad then call your MW. Rest today lovely

Luckily I am back to normal. DH and I had a long chat about everything last night and we are back to normal Still need a good night sleep though!!

Frilly good news about you and DH! Horrid to have tension. My birthplan is I have no birthplan. Eeek. Because they don't really know how I'm going to be, it's very much a case of let's see what happens. I'll get some basics in (ie Vit K etc) but will leave the rest till later (like everything else it seems). I'm such an organised person, and the one time in my life when I really would like to be, everyone else lets me down a bit. Hey ho, twill be alright on the night!

MIB3 was good btw. Bit darker than the last, but we enjoyed it. One odd though was that the cinema was full of LITTLE kids (like 5 or 6). As there is swearing and some quite scary alien bits, I thought totally inappropriate for them to be there (it's a 12A rating). Or am I being too protective?!

hi all - re birth plan - i have done nothing about - i did ask the MW this week and she said they will talk about at my (1 of 2!) ante natal classes - she also said that those that come in with a rigid plan are often disappointed and more stressed.. I have now borrowed my friends hypno birthing notes which I will see what I think of, but ultimately I dont think I will have a huge 'plan' - as long as we both safe, Im happy. (plus anyway still ahve to get scan in 2 weeks to see if placenta has moved - otherwise she said if it hasnt - i go back for scan at 36 weeks and likely they will keep me in then, and C section at 38!)

bought some rasp leaf tea yesterday - when do we start taking? is it 32 weeks (i am 30?) - and does it bring on labour or other benefits... i suddenly got nervous it would bring on an early labour?

glad you had a good chat Frilly.. i think its re-assuring to read on here thought that lots of us are going through the same things at the same time, and it seems this is about the time we get stressed with the DH's :)

oh and because i have just been sorting out list for hosp. bag - one thing - depending on a) how you getting to hosp or b)parking situation - i have put in some money/change! dont want to be panicking for that if i need to get in a taxi as DH at work etc... on that note, did those that already have children, husbands start working from home or anything near due date? my DH works in Edinburgh (only an hour from Glasgow) but was wondering if he should start working from home at least on the due date if not before? I know, I am getting too anal about stuff and thinking about everything :(

ham - hope you feeling better.
poppy - love the name Thomas for minipops!
and to those with MIL issues - my DH is american and his parents now live in Florida - good and bad - good, i dont have to deal with the issues as per above - bad - I am sad for them they are so far away :(

anyway - hope everyone had a good weekend. 6 weeks to go at work.. cannot wait for that last day!

lots of love...
xx

oh.. and one more thing!! has everyone been doign pelvic floor exercises?? i suddenly thought maybe i should .. and read that link on the NHS site - it says basically just to clench and then release (sorry if TMI!!) - so i have tried adn not sure i am doing it right as i clench.. but ddoesnt feel like i do anythign to release! maybe mine is scuppered already :)

xx

Scottish this is my epic rambling reply

re. the pelvic floor exercises:- during my pregnancy with DS I had the time to go to ante-natal yoga and loved it. Barely get a chance to bless myself now as a SAHM with a toddler running about, so haven't made it to yoga this time round.

Anyway, we learnt pelvic floor exercises which were:- 1) clench your muscles as if you were trying to stop yourself peeing. Don't do it when you're on the toilet though! 2) clench your muscles as if you were trying to stop yourself farting. 3) clench your fanjo muscles and hold for 3 seconds.
I don't think I did it right as pretty much every time I've sneezed since having DS I've peed myself a tiny bit so my advice is to practice more than I did!

Re. raspberry leaf tea:- someone up thread mentioned when the best time to take it was, but I think it's from around 33 weeks. Doesn't bring on labour, just is meant to help prepare the womb and get muscles ready for contractions. I think that's what it's for anyway! DS was born at 39 weeks, but I think that was going to happen whether I drank RLT or not as he weighed 8lb 6oz.

Re. husbands working from home:- DH is a GP and can't bring his patients to our house.... well, he could but I don't think myself or the NHS would approve! So he just worked as normal when I was heavily pregnant with DS and will do the same with this baby. If he had a job where he could work from home I think he might have tried to do that a bit.

This time round he's going to slow down a bit with the amount of voluntary church work he does as it'll be harder this time round for me having DS round the house plus all the stress that goes with being a beached whale. But I don't think he'll start slowing down till I'm about 37 weeks. I also do lots of voluntary work at the church, but already I'm slowing down and bowing out of some things as I'm tired and lacking stamina.

If your DH can work from home and doesn't want to commute as far then I think that's a grand plan.

Sorry for how long winded I've been! Just wanted to get my views across :)

Thanks all. You've put me at ease about it frilly though I feel bad if I wasn't sympathetic when you had it as it was so awful...! Think you are right about over-doing it. It's so hard as it isn't like you are doing stuff and feel tired and go "oh better take a rest" it's more you do stuff feel fine, and then a few hours later you are out of it all of a sudden grrr. Went for a gentle walk into town this morning and took a nap this afternoon. Don't feel to sore at the moment so that's good.

Just looked at the smiley list and noticed that apparently means no comment ... and here was me thinking not commenting would mean no comment and a biscuit symbol meant a biscuit. The crazy world of mumsnet!!

ham, it's fine! It has to be the most frustrating thing but we totally have to take it easy! Neither of us want to wind up making things worse for us or our babies

Well, DH bought me some Bio Oil today Watch out bump, your going to get greased up a treat!

Watching the intro to OBEM and crying...that'll be us soon!

God having another big boo as just had a massive row with my mum over ds who is suffering loads. She said I should not be given him milk as its hiding his symtoms. Then she said milk would give him an upset tummy and is filling him up so we should stop giving it to him as he won't eat!! She made no sense. Oh and my grandad chimmed in with that's why his eyes look so funny cos we keep giving him all those drugs!! (Calprofen and calpol). Have had enough stress this week without all this!! Then my mum said I was acting like a 14 year old so I yelled its cos I'm pregnant and she told me to get over it! So I told her to get over it! Anyway dh took me and ds home so did not end well and am still booing now! Stupid hormones!! Wish I could get over it! Anyway we are taking ds to the docs tmw so what does it matter!