Due oct 2006

[3kids]

I found out today i'm pregnant with no 4! Due the 1st oct.

Hi chaps

Calling in, just spent ages catching up on all your news - bit of a quick skim read, there's so much.

Sorry about the bad news for Evenhope and Riley.

Twinkle, I've got everything crossed for you.

Other highlights seem to include rather frequent references to Vernon Kaye?! I'm not sure what sort of club I've joined .

I'm just 8weeks and 3 days today, but just arranged my first mw and consultants/scan appts - scan is on 6th April which is both not to far away and MILES off yet. Likely to have to bring dh (that's good!) and ds's - hope they don't trash the equipment .

I'm another who doesn't suffer too much from nausea - just enough to reassure me that I'm still pg, so sympathies, some of you are really suffering I think. Other symptoms include greed (have gone up a size already, and likely to go up another before this trimester is out methinks), tearfulness and (confessed elsewhere on MN recently so what the heck) REALLY erotic dreams . Only ever had these before when pg, so a definite symptom.

Dh nagging me to go to bed as we were up with ds1 for a couple of hours last night - poor lamb was horribly sick several times, but fine today. We're shattered, but since dh taped over last nights ER before I got a chance to watch it I'm rebelling by having an extended MN sesh (hence not just lurking tonight - secrets out)

morning ladies. hope everyone is feeling well.

i thought i had better let you know that i wont be around on here anymore..the reason, i had my 12wk scan yesterday and found out that babys heart had stoped at 6wks, due to not having any tummy pains or bleeding we had no idea that something was wrong. i know im not the only one on here whoses been through this latly but i cant help fell why me, to make matter slightly more upsetting i have to go into hosptial on saturday and have some tablets so as to bring on miscarrage, there wont do an erpc unless there is medical reason ie higher resk of infection ect.

anyway, i trying not to cry too much, and ive got rota duty at my ds playgroup this morning so i had better get my ars in gear and get out the door,

Feel very sad for you trophy,i think you just described the greatest fear we all have,i dont think anyone quite believes pg is real til the scan is done.I wish you well for future pgs,look after yourself and take as much time to grieve as you need,sending you a HUG x

I'm very sorry to hear your news Trophywife. Look after yourself.

very sorry trophy. it's not fair at all. as totally floaty said it's the big fear that we all have. i hope you're getting lots of support and can cancel a few of the shifts at the play group. x

Trophy, I've just been for my scan with the same result. They were all wonderful but it's a totally helpless feeling. I should have been 10 weeks and instead only measured at 7. There is no hope. I'm going in for tablets tomorrow to bring on a miscarriage then back the next day for more scans etc.

Given how sick i've been, I hadn't expected this. Trying to focus on what is good in our lives at the moment but it's hard. Hugs to you and your family, trophy x

So sorry to TrophyWife and Sparkly1. Just to let you know that thoughts and prayers are with you as you both come to terms with your loss. I am just so very sorry. xx

Oh Sparkly,im so sorry,its getting quite depressing really.
My best wishs to all the ladies who have had mc,i hope you get a healthy happy pg soon.big hugs

oh sparky i am so sorry for you, know just how you feel, im in for tabs tom, but have started leaking yucky stuff but not quite blood (sorry if tmi) in a odd sort of way im hoping that its all started as i dont want to go into hosptial but am also quite gutted.

trophywife and sparkly1 , just want to pass on my sympathies as well. Such an awful blow for both of you, hope you've lots of support and love around you right now

Sparkly and Trophywife I am so sorry to hear that. Take care of yourselves. And use mumsnet for support-there are unfortunately loads of people who know exactly what you are going through. I will be thinking of you both. Make sure you take it easy and give yourselves time to deal with this

trophywife and sparkly, seen your news and I am upset for you both. I am so sorry to hear of of sad news and I am thinking of you both and your familites. I really feel for you both and be kind to yourselves and take time to come to terms with what happening. You can find me on ttc after mc thread if you need me xx {{{hugs}}}

Thanks, everyone. After miscarrying last year quite early in the pregnancy I let the sickness and fatigue convince me this one was staying around. I'm being very pragmatic about it for now. What will be will be and all that. It is hard though.

TW, I still feel very pregnant which seems very cruel so now I'm keep thinking that I just want it over. We've got our wedding in 2 months and that will keep me occupied so I'm hoping that sometime after that we'll consider trying again. I'm not sure though.

sparky,
i also had all the sickness and untill yesterday had no reason to belive there was any problem at all. even today i still pg but in knowing its gone its really hard to get my head round. i just want it over too. hugs to you ..

sorry jusr relisted it should be "sparkly".

So sorry for you both - finding out during a scan is the worst. Take care and hopefully the tablets & stuff will all pass really quickly. Best of luck with the wedding sparkly.

Welcome to the new joiners.

sparkly and trophywife,
your posts have just reduced me to tears, and yet I can't begin to imagine how dreadful you must feel. life can be so unfair. I hope you both have someone to take good care of you right now. thinking of you both xxx

Oh Trophywife and Sparkly1, I'm so sorry, I can't stop crying for you.

Sparkly1, my first pg ended in a missed m/c also two months before my wedding. I think I was so bound up in plans for our wedding, I didn't really think about how much the m/c had upset me. You must take time out for yourself, this is sadly just one of those things but I didn't realise that there is a mourning process to go through for such a tiny little thing. I was most upset about it when pg with ds2 (nearly 3 years later.) The good news is there's absolutely no reason not to try again - my m/c was in August and after a break for a couple of months, I got my bfp on 29 Dec - he's 4 1/2 now.

I wish I wouldn't post one of my stupid upbeat chats just before other people's sad news.

trophywife and sparkly - i am so sorry for you both...i cant begin to imagine how you are both feeling, but i just wanted you both to know that my thoughts are with you xox

welcome sunnyside and sassy1983 xox

so sorry to you both, On a truly selfidh note I am now really anxious about my scan tomorrow.

Anne,me to!! I think sites like this can be helpful and supportive but usually when your pg you only meet others at nct classes etc who've already got through the early bit of pg,so you dont meet people who are having probs,mc etc.Its actually a bit of a shock talking to others in early pg as thats when most probs occur,one finds out about the bleeding etc,its scary,but can also be a comfort hearing from others who have made it through after a mc or those who have bled etc and there bean is still hanging on in their.
Its also worse hearing from someone you think you know,emotions are all over the place at this stage,i have a cry whenever someone has a mc,its heartbreaking and too easy to identify with.So yes im worried about my scan to,but its the nature of pg to spend it in a fever of turmoil

can only add that I'm very sorry, Trophywife and sparkly; we're here if you need us!

welcome sassy and sunnyside; I'm very close in due date to you (13 Oct)

annelouise and floaty, wishing you the best of luck for your scans (is it the 12 week one)? I had an early one at 8w after bleeding but won't have the next till almost 15 wks when am back in UK.

hope everyone else is fine,

Completely agree, totallyfloaty. When I went through my previous m/c's I was living abroad and not using any websites so never spoke to anyone at the time except DH and I really registered that it happens to so many other people, and of course these things never really get talked about 'as it happens' because we all keep so quite about it in the first trimester. Have found this all so upsetting over past few weeks, and have had a cry over each one, as I feel as if I have got to know the threaders a little from their posts.

BUT what keeps me coming back to these threads is the support we are each getting & giving each other and no-one should feel ashamed for being worried/concerned on their own account simply because someone else is going through the darkest side of baby-making. All our concerns stay valid and we are all keen on supporting people through their scan worries and everything. Also, even though sometimes the thread timing isn't appropriate to say it, I get a big thrill every time we get a new joiner - makes me think there is just a big club of 'virtual mates' out there that is just getting bigger, and that these mates understand like my DH never does what we are going through emotionally and physically.

Things will start getting better for all of us soon as we get through the next couple of weeks. And I think you'd have to be a little odd or VERY naive if you didn't worry yourself sick over things like scans (however needlessly).

My scan yesterday was OK though v small for dates. Cried like a baby before I went in I was so scared. Cried like a baby when they told me there was a heartbeat and then cried like a baby when I came back to the thread and saw the posts from Sparkly & Trophywife.

Let's keep on in there, all of us, keep on posting our worries and concerns and keep the hugs going for everyone going through the m/c pain.

I think that was a really good post whiffy and agree with the things you said.

Sparkly, Tropheywife hope you are bearing up OK.

Anne, Totallyfloaty hope the scans are OK. I had a dating scan yesterday which went fine. Was terrified waiting to go in, and exhausted afterwards with all the stress but it was OK. I think all scans will be a pretty joyless experience for us after last year, but it was a huge relief to see the heartbeat etc. Got the nuchal next week which is the even scarier one for us.

Welcome to sunnyside and sassy.

Can I ask a question about lambs?! DH is planning to take DD to see some newborn lambs on Saturday. I am not going because of the toxoplasmosis (or however you spell it) threat, but-this may sound daft-can you catch it from people if DH or DD got it?

dont think you can catch it from people,loads of people have already got it so they are immune.I have got loads of cats,during my last pg i had 7 cats and they kept testing me for toxo and i never got it,your animal has to have it in the first place,but check with a midwife anyway.Its very common in france apparently,because they undercook their meat.
My scan is the nuchal one,having it wednesday evening,my mates coming to hold my hand as im terrified