PESH - 3 years of hard won baybees for the over-30's

[AlpinePony]

This is NOT a list:

BESH BAYBEES

dontrythisathome, girl born March 25 2010.
Cheggers, twinz girlz, born April 2010.
FannyPriceless, boy, born June 8 2010.
CurlyCasper, girl, born June 24 2010.
CUNextTuesday, boy, born June 29 2010.
AlpinePony, boy, born 1 July 2010.
Carrots, boy, born July 2010.
IggyPiggy, girl, born July 2010.
Cosmosis, boy, born Sept 5 2010.
Backinthebox, boy, born Sept 7 2010.
Skatergrrrl, girl, born Sept 10 2010.
VAG, boy, born Oct 2 2010.
Silversky, boy, born Nov 1 2010.
SomethingSuitablyWitty, girl born Nov 2 2010.
Honeymoo, boy, born Nov 11 2010.
okiecokie, girl, born Nov 12 2010.
ReginaMonologue, boy, born Nov 13 2010.
Lightspaperstandback, boy, born Nov 14 2010.
Maswera, boy, born Dec 24 2010.
PollyPoo, girl, born Jan 5 2011.
MrsFC, boy, born Jan 7 2011.
ChoChoSan, girl, born 6 Feb 2011.
Ginhag, boy born 11 Feb 2011.
Muser, girl, born 15 Feb 2011.
CluckyKate, boy, born 18 Feb 2011.
Perfect Dromedary, boy, born 23rd February 2011.
Casserole, girl, born 19th March 2011.
Medee, girl, born 26th March 2011.
StiffyByng, girl, born 17th May 2011.
Scorpette, boy, born 21st May 2011.
Rocketleaf, girl, born 23rd May 2011.
TwinkleToes, girl, born 7th June 2011.
Laurielou, boy, born 9th June 2011.
Orchid, girl, born 24th June 2011.
Ginfox, loving the new mega-boobs, due 12th July.
LadyGoneGaga, girl, born 24 July 2011.
Mrbitey, boy, born 29th July 2011.
Macaroonmum, boy, born 28th July 2011.
Owlbooty, boy, born 18th August 2011.
Ocarina, girl, born 6th September 2011.
Mountie, boy, born 27th August 2011.
Truffkin, boy, born 25th November 2011.
Islegrin, boy, born 14th December 2011.

UPDIFFED

BarbiesBeaver, can't quite believe it, due Christmas Day
BrownB, Baybee passport-grabbing bitch, due 22nd January 2012
AlpinePony, Greedy Double-Esh Baybee Boy Grabbing Bitch, due 19th Feb 2012
Rollerbaby, No pink here, expecting boy due March 20th 2012
KitandKat, third time lucky baybee, due 12th April 2012
IveBeenExpectingYou (CockDodger), A very active baby girl, due March 28th 2012
Silver, hoping for an easier sneeze, due mid-July 2012
Starryeyedmole, regretting recently investing in scales

And we're all on beaver watch in time for xmas!

lots of x-posts. Glad you have another scan. Just try to hang in there!

I had tests after my second miscarriage on the NHS. I was very bad and invented a possible chemical pregnancy that I had not actually had. (I had seen a doctor for irregular bleeding not long before the first pregnancy but I was pretty sure it was not an mc as I do not see that I could have been diffed that month). So anyway the nice female doc was sympathetic and put through a referral to the hospital gynae. Not saying that making stuff up is very ethical but if I had not had the tests and treatment, I would likely have had a third mc rather than a baby. The doc said there was no point just waiting for another one to happen. And also I bought up all the mental health issues related to the miscarriages. What I am saying is don't just assume that you will always have to wait for three. Especially if your mcs have had an embryo involved (many happen before there is one and you just see empty sac).
But if you don't get anywhere, private testing is a good idea. I would have done it if it had been necessary. I hope it won't be for you though, because I have all my fingers still crossed for this pregnancy.

sorry bugs I might have got that wrong, I was thinking they grew at about 1mm per day at that stage -lots of googling about it now, and it's not really making me any wiser. It's one of those, 'you'll just have to wait and see' situations.

really really sorry you are having to go through this. I'm going to stay hopeful for you, but totally understand you disappearing for a while. Take care of yourself.

Oh bugs I am so sorry :(

I'm staying hopeful for you bugs but at the same time very sorry you are having to go through this.

Bugs, I'm so sorry you are going through this. I have been lucky not to have a mc but twice during this pg I really thought I was and nothing comes close to the despair. I remember thinking, "who did I think I was to deserve something nice happening". Having been through depression for the last few years I felt sure I wouldn't make it through.

I also felt really stupid acting like I was still pregnant until I went for the scan when in my heart I believed I wasn't. But still of course you have to. This whole ttc lark is one long balancing act of 'keeping your hopes up while not getting your hopes up' and it seems pg is no different.

I know nothing I can say is going to reassure you or give you any answers, but I hope that knowing how many of us are rooting for you and there for you will help you to protect yourself a bit over the next few days. No fish slapping either. X

bugs work can wait if you need to be at home. Some people find the distraction helps though. If it does come to the worst then we are all here for you whenever you want to talk. I felt like it would never happen after the second time and had a very bad couple of months afterwards - I didn't work at all for about six weeks afterwards. I know plenty of people, in RL and on the internet who have had two or even more miscarriages and have at least one child now. It is still utterly shit when you are going through it, but try not to lose hope.

And you aren't a failure. It's pure luck, nothing you did or didn't do. Even if there is a reason for a miscarriage, it still is not your fault in any way.

It is possible. I was dead cert on my ovulation dates due to peeing on sticks. I had a scan at 6+4 (according to my dates, not last period) and they told me I was only measuring at 6+1 so it is easy for measuring behind to happen. By the time I got to 9 weeks the dates matched.

So you could be ok, or it could sadly be the case that the baby is not growing fast enough and won't get started with the heartbeat. Very late implantation is not excellent news generally. There is no way to know. A scan with your ov dates ought to measure behind by about 3 or 4 days compared to using last period dates. I think you need to hope for the best but be prepared for the worst. The only way you will know is by comparing the next scan to this one. I had this situation with my first pregnancy and the waiting was torture. However I knew it didn't look good as the hb was too slow and the discrepancy in dates too large.

Did you get any other measurements such as the size of the sac or the size of the yolk? If you did I will check with Dr Google for you.

bugs i'm really hoping that you are right and the next scan will give you happy news. My sonographer said she thinks she could only see so much on my scan because I am so skinny and that I probably ovulated earlier in my cycle than I thought I did. She said it's just not an exact science at all and they sometimes don't get a good view at even 6-7 weeks depending on the physiology of the individual patient.
I know this must be so hard for you, and I don't really know what to say.

I've finally made contact with the Community Midwife. Jeez the antenatal care here is shambolic. I should have been told to make an appt with my GP as they do the antenatal referal for scans, and seeing the CM is a seperate thing . Anyway, she was lovely. She is doing the referal for me so I will get my scan, is sending my blood forms to me at home so I can have my blood taken at my surgery rather than a long wait in the hospital path dept (and a fortune in car parking charges) and has said that yes, the appt at the end of July is the earliest she can see me. I have now been given the direct line for the midwives office and told to phone it if I am worried about anything at all before I get to see her.
I've spoken to a doula who i'm meeting in a few weeks time. It still feels all so surreal...

It's frustrating that he told you one measurement then put another on the report.

We're all crossing everything for you Bugs. For what it's worth, my symptoms are fluctuating, too, and I think that's pretty normal. (Though my poor boobs are constantly being probed!)

Blondie, how did you get on yesterday?

I hope you got some sleep in the end bugs :(

like cat says, you don't have to go to work. I stayed at home for two weeks after my mmc. The GP even asked what I wanted him to write on my 'unfit to work' note, so you don't have to tell them the real reason if you don't want to. (I already had though, I am on good terms with my boss).

Hoping very very hard that it's just a case of mixed up dates -this week is going to be tough, but you'll get through it. No bleeding is a good sign. Hold on to that.

blonde have been thinking of you too -how did it go yesterday?

That sounds promising bugs. We're all hoping against hope for you and will be here for you whatever.

My scan went really well, didn't want to post yesterday as it seemed insensitive. Everything is the right size and in the right place. Not as clear a pic as last time but we saw it wave .

Felt v strange afterwards as happy but just overwhelmed. As well as reading Bugs's news, a woman on the November thread has just lost her baby and it is very sobering. Also it would have been my Grandad's 90th birthday yesterday so Mum and I went to visit his memorial rose. It was a beautiful day but very surreal.

Hurrah for hurty boob proddage.

And thank you for your very kind words.

Glad all is well with you Blondie - lovely to hear everything is spot on.

And I'm really happy to see your positivity Bugs - I honestly think it might have been just a few days too soon. I found MrsBugsywugsy's story on your other fred to be helpful and very interesting. Makes sense why my GP was pushing for our reassurance scan to happen later.

I'm trying to stay very positive about Friday's scan. I've felt nauseous last night and today which seems to go away when I eat so I'm hoping for the best. luckily our appointment is at 8.15am so we won't have to wait too long and I won't have a huge stress build up on the day of. Only 2 more sleeps to go...

Today we are pregnant.

hurty norks is good -I prodded mine so much in the beginning, after a while I wasn't sure if they were hurty from the hormones or from the prodding :)

blonde very glad to hear it went well. It's such a milestone -although it does hit you rather quickly that there are still eons to go, and it's all going to get more real from now on...

keeping fingers crossed for laura this Friday and bugs next week.

Sending lots of love, Bugs. Prob best to avoid the CBD as it will either cause you more worry or you'll doubt it anyway. Try to eat though. Even if it's just some cereal or a banana.