November 2012 - the boringly named fifth thread

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Previous threads:

1. www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/1412456-Nov-12-babies
2. www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/1432039-Due-in-November-2012-part-deux-no-cringy-thread-name-here
3. www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/1438916-November-2012-Duebies-Part-3-insert-cheesy-name-of-choice-here
4. www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/1449640-November-2012-bring-on-the-second-trimester

Would be radium. Radiotherapy doesn't make you radioactive!! Not external anyway. Should be reasonablly low risk he could always phone and check with his department. The chap who works in nuc med has just gone back otherwise I'd have asked him!! I'll see if anyone here knows....

Just looked at my notes 15minutes 1m sounds about right. I'm
Quite laid back about radiation!! I work with it daily. I should take it more seriously.....just do what you feel comfortable with. The dose wears off so after the weekend it will be minimal. If he's offered to move maybe take him up on it? Will reduce the stress!! I know I have to avoid areas if anyone has had a bone scan there's massive signs up everywhere.

haha must be radium then

I think it was the beginning of last week or the week before that he had the treatment and he was working from another office until a couple of days ago. Wouldn't the risk have reduced by now?

yes, just waiting for our estate agent to get a builder in to quote for the work and then they will go back to the seller with the costs to see if they will pay for it. Although not sure if I trust the estate agents to get the quote really incase they don't do the sufficent work -hmmm, i'm far too hormonal to be dealing with this right now!

I wonder why so many of us seem to decide to buy a house whilst pregnant - it must be a nesting thing!

Yes should have done. ESP if a while ago.

all this talk of slimming world sounds good, I was following scottish slimmers until a few weeks ago and lost around 6.5 stone between my pregnancies.. but I have been so hungry it's ridiculas and have been eating over my allowence every day, not a lot over and nothing like I would have eaten in the past... still I put on a pair of size 14 gap trousers yesterday and well, they didn't fit properly in the thighs... bellly was fine! and Gap are generously sized too so it's a warning sign to me!
I think I'll look it up... could do with a change of scene in the diet world anyway!

Told my work today, kinda expected my boss to freak out cause we are stupidly short staffed, people are leaving and there is a recruitment freeze on.. but he was totally cool and calm, which he never is! I am almost dissapointed that he's not worried as everyone here worries about their future in the company.. I'd like to think I am an important member of the team

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/1479016-November-2012-time-for-gender-guessing

here's the link for the other thread.

ditsy that sounds a nightmare. We are also going through a purchase. I don't think we can afford over a grand for a full structural survey but it does worry me not getting one.. we are in Scotland where we have home reports, not sure if they have them else where or if it's just scotland? but it is a basic survey already attatched to every property by the seller, talks about repairs needed ect but isnt very in depth.. What you have discovered has made me think!

I paid for a full structural on my previous home and they missed something major. I tried to get compensation and basically it is not worth the paper it is written on. Lost about 50K because of it. I would still always have one done because if they do spot something before you buy it can save a lot of heartache, stress and money.

I just found out that we got our buy to let mortgage ok for our current home, with a reasonable valuation so we will have some money to renovate, will still be tight but it was the best amount we could have hoped for... phew... now I am swithering on whether to spend 10% of the tight budget on a full structural survey or not.
Generally I would more likely to get one done on an older building, this is 1940s and being sold at a low price as it is an older guy who has died and his family don't want to keep it and it need modernised so I am not even sure the sellers would agree to paying for anything if it was found as we stand to make £20,000 just by moving in and removing the 1970s decor and putting in a new kitchen!

We've only ever had the homebuyers survey done. More than the valuation survey but less than the structural survey. I figure the more they look, the more they find, most houses needed some level of work & big things (like subsidence) would be picked up by the homebuyers survey. But then I've never bought a 'serious' property, nothing listed or in need of proper work, just general maintenance/decor stuff. Our current house is a 1900s ish terrace & our purchase is a 1960s semi. Nothing too controversial there!!! Good news though Mrswee.

That's so frustrating ditsy. Can you pull out and find somewhere else to save the hassle? I mean, even if they drop the price to cover the work, you'll have to wait for it to be done...

We decided to move on the back of a pg scare last yr but it just didn't happen quick enough to be all done & dusted before actually TTC unfortunately. Never mind though - March was a good month, BFP & sale/purchase all in one month.

Its frustrating but I think the work won't take too long as long as the vendors agree to pay for it. Its the roof that is sagging, so it needs propping back up basically (that's as technical as I get). We could pull out but would lose our solicitors fees and obv the survey cost, but we will pull out if they don't agree to pay for the work fully. hopefully it won't come to that.
mrswee that sounds so expensive for a survey! ours was less then £400 but its in the midlands so maybe different parts of the UK charge differently. I'm glad we had it done so we know the work needs doing anyway, because the mortgage survey didn't pick it up (i'm not even sure they went into the house to be honest!)
Good luck to all the other home buyers out there - hopefully we will all be in brand new homes in plenty of time for our little ones to arrive!

We're currently renting a 2 bed flat from my FIL but my dad has a lump sum from his redundancy that we're looking into buying a house with and then we pay my parents rent.
We're still at the initial figures stage but if it all works out we could be in a house with a garden (!) when this baby is here.

Only 17 days til my scan

I don't think the mortgage/valuation survey is much cop - it just protects the bank. I don't think they always go in either ditsy as you said, as other people have told me as much too. We paid about £450 I think for our homebuyers with our bank's surveyor, as a condition of the mortgage basically, and we also had to have the valuation survey too, but we get the money back for that. Had to jump through hoops a bit as we're porting our mortgage rather paying the extortionate redemption fees!!

We moved into a new apartment a month before we found out we were expecting. At the time, it was ideal for our needs, but now the thought of living in a top floor quite-tiny 2bed penthouse - with no lifts - is stressing me out a lot! It's very very un-baby friendly, and the best bit, we've just found out it's slowly slipping into the sea. Fab.

I'd love to move into a bigger house as soon as possible, but for our budget it will mean moving away from the area we love, or compromising on a house which needs more work done. Anyone who's had kids recommend moving before or after baby is born? And does space really matter with a newborn?! My nest-building hormone is on complete overdrive this afternoon!

Not a huge amount of experience but babies have a lot of (unnecessary half the time) stuff but you don't need much space for them really, best to move before they're born or quite a while after I.e. def not with a newborn!!! My DD is 2 but we're still planning to stay with the in-laws for a while to get the move/any renovations out the way before we actually move in. However, if you can't afford to move or are ambiguous about it, the whole 'selling' process is so stressful I would leave it until you can't leave it any longer... :)

MissMummy we're in the do we move before or after the birth dilemma too. I think me and DH have both pretty much agreed that we want to move back to the central belt and ideally Fife to be close to family and so that our wee one can grow up with his / her cousins and me and my twin sister can spend a lot of time together ranting / pulling hair out / drinking tea / setting the world to rights / keeping each other sane. Also DH's sister has just been given the all clear from bowel cancer after 8 long months of chemo and his Dad has Parkinsons so sadly isn't going to get any better, and also the situation with my twin sister's daughter's premature arrival - they've all made us feel so far away from everyone and unable to be there and help when needed.

We're not worrying about having a big spare room for the little one for a while as ideally, I plan to breast feed and so junior will be in our room for at least six months - so that's not really the driver per se. But eeep the thought of trying to fit all the baby stuff and accoutrements into this tiny house does not compute. MissMummy are you thinking of buying somewhere? You're renting now aren't you - in which case the subsidence is the landlord's problem so don't worry about that as a driver for moving at this stage. But I think you're right the lack of lift might take it's toll on you once you get more of a bump and the thought of hefting toddler, pushchair and shopping up there would be tricksy. So maybe after birth? Or, is that going to be hellish? Any Mum's out there with advice - we thought of moving just after Christmas so as to save up maximum money, and every Mum I've spoken to has pissed herself at the stupidity of moving with a 1 month old so I could very well be speaking out of my arse!!!

Hello. We're in the middle of renovations and hopefully will be in the new house by the time the baby comes - 2 months gap if the work is done on time and the baby arrives when it should. We were talking the other day about whether we'd have made the decision to sell/buy/rent/renovate if I had been up the duff at the time and I reckon we would still have tried to do it. Close friends moved with a new born getting packers and movers in when she stayed out of the way. God knows how but my parents moved across the country when my bro was 10 days old! So it's possible but not without stress...

YellowWellies Yeah thankfully just renting, as DH prosecuted a LOT of landlords when he worked as an architect getting out of our lease is no problem. We moved back down here with the intention of buying, but couldn't find anywhere we liked/could afford at such short notice decided to rent for a while. The flat's fantastic for just the two of us right now, but spare room is home to dive/sailing kit and all the boxes of junk from our last (much bigger) house up north! I've been dropping hints about buying my mum's house - he's not biting though.

Would be fantastic if you moved back down here. We too are worrying a little with the financial side of things. DH's work usually dries up between October and February - classic timing us(!) - and although that has the benefit of him being around for those tricky few months, things are going to be very tight.

Don't know if you've had a look at anywhere down here yet but there is quite literally nothing on the market by the looks of things - not even to rent :-(

Oh pooh - I've not looked for rentals yet just been scouring houses for sale - bugger that they're scarce :( we were thinking of selling our place up here and renting down there for a few months as prices seem to be gradually falling and there's no sense in overpaying as every £1k borrowed costs £3k to repay back over the lifetime of a mortgage. If you're looking - I love propertybee!!!! it's a great plug in for mozilla that let's you see reductions and other changes to listings on rightmove and we're spotting lots of reductions in asking prices in our target areas. We're looking for somewhere long term and don't want to find we have problems remortgaging in the future due to negative equity and the banks seem to be making a lot of scary margin calls on people at the moment. Bar more QE from George - I can't see any more props to the market what with the whole Euro feck up... and prices are still way out of whack to earnings now mortgages are returning to sensible lending criteria - they're even falling in London now according to the Land Registry. Plus we're now in the mother of all recessions and house prices have never ever risen during a recession... so I'm trying to be sensible and sell and get out of the market for a while. But nesting isn't helping.

If we do buy - you can guarantee the biggest crash on record - just after we complete. Sigh, but the thought of moving again from rented to when we finally buy - is a bit soul destroying, we are so sick of moving.

Hmmmm.... bugger bugger bugger. Have you looked a wee bit further afield? We've found some cracking Victorian places in Kirkcaldy all done up with spanking new kitchens and bathrooms and now struggling to reach their asking prices (lots of recent reductions suggesting some overstretched property developers). We'd love to go back to Aberdour but on one wage it would be tricky to buy there and I do want to be able to stay at home with the brood. Dalgety would be nice but I don't think me and my sis want to be right under each others feet, within ten mins of each other in the car / on the bus would be ideal.

If we could move tomorrow I would - but we need me to get my feet under the door at my new freelance job so that they'll be happy with me working remotely. So we've got to wait and save.... grrrr

Ok I need help. Tell me I'm not the only one going crazy with itching MY BOOBS?
I read somewhere that tummies get itchy as skin stretches. My boobs were sore, but little size difference at first but I have now noticed my bras getting smaller so think they are deff getting bigger. Is it as the skin is stretching ? What can I do? I can't sit at work itching all day, I'm a teacher! I'll be sent to jail .

I've been looking anywhere and everywhere. I love Cramond and South Queensferry - too pricey for anywhere nice. Dalgety too radioactive and the constant fall in prices is making us want to wait before buying. Aberdour lovely but ideally we need a garage or at least a driveway - landrover wally can't cope with onstreet parking, our allocated spaces here are bad enough! I really don't mind renting again but like you said it's just finding the right place! If we could have my old house down here it would be ideal, but we seem to be stuck in that cliche of right house/wrong location vs wrong house/ perfect location.

The way school terms work as well I'm going to be off work until at least August '13 when I can finally do my probation year - a scary thought we're only going to have one income too!

GTbaby I have the itchy boob symptom too, but I'm finding cocoa butter helpful. I have a little bottle of it in my handbag and apply a bit each time I nip to the loo (which is a LOT at the moment!)

Don't forget the new thread is here www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/1479016-November-2012-time-for-gender-guessing for when this one is all used up!