Due in June 2006 - Part Two!

[Laura032004]

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Anyone else keep feeling depressed? How do you pick yourself up?

vbab - i do occassionally feel depressed, well low at least. I get very emotional and sometimes angry, a good cry or a good fight to clear the air always helps. Or even to write out how i'm feeling and share it with a friend, who will then tell me to pull myself together and remind me how lucky i am.

Diddle - thank you so much for responding. It's means a lot. I'm just sorry that you experience it on occasion too. I expected being emotional as part of pregnancy, with the hormones being all over, but never depressed.

I don't really have anyone to talk to. Can't talk to dh as he is sometimes the problem. My friends are too busy or live miles away, not sure they would understand as none of them have been pregnant. My family I just don't like bothering them.

Vbab, I know I should be so happy as am so excited, but sometimes just want to cry all the time- it's such a stressful time, and so many new worries....you are not alone in this, promise!

xxxx

I've bought a few things now - lots more size 1 Tots, and some vests and babygrows. I really don't need to buy much with having ds already, but it's fun all the same I figure the more vests & babygrows I have, the less often I'll have to wash them! .

No idea about my weight gain so far - no scales in this house either! I keep meaning to get myself weighed, especially as I put on so much weight last time, but I never get round to it!

LilacBump - congratulations on your anniversary yesterday - did you do anything nice?

diddle - that's amazing about the mum in the playground! I hope I can be like that this time. With having the c/s last time, I was still hobbling around a week later.

vbab78 - sorry to hear that you are feeling down. Can you pin it down to anything specific, or is it just a general lowness? I have bad days and good days. On the bad ones I can't stop thinking about the fact that dh will be going away when the baby is a month or so old, and that I'll never cope with two, and that I might not be able to bf this time. On good days, those thoughts don't even enter my head. Strange isn't it. Hope you feel better soon Remember you've always got us lot here to talk to.

The bump is kicking lots now. I had a can of coke for the first time in a while at the weekend, and the baby was kicking so hard I felt like they were electric shocks. Poor thing - no more coke for me! It's wierd because I have the odd coffee out of the house (drink decaff at home), without such a big reaction, but maybe the baby is just so much bigger now that it is a lot more noticeable. I can't wait until my scan - a week Friday, so still ages to go.

vbab, i feel down occasionally. i've suffered from clinical depression before and i know it's not as bad as that, but i do feel overwhelmed by emotions sometimes. DP's sister had antenatal depression and i didn't even notice or realise. she always seemed so normal and happy when we saw her or spoke to her. she said it helped to talk to her GP and after the birth she felt better. i really wish she'd reached out to DP and me as we've both been depressed and would have offered her plenty of help and support.

our anniversary was lovely. DP cooked me a romantic meal eventhough he's got a nasty cold.

Hello all

Am glad I am not the only one who gets a bit down.. Have actually been off work with it as I seemed unable to combine being a dynamic career superwoman whilst wanting to sob on desk and scream at boss about my hormones and how he was an unsupportive pig etc etc...

Am coping and feeling much better now at home as have unlimited kettle access, Judge Judy and the ability to keep dressing gown on until school run at 3pm

I realise this is turning me into a chav of the highest order, and my IQ is descending into Neanderthal range, but it has enabled me to shop online and order the pram!!!!!!!!!

Am glad some of you have put on a stone too... I have sent a big box of donuts to Angelina so that she can get fat and feel part of our Mumsnet team!

Btw, Had a funny experience in tesco the other day. Some bloke was stood by the cash point and whistled at me as I strode by. I turned to look thinking (who me???) and as soon as he clapped eyes on my bump he looked embarassed, went red and skuttled away..... hee hee. I am now obviously in the "Fanciable from behind only" club. I continued shopping trying to convince myself I was now an earth mother type figure who has no need of wolf whistles anyway....sniff....

Well, I had better go and get dressed. Have ordered some books off Amazon and I don't want a repeat of last time the postman knocked. I was, of course, still in jim jams, and had to stretch my arm round the edge of the door and grab the parcel without him actually laying his eyes on me. A very tricky manouvre. Am sure he now thinks I am a reclusive wild haired hermit who orders far too many books because she doesn't have a life....

yikes. Maybe he's right............

xx

Kathryn, thanks for cheering me up, you really made me laugh!
Have had such bad day- why is it that people give you such completely personal and uncalled for 'advice' when you are pregnant? Have been attacked for needing to come back to work part time after summer holidays- this from a bloke who was out drinking with his friends every night when his wife was heavily pregnant! Apparently he thinks I'm too career-minded- as if! I'd give anything to give up, but even if I wanted to work, surely that's my business?! I really cannot afford to take year off, as have huge mortgage. Anyway, have now succumb to such guilt that am going to put house on market and have rung estate agents to get valuations.
Plus, then I decided to comfort self by eating chocolate, and another bloke lectured me on how terrible chocolate is for the baby. ? ? Can't tell which I'm feeling most right now!

Thank you EVERYONE for all your support and especially Kathryn for making me laugh.

abbey - I would be annoyed too. It has amazed me actually how people, some you have only spoken to briefly in the past, just come up to you and ask you the most personal questions. Silly me though .. I answer them.

Everyone has different advice on everything, I appreciate advice but sometimes I just want to scream "I will find my own way".

I would like to move to a bigger house, mine isn't tiny (yet), but it would cost a hell of a lot more to move so I am sort of stuck.

Morning ladies - Is anyone else having trouble sleeping, or waking up in the night, not even for the loo??

Hi all
Diddle - yep spot on the mark!! lol i've took to sleeping 1pm - 3pm otherwise i'm dead on my feet by 7pm.
Kathryn & vbab - i'm glad i'm not the only one i'm so all over the place it's funny anymore. Dh is really pushing the fact i need to rest but then every now & again he'll wind me up about doing nothing. pre-baby i'd of given him a gob full but now i just sit and cry.

Is anybody else really showing now? even with my coat on i def have a bump & without clothes OMG i'm huge. i can't rememeber being this big with dd.

I too have started buying a few bits now normally when i'm in tescos doing weekily shop!! yesterday i got 3 sllep suits for £6 & 3 vests for £2.75 which i thought was a right bargin.

Anyway enough of my waffling i hope everybody is feeling ok & is taking care
Love
D

i've got a pretty big bump now. though the other day i talked to a few people about us having a boy this time and they didn't realise i was pregnant! must be the fact that i'm all wrapped up with a big coat and jumpers. i keep having really sore boobs from the cold. i am considering wearing breastpads just to keep my nipples a bit warmer
i've bought pretty much everything for the baby. all i need are more clothes, bibs, some more bedding, a cot with mattress and a crib mattress. the rest on my list are non-essentials.
i've had mostly good advice from people. for example how to deal with DD and make her feel good about the baby coming and not too jealous. the only bit that got to me was DP's sister telling me i really should breastfeed (was a complete failure at this last time so not keen to try again) but she's now respecting that i might bottlefeed and tries not to pressure me.
i was told by several people that they think i'm overdoing it! but i just feel i have some energy and i'm not in pain anymore, so i should try and get as much done as i feel able to.

i hope you are all well and blooming!

Hi All!
Well my scan last week went great, baby is fine. We actually got a longer scan than usual as there was a trainee there, not that we were complaining - meant we could see more of the little one. (half an hour)

On the subject of buying things - we have got all the things we need for when the baby os born, in the way of clothing i mean, just sleep suits, bodysuits and a few daywear outfits. We'll be getting the bigger things next month and storing them between my mom's and the inlaws. I'd rather know that everything is ready and then we dont have to worry about it.

I am huge now, a fully fledged bump, i feel so heavy and frumpy. Everyone keeps saying i have 'the glow' but i'm sure they're just being kind as i know i look as rough as old boots.

Hope everyone is well!

ROLL ON JUNE!!!!

Hello all

Abbey- do what I did...make A4 paper effigies of boss at your desk and then put lots of staples in it... My voodoo didn't work, he was still an a**e but I felt better...

Understand well about mortgages/rent etc being difficult to overcome. I am only having the time off because my mum is going to help me out.

I could tell you the embarassing story about my baby's father and why he is in no position to help us out finanially, but that would probably have you wetting yourself (weak pelvic floor muscles being a problem in pregnancy, apparently.... )

If you do put your house up for sale, we could all do the same, form a mumsnet commune and market our home grown sprouts and cabbages to the world... hmm..... am now having visions of me in dreadlocks, living in a tent and running the biggest fresh veg company in the world......... i really need to get out more.

Diddle..sleep problems. I try sleeping on the left side, my left arm goes numb. I try sleeping on the right side, my dodgy shoulder starts hurting. On my back I am probably waking the whole neighborhood with my snoring. And when i do go to sleep, I have weird dreams. I thought sleep deprivation happened after the birth??? Am glad I am not alone in my madness...

Bugs.. I have the opposite problem in that when my mum comes down to see me, she insists I can;t lift anything heavier than a teabag. One carrier bag with a pack of toilet roll in from tesco.."No, no, let ME carry it..I insist!" We then have a debate by the checkout on who will carry the shopping, and I walk out holding only my handbag while my mum has 27 bags of my shopping.I look like a total diva, too lazy to do anything, who employs a poor overworked eastern european to do my chores for me. My mum wears a smug, self sacrificing smile, and the other shoppers gaze at her in pure sympathy.... 10 - nil to mother.
Of course, on the days she isn't here, I carry the bags myself and mysteriously manage it...

Well, had a bit of a result at the GPs yesterday. very obliging doctor took one look at my haggard face and harassed brain and has....fanfare... put me off sick until my mat leave starts. Uninterrupted jimjam bliss!!! have never had a sicknote for quite so long before. No idea what employers will say. Will probably couple that info with rumours of my ill treatment of mother whilst shopping and decide I am the world's laziest pregnant woman!

........unless you know different? Am I the laziest here or are you worse?

xx

Bugs - yeh i look HUGE now, with and without clothes, got a very definite bump, and proud of it, although do occassionally forget its there and bump it into things.

So glad i'm not the only one having trouble sleeping.

KathrynWales - Yep you're definitly lazier than me, i am plodding along looking after 3 toddlers, and then will be trawling back from school with an after schooler too, busy busy busy I am.

Diddle.....it makes me tired just reading that...... phew!Have now come over all funny...

Kathrynwales.. i think i can join you in being lazy too. I have been signed off until my mat leave starts too. My days consists of bugger all! But then i couldn't do anything if i tried, these crutches are kinda restricing!
at the thought of someone else at home to chat to!

Has anyone been getting heart burn a lot? It's driving me crazy! Any remedies that are working would be much much appreciated?

lottielou........hurray! I am not alone in my idleness !!

I am off work with stress & poorly shoulder. I have to confess, though, I am in the middle of writing a book as well, so am not completely beyond redemption! (actually, that doesn't help my lazy status much, does it? book writing is very much a sitting down job... accompanied by coffee and chocolate digestives.... )

Crutches...oh dear.. what have you done? (if it was reaching up to the top kitchen cupboard for another cake, then you win a gold star.... )

.......now, of course, after making light of it, Lottie lou will now tell me some tragic story and I will feel like an a**e. This, ladies, is the story of my life.....

KathrynWales... Writing a book hey, what that about then?
Well i'm on crutches as my pelvis is knackered, my left side is higher than my right side, and the front has softened and openned up too much so i have to wear a belt whenever i move around to stop is misplacing too mucgh more. It's very painful. Also getting spasms in my spine. It hurts like hell to put weight on my one leg, well it changes from one leg to the other so either way i'm screwed! Oh the joy!
I wish it was reaching for a cake(hmmm speaking of which i wonder if i have any left...lol)
U do make me chuckle!

Well ladies I wish I was off on leave but not poorly like you guys. Saying that if I was off work I would probably end up on crutches to support all the weight I would put on as a result of being closer to the fridge!

Work days just seem to get longer and more boring. I keep feeling like the days in general are in slow mo. In a few months time I might be wishing for days in slow mo .

LottieLou.......ouch!!!!!!!!!!

That sounds bl*y awful!!! Anything to do with bones makes me go all queasy.... and I'm a qualified nurse, which doesn't bode well!!

I now feel like a complete fraud for moaning about my minor complaints.

My book is a light hearted look at pregnancy & birth for single mums. I tried writing serious fiction but as my brain has shrunk to the size of a pea during pregnancy, I have ground to a halt with that project.

Am glad I have made you chuckle, despite your hideous deformity........
You are of course laughing due to hysteria, strong pain killers and pregnancy related dementia....so I will not let it go to my head

Well, will now drag myself away from PC and fill in my MAT b1 form/mat leave application form. I then have to take the (mega) sicknote (mentioned in last post) to the boss at work. I may be some time. I suspect they will want to shout at me for three hours before allowing me to leave.

Suggestions on how to tell the boss I have been written off for 9 weeks?? have only got as far as "Um...here is my latest...um sicknote..."

Help!

KathrynWales....yeah it is painful but just have to keep focused on the end result of all of it. When the baby moves it puts things inot perspective.
I was in the same situation with my boss when i had to tell her i wasn't coming back ( didn't go down well as i was off sick for the first 3 months of my pregnancy, due to a cyst, tilted womb and other things) I was just honest and explained if i could work then obviously i would but i just couldn't manage it. You dont get signed off work for nothing. Just remember there is nothing your employer can do, they dont have a leg to stand on, you hold the ball in your court. Ha ha what a good feeling, ur more powerful than your boss!
The line that worked a treat for me..... "My baby is the most important thing in all of this, i have to think of this little life growing inside me and if the doctor has signed me off - then it is for a reason i can't say i'm thrilled about it but i'm under doctors orders"
You'll be fine, just take a deep breath and explain.
Let me know how you get on hun.
Good luck!

Thanks for that...though i suspect the baby line won't work. He is gay and hates kids... his words to me when I told him I was pregnant were "Oh my god! I f** hate babies" but i will give it a go!

Bye 4 now x