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shonnomanom · 03/11/2011 15:32

There we go, a nice new thread.

The BIG Question??? Will the first baby arrive during this thread???????

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yummybunny · 16/11/2011 11:10

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MakesCakesWhenStressed · 16/11/2011 11:15

fish - good point. In fact, I've seen funky breastfeeding vests that you wear under your normal clothes and they actually come under your bust so they cover the post-baby wobbly bits. I may consider investing in one or two of those... If I can remember what they're called.

OMG - luckily I proofread that before I posted it. I totally mistyped 'funky' and put a 'c' in instead of a 'n' Blush

Fryn · 16/11/2011 11:20

Morning all!

fish I feel for you! As my peppermint and liquorice teapig suggestion is a bit controversial (pesky scientific research!) Fybogel seems to the best alternative for the quick fix.

ghost - I used to wear a vest top under a normal top - hoik up the normal top, pull down the vest top (keeps your tummy covered), and then wap your bap out. Sorted. And very glamorous, obviously.
And remember the mantra! Get that BP down, girl!

kitty how annoying! I can't believe they screwed that up so much.

green hello from the grim east! Is it Mildred's? I adore their food. And if not - hurrah - a new place to eat!

cakes I love the idea of your DH scrubbing the grouting in his pants! Mine paints in his pants, which was fairly funny, but yours wins hands down!

welcome back yummy!

And mummyzoe - hope you're ok. Let us know.

Fryn · 16/11/2011 11:21

ha - xpost with fish. Glad to see I wasn't the only one going for the vest/top combo!

fishandlilacs · 16/11/2011 11:26

yummy your nipples do protrude sometimes. I think the NHS thing very much depends on your midwife. I was in for 6 days and the range of advice I had from different staff was unbelievable. I had old fashioned advice and up to date advice. The very best thing I can say is yes, it can take time, yes it can hurt a bit when your start, some women find the let down very uncomfortable, but after the first week or so then it becomes a lot easier and then after 6 weeks or so you'll wonder why it was ever difficult.

In the early days, allow time, FEED ON DEMAND and don't be surprised at how much that can be-dd used to take about 45 mins to feed and feed every 45 mins. I felt I was continuosly pinned to her.

Drink and eat plenty, always try to go to the loo and have a snack and drink nearby, take your time, don't stress, being in a relaxed position and frame of mind will help a lot. If your baby is screaming your instinct will be to flop out your boob and get on with it but it wont matter if baby cries for a few seconds while you get comfy and make sure you're catered for. make sure your nipple is well in babies mouth and not rubbing on any gums-your nipple should essentially be in empty space in babies mouth. Wait for baby to give you a nice wide gape before attempting to latch.

It's also important to remember, not everyone will find it easy, some people do and others don't and not every baby can feed effectively so if it's not successful and you have given it a damn good try give yourself a break and don't don't don't give yourself the guilts over it if you cannot manage it. One of my friends expressed for over a month before she gave up, her son simply did not latch on ever, she said in the end she was spending more time with the breast pump than the baby!

fishandlilacs · 16/11/2011 11:37

...ahem...I am pleased to announce that the advice worked. Blush I think it was the fybogel.

A much more comfortable fish now :)

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MakesCakesWhenStressed · 16/11/2011 12:20

woohoo for fish!

Keep up the water intake and fx there are no more probs. Is your undercarriage feeling better now?

greenlady78 · 16/11/2011 12:25

fish yay!!!

makes I have been laughing myself silly since reading 'undercarriage'....brilliant!!! Grin

fryn I've never been to Mildred's so hooray for another veg restaurant over here, too! This is the place www.tibits.co.uk/e/, it is delicious and being self -service you can eat as much as you like (yikes! a bit dangerous I know...)

Must work!!! Byeeeeee xxxx

ghosteditor · 16/11/2011 12:42

do you think all of the pregnancy related bowel trouble is to prepare us for our upcoming fascination with baby poop? Wink

MakesCakesWhenStressed · 16/11/2011 12:45

Well one of the cats did a protest poo in his bed last night, so I have had more than enough of inappropriate pooing for today! Thank God DH has to deal with it all atm!

Speaking of undercarriages... has anyone else noticed theirs smelling... different from before pregnancy?

supadupapupascupa · 16/11/2011 12:55

yes cakes not unpleasant but different. I also have a new smell from under my boobs where i sweat into my bra. Again not unpleasant. Exactly the same smell as when I had DS Smile

miamama09 · 16/11/2011 12:59

my DH is being a twat at the mo. I don't want to rant about him on here, but he is driving me nuts, arghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!

supadupa I know exactly what you're talking about. My bra smells different, and so do some tops, like my pajama top. Still having quite a few leaking nips episodes as well!

knittiekitty · 16/11/2011 13:02

Well done Fish - reminds me of training my DD - big poo - what a clever girl!!!! Indiginity is the word alright but I'm really glad you're feeling better. I have half a sachet of Fybogel a day if needed and that's gentle enough for, ahem, regular maintenance.
Thanks for the low GI tips all, I've been rigid about following their dietary guidance, otherwise I feel so guilty about what it's doing to baby. Apparently diabetics can commonly end up using 4 times their usual insulin dose in the last trimester so I was expecting it to get worse towards the end. Just was so cross about basic attention lacking, but until that the team have been v good and I suppose we all make mistakes. 33+3 weeks and counting!
I'm at home again today as poor DD puked luxuriously this morning before school. She's camped on the sofa, bored, surrounded by bath towels watching Beebies and desperate for lunch. I let her have 2 little squares of toast with a scraping of jam but won't risk more just yet poor love. Pleeese don't let me get it too fx fx fx fx.
Good advice regarding feeding tops - vest top combo looks easier and modest. I think I've said on here before but I've promised Dh to be calm if it doesn't work this time, as DD wouldn't suck and I pumped until mastitus was agony and was advised to give up. The MW's on the maternity ward helped me to get the colostrum into her using little syringes! We didn't know that she had hypotonic muscle tone until she was 2yrs, so she was unlikley to have ever managed it and I didn't need to get so miserable about it after all. DD is thankfully rarely ill etc so seems to have come to no harm from it. So try not to worry about it in advance, just read up ready!

knittiekitty · 16/11/2011 13:05

Me too cakes - all part of the general grossness it seems!

Fryn · 16/11/2011 13:06

green oh yes, I have been to Titbits - it's divine! And I always pile my plate so high it costs a fortune! Good area downstairs for kids as well.

fish good bf advice! I found it hard for the first 6 weeks, then a doddle (although DD never latched on "properly" despite various BF sessions with various counsellors - but we muddled through for 8 months.) As you say though, there's no shame in giving up if it's not working. I was a formula fed baby (and 1970s formula at that - heaven knows what was in that!) and I've turned out ok!

MakesCakesWhenStressed · 16/11/2011 13:12

I managed to squeeze out a bit of leakage when I was bio-oiling the other day, but it doesn't happen by itself - you have to squeeze quite hard, don't you?

MakesCakesWhenStressed · 16/11/2011 13:46

OK. I killed the thread with TMI. Sorry.

Is anyone else who's doing the hypno finding that they're got increased drive and motivation? I feel like I'm getting through many more tasks than I was previously...

knittiekitty · 16/11/2011 13:50

Lol Cakes - go gently there! What hypno are you doing & is it classes or cd?

GiraffeAHolic · 16/11/2011 13:56

Increased drive and motivation??? Quick share the secret. Well either that or come here and get through some of my tasks instead :)

MakesCakesWhenStressed · 16/11/2011 14:12

Classes. Since Monday I've been running around finishing off all the jobs I've been meaning to do for yonks - like that wretched play mat quilt - I finished it last night and I swear to god I thought I'd still fretting over it when baby turned 18!

fishandlilacs · 16/11/2011 14:29

Cakes...undercarriage... were so mature :) Mine is a lot better today but I am still a little tender. Please can I get me some of that drive and motivation?

Erm, thank for the poo support everyone :) Lol Sorry for over sharing but it was really bugging me last night.

mia sorry your DH is once again being a dick. Hopefully he'll raise his game soon. My DH and I had a bit of a chat last night because he's been preoccupied with his writing and book launch and I have been working hard, now he's got a new computer game for us to play (i love a good gaming experience but get very addicted to them, we both do) asnd what with having slept seperately for so many monhts due to back and pregnancy issues, were a bit distant from each other. Looking fwd to DD going away this weekend so we can spend some productive time together.

How many weeks are you supposed to do hypno for? I have no money til month end but want to buy the CD, but wondering if it will all be pointless because I have left it too late. Obviously I didn't think i was going to ecven look at a natural birth again but as things have changed so much I now think I need to do soemthing. I wonder if they have it at the library....

knittiekitty · 16/11/2011 14:37

I've been wondering the same Fish - the reviews on Amazon are mixed and many seem to recommend a cd to accompany classes but I can't make the local ones here and don't want to pay for 1-2-1 sessions.

I wish there was a spellcheck function on here - I hate my spelling mistakes and think that years with a spell-checker at work has made me lazy or dense or both!

DD is getting fed up and wants to go back to school which must be a good sign. They're learning their Christmas play songs. It's in early Dec and I just know I'll cry - they're all so little and sweet still.

shonnomanom · 16/11/2011 15:17

Sounds like you have all been through the mill this week ladies, what with bodily functions and parents and work. Hope your all starting to see the end of the rainbow now.

yummy please dont give yourself a hard time over BF.
Im sure its already been said, but, not everyone can BF for one reason or another. And some babies (like my dd) just dont want to BF. Like everything else in pregnancy & parenting not everything will work first time or even the fifth. If it doesnt work, try something else, but please dont ever feel like a failure. Its hard enough being under the eye of judgemental people/parents without beating yourself up over something thats outwith your control. A happy mummy is a happy baby Smile

Our trip to triage at the weekend seems to have scared the bejesus out of dp. My kitchen is gleaming, he's waiting on me hand+foot, which is taking some getting used to. And he has made plans to rearrrange the bedroom furniture today and collect the cot this weekend. I am sceptical as to how long this will last, long enough to get things that need done done. I think my persistant 'the baby could be here next month' chant is helping Smile

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MakesCakesWhenStressed · 16/11/2011 16:08

Well a hypno CD will definitely be better than nothing, fish. There's 'Rainbow Relaxations' which accompanies the course and if you started listening now it would def help a bit. It doesn't matter how close to D-Day you o the course, as long as you've had a couple of weeks to practice the self-hypnosis techniques. Obviously my hypno lady won;t be convenient for you (Reading based) but I would be happy to give you her number so you can talk to her about it and she might be able to recommend someone closer and generally give you more info. She's written a book and has some CDs/MP3s you can download I think with various hypnosis things on there. Let me know if you want her details.

She's brilliant and has had 3 children, each of them a v different birthing experience from heavily medicalised and traumatic through to a hypno birth, so you really feel like she genuinely knows what she's talking about. She's also a doula and if we had the money I would so hire her because she's wonderful.

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