November 2012 - the boringly named fifth thread

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Previous threads:

1. www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/1412456-Nov-12-babies
2. www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/1432039-Due-in-November-2012-part-deux-no-cringy-thread-name-here
3. www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/1438916-November-2012-Duebies-Part-3-insert-cheesy-name-of-choice-here
4. www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/1449640-November-2012-bring-on-the-second-trimester

Sorry that was supposed to say "Chunky" !!

chunky I got a scream mask picture too! It's fascinating, but a little scary at the same time.

detective that sounds painful, hope you feel better soon.

Hi girls,

Hope you are all well. Not a lot to report from here, had another scan on Monday and all is well, saw my consultant today who said he'd do a section at 36 weeks so it feels a bit strange to have such a strict plan for my pregnancy and birth when I spend all day telling women how unpredictable it all is! I keep thinking the sickness is going only to have another bout of it. Its much better though. My boobs are HUGE. When are we supposed to start glowing?

nebbo I can't offer any words of wisdom on when we will start glowing, but just to say I am hanging on in there with you waiting for it to happen!
My hormones do seem to have gone crazy emotions wise though - I actually cried on the tube this morning at a sad ending in a book - not like one glistening tear - but full on noisy sobbing. I think my DH thought I was crazy! hehe
Great news Chunky! can't believe we are all scanned now and the count down will start to the 20 week scan - things seem to have sped up now!

Hi everyone,

My baby brain is really driving me mad! I had decided what pram I wanted quite a few weeks ago, I even looked it up on ebay and felt happy that they were a good price. But now I cannot remember what it's called. I have spent ages trying to find it on google. How rediculous!!!

Hi all, can I join?

Due 9th November :)

Hello all and welcome Swiss Army Wife. Still waiting for the glowing bit here too!

Just had my 16 week appt with the midwife a few days early. Heard the heartbeat which was lovely. Bit of protein in the MSU sample though. And there was a mistake with my previous blood work so they had to retake that. So waiting to get an update on all of that in the next couple of weeks. 20 week scan is on 20th June - feel like it's all beginning to gather a bit of pace now.

Still got morning sickness hanging over me, but definitely feel like it is getting better. I am just so short of breath all the time. I am huffing and puffing just sorting out the washing!!

Hope everyone has a lovely day!

I am officially preggers - everyone in my department now knows. Will pop over & see the head in a bit too, as makes it easier for booking antenatal stuff if she's in the know, although the official stuff won't happen until 25ish wks. One of my colleagues commented on FB that she suspected as much due to my tum, but didn't want to ask in case it was just bloating!!! Glad I no longer look fat, just pregnant!! :)

Hi SwissArmyWife welcome aboard :)

DH started looking at double buggies in Mothercare yesterday. Glad its only taken the first scan for him to realise we have to start planning ahead/thinking about these things, rather than both scans, some kicks & a few months passing, like with my DD

Glad its not just me Westwinger feel so unfit because I can barely walk up the stairs without feeling breathless. Does this improve over the next few wks or is pretty much par for the course??!! :(

Chunky From my previous experience, this is it. I used to get breathless just sitting on my arse and not moving! Not as bad this time round thankfully, only feel like fainting a few times a week instead

I feel normal now, but obviously with an every expanding tum and groin strain when I walk, I even feel like I'm starting with the 'waddle' already! I feel like I'm in limbo because I'm not ill, how strange

Grrr. I'm a member of a group of Mums on FB and someone asked if being 25/26yo was too old to have another kid (they've got 2). Some of the younger Mums started bashing 'over 30s' and saying its 'risky'. I'm really bugged by it. I had my DD when I was 30 & judging by a lot of women here, most of the Mums are 25+. It drives me mad when I quote factual comments & people deliberately argue a completely different point (in awful English I might add). I mean, I quoted that in 2010, 48% of Mums were 30 & over, with the average age of first time mums being 27.something, 8 maybe. How is it wrong to have a baby over 30- seems to me most women seem to be thinking along those lines anyway??!!!

And thanks for the 'good' news Shellybobbs This baby obviously doesn't like me...

Chunky Pregnancy is a beautiful thing Just not happening to anyone on here!

Those threads get right on my nerves! I can't believe some of the women on there, they say the most ridiculous things and if you believe some of them, they walk round all day and NEVER take their eyes off there kids once. I've stopped going on them.......

chunky that's ridiculous. I'll be 38 when I have this baby, that makes me positively ancient! I personally wouldn't have wanted a child in my 20's but each to their own. I certainly wouldn't put anyone down for following a different path. Sounds like you are better off here

Talking of Facebook, I need to join our group. dh I pm you with my name and fb profile description and you'll add me too it, is that how it works?

Yeah indeed Eliza & Shelly - I was too busy getting hammered studying at uni @ 21 but my sister had had her first 2 by that age... Each to their own, and I'm sure everyone older realises that its 'riskier' but are willing to take their chance as it were; I mean, for some its not an option earlier, you know?? Just bugs me that I shared my position/opinion and its been suggested I'm defensive and/or criticising others for having babies younger. I never bloody said that!!! Hormones don't help though

Oh dear - I'm 22 and already have a 14mo DD
However I don't think it's a problem having children in your 30's, it all depends on the person doesn't it? There are many factors that can cause complications in pregnancy wether you're 16 or 40!

I'm also feeling rather waddly/tired/lazy, and i'm only 15 weeks. God help me!

Exactly SwissArmyWife I personally couldn't have or wouldn't have wanted to have children at 22 but I didn't say you shouldn't either if that's what suits you. I just took a little offense at being labelled an 'old parent' at 32!!!

chunky I don't get why so many women spend so much time judging other women. I think they must do it to make themselves feel better - basically they are probably a bit insecure and require a little group to make them feel good about their lives. I mean, who cares how old someone else is when they choose to have their own baby?? It doesn't impact on them! And why judge that person? And why criticise? Too much free time!! Live and let live and all that......!!!

. Hope it's ok to join back in? I was on the thread to start with but have Spent the last 6 weeks in a blur of sick and exhaustion so couldn't keep up! I'm 12+5 and due on 24/11

I had my 12 week scan yesterday but the baby slept the whole way through on its side so they couldn't do the NT test at all. I'm so worried that we're having it done on Tuesday privately.

This is our first DC so nothing to benchmark against. Fortunately the baby stretched at one stage so at least we know it can move but I'm really worried about the fact that he or she didn't wake up at all. Is that normal? Our photos are awful - it looks like a photo of a banana in soup. The hospital gave them to us for free they were so bad!

we were a bit shell shocked yesterday and just relieved to see something there. However, I've been googling like mad since and I'm really disappointed that the hospital didnt offer us another scan as loads of other people seem to have been told to come back.

Amen to that westwinger

By the time my mum was my age she had 3 of us with my brother being at secondary school. Part of me thinks it would be nice to get to your thirties and have your kids already nicely grown but at that stage I was massively immature. I would have scratched your eyes out for suggesting it then but looking back now I know I am more mature and more capable of dealing with the ups and downs of parenting. On the other hand an ex pupil came to see me the other day. 18 and 6 months pregnant - she will be a wonderful mother a she has a wise head on her shoulders.

In other news, today was a much better day than yesterday. Technology and children all on my side :)

Thanks everyone. Feel like I might have over-reacted but other friends have left the group over the comments and feel I might too - life is too short to keep reading things that wind me up!!! Another friend messaged me, saying she agreed too, so clearly it wasn't just me. One comment suggested it was 'selfish' to wait until your thirties. I mean, how is that not designed to offend?? Anyway...

Hi shiny did they not get you to do some fancy moves to wake/move baby? I had to cough, shake my hips/bum about, lay on my side, all sorts. Photos are a bit blurry and like a baked potato at times but I got to see him/her for ages, as it took so long to get the measurements :)

I don't remember them having a second screen for mums with DD so it was nice laying there & seeing it all... Although would have been better if I'd worn my contacts!

Hi chunky - they just prodded me very hardand tipped the bed down. Nothing worked. Bit peeved as read online that having some coke can help and there was a wrvs cafe outside so could have got some!!

Hi Darcy - my date was in the letter from the sonographer that was put in my file. After the crap scan, I saw the midwife who amended my notes. Itbwas also on my photo but out by one day the sonographer said. I think it is because the machine does it automatically but it goes by what they work out manually.

Wow, some people can be so rude, chunky, and I don't blame you for being offended!
I agree with passmethecrisps, I think by your thirties you are a lot more mature and more capable of raising a child, there are so many young mums out there who are battling with growing up and being a parent, and that isn't fair on the child.
Don't get me wrong, like I said before it depends on the person, i've always been mature for my age and have always wanted kids (I remember at about the age of six asking my mum if i'd be a good mum) and think having children at my age was the right choice for me. (I planned to have my first at 21) Although i've always considered myself a fairly young mum!

But I would never judge somebody for having a child in their thirties, what a ridiculous thing to be judgemental about!

Anyway, sod what other people think

shinyblackgrape - I'm surprised they didn't make you do any jiggling or anything at your scan aswell, my baby was on it's side for a while and the sonographer sent me off to pee to give him/her more space to roll over, and had to wobble my tummy (v. embarrassing) to encourage the baby to wake up and move. I wouldn't worry though, as we all know babies are nocturnal creatures so the fact it was having a snooze isn't unusual!