Here is my list, if anyone is struggling. I think you have to tailor it to suit yourself. A lot of things on my list, others may not need, or may have different needs. But here it goes, if it helps!
Pushchair and car seat We both drive a lot so we have picked a pushchair that you can just fix the car seat on to. We aren't buying the lay down pram bit for it, or any other crazy accessories, we just don't need them when we consider our lifestyle. We just need the pram, the car seat, and the car seat cosy toes (and only because its a winter baby!). We also want the car seat base for one of our cars (the 3 door) to make things easier getting baby in and out. Will buy car seat new, and base. Will consider eBay for the pram. Already got cosy toes off eBay for half the price than in a shop. Total cost will be much less than if we bought the whole system thing.
Moses Basket and stand - we are using this for downstairs during the day, and as we only have walking room around out bed, will move it upstairs when we go to bed. It will only get a few weeks of use, so not planning on an expensive one - may get second hand, but new mattress.
Cot bed and new mattress Cot will be from eBay. Not paying for a new one. Otherwise will be expensive!
Bedding This includes lots of sheets and blankets. Babies go through lots with puke! This will be one of my bigger expenses. Have my heart set on all matching bedding, and room decor. Oh dear!
Baby monitor just getting a basic one - eBay again most likely.
Bath support Not bothering with a baby bath, no room for one. This is a cheaper option too. Just stick it in the big bath :)
Steriliser and bottles Already bought - half price in Asda. Letting the baby take the lead on feeding, so will have bottles incase, and a breast pump incase too - breast pump will be borrowed.
Bedroom furniture Wardrobe and tall shelving unit, both from Ikea - will last a long time! Its only a small box room, so need storage that works well.
The other things we will be getting are more specific, and because its my second baby, I remember what was a god send the first time round! Definitely getting a bouncing/vibrating chair. And a swing, may get one that combines the two. Not sure yet. The swing saved my life with DS. Using eBay for these things.
Will also get some soft toys, curtains, etc for the bedroom. We are getting a few small toys and a playmat, but these are for christmas - not that I feel the baby needs presents, it will be 4-8 weeks old! But, DS does.... sigh! Some of these will be from eBay too.
Also need maternity clothes - not necessarily maternity specific, maybe just bigger sizes! Bigger nighties, underwear, bras etc. Will need some nappies, cotton wool and muslin cloths. Don't stock up on formula or too many nappies - you won't know if your baby takes to that brand of milk, or how many newborn size nappies you will go through. They may go in to the next size before you finish the ones you have! I will be getting 4 lots of newborn sized nappies to have ready, and one tub of formula.
We are buying a birth pool, and will need some protective coverings for carpets etc.
Our total budget is £1500, but that is if everything was new. As it won't be, i'll be keeping an eye on our total savings. It makes me feel smug to get a bargain lol! I'm hoping to do it for well under £1000.
Hope that helps some people :)