April 2012 babies: Third Trimester: the end is in sight!

[LaTristesse]

Heartburn, haemorrhoids and hairy stomachs; come waddle through the glamorous third trimester with us... !

Previous (2nd trimester) thread here

Initial thread (1st trimester) thread here

Stats thread here

Bounty photo-lady never appeared when I had my DD, but that was 7 years ago, did they do it then?

lol and theres me thinking getting the next bounty pack will be like receiving a nice new mother present!!! I shall lie and say husband is a photographer whilst pointing at camera bag!!! I am SOOOOO glad i am reading this stuff now!!
Why didnt I join when i was first pregnant!!

The bounty lady and the photographer were two seperate people (to avoid) at my hospital.

Do you know what's annoyed me today? - that grubby little twit Peaches Geldof is due in OUR MONTH.

Cubtrouble - it'll be more leaflets and a bottle of comfort and a woman who is insistent that you NEED a photo of your newborn (who is finally sleeping) awake, and they come round when you've had no rest, you're the highest yet most horrifically knackered you've ever been and then charges you a King's ransom for some mediocre prints

hahahah fliss you crack me up!!! I hate the leaflets, recycling bin fodder. but i do like something free! lol

there is no way someone i dont know its taking my photo when i have given birth. OR my brand new bundle. no no no. GET BACK!!! if they take my photo i will take theres pap style!!!

Bear- imagine those tattoos of hers all stretched out and stupid looking, it will make you feel ALOT better!!! mmmmmwwwwahahahahahahahahahah

Cub she won't want to take your photo, just your lovely baby. Even the baby will give her a look as if to say 'Bugger off, I am SLEEPING'

How are we all this chilly morning? Not looking forward to it - I have to venture out of the house shortly with DD, traipse to the bank on the bus to pay in a cheque and then walk up to my mum's house before being ready to be collected by DH for 12. Why the insurance company can't pay by BACS I don't know - they have my bank details to take my money FROM, yet they send payments out by cheque which whilst nice to get the money, is a bloody inconvenience when the bank isn't near my house :( Bah.

I feel a bit sorry for Peaches Geldof actually, yes, alright she's grown up in a house with lots of £ but seemingly Sir Bob has spent most of her childhood worrying about other people's children rather than his own, and then she lost her mum when she was so young :(

Snort at the Bounty photo hatred! I have an awkward position now as DD's friends Mum has just taken over as Bounty lady. Hopefully I will have Pedwar (our nn for baby, it's the welsh word for four) in the dead of night and manage to either get out early or pretend to be in a mega deep sleep when she does the rounds.

Jambalaya she was definately on the prowl in my Hospital when I had DD nearly 12 years ago. We were too poor to afford any photo's though, you had to pay up front then and they were £35.00.
The sample one we got shown for DS1 was so dreadful we got offered it for half price!

Wonder what Peaches will call her baby? Maybe something really dull like Cyril as a refreshing change from the names of her and her siblings.

We still have no clue on names for poor Pedwar especially boy names.
We weren't really expecting to have four DC and our DC have y/ie/ay ending names I fear we may be verging on Duggar territory if we have a fourth samey ending name but all the ones we seem to like have that kind of ending.

Just read about Peaches, apparently theres concern for her smallish bump. Mines smaller than that, can I be in the Daily Mail?

Just picked up my Bounty pack, its got a little pot of sudocrem in, a sachet of ovaltine, some fairy tablets, a nappy and some wipes. Bit pooh really.

Oh! And a tube of Dove intensive hair conditioner! :)

I didnt get any DOve in mine and I couldnt actually do with some!!! My hair is SOOOOO dry!!!!!

My SPD is playing up today, i am not enjoying being stuck at work tonight, booo hisssss, dont normally work nights, now I know why!!!
Quiet shift though, so can internet browse baby stuff later! goody!

£35 for a photo!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! THIRTY FIVE!!!!! GOD!!!! is it printed on gold!

Wow - you're right - £35 seems ridiculously steep! (Especially in these days of digital technology...I think we'll stick with our own snaps.)

Must remind DH to keep camera charged as part of our preparation.

So, yesterday we had our Antenatal Day at the hospital, which was quite good, actually. I'm not sure how much use the stages of labour chat was (I need books to help me remember these things...) but the coping with pain/active birth/pain relief session was really informative and practical. And they seemed pretty realistic too, without scaremongering.

And we got to see a newborn being bathed, which was lovely (and quite funny when she weed on the midwife!)

Has anyone else been on theirs yet? Most of the ladies there were due in March, so I was a little smaller than others. I suppose 30 weeks might be on early side, but I'm glad I've got time to reflect and consider things like a birth plan with a bit more info. At the mo, I'm just thinking I'll try on a lesser level of pain relief and then up it when I begin to struggle to cope - I'll rule nothing in and nothing out!

Anyone else at this point?

Happy Sunday, everyone!

Having our first antenatal session on Wednesday. Thought I was completely sure about what I wanted for the birth, but things have got a bit shaken up what with the flood of hormones that hit me at 28 weeks!! Thought that all the women you see on OBEM who had their DP & mother there were a bit weird but now think that looks really nice cos I think I might JUST WANT MY MUMMY!!!!

Had no idea the Bounty people would try to take photos - what's the point of that?? Are the parents / grandparents / relatives / friends not likely to take cameras with them? Or is that just how they pay for all of the packs?!

Not doing antenatal sessions or classes of any sort, nor did we do them for DD. The most we did was a tour of the CLU when I reached 41w and induction became a consideration. All the other women were about 20w and looked and at the size of me and my waddling. Bumped into the tour again the following week, wheeled round on a bed with DD, grey from having lost 1pt of blood, having undergone various procedures and not sleeping for 27hrs and a catheter bag swinging on the side of the bed.

However my hopes for the birth have been set since having DD, although at least this time I am prepared for it not being a 'plan'. Ultimately it's down to this baby and my uterus and neither if those can read the 'plan' which is unfortunate. Be so much easier if they could!

Have had a 2.5hr nap this pm, gym ball is blown up and VERY comfy and am noticing BH more. 12 more weeks max. Seems like an age and yet no time at all!

We're having NCT classes. More for DPs benefit than mine, as this will be his first experience of labour/birth/ newborn-ness, my DD was older when we met. We have two Saturday sessions, the first 2 weekends in March.

The NHS classes around here are all during the day, midweek. You know, when most people work.....

We will, hopefully, do the NHS tour of the hospital though (must remember to ask MW about this on Tuesday!)

Although I have to say the tour was one of the more disappointing aspects of it - we were shown the 'best' rooms: large rooms where the more complex deliveries take place, and the private rooms.

I suppose a truck loads of pregnant ladies wandering around the 6 bed wards may have been a little distracting!

I did not get the Dove conditioner. I feel cheated. :)

Anyone else really starting to have trouble sleeping? If I sleep on my left side, Diva kicks the life out of me. I can't sleep for too long on my right as my hip starts to ache! so I spend all night tossing and turning from side to side and wake up with really achy legs from hip to knee and cursing Diva for not letting me sleep on my left!

We start our classes at the hospital on 7th Feb. They're actuall in t evening and we have three in total. After watching OBEM and seeing the effects of an epidural on some women, I'm even more sure that I don't want one. We'll see how that turns out when I'm actually in labour!!

I'm so worried about so many things now that I think I'll freak out sooner (than later).

Worried about sleeping positions: can't sleep on the right at all, find it very difficult to sleep on the left am most comfy on the back. Yet there are so many studies about how bad it is and x women have had stillbirth just from that (maybe - maybe not but too late if it happened).

Worried about money. Let's not go there (at all). DH is starting a new job, I hope he'll make it through probation but again, they could fire him easily withing the first year.

Worried about everything which can go wrong during birth: lack of oxygen, things which go wrong with the epidural, baby pops out having to many or to few chromosomes which we don't know.

Worried about everything which can go wrong after birth: cot death, we'll break him, can't feed him, get depressed.

Worried about our relationship. I'm reading a book "How to baby proof your marriage" and think: will that be us? Blame game, bickering, gone is the couple here come the parents?

Worried about finding a name: DH makes short lists which he dismisses immediately afterward.

Worried about all the things I didn't do by the book, things I shouldn't have eaten, sips of wine, flights being taken (radiation!).

I think that's kind of it. Some of it is rational, some not so much. But knowing that isn't one bit helpful to me. I so wish this pregnancy would be over, incl. the first 3 - 6 months. It's so frightening

Hello all, just having a brew and trying to get a few big kicks from Ped, I tripped over and fell on to the bed, bump first and although have had a couple of little kicks would like a nice reassuring thwack.

Still haven't managed to get hold of MW either

My birth plan is pretty simple,
no pethadine,
no episiotomy unless Baby's health is at risk,
hope to have use of pool,
don't want to be on my back if possible,
DH to tell me the sex,
skin to skin and BF ASAP

DH is pretty clued up on this as well so I think the only problem maybe the pool.

Thaleia sorry you are so worried, as a Mum I'm sorry to say there is always something to worry about, you will never stop.
Try not to dwell on the 'bad' stuff, it's easy to do first time round when you have lot's of thinking time on your hands.
Concentrate on the good things, and the things you can make a difference to like picking the name (I know it's really hard though) and talking to DH about your relationship worries. As for everything else, just cross that bridge if you happen to come to it.
Also although the first few months are indeed very scary, knackering and trying, they are also lovely,snuggly and incredibly precious.

Thaleia Take a deep breath. What notso says there about never stopping worrying is so true. One piece of advice for you (wanted or not) - stick the book(s) in the bin, whether they be about the baby or your relationship. They cause more upset, worry and fretting than anything else.

I've never heard of sleeping positions causing stillbirth - sleep however you are comfortable because any sleep you can get now is a bonus because it's so bloody awkward. My personal favourites are either on my back or my right, not on my left. I'd not get any sleep if I tried to sleep on my left.

Money - if things go tits up, you'll survive. Since DD was born DH has somehow come through two rounds of redundancy - one of which was last May when he had been served his notice of redundancy when a colleague suddenly resigned meaning that he was able to stay on. It was really bloody scary but you do find ways round things.

Think of all the things that can go RIGHT during a birth. It's a miracle any of us are here at all when you think of all the things that have to happen in order for birth to happen - even if things go 'wrong' then it's usually not catastrophic. The more stressed or anxious you are, the harder it is for your body to labour. Have you thought about natal hynotherapy or hypnobirthing? They're meant to be really helpful - even if you have a CS. I'm giving it a bash this time round, can't do any harm.

Worrying about breaking the baby is normal. DH nearly flipped his lid when the MW helped him dress DD for the first time, he was fannying about trying to get her babygro on and the poor bugger would have frozen if the MW hadn't helped. I don't think he knew you could be quite so firm with them . Everything else, that's what MN is for.

Names - we had names agreed until Friday when I decided I hate the girls name we've chosen, and DH hates the boys name we had picked. We have 12 weeks and no name for this poor child. We can't agree on anything else, other than a middle name, and we can't use that as a first name as it sounds ridiculous with DD's name.

The way I think of it is why worry? If you are worrying about something you can change then change it, don't worry about it. If you can't change it, then worrying about it won't make any difference anyway so you may as well stop.

I agree with notso & fliss, try not to worry & lay off the books a bit. First time round with dc1 I tied myself in knots about lots if things. Each books tells you something else, often the exact opposite of the last book you looked at. Agreed, there is plenty to worry about but it won't ALL happen to you, your baby & your relationship. Anything that does you'll deal with and you'll probably find you are a good deal stronger than you knew.

Obviously we all worry about stuff, mostly because we want to do a good job of being a mum. However, I think the fact that you are even worried about these things means you've got a head start at being great parent. It shows you care.

Even through birth complications, feeding troubles & such I still found it all to be far less terrible & far more wonderful than I ever imagined.

Hello, I joined mumsnet a while back but haven't been posting much... then I found this thread! I'm 27 weeks pregnant with my first child.

My husband and I are possibly over prepared! We have everything - the cot, the buggy, the bath, changing mats... last weekend we painted his room and today I was in B&Q buying farm animal stickers for when the walls dry! I wanted to spread the cost of everything over the 9 months rather than buy everything at once. While I'm not due until April 28th I want to be ready by April 1st - bags packed and nappies on standby! (No nappies bought yet, honest!)

I'm a bit of a worryer like you Thaleia. I try to avoid things - TV shows, people - that make me worry but then you can't escape your own imagination sometimes! My husband is a GP and he's very good at dismissing random diseases that I keep finding!!

Looking forward to reading this thread more :)

L

Welcome Lorrainbow, good to have you with us!

I'm starting to stress a bit now about how I'm going to manage a newborn and a demanding 2 yr old! The plan is to try and carry on as usual with DS and try and fit the baby in around us. I just hope she sleeps ok, as this will make all the difference!

As far as worrying about birth stuff goes, I'd seriously recommend Hypnobirthing... I did it with DS and it totally changed everything for me. I've just finished my refresher course for this birth and I'm so excited about it. Definitely read up about it if you're finding yourself stressing. Physiologically as well as psychologically, if you can approach labour and birth without fear you'll be in a much better place, regardless of how things progress... I'll step away from my soapbox now!

hi girls just checking in,
Ive been reading the last few pages. Ive luckly had no stretch marks on belly yet, been rubbing in bio oil most nights if (i rememeber) But not really sure if it does work! Boobs seem larger lately and underwire bra digging in, gonna have to invest in some MAT ones, but i will miss the wire ones!

Making me laught at the bounty lady, i wont be having any photos- lol

Starting packing bag too, i really like your list! printed off a birthing plan to from NHS website, keeping in simple just about pain relief and skin to skin with baby, and having hubby in room.
I have got a real small suit case, might put my labour and after stuff in together!

My friend you really need a small bag for baby too?
6-12 Nappies
Folding Changing mat
Cream for bum
Cotton wool,
Wash things for baby
A Towel
and 2/3 sleep suits and vests in your baby if in for a few days
oh and hats and mits!

What do u guys think? Its so hard to know how long your be in for, sometimes it can be just one night or a few days! But hopefully not!

Start Mat leave on the 11th of feb, two weeks yipeeee, cant wait!!!!
Now im 32 wks, 8 weeks to go and counting- must order pram this week!

I'd keep your labour and post-birth things separate. Put the baby's things in with your post-birth things.

Are antenatal classes a real benefit? I havent been on any yet, or called up about them? Do you just ring and book them? My and my hubby work opposite shifts so he wouldnt be able to come with me, a few friends said "oh yes all the dads go" and i dont want to sit there like a lemon on my own.

I feel fairly relaxed at the moment, this is most most unlike me, i generally stress at everything, my dad kept saying i will never get pregnant if i dont calm down. well HA i DID! then he kept saying i would end up with a stressed baby if i kept passing on my stress. so i am REALLY trying to be chilled. i dont want hi telling me, i told you so!

Unless told otherwise, my birthing plan is easy. No assisted delivery. no forceps or sucky hat sucker.
Drugs if i really really need them. I am open to all opinions re this. Having never done it before.

Oh yes- my stress item! My husband doesnt want to be at the birth. he doesnt think he can handle it and blatently refuses to be there. He has been excellent so far during pregnancy and has been doing the nursery and building built in wardrobes in the house, very pleased all round. BUT he refuses to be at the birth and i am not quite sure what to do about that! Not sure how to change his mind or make him see i would really really like him to be there in case anything happens to me and to make sure the baby is ok and not on his own.