January 2012-Close encounters of the third trimester kind.... Too much nesting not enough resting!

[fishandlilacs]

Here we go ladies. A shiney new thread.

red is a birthing ball exactly the same as a Swiss ball? I've already got a Swiss ball I had assumed I could use that [hconfused]

i think it's basically the same thing but for pregnancy you just have to make sure it's the right size to help foetal positioning and opening up the pelvis properly. So when you sit on it your knees have to be below the level of your hips. If they are then I guess it's fine! not an expert though!!

im taking what the phycic said with a pinch of salt, ame will come when she comes. only thing im worried about is that ame is a little fatty now and weighs 2.7 and the hosbital said at 27 weeks she should only weigh 1.7 but at least she is healthy thats all i care about!!

oeisha, ass-hat is one of my favourite insults in the whole world

Morning all

Working from home today to sort flooring people out. Plumber has done his stuff have no 2 ft pipe any more. Just a hole hopefully back on track. Amazing what a pregnancy fueled minor strop can achieve.

mummyzoe I didn't think they could actually really tell how much baby weighs in the womb. I think it's more of a best guess so I wouldn't worry too much.

Ps. I shall also be using ass-hat from now on. [hgrin]

hee hee hee - I got laid last night DH's biological impulses finally overcame his "but there's someone in there already" squeamishness :D

I slept like the dead, I swear to God. Magic

Hrm, think I owe that physio a bunch of flowers, no way I'd have been able to contemplate doing that a week ago.

Glad the plumbing got sorted Parsley - hope the rest of the work goes smoothly.

trubble - how did the NCT go last night? Nice people? As nice as us?

Mum2be - hope you're feeling better today, please come and let us know how you're doing

Fish - how's your little girl these days? Does she seem a bit more secure now or is she still having problems?

Good morning!

Thank you so much for the hugs and advice. I feel tons better this morning. DH came home last night looking 'sheepish'. (He's also been on FB so would have seen my status update and our friend's comments, so would be feeling a tad guilty).

We're okay. He admitted last night that he was tired too. So we did nothing except watch TV and had a mundane chat about nothing really. He brought up the cotbed and mattress in the conversation and checked that my parents bought it and he seemed happy at that. (Tight fisted git!)

He did ask me what I had done yesterday to which I replied 'nothing much'. He didn't respond - which is just as well as he could clearly see in the house that my day had been busy!

On other matters:
Antenatal classes
Anyone having these with the NHS? My MW said I missed out on the last cohort at my 28 week appointment and said I would find out via the post of the next ones. Considering I'm in my final stretch (30 weeks + 4), I'm getting a little anxious. I want to 'try' and persuade DH to come to at least one so he knows what he's in for! I think he's totally oblivious to it all. He isn't allowed any more time off and he has no holidays to take so he'll have to take it unpaid if he's allowed (and he wants to!)

red Thanks for advice about birthing ball. I was wondering 'how would I know what size to get?' I'm pretty small (5ft 2ins) so i suppose the smaller one will do?

Went into work yesterday to pick up my planning stuff (what joy!?) and EVERYONE concerned that I'm going to 'drop' pretty early. I am carrying low (always have), have terrible 'fullness' and aches in lower region and baby's head was down at 28 week appointment. Who knows! As long as it's not as work. I dread to think I'd be transported to Scarborough General. I prefer York - even if it is a 1 hour and 15 min drive from work. I'd drive myself if I had to!!!

Today, I pan to do VERY little. I will do some 'sly' washing (DH hates it being done during the day with us being on economy 7 at night), hoover kitchen floor as usual and do some planning in front of afternoon TV. Afterall, it is raining!

Urgh makes cakes, dh and I had sex on Tuesday, it was so uncomfortable and horrible I was relieved when it was over [hblush], I've told him he's not getting any more until the dcs are 20!

Mum2b glad your feeling alittle better.

So on what level do you think I can claim that a packet of buscuits for breakfast is healthy? [hblush] I just ment to have 1 but have had the whole packet. I did the same yesterday and Monday...and Sunday...and well, for the past 2 weeks. I think i may need to look at my diet!

Flooring people are late [hhmm]

Glad you're feeling a bit better mum2be. My NHS AntiNatal date has come through today for 19 Nov 10-2.30 . The only issue is that I'm getting married at 1.30 so don't think I can fit it in.... Apparently they only run the 3rd Sat of every month - hopefully they won't cancel the December one because of Xmas!

Excited update - I FINALLY have two flooring men downstairs laying my dining-room floor !!! No more concrete floor, dining-room table and piano stuck in middle of living room, sideboard dismembered in garage and new cupboard in pieces in outhouse! Not before time either - my mum is flying out for 11 days on Monday so this weekend we have to madly rush and put all the furniture back because she sleeps in the dining room!! If any of you with kids already know the Julia Donaldson poem "A squash and a squeeze", this is how I'm going to feel when everything's done!!

M2B glad to hear things are back on track, but don't let yourself be put upon or treated like that any more. House rules, m'dear, and fair division of labour .

I am so behind atm... I was supposed to go to my gyn tomorrow, but I had some results to pick up yesterday that I didn't have time to pick up, I haven't done my bloods and urine (I have to do them at least the day before with the nurse so he has the results), and I can't possibly go tomorrow anyway as it's DD2's swearing-in ceremony at school and I'm on the parents' committee for her class, so have to oversee the little party afterwards (pour the juice, make tea and coffee for parents, clear tables and do the washing-up afterwards). Anyway, wouldn't miss her big day for the world!
The kids have a huge day at school today because they have dancing and karate after lessons, followed today by a Halloween party, so they'll be in school 8-6 !! and DD1 is looking under the weather anyway, so probably at the weekend she'll end up coming down with some horrible lurgy...
And yesterday I found out that DH has put the pram and related baby crap equipment in the outhouse (former pigsty and chicken coop - don't ask!)without any plastic sheeting or other protection over it, so the whole lot will need washing, airing and we will have to bring it in... Thank God mum is coming - she likes having a mission in life - well, she can be chief baby stuff washer for the next week...

x-post Parsley I feel your pain, my dear! Mine were supposed to come on Tuesday...

addicted - was the bump getting in the way? I was worried it would hurt the PGP, but it wasn't an issue and DH seems to have been reading up on 'doable' positions for the third trimester Nice that he's read something out of those baby books I keep lobbing his way!

Ha abeautifulbutterfly you'll be full of frolics and fiddlededees!

I shall NOT be reviewing the DreamGenii. It took me half an hour to get it back in it's pillow case and then I didn't sleep at all all night, how is that a 'magic night sleep'?

Really hoping it wasn't the pillows fault and will try again tonight.

Midwife this afternoon finally going for my 28 week appointment at 30+4

Anyone know anything about birthing pools? Is it ok to get a second hand one and a new liner? I figure if you hire one it's been pre-used anyway and I can get one second hand for a fraction of the hire cost.

I think you should review it if it's that bad...

Give it one more night, then see!

I know nothing about birthing pools, but I figure they're waterproof, so a good wipe down with disinfectant and you're sorted anyway - it's not like any germs can seep into the fabric of them or anything, is it?

Morning all,

giraffe I hated the dream genii when I was expecting dd1-I tried it for about a month then sold it on ebay-each to thier own I guess. I have a bizarre pillow arrangement now. I have a maternity wedge which I keep behind my back, a curved maternity pillow from mothercare that goes under my bump and 2 pillows under my knees. It works but it's bugger if you need to turn over!

I had an inflatable birthing pool in prep for dd-birth pool in a box for £50 on ebay. I didn't even bother with an new liner-just gave it good going over with dettol. It never got used other than as a hot tub one evening, as she never came out naturally but i would recommend it, very deep and sturdy-just make sure you have standard taps and on demand hot water. I sold it on ebay for £80 in the end.

cakes I'm so jealous of your "sexy party" (channels family guy Stuey) DH just have given up on the whole shebang for now :( TBH I haven't even got any urges anyway. My sister informed me that BIL and her have been randy as hell, tmi but i did ask. Cest la vie, sex is overated (she says, consoling herself). Thanks for your concern over dd-this half term is doing us the world of good, I'm massively behind with work but I have made her a priority this week-we have done lots of lovely things together. I have missed her at home so much, I think the baby outburst of a few weeks ago was more to do with that and school than the baby. She's back to her lovely loving self. I can here her playing in the lounge right now, chuntering away. Cute as.

I was born with a no entry sign on my hymen - it was my dads ploy to make sure I never hadsex [hgrin] I had an operation to get it removed a few years ago, but sex has always been 'tight' and sometimes uncomfortable and painful (not always, were still trying to figure what triggers the pain, but i can often feel where the internal stitches are) so shen you add in a bump and an over enthusiastic dh who hasn't had any for weeks, it just wasnt a nice experience!

I'd say wipe over birthing pool with detol or minton and itll be fine!

dreamgenii I too was perplexed by it when it first came. I stuck with it and found that it does help. Although by morning I find myself on my back . I did think about trying a night's sleep without it but considering DH bought it for me, I think I better stick with it! In fact, last night I slept continuously from 11pm until 6:10pm.

sex DH put off by it when initiated by him so we do 'other stuff'. My drive is all over the place but when I am in the mood, DH lies back and lets me go for it! So he can't be that put off by it!!

my DH was supposed to be coming home from Libya tomorrow, but then it was moved to yesterday because of everything that happened there last week. Unfortunately the jet which is supposed to bring the guys home is broken, with no news about when it will be fixed, so he couldn't come home yesterday or today, and doesn't know if he'll even make the original deadline now. Boooo....

Sorry to hear that ghost

ghost Is your DH in the services then?
It's when I hear stories like that I realise how fortunate I am to have my dh home with me everyday. I couldn't have it any other way. I'm sorry he wont be home x

You know i'd quite like to do a roll call on here-you know basics age, area your jobs, dh's jobs-just so we know who's who x

Aw that's rubbish ghost will you have some time together when he finally makes it home?

How much pressure 'down there' is normal at 30 weeks? I feel like I'm literally holding the baby in. If its likely to be a problem I need to arrange childcare for my appt today.

thanks giraffe, fish, and parsley - it's making me feel quite down at the moment that DH is away; I'm missing him a lot, and I feel like he's missing out on pamplemousse's most active weeks in there. Still, he's doing all this now in the the hope that he won't be sent on any long (1 month) detachments early in the new year.

Fish yes, he's an RAF pilot. We've added up his stats for the last few years and he is away from home about half the year all told; the longest stint tends to be 4-5 weeks which he does 3-4 times a year, plus lots of shorter trips and nights on call at the RAF base (we don't live there). The RAF is short of pilots (partly due to cuts, partly due to the remaining pilots being given quite a hard time, so lots of them have left) and it has been quite difficult of late. He works extremely hard when he is home, too. It will be hard with a new baby, but we'll just have to cope I guess; he has another 7 years to go, but then he can retire (at age 38). Of course, he'll want to find another job, but the remuneration package (as it stands, at 38) should be worth staying in for.

And I do like the idea of a roll call, but I'm wary of posting all my details in one place (it's bad enough that I witter on about things in such detail) - not good for data protection I'm afraid. Sorry if that seems a bit rubbish.

oh and at present he is due to go back out there in 2 weeks... fx that won't happen now.

I'm 29 weeks (but was measuring 30 weeks at 28) and I can't say I've noticed much pressure, so am not sure what to advise; it's probably just the baby's position and all the extra fluid etc. I have developed a bit of a waddle from time to time, especially when I've just stood up. Hope someone can provide a more helpful answer.

Sorry to hear that, ghost. Must be a huge disappointment. Hope he gets home asap and gets to stay for as long as poss.