Due in June 2006 - Part Two!

[Laura032004]

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hello all!

i am due my second on the 28 june, DD1 just turned one. hope you are all feeling okay and not too tired and heavy! i am lucky i only get a small bump and DD1 was 6 pounds 8 so hopefully this one will be small too, am planning a home birth, anyone else? :)

vbab - yep trying to beat you, wonder if i will. I asked my midwife the same question about size and she said she wouldn't be able to tell at this stage, sure it was her being lazy.

welcome happybebe - lucky you having a small bump, mines huge.

I do know someone who had a large bump, and was told her baby would be big too, but she wasn't at all, baby was around 6lb and the placenta was 5lb!

wow! and they do say your second is bigger than your first! must be mad to not want an epidural. i ahve hardly seen my midwife and she nevr does anything other than check my blood pressure and the babies heart beat. have seen her three times this whole pregnancy. must be coz its my second. :)

Have seen my midwife more often than that, a little, but she does very little too, BP and heartbeat, and has a feel of baby, then packs me off home. and this is my first baby with 2 previous miscarriages, you'd think they'd be a bit more thorough.

i thought they were supposed to weigh you etc at least at the booking in?! also only had one wee sample so far.

i've had a wee sample at every one, but haven't been weighed since booking in at 8 wks. not sure why. thought i should be too.
Maybe we're just all uninformed. or maybe the midwives are under so much pressure they are cutting corners.

I've seen the midwife a few times, see her next week at 35 weeks last saw her at 31 weeks. I have only had the same midwife twice! I have only seen the lady who is meant to be my midwife once. This has surprised me because from all the pregnancy programs I have watched people have seen the same midwife and built up a bond with them.

All the same checks, blood pressure, measure bump, feel baby, baby heartbeat, ask me if I'm ok. Had blood tests once for possible liver problem but was ok and other standard tests.

I find that I need to ask if I can weigh myself at each appointment!

I've heard that they don't weigh pregnant women any more because it doesn't really seem to give any indication of how the baby is growing: you can put on a lot of weight and have a tiny baby, or not much and still have quite a big one. But maybe they should still weigh us to check we're not eating too many pies! I've only weighed myself a couple of times, when I've been at my mum's. Last time was a bit of a shocker!

Diddle - hope you're OK after your day of excitement. Was there a part of you that was a bit disappointed that it wasn't the real thing and you still have to wait? Or were you just relieved?

will just have to get myself a set of scales then! anyone else starting to feel nervous at the prospect of labour (again in my case!) wish i had a high pain threshhold! :)

I'm nervous of course, even more so with this being my first baby. But I am very good at convincing myself that something is worse than it is so ... I'm trying to keep myself calm as it won't do me or baby any good if I get stressed and up tight.

I'm trying to take the approach of "just get on with it" thinking that the sooner I do what I need to the sooner I will see baby and the pain will stop. When I have my first pain this will probably all change .

I want to try and do things as naturally as possible but I wont be a martyr. If I find I can't cope then I will try some pain relief.

Hi all,

Hope everyone is doing okay. Not posted for a while but I've been reading posts to keep up to date!

Hi happybebe - congrats. Don't know anyone who has had a homebirth, what made you decide?

I'm 34 weeks now and I've only seen my midwife once, at about 7 weeks. She rang the day before yesterday just to check I was still on the planet I think. I've had consultant led care this time round because of the trouble I had last time (small baby - in special care for a week, placenta malfunction, bleeding throughout pregnancy then to top it all off I haemorrhaged (?spelling) on the operating table and lost nearly 7 pints of blood. All completely unrelated to each other just had the world's worst luck!)

I had my 32 week appointment with another scan and baby is growing okay. Over 4lbs already ds was only 4.14 and dd 5.02 so I'm amazed! Have another scan booked in two weeks and if things are still going okay they'll book my c-section for June 1st (Sorry I've jumped the Q

I haven't packed my hospital bag yet but I have a list and a pile of things ready to go in it. I'm not sure what type of bag to pack. I don't want something too big that I have to lug around and trip over all the time but I need something larger than an overnight bag because I'll have to stay in longer because of the c-section. Any suggestions? what is everyone else taking?

I've also been eating like a horse and keep thinking that it's going to be harder and harder to lose it all afterwards but I just can't help myself Got a shock when I went into M&S for a bra fitting though. I've gone up from a 32B to a 36D and they've given me a 34F Nursing bra !!! DP can't wait till my milk comes in!!

Diddle - Are you still having those contractions? I started having contractions at 28 weeks with my dd and was rushed into hospital and put on the moniter etc. They even gave me the steroid injection to develop the babies lungs just in case. I was sent home two days later because I wasn't dilating or anything but I kept having contractions right up until term. It was really scary but going home and going back to normal was such an anti-climax. Bet it was a stressful time for you.

Well sorry for the long post, I'll try to be more regular from now on. Hope you all keep well.

bumpinsheffield - You q jumper you! I'm so jealous. As far as I know I am still on course for 6/6/6.

In terms of bag for hospital I have a bag for me and baby for one day/night and then I have filled another bag with stuff for DH to fetch the second day when he visits. I will then take if from there.

From what I understand it there isn't much room for stuff when on the ward so best not to take too much.

congrats to you too bumpsinshef! glad to hear your baby is growing well and jealous that you know when youwill meet her/him! i know what you mean about the bra thing i was 36B before DD was born and now i am preg wiith this other one i am at the moment a huge 36DD!

i decided on a home birth this time round as last time i went to the maternity unit and whilst it was lovely i hated the fact that my DH had to go home two hours after i gave birth and that i couldnt sleep from all the noise. i managed on gas and air, tens, water and a small dose of peth last time all things i can have at home, plus there was no complications as such (except DD's heart rate dropping toward the end) and no tears so hopefully all will be well to do it again at home! also worried about DD.

have a risk assessment when i am 36 weeks so fingers crossed! :)

mrsbabookaloo - there was definitly a part of me that was dissapointed and its getting my hopes up even more that baby is coming soon when really i have 6 wks to go. i know its better for baby to be inside me for longer, but i have a feeling that it could come sooner than expected. probably because i'm working for another 4 wks.

vbab - you sound just like me, first baby, natural as possible. I am not nervous at all though at the moment, the whole thought of it excites me, I know its going to hurt more than anything i've ever experienced but at the end of it, i will have my much loved baby, and without the pain then theres no baby. So it will be worth it in the end.

Have seen my midwife today, i'm 34 wks. I told her i was hoping for a waterbirth and asked what would stop me from having one. she told me if i was induced then i wouldn't have one, because i'd need monitoring more. So she suggested i start on the raspberry leaf tea now and the pineapple to soften the cervix and get it a bit more relaxed before the time comes. So i've just finished my first cup it was not nice.

bumpinsheffield - I've packed my things into a very small suitcase, the childrens size ones, its full though, maybe you could use a small holiday one, they have some cheap ones in matalan and debenhams at the moment.

Hi All,
Well I'm 35 weeks today which means it's getting very close. I saw the midwife last week and she said the baby is already head down which is good news. I am HUGE compared to how I was with DD and feel very uncomfortable, especially at night, but that seems mild compared to how some of you are suffering. I'm now seeing the midwife every 2 wks.

DH has suddenly realised that he is going to have to stop going out after work for a drink in case he needs to take me to hospital and has been out 3 nights this week to compensate. At least I get some peace and quiet to watch rubbish on TV!

I feel a bit more organised than last time I posted. DD has moved bedrooms and into a single bed (and has adapted to the change really well) and I have started sorting out clothes. I haven't packed any bags yet but that is next on my list.

To be honest I am not too worried. When I had DD (2 wks early) I ended up at the wrong hospital with nothing I needed except my notes and the baby car seat that DH had collected from home on his way to the hospital. The only baby outfit I had was a 0-3mths sleepsuit and vest and as DD was only 5lbs 15oz so it was rather large!!! Dh and my Mum went to buy everything I needed while I was in hospital - although I don't think DH was too keen being sent out for breast pads and maternity pads! Basically, whatever I do this time I have to be more organised than before.

Sorry this is so long - I'll try and post more frequently in the future.

Diddle- Try the Raspberry Leaf tablets, they are slightly stronger than the tea and obviously they dont taste as foul, i struggled drinking the tea last time round and gave up on it by 38 weeks, but im taking the tablets this time and they're fab. :)

I also finish work next Friday, and it can't come a minute too soon.

I can't believe that midwife care varies so much! I've been seen every couple of weeks (and I don't think I've been regarded as particularly high risk - I'm just a very tiny person) and each time I've had protein tests, BP, growth checks and I've also had a few blood tests. This seems to be the norm for our area.

I'm with vbab and diddle - first baby and going to try to do it as natural as possible. I'm feeling quite guilty at the moment - I'm so desperate to NOT be pregnant anymore and I'm really excited about meeting DD, that I want to give birth ASAP. I know that it's best for baby to be there for a bit longer, but on a purely selfish note - i just want this baby out NOW! Starting to feel nervous about how I'll cope.

DH is being particularly useless on the whole encouragement front - "of course you'll cope - women do it all the time" (said without looking up from the newspaper). In fact, I'm finding him really strange to be around at the moment (and I don't think it's all down to my haywire hormones). He seems to have lost interest in anything to do with the baby or even making sure I can contact him if necessary. He's got so seriously spooked by the idea of becoming a dad that he's in shutdown mode.

Keep trying to reassure him that he'll make a fantastic dad etc etc (coz he will), but he's terrified of stuffing up or doing something wrong. Does this sound familiar to anyone else?? I could really do with his support at the moment as I'm feeling like I'm doing this by myself - thank goodness for MN!!

P.S. Beware of eating too much pineapple - it makes you sick (in my experience earlier this week at least!)

I'm due the end of June so still have a few weeks left at work. Having today off though as had to go to maternity assessment unit yesterday because of high bp and swelling. Now trying to do a 24hour urine collection to check the levels of protein in my urine. I've seen my midwife a few times but in no way feel like I have built up any kind of relationship with her.
I think DHs/DPs must find it hard now it's getting near, a bit like they can't do anything very useful to help us and a bit frightened but trying not to let it show type of thing.

You would think that they would provide you with some type of funnel device for this 24 hour urine collection business. Collection bottle clearly designed for a man! I'm thirsty but keep thinking that another drink will just mean another awkward trip to the loo.

waswondering, i posted ages ago about feeling like you been...infact once i got through the 12 weeks, and once i felt baby start moving i knew that all the movements and the knowing im carrying a baby would all be the last time.

everyone keeps saying 'oh i bet you will be glad when its over'....well no, i will be sad..very sad, but on the other hand, obviously over the moon to meet my baby...i suppose everyone is different, but im glad i know someone else feels like i do cos i thought i was going doolalee! :o

Hello everyone.

I'm 35 weeks Tuesday (2nd) and I feel like a lot of you when you say you cant wait to see baby and part of you wishes to see them sooner but it is better for them to stay in as long as poss. At the minute I feel really excited but very scared at the prospect not of birth but of being a parent as this is my first baby.

I finish work 2 weeks on Friday (19th) when I am 37 weeks and a bit.

Also trying to keep myself not stressed with varying levels of success ... DH could (maybe) be losing his job anytime in the next couple of weeks, trying to be a supportive wife, telling him not to worry when secretly I am. On top of this my mum and dad have booked a week's holiday abroad, they return two weeks before baby is due, keep in mind this is their first grandchild! I understand them wanting a holiday but why 2 weeks before the due date!!! As if I didn't have enough emotions going on at the moment they have gone and added on a whole lorry load of them.

ARRRR.