Due in June 2006 - Part Two!

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I haven't even looked at any prams - I'm desperately trying not to buy one this time! DS will be 2y 3m by the time the baby is born, so shouldn't need one too much. I also carried him in a sling a lot for the first six months or so, so hopefully I can do the same with this baby, and ds can have the pram if he needs it. I can't buy another pram. I've been through over 10 already (still have 7 at home / at my mums/MIL's! )

I wish SAHM's were entitled to some maternity leave, but don't think I'm likely to get any! . DH also has block leave (Navy) so won't be able to take any holiday to help either. I felt at my very best out of the whole pg in the last few weeks though, so I'm sure I could have kept working if I'd had to. I was signed off sick from early Dec with high blood pressure and started my maternity leave in early Feb (DS born early April). It wasn't too much of a worry though as I intended to have a full year off.

All well here, apart from the extreme tiredness has struck me too! I slept for 12 hours on Saturday night! I've got my 1st consultants appt tomorrow, so hope that goes well - and that I can find out when my scan is as I haven't had a date yet.

Welcome izzyrubi

Waswondering & lilsbabies - hope your scans went well today

abbey1515 - Good luck for your scan tomorrow

Bugs - glad your scan went well. I'm seeing my consultant tomorrow (had pre-eclampsia last time, and then a c/s), so it will be interesting to see what they are going to do. I'm hoping I'll be OK this time, so fingers crossed we both will. It's supposed to be rare to get it twice with the same father isn't it? It's good that you can scale the work down a bit. I think that contributed to my problems in my last pg - I feel a lot better this time as a SAHM.

trinity1, Dana, diddle, nic33, mrsbabookaloo - Glad your scans went well

KathrynWales - sorry to hear about your scare. Hope everything is OK now. Great news about the Downs result.

Dana - so sorry to hear your mum's news.

sarahsbump - glad to hear that you've sorted things with your partner. Hope it all continues to go well.

lilsbabies - sorry to hear the news about your Grandad. Did he know that he was going to be a great-grandad?

bugs-congratulations on your news of a boy,

abby1515- good luck for your scan 2morrow, hope all goes well, do you want to know the sex? And as for prams, we have decided on a from bith stroler, i realy like the maclaren tecno, we will start looking to buy nearer the time as we dont have any space for anything in our house. I have seen a "Buggy board" it clips on the back of stroller so ds (who will be 2.5) can hich a ride if he is tired of working. I dont think i could handel a dubble buggy.

vbab78- I am a SAHM this time round, but with ds i worked in a office and i arranged my mat leave 2 weeks b4 ds was due, but i ended up leaving 3 weeks b4. work were ok with this. so that was ok for me.

bugs congratulations of having a boy!!! is it me or are most of us having boys?

i have bought the graco aerosport plus travelsystem from toysrus. i love it. i mostly walk to DD's school and the local shops and take the tram into town. i think it meets those needs. plus it came with a raincover, footmuff, changing bag and free travelcot. i had a graco travelsystem for DD and it was brilliant, just a bit bulky and heavy compared to this one.

lilsbabies - sorry for the delay in responding to you. I think i might mention it to the midwife i'm seeing on Thursday, maybe we'll get a less rushed and better checked scan.

I am so so sorry about the loss of your grandad. I lost mine in October last year, i had not long know that I was pregnant, and he had been in hospital, i didn't feel any time was the right time to tell him about the baby, he was often unconcious, or i was there with someone else and wanted some privacy to tell him, which i never got as nobody wanted to leave him.
We have a belief in our family (non-religious) that one person leaves the earth to make way for another. When my mom was pregnant with me, her grandad passed away. so i knew my grandad possibly wouldn't survive. My nan died earlier in the year when i was pregnant, but i later miscarried.
I was gutted when grandad passed and i hadn't told him about his great grandchild and while my mom and I were sitting with him as he passed, i broke down and told mom about my worry that he didn't know, and she had told him that morning about the baby. So i know he passed, knowing he was leaving me with something very special.

Oh my god what an essay sorry, not sure where that came from, has helped with some emotions though, or maybe thats just my hormones

WasWondering - Glad everything went great at your scan. You now have a date to look forward to. I was the same as you as I didn't want to know the sex and I wouldn't have been able to find out anyway.

Parking problems!!! I know the feeling. We had to park on the very outer edge of our hospital car park (first thing in the morning) after driving around for ages. Then rushing through the hospital not wanting to miss the appointment. Doesn't help stress levels.

waswondering- good news your scan went well i would be scared to know i was having cs but at least you know that on the first of june you will have your baby.

Hi all, its so lovely to hear everyone's scan updates. Definitely more boys than girls at the mo! DP and I have been going through a few probs and it looks like we may separate for a bit. Obviously feeling really low and vulnerable not to mention terrified that I may end up raising a baby on my own when we planned for a family together.

Had a wedding planned for next year and now everything is all up in the air. Sorry to bring the tone of the chat down but wanted to vent as I'm all confused and haven't really confided in my family about any of this.

trinity1- so sorry to hear about you and your dp. It must be so hard, that was my worst thought when we decided to start a family,that i would end up on my own. Maybe a bit of time apart will do you both good

Trinity1, sorry to hear that you are having difficulties, hope everything works out for xxx

Had scan today- it was absolutely amazing, they showed us the heart ventricles, the kidneys, etc, and I even saw the soles of her feet!
Her fingers were so tiny- and she seems to have my little upturned nose!
My scan picture was taken just as she fell asleep with her mouth open!
Waswondering, I am having section on the 1st too!

Diddle, I think have chosen the Pliko Pramette now- I really wanted a 'proper' pram, and wanted the Ultima, but after trying to lift etc I found it really heavy (have walking problem) so the pramette seems like the best solution! I love it in the Famiglia fabric, it's absolutely gorgeous.

oh trinity - so sorry to hear about whats happening, do you think that you may really split, long term?? I know this is a due in thread, but please feel free to share with us, we'll support you as much as we can, you need it more than ever right now.

I'm sure i've overdone it today, my back is aching so much, and i could easily fall asleep, i daren't sit down ont he sofa or i'll sleep through school pick up.

Hows everyone else feeling. People keep telling me i should be blooming now. but the majority of the time i'm worn out.

abbey - so pleased your scan went well, sounds like they gave you a good look, i'm definitly going to tell the midwife about our rushed experience and see what she can do. are you NHS abbey?
I love the pramette too, maybe i should go and try a bit of lifting, make sure its not gonna be a problem. although i'm sure i'll be ok, my cars quite spacious. Any excuse to look at all the prams again.

Hi all,

Dana, so sorry about your mum. I can't imagine how you are feeling. Look after yourself; hope all around you can support you.

Trinity, sorry about your relationship problems; hope the time apart gives you both a more positive perspective.

I'm glad somebody brought up when to finish work. I can't wait, just because I hate my job, but I'm trying to maximise my maternity leave and holiday allowance so I can stay off til the end of the year! I'm thinking I'll stop in mid-May, three weeks before due date, which seems plenty, especially as baby will probably be late, but my "Expecting" book, which seems very modern otherwise, talks about finishing work at 28 weeks! If only....
Any more thoughts on this, everyone?

Hi all,

Dana, so sorry about your mum. I can't imagine how you are feeling. Look after yourself; hope all around you can support you.

Trinity, sorry about your relationship problems; hope the time apart gives you both a more positive perspective.

I'm glad somebody brought up when to finish work. I can't wait, just because I hate my job, but I'm trying to maximise my maternity leave and holiday allowance so I can stay off til the end of the year! I'm thinking I'll stop in mid-May, three weeks before due date, which seems plenty, especially as baby will probably be late, but my "Expecting" book, which seems very modern otherwise, talks about finishing work at 28 weeks! If only....
Any more thoughts on this, everyone?
Also, I agree diddle, where's this "blooming" that's supposed to be happening. I'm better than I was, but I have to eat and sleep a LOT, and I wouldn't say I was floating on a cloud of happy hormones! Still, mustn't grumble, especially in light of other people's real problems!

mrs babookaloo - i think stopping at 28 weeks sounds fab no chance of me doing it but the thought is lovely. i think stopping 3 weeks beofre, if you're well enough is fine.

Trinity1 - Sorry to hear about your problems. Time apart might do you both good as having a baby can put stress on a relationship.

mrsbabookaloo - I've been unsure when to finish work especially as it's my first child and I have no idea how big I might be or how uncomfortable in a few months. I'm a software programmer so I'm sat down a lot and the job isn't that tasking. I originally thought 2 weeks before due date but I'm considering 1 week before (due to when my pay day is), assuming everything is ok.

Still not certain. Could be on time or late so 2 or 1 week before would be fine or could end up in labour at work! HELP!

I think it is quite important to have some time to get your head round the fact that soon you will be a mum - I took 3 weeks off before dd arrived and she was a week late - by 4 weeks I was climbing the walls, also we found out in the week or so before she was due that she was breech so had to race about going to hospital appointments to have her turned etc which was all a bit stressfull and not what you want if you are still at work. So with this one I'll go for at least 2 weeks.

abby1515, so glad your scan went well, it must have been lovely to see everything so clear and have a picture. (i didn't get one this time, and when i had DS it was very un-clear)

Baby2, it was lovely-I couldn't help crying! I just feel really lucky as we really did not think we would be able to have a baby, and there she was, wriggling away!

Has anyone any idea how many weeks you would be before your partner would be able to feel the baby move/kick?

It's just that dh felt the baby last night for the first time, with no prompting at all from me. I'm in my 22nd week today (21 and so many days) I would have thought this was early...

vbab - i thought it was around 24 wks onwards, but my friend's fiance can feel baby alreayd, and she is 20 weeks.

Have just got back from seeing midwife & i could happly slap the woman!! The stupid sod turned round and said "oh you look really stressed & tired" daft cow i was the least stredded i'd been in a long time & yes ok i am tired but i'm sleeping loads so i know i'm ok. Shes really wound me up she bearley listened to a word i said - i mentioned the fact i'm still getting really bad headaches to the point i can't drive & my hips are so painful it's not funny - all she said was "oh well you'll have to see your g.p about it"
Do midwifes have to take a course to practice being that horrable . Bad news of the visit is i had trace protien - not good when i had pre-emclamp with dd but on the good side after a bit of pushing & prodding she found jellys heartbeat (but he REALLY didn't like it)

Sorry to rant but i needed to get it off my chest before dh & dd come home.

Hope everyone else is ok & have nice midwifes
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oh bugs, sorry to hear you've had your midwife upset you. has she been like this before?

i had quite a shock the other day. i weighed myself and i was a stone lighter than i was the week before! i was all panicked, thinking of how awful it was losing weight while pregnant... turned out the scales were messing up. i stood on them the next morning and there was this clicky noise and i was back to my normal weight. i was not amused and wanted to throw them in the bin!

i got results from my blood test to check my kidney function and it was all fine. i just hope i can get through the rest of the pregnancy without infections.

trinity, i'm sorry to hear you're having problems in your relationship. i hope you can sort them out {{hug}}

is anyone still going on holiday before your little one arrives? we're going to belgium to visit my family in three weeks. it's only for 4-5 days, but i haven't been over in nearly 2 years. DD and DP are practising their dutch already.