November 2012 - the boringly named fifth thread

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Previous threads:

1. www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/1412456-Nov-12-babies
2. www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/1432039-Due-in-November-2012-part-deux-no-cringy-thread-name-here
3. www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/1438916-November-2012-Duebies-Part-3-insert-cheesy-name-of-choice-here
4. www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/1449640-November-2012-bring-on-the-second-trimester

darcy I think it is perfectly normal to have those sorts of emotions. No matter how longed for and planned a baby is, there is still a part of you that thinks, what have we done, how will we manage, how do we look after a baby (for ever!) and the sense of responsibility coupled with pregnancy hormones can leave your thoughts all over the place.

In your case you have an awful lot of things to organise and the list must seem very daunting to say the least. Don't feel terrible - I had all manner of mixed emotions with my first (and this baby) but they do come and go. One day you'll be thrilled and the next maybe scared, but that's not abnormal, or bad.

Hopefully writing it down will help to make you feel better just by getting 'it out there'.

I think Darcy its normal & almost entirely appropriate if its your first. I mean, after the anxiety to check everything's okay, other emotions settle in & what do you have to relate it to? It's something new & unknown so you have no reference. A new job is exciting at first, then you start getting nervous... You will probably find your emotions are all over the place throughout the pg anyway, but when you have that little baby in your arms, things will change :)

Westwinger sounds like a very catty group, perhaps cut your losses? Or set up a rebel faction??

Survived Yorkshire, just... :)

Just an observation about EDD/scans. My LO is measuring a whopping 80.2mm and right at the top of the range for my LMP dates (13+2) so they left EDD as is. When my DD was measured at 12+1, she was 60mm and for the NT test they changed her dates to 12+3. This was because she was slightly above the mean line for the size, & this adjustment put her on the mean iyswim. I suppose I find it odd that then they changed the dates (by 2 days) whereas this time, if they adjusted to the mean, it would have put me a few days further along too. In either case its possible it happened before the mid-cycle/day 14 point they calculate from but it just seems odd!! NT measurement was 2mm so it seems reasonable at this stage, so not too worried, but still, how can things be so different from place to place & experience to experience??!!

Detective Fantastic news!

Cacacaz I live in those vest tops, £2.50 each from Primark, I am going to stock up on bigger sizes too at that price and yes they are mega comfy!

DarcyRhone This is my 4th baby. I feel very detached but for me I think it's because the 20 week scan is lingering and I'm a bit worried to be honest being 37. I won't be bothered per se about disabilities but it's the chromosomal disorders that are incompatible with life that scare the hell out of me, I have never thought twice about it in previous pregnancies but for this one it's all I've thought about.

With my last pregnancy I felt pretty much the same, but once I felt her kick I built up a personality for her (live wire, never still, always looking for trouble) and I was absolutely spot on. Maybe when you can feel each movement, the hiccups, and get to know the sleeping routine it will feel more like your little baby in there and not just a pregnancy. I also talk a load of bollocks sometimes so feel free to just ignore me

Anyway I've got a pram and am picking it up on Friday, I'm also buying a moses basket next week that is very cute, have no idea where it is all going because I haven't sorted out my bedroom yet (hint hint to self, get it sorted!).

Has anyone felt any 'ripping' on the inside of your stomach? I've felt it last night and tonight, it happens when I stretch, it's a very weird feeling and a bit scary. I've just googled it and it says it's separated abdominal muscles, it doesn't actually hurt at all, just a really funny feeling. No wonder I have the belly apron when not pregnant no matter how thin I get grrrrrrrr. I'm going to see what can be done about it after the birth, if I'm getting it now it can only get much worse.

darcy in your situation, I think you would be a bit crazy not to feel overwhelmed at times. I have nothing to worry about but myself yet i still have nights when I can't sleep for worrying "will I be a good mum?" "will I cope with a lack of sleep" "will it like me?" "how will be cope financially?" and so on. Talking it out to hear your fears out loud really helps put them in perspective. Anyone who says this is not scary is either stupid or a liar!

In my own wee world I am developing an anxiety about my back and hips. The small of my back is always sore and turning over in bed at night often wakes me up with the pain. I did a spot of light gardening today (hello sunshine!!) but had to stop very soon as my back was just too sore. I have an allotment so am not a stranger to digging so this is strange.

Other than that, nice weekend really. Set to be a sunny week - bring it on!

We are a load of worrying, aching old women aren't we? Remember when we were worried because we didn't feel sick anymore, then because our scan's were coming up. Mothers guilt hey!

I've just gone upstairs and my youngest (7) was lay in bed and gave me the biggest hug and kiss ever. They are worth all the worry and more.

Meant to say congratulations Detective!!! Lovely news. Kind of hoping for a boy but not sure now, as 'know' girls now too but won't find out til the LO pops out anyway :)

Brill news detective!!! My 20 week scan 14th June :) ive been ill last couple of days but been out all day today!! So tired and little baby having a party again!! Wish dh could feel :( not sure when he'll be able to?!

Great news Detective. I think we've all felt overwhelmed at some point Darcy, I know I have and the baby couldn't have been more planned or wanted. Talking about those feelings shouldn't be an admission of guilt - it would be more worrying if you were blithely bringing a child into the world with no worries whatsoever. I'm sure you'll do a fantastic job of overcoming any difficulties and giving your baby a brilliant start.

For those who were talking memory foam the other day, kgbdeals are doing a mattress topper for £60 (double, but they do other sizes). I think I'm going to get one!

www.kgbdeals.co.uk/national/deals/107195/memory-foam-mattress-topper---soft-sleep---national

Congratulations detective lovely news
As for who will be next to cave in find out - I think it might be me? I've got a 16 week scan on Thursday (NHS) and I'm hoping they'll be able to tell me :)

darcy I feel overwhelmed at the moment and this is my very planned, very wanted second. It's the same thing everyone has said before me - will I cope? Money? Will DD be impressed?!

Congrats detective!! Brill news!

My private scan is on the 9th June, ill be 16+4 so poss me finding out next but not 100% sure if there's anyone before me!

My nhs 20w scan is the 29th June.

Shall we do another scan list or have lots of people not got theirs through yet? Mine is 19 June.

blonderthanred (35) DC1 EDD 6/11/12 scan 19 June

16 week appt today to talk to the consultant. I am not really sure what this one will entail. Oh well, I'll find out in an hour.

I don't have my scan date yet, I was told at 12 week scan that it will be sent when I am approx 18 weeks.

Im looking forward to midwife appointment this week, I should hopefully get to hear babies heartbeat

Congrats detective!!!!!!
My 20 week scan is in 7 days! I can't wait, I'm counting the days. I'm hoping they can tell us sex, so I can think on names.

After next week I can start to buy things,as the hospital will save babies at 24 weeks, So just a 4 week window.

I'm off of aquanatal at the local pool :o, a bit of relaxing before work :(

And now the cat has peed on the carpet,FFS!

Evil

Hi all, I'm just crashing your thread to pop my head in and say hi. You are a very chatty lot just like us in last years November thread. It turned out though that more than half of us had our little ones in October and even .one in August. She is doing grand by the way :)

For those first timers on here, like me I just wanted to say that my pregnancy, birth and my beautiful daughter is the best thing that has happened to me and I adore her and being a Mum.

I have received invaluable advice from my fellow Nov mums and my daughter is coming up to 6 months now and it is just great. Time really flies and to see her sitting up playing still gives me a little lump in my throat.

We now moved to fb as its a bit easier.

Good luck to you all, I'm very excited for you all :)

That's lovely news Detective I am 15+1 today so think I will book in a private scan for next week some time when i am past the 16 week mark to find out the gender - I'm too impatient to wait when I know I could find out and indulge my shoppaholic impulses with some gender specific clothing!

Thanks for the lovely post wokeupandsmeltthecoffee how exciting and strange to think that in a years time we will all be in your position with our own little 6 month olds - eek!

darcy i am positive it is normal to feel that way - I think we all have our own little worries or insecurities. For me its mainly the actual birth. But its nice to be able to talk to other mums to be in the same situation and to not feel alone, so keep talking to us and don't be afraid to admit worries!

Hi WokeUp it's nice to have a visitor!

Darcy you sound like you have a lot on your plate and what you're feeling sounds perfectly normal to me. When I had DS1 my DH was finishing up his PhD and we moved from Scotland to N. Ireland for a post-doc that didn't work out and we were battling with depression so the baby didn't feel real either. I wouldn't/couldn't go into Mothercare until after he was born. But when your baby starts to kick and wriggle and hiccough it will start to feel real and you'll bond with him/her. A lot of us have been in similar situations is not quite as challenging as yours so please tell us any worries or concerns you have. You'll only get support here.

Hi,

I've spent a while catching up on all the news! Just about to eat tea, so I'll be back in a min. x

Darcy where are you emigrating to? If you don't mind me being nosey?!

I went into Mothercare today and tried out the pram I want, it's pretty good, it's not perfect but I don't think any of them are! I will be keeping my eye on ebay to see what sort of prices it goes for second hand.

I had my 14 mont old dd in the ergo (baby carrier) today, on my front. Oh wow I wont be doing that agin in a rush, she was squishing poor little bump/baby! I hope it doesnt matter if they get a bit squished? I went and bought some yarn, so I shall get crocheting tonight. I need to make some baby blankets for friends, and I will decide what to make for my new one!

I am seeing the midwife for ths first time tomorrow! yey. Cant wait to hear the heart beat.

I think I have felt the baby move over the last two days, so exciting!

Just had roast chicken, it was yum. I'm sure the MS is behind me now and I can enjoy foor again!

Heard the heartbeat for the first time this morning. Cried and cried. Most amazing moment, ever.

Darcy - What everyone else has said :)
It is overwhelming, especially when you have a lot more going on than just being pregnant, and your mind is constantly racing about the future. Just take it all one day at a time and you'll get there.
I have my own worries too despite the fact this baby was planned!
Hormones don't help either!

Anyway glad to hear all the good news, i'm getting so impatient about my 20wk scan, which is on the 26th June so I still have a good long wait!
Will be seeing midwife in the next two weeks so looking forward to that. :)

As for today I am feeling horribly tired as DD was up at around half five this morning and has been very clingy all day :(
Will be taking her out for a walk shortly to cure the monday blues!

Darcy perfectly normal!! I went out sat night with two couple friends and half enjoyed it. I couldn't relax like I normally do as they're both going through ivf and I'm pregnant. I felt sooooo guilty which is stupid!! But feeling more and more real now I can feel it move!!

Grrrrrr, am not buying the pram off ebay now, stupid, stupid seller trying to blackmail me with 'I have someone who offered me cash 1 hour after the auction, if you don't collect it tomorrow I'll have no alternative but to sell it to her'! Told her to do just that, negged her and reported her to ebay (we had already arranged a collection day). She sent me 3 emails to say this to me, each one more desperate than the other despite me telling her I'll be at work all day today. Hubby phoned me to ask if she was on drugs because the emails went to his phone

Am just on a break from doing a double shift then off to collect the nippers from school, drop them off at their nana's then back off to work. Am feeling very preggy today, cannot believe that I am only 14+5 because I feel about 30 weeks, am definitely getting a waddle and the groin strain has spread to the top of both legs too, this is as well as the stomach muscles seperating. Ho hum, it's such good fun :)

Think I'll have a quick sit outside in this lovely weather.

iheartpastries do u use a special yarn/wool for baby blankets? I can only knit scarfs or squares really. N want to make my lil fraggle a blanket. Thinking different coloured squares which I can sow together. But want a soft cuddly yarn.