Due in August 2006 - Part Two

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For ease of reference I've copied this from the first thread - I hope no-one's been missed off - but if you have, just copy the list and add yourself in.

Act 2/8/06
Arabica 2/8/06
Fortnight 2/8/06
Freddysays 2/8/06
aprilgirl 4/8/06
Bighotmama 7/8/06
Cheeps 10/08/06
Webchick 11/8/06
Melsy 12/08/06
Pucca 13/8/06
Purpleturtle 13/8/06
Lockets 14/8/06
Nbg 15/8/06
Trix1 15/8/06
Rubles 17/8/06
Kitegirl 17/08/06
Babylily 18/8/06
Katylou25 23/8/06
Eppifany 23/8/06
lunavix 25/08/06
Olivo 25/08/06
Snowballstrike 26/8/06
snic 26/8/06

wish my hospital separated the ante natal classes by age as i was 20 last time and 21 now and my partner and i certainly didn't fit in with the 'older' couples!

was really disappointed as i was hoping the classes would be a great place to meet mums and no-one even spoke to us.

don't mean to offend anybody but parents over a certain age, although i wouldn't term them as old, do think of younger couples expecting a baby as kids who made a mistake and won't even be together in a few years, not worth wasting any time being friendly with. my dd was certainly not unplanned, took 2 years to conceive, we just made a decision to have our children young and would have enjoyed meeting moms of a similar frame of mind.

I'm sorry you felt isolated like that Eve. I think a lot of 'older' mums might have had babies younger if we had been lucky enough to meet the right person!
IMO, people assume that they won't have much in common with people a lot younger or older than themselves and that's why they are reluctant to try and make friends. I used to think that way and it just isn't true- as I found out when I met my now husband who is (cough) 19 years older than me!

good for you act! age shouldn't make a differance, most of the mums i do talk to and get on really well with are between ten and thirty years older than me and there aren't any differances in how we parent, some people can just be really judgmental on first appearances which is a shame coz i wish i'd had some friends who were pregnant at the same time as me for dd's sake so she'd have some little friends her age.

i'm certainly not an advocate for people having babies young just for the sake of of it but it was the right choice for my partner and i and i don't think any person you meets me once and doesn't even talk to me has the right to say otherwise!

sorry for ranting on, it's a bit of a pet peeve of mine!

Unfortunately, I don't think age is a good indicator of prejudice about the correct age to have babiesas soon as you mention pregnancy, anyone and everyone seems to have an opinion about whether you're too young, too old, too poor or too whatever! I'm sure there are people out there who think I am too old to be having a baby. They can think whatever they likeit's not worth getting upset about. Old mum, young mum, what matters most is that you are a good mum.

That's one of the best things about having a child--you get to meet people you'd never normally feel you had anything in common with, and chat away with them for hours because you are the same 'baby age'.

not to mention that 90% of what you talk about is your kids anyway, so it doesn't matter as much whether you don't have alot else in common, youvé always got a conversation topic.

So on the note of baby talk, can anyone remember what they used to talk about pre kiddies???? I go out with dh to get a break and then spend all evening talking about ds!!!!
Also, getting some really horrible pains in my tummy, dh says growing pains, anyone else uncomfortable??
Eve, i know how you feel. Went to a baby toddler group with an older friend of mine when i had ds, the other women weren't neccesserily (brain gone, excuse spelling)older just snotty nosed bints who didn't like me! Not that i cared too much for any of them, stuck up old cows.....
Sorry, going off on one......
Well MiL has just turned up. An evening of being told where i'm going wrong coming up!!!!

Hi everyone! had such a laugh at the 'older mum' thing!!
Boopert, I've been getting lots of niggly pains too, am hoping its just stretching etc but am at the GPs on monday so will mention then.

Am going for my 'double test' - I thought they did that at 16 wks, but I'll only be 14 1/2 - does anyone know if there is a particular time they should do it?

Have been out and collected my maternity wear from next (unfortunately only one pair of trousers fits me but they are sooooooo comfortable ) and got a pair of plain black trousers form mothercare which I think I'll end up living in....time to clear out my wardrobe I think!

Scarily, have filled out nursery application form today - there is BIG cpmpetition for places so i was told the sooner the better. Has anyone else had to think about this yet?Feel a bit mean thinking about leaving him/her with people before I've even met him/her but it has to be done.

Oops, I've been wittering!
hope everyone has a good weekend.x

what's a double test is it not the triple test that they do these days? I was 15wks last time for that.

preg yoga was lovely, except that i fainted , got a bit carried away with the whole breathing thing... I get so out of breath these days, I walk up the stairs and I have to sit down! I didn't think I was that unfit.

I have felt the baby wriggle in the evening now, awwww....

eve - I know how you feel, when dh and I went for our parentcraft classes we were the only couple under around 40, and incidentally the only couple who spoke any english. Which I have NO problem with but we were looked at so strangely. Noone I meet can understand I'm married and have a toddler + baby on the way so young, but I always wanted children young.

So I've had an embarrassing day. Fainted in co-op much to the horror of my friend and the poor old lady serving me. Paramedics came and told me off for not eating, midwife said 'oh that's nice dear lots of people do it' and doctor? Told me he wanted me in hopsital being 'revived' for a week or so. I flatpan refused, so now I'm being forced the anti sickness drugs I so vehemently objected to. Peed off to say the least. The best bit was, I felt queasy and was buying a drink, which burst as I fell... causing every person in the busy co-op to think I'd peed myself - including my friend. I'm not being funny, even pregnant pee (well mine anyways) isn't illuminous orange like lucozade.

Oh so I'm going to bed as if I stay up any longer I will throw up and the doctor said if I throw up in the next 24 hours I have to be hospitalised. DH has no sympathy just keeps saying 'I told you to eat' MEN

Kitegirl, I think it depends where you live as to whther they do the double, triple or quadruple test - here its the double.

luna - sorry to hear you're still feeling rough. hope it gets better for you soon.

I'm ashamed to say that i've done virtually no exercise since i found out i was pg , hoping to start aqua natal soon if there is a space.

I'm in Berks & we have the triple test - that's if you don't have a private scan for the nuchal fold. I had my blood taken yesterday for the triple test. I haven't told them I had a private scan because if I do, they won't do it, although I understand it checks for different things.

How's everyone doing & are you all in maternity clothes ? I've been searching & have found nothing I like. I'm off to a work conference for 2 days & I have NO idea what to wear...other than a denim skirt. All my clothes are a bit snug, but maternity stuff is too big (& those elastic backs...well....make my bum look terrible)

Oh Lunavix - how awful. Are you feeling any better yet?

I'm not in maternity trousers yet - just wearing a pair of jeans a size bigger than I'd normally want with the button undone. I am wearing maternity tops though, cos they're long enough to cover my undone trousers! I put my maternity jeans on one day last week, but they're still so enormous I was glad to put them straight back in the drawer.

Lunavix, that sounds terrible. What's making you faint, do you know?
Re maternity clothes, I so agree about the ones with an elastic-and-button fastener making your bum look big. Mine looks big anyway though--it's just that my boobs and bump are so big, nobody notices!!
Re stylish maternity clothes--have you seen www.isabellaoliver.com/IOSite/pages/home/default.aspthis collection?

Woops--here we are Isabella Oliver the clothes look lovely, if I needed something smart would be sorely tempted (I work from home via phone and computer so don't need anything flash)

kitegirl, shame about the fainting! Quite a few in my class seem to feel dizzy but nobody's ever passed out yet. Were you OK after?

yep - don't really understand what happened! I did Ashtanga for 6 years religiously but haven't had a class for nearly 3 years! Felt awful though but got lots of attention...

Isabella Oliver is fab, pricey but very good quality and the material is so luxurious and soft that they are almost worth it. I got a couple of tops and their wrap dress.

I am wearing my normal jeans with the top button undone under tops, occasionally I do end up flashing my pants to all and sundry but I learnt from last pregnancy that dignity and style just ain't going to be a feature in my life when i am four stone bigger, waddling and with overgrown highlights...

poor lunavix, hope you start to feel better soon, don't let the gp hospitalise you, hospital smell while suffering from morning sickness definitally won't help!

if you're having trouble facing food during the day have you tried having small bland munchies before bed and eating something else quite bland before you get up? had awful morning sickness last time and could never stomache food if i was too hungry so the morning food thing didn't work unless i already had something in my tummy from night before.

Lunavix...Keep your chin up, i was feeling terrible with the sickness then all of a sudden it is gone, hopefully another couple of weeks (maximum) and you should be feeling better, sorry you are feeling so awful though .

I have put on 9lb i am horrifed! lol, with dd i only put the weight on towards the end really, not too bad before then, but cannot believe how much i have put on already with this one, its because all i have done is eat, to take away the sickness...gonna have to calm down now or i will end up like a beached whale lol.

I am feeling the baby move lots now, and much more noticable too, i love the feeling..it is fab!

Also wanted to ask...anyone else on their 2nd or 3rd or more pregnancy...don't you think it is going SOOOOO fast? With my dd (1st) the time dragged so much, but this one is flying by (quite scary actually!!)cannot believe i am 16 weeks already.

Lunavix...Forgot to add, i was REALLY terrible with my dd, i lost lots of weight instead of putting it on, In the end i found something i could finally stomach and just kept eating it (ended up being crackers and spread cheese of all things!! lol)but you need... (i know you will be sick of hearing this) to find something you "fancy" it is hard, but even if you can keep it down for a little while it will do you good, and it WILL get better

poor poor lunavix, your sickness sounds so miserable let the power of mumsnet bring an end to it very very soon - here's some anti-sickness vibes coming your way --

my insomnia is getting ridiculous. for three nights in a row now i've been up at 4am, not being able to get back to sleep. it was like this in my last pg but not as bad. at least then i could nap during the day, with a toddler who is in the process of dropping his daytime nap, no chance!

and yes, this pregnancy is going so fast. I can't believe I am 16 wks already. August will come some quickly!

poor you lunavix i really feel for you by the way ive been in materinty stuff since six weeks and ive now got really purple stretchmarks across mt stomach at the same level as my belly button so there goes flashing my tattoo i had done a while back ive also been suffering with the 4am wake up and struggling to get back tosleep its driving dh up the wall is any1 else suffering with peeing every 10 mins or so sorry maybe tmi but would love to no if this is normal

second preg for me and yes it's absolutely racing by, thank god. i went completely mad first time round as i wasn't working and all i had to do most days was read pregnancy mags and think about the birth i've got a one year old to chase around now and most of the time i can't even remember what week i'm in! on the down side i'm the size now i was at 7 months last time!

jayjaybaby i get the peeing thing too but find most of the time when i do get to the toilet i don't really need to go at all! think it's the baby sitting on my bladder!

Time is going slowly for me, because I've been so anxious this time around (due to previous m/c). Have put on about 15lbs and am pretty large--this has been a stressful week with lots of work deadlines so have found it hard to stick to the Slimming World eating plan. I'll be OK next week when not so busy.
Feeling baby move around quite a bit at times--one minute it's up by my navel, the next at the side! It doesn't seem to move much at night. Sign of good sleeper perhaps.