December 2011: We've got big bumps and we cannot lie (down comfortably)

[LittleMissFlustered]

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Shake those bumps ladies.

And squeeeeeeeze

honey midwife told me today that as soon as the babies head starts moving down and you are 2/5 or 3/5 engaged there's unlikely to be more growth in head or length, just a wee bit more fat gets put on bu that won't effect birth ease/difficulty

aethel the epi-no scares me too and im a bit nervous about trying any perineal massage too. Guess im a bit worried about introducing infection or something. Hoping that as a second timer im alreadt stretched enough!

Seven Good to see baby girl has woken up :)

Bluebells Sorry about the job, but good to see your not to upset about it.

Ladies, after parents evening at 5pm tonight. We are taking DD to our local Asda and getting her picture taken with the Xmas Coca Cola Lorry...don't know who's more excited me or DD

Congratulations, BlueCrane: what a wonderful thing to see on screen!

lalababy, my mother used to do that sort of "orphans" thing, when she lived overseas in a place with lots of expats. I was there a few times for that, and it was really nice to know we were making someone else's day - and our own - a bit bigger. Even with you so close to popping (or perhaps having popped), it can be a nice, low-pressure way to enjoy one another - friends can entertain themselves in a way family, seemingly, cannot!

sevensevenseven, good to hear your "little madam" is up and about! However, if it happens again, maternity staff want to help (and strapping someone to a monitor for a bit is really no hassle at all compared to the drama of something's going wrong ), so if you are not happy with the abruptness of the change, do go to them and give them a chance to reassure you and themselves!

Honey 10cm will definately cut it! Don't worry... with all the hypnobirthing practice ...just stay relaxed, calm and know that your body knows what it is doing! And when the time comes for you to breathe the baby out... it will be just fine!

I, however, have managed to do my perineal massage all of 3 times so far. However, I console myself with reading the research that states it is all hereditary. Not for any reason but I can't be arse to hang out for 10 mins with my thumbs up there!!!

On the plus side I finally bought some rasberry leaf tea and will start that out!

Hi all, glad to see the baby has woken up. I notice that i get longer periods of inactivity now, but just as I start to worry LO grabs hold of my ribs or pelvic nerves and tries a new origami design. Yowch!
The girls have been, we did minimal work, and then had a fabulous meal. I started with a glass of prosecco, then had the most delicious mozzerella and aubergine starter (to die for!!), then a lovely sea bass and seasonal veg. Yum yum!!
They brought a card signed by all at work, and presents! Yippee!!!
And they've taken my lap top for upgrading, so I suppose I'll just relax now. ML starts here! (apart from 2 conf calls tomorrow)
Yippeee!!!!

Oi Sounds like you've had a good afternoon - time to rest now aye?

I'm not doing any perenial massage either, I'm pretty blasé about pushing out babies! Which is probably not the most helpful attitude, but I feel that having managed one persistent posterior and one brow presentation this one couldn't be any harder!

seven glad she co operated in the end!

oi mine is doing that too, I assume it is the more regular sleep/wake patterns starting to emerge.

What is everyone having for dinner? I'm making beef and onion pie with roasted veg...I feel like winter food!

Afternoon everyone - not posted for ages but have been lurking.

congrats to bluecrane - great news.

sorry you did not get the job bluebells - though you may be thankful not to have to take on any more responsibility for now when you return after ML. I find juggling part time teaching, with one DS and all the other daily jobs plenty!

I am very impressed by all the epi-no and perenail massage diligence - I too am just putting my head in the sand and ignoring it! DS was reasonably big (8lb 3oz) and had (and still has ) a very big head and was delivered very fast so figure I am probably pretty elastic down there now! Having said that I did tear horribly with DS (unsurprisingly given the above factors) but actually the stiching and stuff was fine and no problems since. Now if we were talking pelvic floors thats another story altogether!! so don't forget to squeeze! (says she who has been crap at remembering!)

DS has been ill (yet again) since Sat night so shattered from getting up every night (3 or 4 times some nights) and having a whingy child all day. Drs no help as to why he is ill every 3 weeks or so, just another viral thing apparently but it is exhausting. Think I have caught it a bit too now.

DH has been crap - still gives me no leeway for being pregnant really. I do all the get ups as he has to "work" whereas I can have a "relaxing day" at home (his words obviously not mine!) Yeah right - a relaxing day with a sick 3 year old. Plus the fact I do actually work part time for 3 days of the week still and teaching isn't exactly a doddle even when you are not pregnant and tired. Reminds me how crap he will be about getting up in the night with DC2 - he never did with DS, so I suppose at least I am prepared for it this time.

Sorry massive post and lots of whinging!

I must have lunch out more often, I'm in a v nice mood... Back is aching, but am thinking of waiting in bed for DH to arrive home. He'll think it's Christmas.

Sorry! I realise TMI! But it's so rare these days, I couldn't help but want to celebrate!

Sorry you're struggling jigglebum, I certainly don't think a relaxing day involves entertaining a sickly 3yo!

plu the woman at the maternity assessment unit told me to have something to eat and drink then lay on my side for an hour, then call back if there was no change. I guess it's much easier to try and get baby moving at home before going in for monitoring. If it happens again I'll try that first before phoning them.

oi no worries, it will all get much more TMI after the births! I just wish the DDs would go to sleep a tiny bit earlier so I could seduce DP more often...by the time he has done the dishes and they are asleep I'm normally good for nothing more than a chat before sleep!

Only managing sex about once a week...and only that because I know we'll be out of action for a while after the birth!

grrrrr, wrote a long post but lost it.

In summary, Tyel thanks so much for the thanksgiving menu ideas. I have a full menu now thanks to you and dessert will be peach cobbler .

msbuggy once a week? Where do you even find the energy?

No news here but the usual crappy ligament and back pains annoying but nothing major. Still have a lot of pressure down below but have a mw appointment on Monday so will see what this stubbornly breech baby is up to.

I have lost the will to live today.

Hope everyone has a good weekend xx

What's the matter cheep? Rant away in the safety of the thread.

I went shopping and forgot binbag and cerial and about 50% of what i went for so i have to put son to bed and then go back out. The self photo machine did not pick up the three photos on my memroy stick so i could only print normal size photos and not the size i need for my photo frame.

The family support work came out, she was half an hour late, forgot to bring Air's homework and school report, she asked me about my mum (we dont get on but she stayed reccently to help out as i was ill) so made me feel down and did nothing to support and didn't make another appointment which i hate as i want to be prepered for her visit. I'm thinking of renaming it to home fail to support!

I'm tired, in pain and hormonal and people just keep pissing me off at the mo. The cleaners are coming tomoro and DH is not doing what i have asked him to do and i will end up doing/tidying everything tomoro on my own.

I feel unsupported and pissed off right now.

ok rant over.

Hugs to you cheep. sounds like a crappy day. Sorry to hear it. And it's crappy that you're feeling let down and unsupported. But, it's just one day. Tomorrow will be better. Wish i could help. Chin up chuck.

I have just opened my profil and put the three photos i was trying to print on it - they are of my son, if you want to have a look

Son is watching one more ducktails then its off to bed, so not long now. I have deside to send DH to the shop for the things we really need and then do an online shop tomoro, with a list

Relaxing day with sick 3yo at home - hahahaha, jigglebum. He will be getting those soon enough, when you are looking after the baby. All hands on deck!

cheeptrick, that sounds pretty rubbish of the woman. Does she actually have to ask about these things, or can you tell her you want to discuss something else (like why she forgot the homework?!) Lovely pictures, by the way!

Have just chucked DS in bed and am going to retire soon, with my cold. However, at least my back is rested after the silly amount of housework I did earlier today, and I have a coffee date with a neighbour tomorrow afternoon, when I'll be able to ask her about reliable minicab firms (we moved in August, but haven't needed one yet) and possibly cleaners - 2 months' worth, for my Christmas present - wheee!

Sorry you are having a bad day. Have and breathe. Tomorrow is a new and better day. Your son is sooooo cute!

She is the women that told me to take my son out with chickenpox, send him to nursary with a chest infection and reported me to adult soical services "Just cos she couldn't live with her self if something happened" - i have depression it is medicated and under control and if my GP is not worried no-one else should be. SS has open and closed the case two times now and the home support women still has not got the message that i am fine.

She just can't do her job.

She only called me yeasterday to make the appointment for today, then forgot and forgot the work she was ment to bring and when she left she said she will make another appointment after baby arrives - great i will see you in January then?

She just annoys me so much. She has nothing positive to say.

She also told me i could request a csection if i want.

I have a dysable DH, a 2 yo and a newborn to take care of so a csection is the last thing i want as i can't take 5 weeks to recover or be out of action and the consultant is going to try everything first before a csection due to my medical history.

OK i will shut up now - sorry for the moan.

Also i think Air is cute too but i'm bised as i'm his mum

gosh she sounds like a nightmare, do you have to see her?

I dont know how to get rid of her

She did a CAF form to get the HV and adult ss involed yet again as i'm having a new baby. We have had one meeting for far and only her and the SW turned up out of 6 people that they invited and i had only meet the SW 30 min before the meeting in my home - so she could not possible comment as she did not have the information!

No one has a problem with me, DH or son, its just the family support worker that keeps coming round each week and then trying to reopen the case, just to keep her job i think.

I wouldn't mind but even the MW, GP and the MH nurse have no problems with me, its just the family support worker, who is not qualified to make a judgement on my medical condition.

The only thing she comments on is that i have two guine pigs in a cage on the breakfast bar - the oppersite side of the room from where i cook food and i have washing in a washing basket ready to go in the machine on the floor. It does not matter that i have a safety gate up between the living room and kitchen so my son is never in the kitchen alone

I'm just really pissed off with it all now - they give no pratical help or support and just waste taxpayers money where its not needed.