January 2012-Close encounters of the third trimester kind.... Too much nesting not enough resting!

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Here we go ladies. A shiney new thread.

scrambled thats a bit out of order from your MW I think. Mine didn't even argue, ikt wasn't done as part of an appointment. I just phoned and said "my backs really hurting please can you refer me for physio so I can get a maternity belt?" and she said yes and the appointment came through the next day.

The more I read about people from other areas and thier treatment by the medical profession near them I realise how lucky I am in Worcester.

I am lighting a candle tonight. My dear friend has gone in tonight to have her operation tomorrow first thing.

scrambled that seems a bit odd. Both about the PGP and the diabetes test. A BMI of 25 is perfectly normal. In my area the BMI for the compulsory test is 30. I'd have thought an extra scan would cost them more than a blood test. Though I'm wondering- are you overseas? If i'm remembering correctly you're in Finland? That might be why it seems so different.

Ps sorry if I've remembered wrong.

My midwife said it would be a self federal for physio, not sure how that works but mine has just about gone now thankfully. I am still keeping legs together all the time and have got quite adept at getting in and out the car like the queen!

how do you know if you have PGP? I've started getting bad pains from my lower belly on one side, through my groin and down the inside of one leg, especially when lifting the leg (ie- getting in and out of knickers), walking or driving. It started a few days ago and has been getting worse to the point where it's actually made me swear a couple of times today. Should I just hang on till my MW appt on Monday and ask her about it?

Cakes it could be - mine started with aches in my groin and glutes. It sort of progressed to the pubic bone. shonno posted a link to a really helpful leaflet a few threads ago. This isn't it but a link to the nhs version which is similar.

I've aggrevated mine today getiing out of an awkward train seat :(

That should say self refferal..............pesky auto-correct!

I think that sounds like PGP-it's variable in it's intensity. Mine is soo bad now (manifested in my back instead of my groin this time) that walking anywhere sends shooting pains down my leg and my back locks up. Hence the crutches. Not that they help much.
When I was pregnant with dd it was no where near as bad and each side of my groin either side of my pubic bone. What you describe cakessounds like me the first time round. I was given a maternity belt and some stretches, told to keep my legs together, not squat or do breaststroke in the pool. I ignored it and did yoga, and squatting felt so good. I'm not suggesting you should do that ofc.

I have developed a craving, the first time I have had a proper weird one. Marzipan dipped in strawberry yogurt. Weirdly it doesn't even taste that good but I want it.

scrambled Re: PGP. I'd def. go to GP and get them to refer you for physio. My local PCT has a self-referal system for physio...no need for any medical "intervention" before hand, so it might be worth looking into?!

Re: BMI, are you at risk from GD for another reason? Like others have said, a BMI of 25 is perfectly respectable, technically JUST puts you in the 'overweight' catagory I think (UL and US at least), but still nothing to worry about. You usually have to have a BMI of 30 (and thus be 'obese') for them to worry in UK.

Re: movements. I'm counting strong punches/kicks as 1 each(though if she's just boxing me repeatedly I count that as 1 too) then squiggles (these can last minutes at a time) as 1. MW seemed happy with this, and suggested monitoring from 5pm - 5pm giving me time to get to triage/local birthing unit for a check up if Abi's gone quiet. I've been monitoring in 3h blocks and am using 2300-0800 as nap time. Essentially to learn when she's more active for later on, and because I'm curious like that. It's still too early (26wks) for me to worry too much about actual numbers (especially as I have anterior placenta), so I'm not that wedded to them. But I do worry if she's been quiet, and will sit with feet up and this this usually get her moving - she's obv. being a good girl and letting me work when I need to!

cakes No idea, but I'd be ringing MW, even if she told me to sod off and wait 'til Monday.

Gizzard has helpfully plonked himself on my baby audit file mat notes and if I try and move him, well, you just don't try moving a cat that's giving you THAT look...

I had some not totally, but only partially unexpected news today! After counting up all the time owed and leave I'm owed...my leave will start on 16th Nov!!! WOOT! So lots of relaxing and not going shut-in mental for 2 months.

Shitting crikey, Gizzard's now trying to EAT the mat notes...think he wants attention.

Thanks Parsley - it does sound like my symptoms. Bum. Will call MW tomorrow I think. It's still early on atm, so might be able to head it off at the pass.

Oh now - DH just accidentally deleted some work that's been running on his comp for weeks - black cloud approaching :(

evening all. Sorry i don't any advice about pgp or anything. hope you all get rid of it though!

just wanted to come on here to say we've had a productive hour on amazon and ebay and I now have baby bottles, steriliser, wipes, and cotton wool! eeeeek! feeling a bit more organised now (even though i don't have a sling, cot, pushchair, moses basket, etc etc etce tceetce etece etece!!)
just started looking into breast pumps and real nappies but getting worn out and tired with too many baby decisions! anyone got any advice on either of those things?

and keep your fingers crossed for a ridiculously cheap baby carrier I'm bidding for on ebay - nobody else seems interested but I'm just waiting for a pesky sniper to snatch it away.... 18mins and counting.... eeeeeeeeeeek

getting a bit more real now isn't it...... i had crazy dreams last night in which I saw the face of my boy for the first time - he looked like my husband as a kid, but had my freaky different coloured eyes! woke up feeling a bit mad!

didn't win the carrier, boo hiss!! better not have been any of you ladies snipering me!!!

redhead I also had a crazy dream. Thanks to some cramping I had a dream I was in labour. Woke up very paranoid, but all seems fine.
Fingers crossed for baby carrier!

cakes hope DH isn't too cross.

MW appointment went fine. Asked if my scan can be brought forward from 36 weeks + 5 to 32 weeks. She said if they did that and the placenta was near the cervix, they'd just have me in for another scan. As long as I am not bleeding, all should be fine. I asked about discharge (sorry - TMI) as having loads. That fine. Talked about baby movements - 2/3 days of intense activity and 2/3 days of limited activity. She said that's fine. Blood pressure fine - 110/70 - although creeping up slightly from 100/60 last time. Baby's head is engaged already ?!?! and HB was 122-140 beats per minute, which according to her indicated a BOY! (I know - old wives tale - but fun still). So it looks like it could be William James but still keeping Charlotte Elizabeth as an option - just in case! DH apparently likes Maisie too, which angered me as three months ago, he disliked it?!? He said as a middle name, not a first name. So maybe Charlotte Maisie?

No news on the road works. DH was given another number to ring. This time it worked but no answer so he's trying in the morning. Told the office ladies at work who were understanding and said HT would be too - especially as it would be only 3 weeks til maternity and I suppose they can call on my replacement if necessary as the interviews are next week. 22 applied for the job.

The PGP Leaflet my lovely physio gave me. Nowadays my pelvis isnt givin me too much hassle except at the end of day, but my back is aching pretty much all day.

I had a bit of meltdown tonight
Dp works on a shift rotation and for some reason I was convinced that he was on Day shift next week and could help in do the baby prep for the flat as im on holiday. Turns out he is on the evil Back Shift meaning he is out from 1230 to 2200 everyday. He says not to worry & that everything will get done on time. Truth - he needs a rocket up his arse and needs to be home long enough to be able to do anything.
Im sure if I asked my parents they would come over and help. But I cant help but feel that I shouldnt have to ask for help. He should want to do it and not work 7 fricken days a week.

Guess Im a bit over emotional just now as well because of the wedding that we're going to this weekend.
Dp set his best friend up with his at-the-time GF's sister. Its their wedding. Its not the fact that its his ex's family thats the problem. Iv known her longer than I have dp and dp feels nothing but pity for her as she is very messed up.
Its the fact that we're going to yet another wedding where everyone is going to be asking when its our turn. We'v been together nearly 10years and he is always coming out with reasons as to why we shouldnt get married. My brother emigrates next Autumn and I really want him at my wedding. Its not too much to ask is it.

Sorry rant over. Where did I hide that choc bar !??!?!

Oh frick. Forgot to say I had the MW today.
Bump is measuring 30cm, slightly bigger than it should be for 28weeks but not concerning. At the time baby was head down.
The mw couldnt do my bloodtests as my viens wouldnt perform for her. Ended up having to wait to see the Practice Nurse who had to use Butterfly Needles to get me flowing. I know have a few bruises due to all the poking and proding.

Weird dreams here too, I had one last night where I gave birth to a button, I was convinced it was a real baby but everyone kept telling me it was just a button. Dh and I had a massive row and divorced over it .

My dream obviously has NOTHING to do with the button Christmas decorations I'm currently making. No siree, nothing at all!

Shonno if its any consolation dh and I haven't even started on the new babys room yet, infact before we can we need to start finish dds room which is currently full of stuff to go to the dump. And its not just a case of decorating the babys room we need to re-do the stair header, re-plaster, paint then put a carpet down. I also need to get my act together and sort through dds old things and work out what I need to buy. Have I mentioned dh works stupidly long hours I have a 11 month old dd and have cfs? 14 weeks? No I have another 6 months surely! [ostrich emotocon!]

Our babies room isn't even started yet either, and we need to rip floor up change skirtings and arcs before we can think about painting.
I'm off for my flu jab today....

Whilst I remember: E Petition to campaign for more midwives

Right - that being done it sounds like you need a big hug Shon.

Have you got some legal protection in place so if something happens to DP you're covered? Don't want to be a doom and gloom merchant, but it's what I worry about with my friend who has a child with her partner but he won't marry her - it feels like he's keeping his options open (but then I am biased against him because I know he cheated on her in the past) and I don't want her left on her own with no recourse to the financial protection marriage offers. At least make sure all his pension/insurance etc names you...?

Hope you manage to convince him to do the thing up properly, though, before your brother heads off. Ooh - and invite all of us along, we could have a creche at the wedding for all those January babies! :-)

Oh - and DH managed to recover most of what he deleted, so no grumps.

addicted your post made me smirk and giggle on the train on the way into work this morning - I love the button dream I got various wierd looks!

Did any one see "the toughest place to be a midwife" a very eye opening documentory following a uk midwife in Liberia. I had to agree with the midwife I am really glad to be giving birth in the uk after watching that. Never been so shocked in my life seeing what happened to these poor women and babies.

shonno Talked to DH about this kind of thing the other day, and despite what we say we want, men seem hardwired into panicking and working as hard as they can to bring in as much money as they can. Trying to get them to see otherwise is futile. Plus, because they're not physically going through all this crap the joy that is pg they don't realise just how close it feels to us all. As far as they can see Xmas is still ages away (shops don't seem to be totally crammed with xmas fluff yet etc etc), even though WE all know that essentially, any day now, we could see our LOs.

I've got stuff for Abi's toom (errr....room) but the actually room's still full of crap. Another appealing side to the JL list idea was that I can buy stuff slowly and they hold it for me until we're ready to have it delivered. No 'extra' stuff just lurking making me feel guilty for slacking 'til we're ready for it.

As for the wedding thing. I was the reluctant party. Not because I didn't love DH or plan on spending my life with him (some bit of paper's not gonna make me less inclined to divorce him), it was 1) it's expensive to do a big thing and 2) I utterly HATE being the centre of attention, especially when photographs are involved 3) my Mum's totally BSM and I was dreading having to 'plan' the affair and the stresses it would bring. As it was DH planned it all in 5 weeks, had 21 guests and basically took them out for lunch and then a curry later. I think, license + registry office cost about £170. Maybe telling him exactly what you want will help?

They also fought to take my bloods at one point (can't wait 'til 28wk bloods!). Ended up with a butterfly and taking it out the side of my wrist and 2 very bruised arms (6 plasters on one, smexeh blues ones too cos of work, and 5 on the other). Hypermobile veins during pg is very common.

cake phew indeed!
Petition signed.

addicted loving the dream...better than one about thermal jackets being ordered for you by mistake!

Hi all,

worm am also off for flu jab this afternoon, what joy!

Then tomorrow off to MW for bloodtests tomorrow, must be my week for needles!

Am struggling at work this morning as the dog has kept me awake alot of the night. She usually sleeps in her basket in our room but often wakes us u pacing or chewing, or trying to get out of the bedroom into the kitchen to eat cat food. We decided to try to get her to sleep in the kitchen instead, so that when the baby comes we are not being woken up twice as much as we think this might just drive us mad. So she spent most of the night jumping up at the kitchen door, trying to dig a hole under the kitchen door and generally being very noisy! We are going to persevere tho, keep telling dp that it is good practice!

Desuss that is a coincidence, wherebouts you planning to have your baby? I had opted for St James, but now hoping for a homebirth if all goes well.

can't believe it tried to book my 28 week appointment and they are booked for 2 weeks. So Midwife will have to squeeeze me in.

Our to do list:

• finish stripping the hall and stairs & redecorate
• declutter our bedroom
• paint our bedroom
• paint kids room
• rebuild the interior of kids built in wardrobe
• buy cot and all it needs
• buy new chest of drawers
• put out broken chair and broken drawer sets for collection
• arrange collection
• put coffee table in to storage

I think thats everything

The problem with dp is that he is too set in his ways. Due to mortgage etc everything is joint names so as far as thats concerned im covered. He proposed after a year together but I was only 19 and he didnt have a ring so I told him to buy one then I would say yes. He's often spoke about buying a ring, iv even picked one out and tried it on in front of him but he still hasnt bought it. ps, the ring is even reduced just now so what better time
Depending on his mood he is pro wedding and pro moving back to my goldfish bowl home village. We have planned our 'big purse' wedding and our 'small purse' wedding. And we're both happy to have a small registry office wedding with just family and meal afterwards. But he refuses to do it while im pregnant - too protect me from the stress

Anyways, he realised that I was upset last night and called from work to tell me that he had tried to swap his shift for next but was unsucessful. And he's asked me to wake him up before I leave for work so he can strip the rest of the hall today. Also, he's decided not to work tommorrow night so we can have the whole weekend together just the 2 of us. It will be the most time we have spent together since before dd was born.

Anyways, rant complete. brew time x

addicted loved your dream! I have been having some whacky ones too, but mostly I forget the minute I wake up!