I'm glad I'm not the only one speculating about eyes, msb - I was beginning to feel a pushy mother!
seven, that's a great weight gain - that's a child with an appetite! Sorry you are stressing about the heart murmur and the DCs' interaction. I'm sure older children can be trained, and your mother's stress is not helpful! After all, no child likes to be treated as naughty or told they can't be tristed (though I hope she's confining her comments to you, and isn't saying it to him!). My mother has been very sharp with DS this week, for things which aren't even that naughty - poor child is confused by the presence of so many adults, and she actually said he was angelic when he was on his own with her. Adult behaviour is important, though. Yesterday, he asked for a cuddle with her, and I put her on his lap, whereupon she started straining (evenings are Poo Time), and I made the injudicious comment that she was trying to do a poo. He pushed her off his lap and she rolled onto the sofa. I accept that that was my fault for not thinking how he would react, and think he can be trained, so have hope!
Hope you are enjoying being spaced out, LittleMissHumbuggery. Not being able to find out the cause of your toothache is a real bugger, especially with a dentist so willing to help, and whom you evidently trust.
Good luck, Kate, mopsy, Darcies, bennybenbear, figgy!
An AirofHope, surely the HV has no way of enforcing how you feed, so she would be better advised to give constructive tips on how to manage things. She's probably not going to recommend pacifying him with CBeebies (
), but of course we all know that option is there! And we've all already shared more and better advice on this thread, about keeping an older child occupied while a baby is feeding! That's an issue, of course - it is for anyone - but changing the method of feeding is really rather irrelevant, and an inadequate solution, isn't it? Also, seven is spot on with that point about FF being more work. There's also more opportunity for daily incompetence (e.g. forgetting to take feeds while out and about) which would be more of a downer (surely a risk for someone with depression?).
fusam, I think the word shero might have to be stowed (or be-stowed on someone else), especially if it has to do with no-pain-relief. Given how I have remained reluctant to condemn birth interventions (inductions, C-sections, etc.), I hope you all undersand I didn't actually go drug-free through choice! People who soldiered through a long and harsh labour (off the top of my head, kri5ty, Oimistletoe and Tinselperion) are a lot less lucky and showed more endurance than I had a chance to. Tyel's post a few days ago, about not being particularly in tune with one's body, struck a chord with me; I was never going to commit to hypnobirthing, and failed to do my perineal massage. I had resigned myself to not having an epidural, given the lengthy hospital journey we would be having (hahaha), but that is as far as that went. And I really went to town on thr gas & air when the MW was stitching me (my very lips were buzzing!), such that she had to take me off it for a little while, reminding me that I had a local in place - oops.
P.S. sorry to be ungracious, but we are all in this together!
Oi, he's very cute, and very alert! 