December 2011: We've got big bumps and we cannot lie (down comfortably)

[LittleMissFlustered]

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Shake those bumps ladies.

And squeeeeeeeze

Kate yes I just had to laugh and then write it down as a funny story for you all. It was like a French farce, I kept frantically shoving people into different rooms and as soon as I'd close the door and hide one lot of people, the next lot would come trooping in the front door!

Darcies your DH sounds lovely. Mine has just been called back for evening house duty - he is a deputy housemaster and the housemaster has just been taken ill quite suddenly with bronchitis, so after looking forward to seeing him all day he has had to turn straight round again and go back to do prayers and put the boys to bed...ah well! In loco parentis and all that...if it was my son I'd want to know the teachers are looking after them so I'm not too resentful. He's only a couple of hundred yards away so no he'll be on hand if I go into labour...

Oh well - will divert myself with the surprisingly seductive tones of Mr Attenborough on Frozen Planet at 9pm while waiting for Dominoes to arrive Tomorrow's task will be to make loads of pizza dough and portion it out for the freezer so I don't singlehandedly keep Dominoes in business for the remainder of this pregnancy.

Oh cheep :( I'd be inclined to hit her over the head with a frying pan (unwashed of course ) & bury her in my garden. Cheeky cow! You're heavily pregnant for goodness sake...I have 3 separated piles of clothes to be washed in front of my washing machine & a bin liner full of baby clothes. I also intend to bf & co-sleep...looks like she should be hassling me too

Rant away; she's being a pain in the arse...I have no experience with SW's but I think you really need to insist on seeing her outside of your home in future if she's going to pick on every little thing.

Oh cheep you have my sympathy, it is so stressful. I had unannounced visits from the hv and from an ed welfare officer over the summer and it caused me so much anxiety. they always manage to turn up at dreadful times...in our case 3 friends had just left and the house had been turned upside down!

I was also criticised over the co-sleeping and bfing, (they had concerns over me being 'too attached') can you prepare yourself with arguments for how AP style parenting is designed to support secure attachments between children and their primary carer, how this is particularly important to you given (forgive me if I've remembered incorrectly!) your history of depression. You could talk about how bfing makes you a more responsive mother as bfing stimulates oxytocin (known as the love hormone). I managed to get them to close the case by swamping them with information about why I parent the way I do, the above is the potted version of what I said.

darcies how lovely of your DP! We're having fish and chips too tonight, no time for anything else after my doula visited!

I had a lovely evening, chatting to my doula while DP cooed over her baby! DP was threatening to keep him, he is more excited about DD3 than I am. Lovely back massage, and she is organising my Blessingway for me, which is great as I'm utterly hopeless at organising. I managed to sort out some bfing problems she is having too so I'm feeling useful!

Arg cheep you sound like you were very restrained. Remember many social workers (and health visitors) are from middle class backgrounds and older and so by definition perhaps a little less used to "alternative" lifestyles (not meaning that in a derogatory way: I was deemed a strange hippy by one of the HV when I used cloth nappies and baby slings for mine.. A baby not strapped in a carseat at the weighing clinic, wot's the world coming to....!)

There are some people who over-depend their children (spoonfeeding them mush til they are two, not allowing them choice, keeping them strapped in buggy all the time when they are capable of walking) but we both know that's not what attachment parenting does. Co-sleeping til two is hardly extreme, and BFing until two is positively recommendd by WHO!

Hope the Hassle settles down soon anyway.

cheep sorry to hear about your SW visit, I have no experience of them either, but I'm still currently wondering what will come of DD's drs appointment last week - she had a cold and was vomiting from the phlegm so DH said we had to take her to the dr, and then proceeded to berate my parenting to the dr with me crying my eyes out, resulting with the dr referring DD to the health visitor on DHs insistence. I still feel very betrayed about the whole thing although the dr was supportive of me and DH has been much better since.

cheep Were I functioning instead of seeing triple throug a migraine I would have more constructive grumping for you, but the ladies here are doing admirably. Stay strong. Keep calm, and if you have the ability, drown them in facts. If you have a printer, get WHO and NHS advice printed off. They can be as arsehole as they like, but facts are facts. Take care.

Right, place marked. Am off to see if sleep will kill or cure. Apologies for brevity, feel foul.

WTAF cheep?! What an evil harpy cow devil spawn bitch of a SW!! I've always found (professionally, not had any personal experience with SW) that they're always happy to leave children in dangerous shite holes (normally when the RSPCA deem it unsafe for animals) but the second a 'normal' parent does anything even remotely wrong (shock horror, dirty dishes!) they're all over it. ARRGH, you rant away (if not, I'll happily do it on your behalf)!

Darcies, sounds like DP is back in the good books??

Had my home birth assesment today, everything is good to go, aside from us living in a first floor flat without a lift. MW is giving me a week to think it over, but once I've weighed up the pros n cons they're happy to green light it, because I really need to think it over(!)

Hope everyone gets a decent nights sleep! I was tired at 9pm, but am wide awake now..typical!

cheep - tell your SW to get stuffed. You're entitled to raise your child in attachment parenting if you wish. I hate how the vulnerable aren't respected for their own voice. Keep confident lady.

Nothing new here, except my grinding the baby's head in my pelvis when i turn over at night. Vair vair freaky.

cheep I have no experience of SWs, but this one seems rather deranged - what is disturbing about a bit of washing up? And, as others have said, attachment parenting is no evil. Bombard her with statistics/facts.
beemybaby why/how did your DH berate your parenting? I'm shocked that this happened to you in front of a Dr. How are you? Hope you're ok?
I've been awake for hours. No signs of any progress though. Not sure whether to try and sleep for a few hours or get up instead and spend the morning doing squats and lunges. (to bring on labour??!) ...I must be so unfit now, I bet mybody has forgotten how to.

Last day of work today mega panicking have lost last 2 afternoons going to site so all finishing off of projects to be done today between meetings leaving drink at lunchtime and heading to midwife at 3 .......shit

Best go promised to get cakes on way in was going to get nice homemade fancies from the local farm shop last night but didn't get back to office until 6 so was closed by time went past 24 HR tesco it is then .....not the same as a nice fresh sponge

Cheep I have no experience of dealing with a SW. But yours sounds like a nightmare, no advice from me really as the other ladies are doing a great job

MsBuggy Sounds like a good helpful relationship you have with your doula.

AWCH DP isn't fully back in my good books but seems to be working hard to get there lol.

LMF Howz your head this morning?

Figgy Enjoy your last day at work and everybody enjoys cake.

Well I didn't sleep well at all last night heartburn was horrendous which made me cough and ended up being sick. What with being uncomfortable anyway I have intense pressure and pain in my pelvis so much so I can't stand up straight without wincing getting annoyed it's not turning into labour pains now - so ready for this baby to be here.

Beemybaby - hugs that sounds hard. I would feel very betrayed by DH. So not accebable of him to do that.

I'm feeling calmer about SW as most of the stuff is not an issues and should be disregarded. My Kitchen is a mess at the mo but will be sorted out by weekend and then we have cleaner coming for big clean so i'm not worried. SW has a dute of care to investigate and i know i'm a good mum so no problem. I'm more concerned about the family support worker that keeps refering me. After this case is closed i will then request she not come again as she is from sure start and not offical. Its just one more thing to put up with. I also feel discriminated agance because depression is an illness, i didn't ask for it and the meds work but they still hold it agenst me

On a more happy note i freaked DH out last night in a bad way - We went to bed and i felt wet thourt it was my waters gone but not it was my mucus plug but a lot. Cue slimy on my hand and DH desiding to sleep in son's bed instead

Also this morning there was a lot when i wiped and i'm having sharp pains in my cervix. I feel like labour is going to come soon! I have the meeting at 1pm today and i hope i make it but then i will have to walk home and i'm sure it will set labour off if i have not started before that.

On a high note i'm dressed, showered, hair done and ready to go into labour - bring it on

Sorry i should have said that little bits of the mucus plug was coming away for the past 2 weeks but i think its all come away now - TMI

Beenybaby What possessed your DH to behave like that infront of a doctor?

Cheep hopefully your labour will start soon

Morning girls: squeeeze!

I have a veritable mountain of washing up, DH and I normally share it but he seems to have developed an aversion recently.

And you can hardly see the floor of my front room. But, y'know, my mat leave starts next week and I'll actually have some time once the school fair's done. But will I have the energy???

Good luck cheep, hope things get started and sorry to everyone who's feeling uncomfortable (Darcies, heartburn is the pits! Can you prop up in bed a bit?)

cheep can't BELIEVE it re: washing and washing up. Hello? Like that is NORMAL! What mother of a young child doesn't have washing/washing up on the go most of the time? And re: co-sleeping/bf, surely that is your choice and anyway a good thing to do? I would be well annoyed if I were you :(

cheep really glad you're feeling better and I hope labour gets started just when you want it too!

darcies my doula is fantastic! She has arranged a back up doula for me too in case she happens to be on her boat (only half an hour away) when I go into labour. She was amazing when I was having DD2.

Bee sorry about your DH, I too would feel annoyed and betrayed :( Hope things are sorting themselves out. Right, have to get off computer, hideous migraine yest and all night and although feeling bit better now, don't think laptop will help. Have a good day all.

Aethel I can't sleep upright as much as I try I just can't. Not long to go - come on baby!

cheep I'm on your behalf.

Just a quick update, me and Eva came home yesterday afternoon. She had to have some tests (which were all fine) following them finding a very faint heart murmur. They've said not to worry about it, and were happy to discharge her and just do a follow-up appointment which we'll receive in the post. Other than that we're both doing well, and DS keeps saying he loves his baby sister and giving her kisses. MW coming later so will update with her weight loss when I get a chance.

Hope everyone else is doing ok and apologies for only skimming the thread.

I'm having period type pains in lower bump and in my thighs - just my luck to go into labour before the meeting

I'm having a wobble about the name we have chosen. My mum has a Welsh name, i have a Welsh name and my DD will be the only girl in both families. So i'm thinking i should add a Welsh name as well. WHat do you think of the following?

Hope Brynn Frances Goodwin
Hope Merryn Frances Goodwin
Hope Bronwyn Frances Goodwin

or just Hope Frances Goodwin

Also is Hope Goodwin too Mills and Boom?

Yay welcome home Eva! So glad all is well seven and your DS is so sweet.

cheep I like them all but Merryn best I think (best initials too). Don't see why Hope Goodwin is M&B but I've never read one so there may be a reference I'm missing! It actually sounds dignified and professional, like a traditional law firm or something...

I'm so of all your shows and pains. Just so sick of being pregnant and wish something would start over here if only to scare the fire alarm guys!!

Great news seven glad you and Eva are home!

cheep I like Merryn too, and I like giving two middle names too (all of mine have two mn!)

My sister said that Hope Goodwin sounds like M&B and i'm just twitching out about the name. If i get induced on the 1st i think Merryn is a nice xmas name too

Glad you and Eva are home Seven

of all the cute baby cuddles you are getting. And the newbaby smell. Glad everything going well.