January 2012-Close encounters of the third trimester kind.... Too much nesting not enough resting!

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Here we go ladies. A shiney new thread.

No witnesses but I told HR straight away then sent them a follow up email to document it. Boss said he'd 'go along with whatever hr said' - great! but probably a slightly uncomfortable interview for me (as he'd be conducting it and has said he doesn't want me to do it). Raised that with HR as well.

In a previous appraisal (just after announcing i was pg) he said that i 'had compromised my position'. [hshock] Unbelievable...

I don't want to make a fuss but i damn well will if i have to. You're right - it is illegal!

Anyway, I'm quite lucky with legal advice....now....shall i speak to my sister the solicitor, my SIL the barrister, my BIL the barrister or maybe i'll just ask my FIL the judge. Hmmmm..... Then I guess I'd better speak to my other BIL the journalist......

Deesus Grief! Does your boss know what he's up against?! Yes, it's illegal...

I'm sure that's descrimination deesus. Do you have any evidence against him? Bet he was careful to make sure there was no witnesses to hear him being sexist.

This extra baby weight is really aching my back a lot. [hsad] might have to give the physio a call soon.

On the plus side though my dad announced that he's coming over to paint my hallway next week! Very unexpected but very much appreciated [hgrin]

Xpost sorry deesus. Love your legal come back! Can you not ask/insist that there are 2people doing the interviewing rather than just him?

Oeisha He hasn't a clue! But that's because he's a evil robot who takes no interest.... Oh well, his funeral.-..

It is discrimination shon. The thing although there were no witness I honestly don't think he did that intentionally. He almost fainted when i said i was going to apply - it didn't enter into his head that I might want to [hconfused]. I find it absolutely ridiculous that in his role as ops manager he has no bloody clue about employment law, equality, etc, etc. He's like some sort of victorian factory owner....

Really don't want to have to be fussed with all this ....i'm trying to 'slow down' at work as i'm soooo tired > ....but i'll be damned if i'm going to let him get away with this sort of nonesense.

It's weird as i've grown up with lads being my friends, etc so it feels really weird to encounter this sort of sexism (and sad actually). Think i'm still in shock at the moment...

Sorry to hear of your sore back shon - get on to your physio asap if it's bothering you. No point suffering any more than we have to is there! And i'm jealous of your dad coming to paint your walls.....send him up north next please....[hgrin]

ooops....x post again! Yes i've raised that and hr lady said she is looking into it (and she's a nice sort who i trust....she was cringing when i relaying the convo i'd just had...!)

Dad thinks he's only painting my stairs, little does he know that iv got more plans for him mums coming over too now. I figure that as long I keep them fed and watered they should be able to do all three rooms for me next week. [Evil emocon]
Ah deesus we should have coordinated it better. They were in Manchester last week for a family wedding, I could sent them to yours on their way back up north. They don't be in England again until April. Will that be too late?

Might be shon but we're pretty relaxed around here. There'll be something for them to do!

Jesus deesus (I have been waiting to say that since i met you) but your boss is fuckwit. No wonder youre steaming. Totally out of order.

I'm sorry I have not been around today, I have skimmed through, nasty nasty PGP, it's so common it seems. Mine was appauling yesterday but a little better today after using my matenity belt and crutches a lot. Been at work all day then flu jab. My arm is really frickin sore now I can barely lift it. My throat has flared up too. I'm a bit concerned it's going to make me ill.

GTT tomorrow, I have not long had dinner (stroganoff mmmmm) and i'm hungry again. More pins in me. My veins are crap too and I end up looking like a smack addict with bruises and track marks. I am goign to drink lots of water tonight to make sure i'm well hydrated-that makes a hug difference to them gettting at your precious blood.

I am dead on my feet after a bout of worrying about work in the middle of the night, awake from 2am til gone 5am then up at 6.15.

I think I am going to pull a sicky next mon & tues. Really bad of me, but I simply need the time, student mid term reviews are due and I simply don't have enough hours in the day to get thier folders up to date-but if I delay by a week and take it til half term i will be all planned up and ready to see it through to the end. I should be shot, I wont get paid but I am not able to do the paperwork at home thats expected as i'm just too knackered. It's my fault for taking on too much after losing my other job I panicked about money and said yes to everything.

shonno et all. I cannot tell you how delighted i am to see some of you looking at as many jobs as me round the house to get ready. DH has finally started the cupboard in dd's new room and hopes it will be done this w/e. We have bought the paint, her fish stickers have arrived. I have sorted one of the cupboards and made a changing area downstairs (have a little wicker drawer that fits in my tv cabinet with all the necassary in it.

Loving the weeding dresses as well ladies, beeeyootiful!

Anyway, I'm quite lucky with legal advice....now....shall i speak to my sister the solicitor, my SIL the barrister, my BIL the barrister or maybe i'll just ask my FIL the judge. Hmmmm..... Then I guess I'd better speak to my other BIL the journalist......

Love it!

Can't join in on the conversations regarding dreams - I'm lucky to have one considering I'm awake every night between 2:30 and 3:30am.

I have my anti-D injection tomorrow ... in the bum!!! At least it's another morning out and then PPA in the afternoon (planning time) so no teaching!

mum2b what is it with the witching hour awakenings? I'm exactly the same. I wake up sometime between 2.30-3.30am and stay awake for at least an hour. usually mithering about something but even if my head is at peace I am simply awake.

With all these tests we sound more like pin cushions than pregnant ladies...

at Jesus Deesus.

Blimey Deesus! What an arse.... I'm surprised the HR lady didn't faint.

hah hah hah - watching 'Daybreak' (don;t judge me - at least awful Adrian isn't on on a Friday) and they just had a bunch of saddos queuing up to get the new iPhone . I mean, I like my technology, but I just don;t get this silly obsession type thing. And talking of awful TV presenters - I wish they'd ditch awful Eamon Holmes off 'This Morning' tactless, charmless, slimy and stupid - why oh why ITV?

Right - what Halloween name can I have? MakesCakesWhenScared? Bit lame, but the best I can do.

Sorry to hear your arm was sore fish, at least you weren;t dumb enough to walk it into a door right after! unlike some I could mention... I've had a scratchy throat the last few days, but it hasn;t really turned into anything, so will keep fingers crossed yours is the same.

Good luck with the Anti-D in yer bum Mum2b - never been so grateful to have a positive blood type!

Reading another good book atm, by Sheila Kitzinger called 'The Crying Baby' (or something similar) - excellent excellent read, very enlightening on several fronts. Hrm, must check when I'm due to renew my books at the library...

Oh yes - I forgot - who was it who wanted the sticky ginger cake recipe with super sticky ginger icing? I am happy to post it here, but will PM if you tell me who you are so I don't threadjack any more than I have already

I feel lousy after the flu jab too fish and couldn't sleep on my left side as arm is so sore. I could quite honestly stay in bed all day. Unfortunately though I have so much to do today .
Dh sanded down the floor in the hall yesterday, and despite laying sheets around to cut off the dust from going everywhere, we now have a layer of yellow dust covering the entire house!

Just wondering whether any of us might end up giving birth in the same hospitals? I will be an elcs at Lincoln hospital , anyone else?

ARGGGGHHHHHH

Having a crappy day with dd who won't co-operate, dont have tv to distract myself or her, I have to go out to visit someone I really don't want to (dirty house (highly embarrissing when dd picks crumbs etc up and says 'dirty'), dirty kids, dd always very clingy, kids always hurt dd, dangerous things everywhere where kids can reach eg sharp knives, wires hanging out and she sees no problem with any of this) I have no clothes for me or dd, I have no food in the house and want to go back to bed :(

Hormonal complaining over, now to get on with the day!

That sounds like I'm being a judgemental bitxh! Let me explain further. she doesnt believe in 'breaking her sons spirits' so they never get told off, they rip sockets off the walls, tear doors off hinges, smash through floor boards and she says 'how sweet' they have no respect for her or her house and do the same at other peoples homes. her 3 boys are all under 5 btw. She also believes that if they are 'exposed' to knives at a young age they won't hurt themselves however its not what i believe and i dont like dd having them. She undermines me by giving dd things when I say no and says i will raise a uninquisitive child if I say no to her. She doesn't see the point in cleaning as it only gets dirty again, so doesn't Hoover the carpets or dust or anything. But away from her parenting and kids she is lovley and she's ill at the moment so I said id go round and visit. (we normally meet at a park or soft play!)

Nope I think I'm just a judgemental bitch!

addicted - OMG - sounds like a bit of a nightmare. The closer I get to being a mummy, the more hippy-ish I'm getting, but even I draw the line at those sorts of tactics. What a nutter. Kids thrive on boundaries - they like to know where they stand.
PM me your phone number and I'll call you with an 'emergency' when you've been there half an hour! lol

Worm I'm hoping for a natural birth (fingers crossed) at Wallingford MWLU

OMG can't believe Deesus that someone in this day would be that stupid. I can only imagine it really makes you worried. My dh recruits as part of his job and couldn't believe it when I told him what you said keep notes of when and where.

As for me i slept really badly woke up after dreaming they were trying to give me an epidural and couldn't get it in after repeated attempts. I swear I could feel physical pain while asleep. Strangely have never had one or normally worry about such things till now. WOke up feeling really upset and Elliot was kicking out all over the place so dh had to hold both of us till I could go back to sleep.

Deesus OMG your boss sounds like a dinosaur, can't believe he said those things! No wonder you feeling so stressed and upset.

Addicted That sounds like a nightmare, I know we all have different ideas about how to bring up our kids, but still, her method sounds mental, kids need boundaries to feel safe, and need to know who is in charge, there is a reason children have parents and that is because they are too young to make good safe choices for themselves. Sorry to rant, but have known others like your friend and the worse thing is noone seems happy, not the kids, not the parents, and they wonder why noone wants to visit or have their children round? It is the kids that suffer the most. Gosh do I sound really strict and victorian? I'm really not!

Dog kept us awake again last night and had flu jab yesterday so also not feeling top notch, could just go back to sleep right now, and we have people coming round this evening eek, hope I feel better later.

addicted not a judgmental bitch. The woman's just a mentalist. It's not ok to leave knives where children can get them and it's not OK not to discipline children. Sometime I'd love social services just to do unannounced visits on all parents just to check...but then that's also madness as most of us are fine. I just to work wiht a lot of kids with "no boundaries" and it's so heartbreaking watching them struggle to function round others. And it's def. not ok for them to hurt DD. If their mother's too lazy to discipline them for it, then go for it yourself...bloody unacceptable!

nanny not a good dream. At least DH was about for snuggles.

Bugger knows what I was dreaming lastnight. Don't remember a thing, which is so unlike me...oh, wait. I think I had one where I was telling my not-quite-actual-cuz I couldn't have sex with him because I was 1) happily married and 2) had just given birth and did he think it was really appropriate right now?!
So, he isn't my cuz, but is my Mums cuz's son, but thanks to my Mum's fucked-up past, she lived with them for a bit...and were living a few doors from eachother all through childhood blah blah blah, so is seen as a cuz IYSWIM. Basically all the older women in my family thought (probably still think, but I got married so MEH!) we were perfect for eachother and kept 'suggesting' it to me...freaks! I'd kill him within 24h of being alone with him...and not using my femanine wiles as one suggested when I said this...families eh!? So, that has lead to infrequent dreams about not having sex with him. Wonderful things minds...

Humm, I suppose I'd better do lunch and work then. Just hope work doesn't trigger beastly backache like it did yesterday. Just a low-grade niggle right now.

hi ladies, just checking in briefly (50 appointments down, 10 to go, and only one day left!). Am absolutely shattered and making no sense anymore, but thankfully the bleeding stopped midweek and ppm has been kicking the heck out of me all week, so there's no chance of being so distracted by work that I worry I haven't been monitoring the little one. I had an almighty kick to the cervix in the middle of an important meeting with some Italian publishers - very strange situation!

anyway, am heading out to find some food now - hopefully something that won't make the heartburn worse...