April 2012 Babies - 2nd thread to welcome the 2nd trimester

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Join us as we head out of the secretive, scary, slightly sicky first trimester and into the bump emerging, supposedly blossoming, energy boosting second trimester.

Previous thread here

Stats thread here

notso - We need to see what the loss adjustor says, there might be a simple solution. No, I haven't seen the doctor yet. We are going to get emergency appointments in the morning. DS only started showing symptoms on Friday night and they aren't open on Saturdays. I know there is a very small risk of miscarriage if I get it (I might have, I had a really nasty mouth ulcer and I've had a sore throat and felt out of sorts for days) but what can I do? I can't not look after my son.

Snowy27 Sorry to hear about your pain and bleeding. Could it be a subchorionic heamatoma? I had one with DS and experienced cramping and bleeding on and off up to 13 weeks.

notso - great news about the lump; must be such a relief

bear you poor love; that sounds very stressful worrying about the house and looking after poor ill DS. Hope he is better soon and you are not coming down with it. and fingers crossed the loss adjustor has good news for you.

I felt first kicks today (18 weeks tomorrow) - quite exciting. quite sharp little things; made me sit up and squeal in surprise each time.

Back again .... . We went on a last-minute holiday to Spain for a week and I feel so much better "inside & outside" now. Sunshine and to be able to sleep whenever I wanted and needed really was the best thing.

Before we went, I had my MW appointment last week. Went there alone and had a good cry and basically told her everything. It was just what I needed. She was was a (young) mother of 2 and grandmother of 4 herself and understood. She said, it's ok to feel negative at times, at the end of the day there is that alien thing taking over your life and it needs time to adjust. The only thing is not to beat yourself up about feeling negative. And she promised me that all will be better soon. I know that might not be true but sometimes a white lie or some reassurance is all you want to hear. We talked for over an hour but it felt like 20 mins. At the end she said let's hear baby's heartbeat and this was just perfect.

I'm scheduled to see her again tomorrow for my 16 weeks scan (normally can't make an appointment at C&W with the MW of your choice but she made an exception for me). I am nervous and excited about it. I think about all the things I've done wrong, especially food wise. I just hope that the baby is alive and kicking!

hooray for your lovely mw thaleia - it really makes all the difference. and a holiday and some rest; must have done you a lot of good. good luck for your 16w scan.

I think I only see a mw once or twice more now, and most appointments are at the GP. which is annoying - I don't have a regular gp; it's a joint practice where you just get whoever, and I've never liked any of them when I've been before. Also feel they are less attuned to pg women as it's not their day to day as it is for mws. Although no big deal really. Next appt is 20 wk scan on 2nd Dec, which will be nice to get past!

Hi all - just checking in after my 20 week scan (at 19+1!). It all went well, baby is healthy and 'of average size'. She thought it was a girl but then he flipped over and BOOM there was an unmistakable willy! So excited. DH undeniably proud at the clarity of the image! Sonographer said 'heavens - look at that!' ;)

Sickness is really easing off now...heading for 2 weeks puke free!

lol spannermary great news about your 20 wk scan. Mine is still awhile away on Dec 9 - - but that's just three weeks right? :D
Glad you have a good mid-wife thaleia - I have seen two different ones - both were nice but I doubt there's going to be a continuing relationship with any one particular person which is sad but oh well - such is the system.

Thanks ladies

Found out something interesting yesterday - not every NHS hospital offers the same "package". I had to wait 2 weeks for my blood test results after the 12 weeks scan but have a scheduled, NHS, 16 weeks scan later today. A colleague of hubby has had her blood test results within 2hrs but not scan "in between", so next one was at 20 weeks.

I think it's unusual to get a 16w scan - I've never heard of it before anyway; I thought 12w and 20w were the only standard NHS ones. And sadly seems unusual to get continuity of care as well - last time I saw a different person every single time, even for a homebirth - at least I had met all of the hb midwives at least once so it wasn't a total stranger who turned up!

Tbh for me the fewer appointments the better as I find them a bit of a hassle - especially carting DD round with me. Last time so many of them seemed very cursory and not really much point to them.

lol at your exhibitionist baby boy spannermary! v exciting

Hi all. Have spread the word now about the pregnancy, have had lot's of Mums congratulating me on the school yard so news travels fast! My Mum and Dad seemed pleased but a bit surprised.

spanner congratulations for your boy! I have never been able to see any 'bits' on my scans!

I know my community M/W well now, this will be the third pregnancy she's seen me through. I wish it was her at the birth but I know a few of the hospital ones now as well.
20 week scan on the 5th December, then consultant again on the 6th. Had my Glucose Tolerance Test date for Feb, dreading it already, I threw up last time!
Been to look at double prams again today and wasn't really taken with any of them.

Hi All,

I didn't have a scan at my 16 week appt - just a consultant with the MW as I had a large ovarian cyst removed 4 years ago - all good now and they don't see why I shouldn't have a MW led pregnancy.

I can't wait for the 20 week scan (2 weeks today) and I hope my Pip is as camera ready as yours was Spanner! We're dying to know what we're having!

Pip does a little song and dance every now and then, epsecially when I eat something sweet... :-) Is still really quite strange!

Hi, just wondering if anyone has any advice about swapping hospitals?

I live in Salford and my original plan was to have baby at St Marys birth centre- but now I'm wondering if I should go for Salford Birth centre instead?

The only downside to Salford is that there will be no 'labour' ward- only a birth centre so any problems means an ambulance to St Marys (about 10 minutes) but this could also be a plus! And it'll be pretty new too.

Any advice? Or thoughts? Anyone swapped hospitals and will it be easy to do?

I only had a scan at 17w as I was at the hospital to see the consultant, I didnt have a midwife appt then. Wasnt expecting a scan at all, it was a nice little surprise :)
My 20 week scan is now only 14 hours away!!!

Walked into and from town today so DS could have his 1 year jabs. I was in agony all the way home with sciatica, and now my body has literally seized up and I cant move!!! :(

Good luck with your scan Beyond.

I finally felt a kick for certain today which was very exciting.

At my hospital we do the blood test and get the results about 40 mins after the 12 week scan. Next scan isn't until 22 weeks though. They used to do the anomaly scan at 20 weeks then uterine artery colour doppler at 22 so I am guessing we get them both at 22. I'm seeing my blood pressure consultant at 20 weeks so might get a scan then if I'm lucky.

I don't know about swapping hospitals, snowy but I'd worry about not having immediate access to an operating theatre if things went hairy.

Hello eveyone.

Good luck for your scan Beyond hope it goes well. Hope you ae feeling better today also.

Hope your went well too Thaleia.

Holly and Bear am of you feeling movements, I still haven't felt anything definate yet, am wondering if the placenta is in front of the baby as felt DC3 at 13 weeks.
Bear hope your DS is feeling better with the H,F&M.

Snowy I know my BIL's wife swapped hospitals very smoothly at about 26 weeks into her first pg. Can't really say much more than that, my local one is five mins away, the next choice is over an hour away and considering DS2 was born in 40 mins I don't want to risk travelling!

Feeling energised today, hope it lasts I have lots to do. Am going to dig my maternity stuff out later, am actually looking forward to a nice elasticated waistband!

I saw the midwife today - all measuring fine, good heartbeat and blood pressure is normal - phew.

Only issue is unrelated (I assume) to the pregnancy and that's that I have high cholesterol - the blood pressure doc gave me loads of extra blood tests last time. I'm a bit surprised because I'm not overweight or anything but I do eat a lot of cheese and I don't scrimp with the butter etc. I'm going to make a real effort to make sure I have my 5 a day every day now.

snowy - I changed hospitals at about 25weeks last time and it was absolutely fine - I can't remember who coordinated it, or what I had to do but it certainly wasn't any hassle, and they told me I could change up to about 37 weeks so they were all very relaxed about it. When reading up on homebirth last time I remember reading that it takes a certain amount of time to prep an operating room so if you have to be transferred they would have rung before you move and then it would be ready as soon as you got there, and might not be much longer than had you been in the same hospital as the operating room anyway if the journey's only 10mins. But I'd ask the hospital/midwife about how this all works to get reassurance over this.

hope your scan went well beyond!

bear - I was told I had high cholesterol (well just on the border of normal/high) last time I had a health check up at work but they also checked LDLs and HDLs and as I had a good ratio of them (can't remember which you are meant to have more of) the high cholesterol number didn't matter. Might be the same for you? although can't hurt to get your five a day in!

after a few kicks the other day, baby has gone all quiet again. DD used to be particularly active after I'd eaten so maybe I'll have a big lunch and see if I can coax it into having a little sugar-rush dance to reassure me it's still ok...

Hi everyone can I join? I'm so relieved to have found you, been worrying about all sorts of little things that your thread has sorted out for me!!
I'm due April 12 (so 18 weeks) and have my 20 week scan booked for next tuesday. I'm so excited, it seems like ages since we saw him/her. Still trying to decide whether to find out whether it's a boy or a girl ? I want to know but DH doesn't. I haven't felt any kicks yet (or haven't recognised them if they are happening) and am still finding the whole pregnancy thing a little bit hard to get my head round. I was thinking that if we found out what it was then I might feel a bit more connected to the whole thing. DH says we can find out if I want to, but I think he's hoping I'll start getting kicked and then I'll feel better about the whole thing and won't want to know... Anyone know what I mean or am I just a big freak?! I've not had much to do wiht kids before, and not got any close friends with babies, but the pregnancy was planned and I am really excited. Just having trouble connecting what's in the books with what's happening to me.... Weird?
Going maternity jean shopping later today. I think that might help

Hi and welcome Late. Not weird at all, and on this and the previous thread you'll find a lot of discussion about feeling disconnected to the pregnancy, or ambivalent about it.

I am on no2 and for me last time, the feeling of connection grew slowly, and got stronger as the pregnancy became more obvious - big bump, obvious kicking and moving etc. Also, I had never held a baby, changed a nappy, anything like that before I had DD. I had no friends with babies. I had no idea what it would be like and how I'd cope. It doesn't really matter I don't think; you take it as it comes.

Good luck looking for maternity jeans btw! I have yet to find a pair I like that fit!

Helloo! All is good with Baba Beyond, he was very uncooperative and had a hand on his little willy until just before the sonographer was about to give up trying and tell us we were having a surprise!!
My sciatica was still playing up (and still is), not as bad as yesterday but I did get stuck on the bed and she had to help me up

Yay a boy, good work Beyond!

Good to have you with us Late..., not weird at all, and that's one reason I definitely like finding out what sex the baby is, it helps me prepare in so many ways - I can't deal with someone coming to stay forever and knowing nothing about them! And feeling movements definitely helps, mine is a total fidget! Our scans are the same day btw, I'm getting excited now!

Hi ladies, I really need to jump back onto the thread as I haven't posted in ages but I have been lurking and reading.

Had my parents visiting last week and finally told them - was dreading their reaction after some pretty harsh things were said after I had recovered from PND with DS. But it went surprisingly well, DM had guessed (as I thought she might) and apparently DH had been dropping some broad hints anyway. Am very relieved that DC2 is now out in the open so to speak, was beginning to feel a little ashamed of being pregnant. So had a nice visit all told - DS behaved beautifully. Only downside is that he has been acting out a little since they left, he adores his GPs but we don't see them in person that often due to distance etc (although we speak on Skype nearly every night).

Glad to hear that 16w appointments and anomoly scans are going well. I had my 16w appt last week - very routine but did get to hear baby's heartbeat which was great. My scan isn't until 12th Dec, so another 3.5 weeks to wait before I get to see baby again. Am really curious to find out if it will be DS2 or DD. I have a feeling about which one it might be, so I would like to find out (I just knew DS was DS from very early on in the pg). I also found when it was confirmed we were having DS that it really help to make the pregnancy a reality beyond the symptoms of backache, restless sleep and heartburn.

Beyond congrats on DS2

Snowy no experience of changing hospitals but I guess that you need to ask the midwives question about what would happen if you need to transfer for any reason. Althought the journey might only take 10mins, how long might it take to get an ambulance to you, etc. Also, have you thought about what pain relief you may want to have during labour - if you move to Salford birth centre are you resticting your options in that respect? Is it possible to do a tour of both birth centres, ask questions and see where you are more comfortable?

Thaleia glad you are feeling a little better and saw an understanding midwife.

Hi everyone nice to read about all these lovely scans :) Im still feeling really disapointed that my midwife wouldnt listen for the babys hear beat at my 16w appointment, and in the absence of any kicks yet more than a little nervous for my 20w scan next week

late welcome and your not alone at all, Im excited about my baby but terrified about something being wrong so I wont let myself get caught up in the pregnancy yet it really feels like its happening to someone else at the moment, but I keep working on the principle that when I have the scan and everything is ok I will relax and everything else will fall in to place

Morning all.

I think I finally felt some wriggling last night, I went to Zumba and probably shocked the baby into kicking buy throwing myself around! Still feeling unpregnant though, it's so weird.

My Dad has said he thinks this one is another boy, he has been right with my other three so we shall see! Two and a bit weeks until my scan, DH does not want to find out, I think I do, don't know why as I haven't with all my others. Not sure if DH can come though so maybe it will just be my little secret!

Hi! We're having a doctor's appointment tomorrow ( surrogate is) and I 'm not sure if she'll have a scan ... So could find out what we're having tomorrow if luc ky! Don't expect that to happen until mid December when we're 20 w though. But if I'll find out I'll let you guys know:) Can't wait ! Also was finally comparing my DS 3 m scan with this baby's one and I have to say the profiles look different . For some reason started thinking maybe it's a girl ... No reason for that though , until now been convinced it's a boy.. It is a fuzzy scan picture so doesn't mean anything really . Am really curious . I finally went and bought a few clothes but still kind of waiting to feel more secure about this pregnancy . I suppose I'll really get going after going to Texas in January:)

Evening, had my 20-week scan today. All went well, was lovely to see baby again. We didn't find out sex (I kind of wanted to know but DH didn't so we agreed not to find out).

My main gripe is back/pelvis pain. Nothing too bad but worried about it getting worse.

In other life news we're almost certainly relocating in a few weeks so getting excited/nervous/scared about that.

Nordic - I was trying to decide if our baby looks like a boy or girl from the profile but I don't have anything to compare to :). Hope all goes well tomorrow.

Hotpot - I'm sure you'll be feeling movement soon. I had to ask midwife to listen to heartbeat at 16w - she didn't offer - so I guess it isn't standard despite everyone else I know getting it.

Welcome late :).

Glad all went well with your family WhenDoISleep, must be a relief.

So, how's everyone getting on with names? We have a shortlist of one for a boy and two (with some middle name debates to have) for a girl. There's a long time for us to change our minds though!!