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StarlightMcKenzie · 26/09/2011 20:22

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GarrottingItLaldy · 17/10/2011 08:17

WTF?

You mean I can have rare beef fillet while drinking tea in a scalding bath?

Why did nobody tell me this stuff BEFORE I got pregnant? Those would have been deal breakers for sure

Seriously, I didn't know about the rare beef and hot baths. And i know caffeine is bad but i thought tea would be better than coffee...I did say I was a clueless first timer!

ReadySteadyDrink · 17/10/2011 08:29

Dairymps - I am so sorry about your SIL. I can totally understand why you feel guilty as she has kids and you don't. And it makes it worse that you were both pregnant at the same time. DH's cousin (who I am very close to) miscarried 6 months ago (she has no kids). She had been TTC for ages. She has been TTC again for the last few months (and has been keeping me informed, which I find difficult). I already have a 2.5 year old DS, and here I am pregnant again. I feel very guilty and I am dreading telling her and don't know how to go about it. So I totally understand what you are feeling. But it's not your fault, and you (we!) shouldn't feel guilty, although I know that's hard.

I have only tested once. I tested loads of times in my first pregnancy though! I really enjoyed it! Although once I didn't get a line, so I panicked! This time round the CB test said 3+ weeks, and I still haven't had a period and have sore boobs so I think I am pregnant. Might do another test next week at my Mum's house.

Only DH and I know just now. I am visiting my Mum next week so will tell her then (as feeling increasingly nauseous, tired etc. and drinking decaf tea so she'll know). Won't tell DH's family until after 12 weeks as SIL (DH's brother's wife) is pregnant with their first and is due soon, so I don't want to steal thunder/impact on the new baby etc.

Seriously - I love piping hot baths too, so I share your pain in missing out! I also drink tea continuously so I have switched to decaf (Twinings do a good everyday decaf which is nice). I am also drinking peppermint tea and have bought some Ginger tea to try to help with the nausea. I also sucked ice-lollies (plain kids fruit ones) all the time last pregnancy to help with nausea which worked a treat.

MammaInTheMaking · 17/10/2011 09:10

oh my god. in the office and feel soooooooo sick :( bbllaaahhhhhhh. Not enough to actually be sick, but my god this is horrid!

Got my first appointment with the GP today which i'm really excited about.

Yah, this is nasty!

Lots of luck today to mymama.

Goldrill · 17/10/2011 09:36

Shit. I have blood. Not a huge amount and no cramps but definite bright red blood with bits in. Shit.
I'm at work - start of a stressful week. I just want to go home and cry. I even still feel sick!

MammaInTheMaking · 17/10/2011 09:54

oh no :( Ring your GP and ask them what you should do. You have to do what's right for you, not worry about work in this instance...

MyMamaToldMe · 17/10/2011 09:59

Hi all - appt is at 11:20am today. I have been bleeding heavily all weekend so I pretty much know what the outcome is. I am so sad and just feel so terrible that I couldn't hold on to this little life. I'll be back to let you know how the scan went and to probably take my name of the list. :(

Kveta · 17/10/2011 10:19

got my fingers crossed for you MyMama - even if the outcome is bad today, hope you have luck in the near future. Hope I needn't tell you that you've done nothing wrong, and that sadly, once you're pregnant, there is basically bugger all anyone can do to guarantee a baby at the end of it. Something I didn't realise until my mc in August...

good luck too Goldrill

nothing new here, just a bit nauseous and my jeans are getting tight. that may be more to do with the fact DS and I made cookies on saturday though. I tried on some maternity clothes in Next yesterday, and now know which size I am (am an 18 normally, and 18 in them - but my tummy is shocking. need to do some serious undereating once baby 2 is born!), so if all goes well, will order some clothes in the next few weeks. My old mat jeans still fit, but are of the 'falling down the minute you move' variety, so not sure whether to keep them or replace them.

greengoose · 17/10/2011 10:33

Goldrill Can you go home? I dont think itll change how things will turn out (either way), but you need to take care of yourself.... I had bleeds with both my boys, so it doesnt always have to mean the worst. If you are gone 6 weeks they will offer you a scan?

Mymama... so sorry to hear about your weekend, please dont feel you are at fault here, this early on you couldnt have done anything to change the outcome.

StarlightMcKenzie · 17/10/2011 10:39

Oh goodness me, don't be giving up everything. Sure some things carry a tiny risk but so do many things that aren't on the no-no list. Can't ever figure out why something's are and other things aren't. Broccoli for example is highly toxic if consumed in large quantities.

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StarlightMcKenzie · 17/10/2011 10:42

Good hygiene, fresh food, sourced carefully and eaten in moderation is probably the only advice you need to follow otherwise the Japanese, French and Polish populations would have died out.

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greengoose · 17/10/2011 10:42

Keveta I have just got out some old mat. jeans.... they are awful. (either that over bump thing that never seems to work, or under bump feels like I will loose them all the time). I am not ready to wear them yet (obviously), but do feel a bit squashed into my own things. Is there a 'newer' style of mat jeans around?(mine are all at least 5years old now)!
I am nervous about how big I am this time. I have always been a size 12 when Ive got pregnant, (I am 5ft 10in so this looks ok) but after 2 MC this year and just not trying very hard, I am now a 16. Thats before putting any baby fat on. I hate the thought of not having a neat bump, but cant diet now, although I am being quite careful. I will need some very serious dieting after baby is here...

greengoose · 17/10/2011 10:48

BROCCOLI??? I had a broccoli craving with DC1! I would eat heads of the stuff a few times a week........ No wonder his hair is so curly!!

I kind of do the French thing, and see being happy as just as important as missing out half my diet.... My first DC is 9, so Ive had an ear to 10 yrs of changing advice, and it does change all the time. I think as long as you use common sense its fine. There is far too much to be paranoid and self blaming about....... and its all the nice things we have to give up (I think it must be a man making the list)!

Kveta · 17/10/2011 10:52

greengoose - I have a pair of each style of mat jean, and both are crap. the Next ones seemd good though, as the over the bump bit had elastic at the top to hold it in place. I'm worried though, because last time, anything resembling a waistband touching my bump made me chuck. I had to wear floaty tops only, as everything else made me heave (it was the same if anything touched my throat - so couldn't wear over-the-shoulder bags or a necklace for the whole pg). I've started feeling sick if anything touches my throat again, which is annoying, as I need my over-the-shoulder bag - anything else tends to fall off me whilst I'm grappling with DS!

I'm half tempted to go for longer tops/dresses and leggings this time, but as I am near-spherical, not sure that's a great idea. we'll see.

greengoose · 17/10/2011 11:06

Keveta I do like the whole leggings boots tunic top thing in the winter.... but not so much now I have a tummy.... I think maybe a skirt and flared top with cardigans might be the way to go.....Im going to have to go shopping soon..... even my boots are a little tight!
I too hated the elastic on bump thing, it got so itchy and annoying, and made it impossible to have a smooth bump shape... I think under bump looks nicer, but not as warm in winter!

MammaInTheMaking · 17/10/2011 12:23

So Tuc biscuits have put a bit of a lid on this horrendous sickness. I'm going to be a fatty by the end of these 9 months!

biglips · 17/10/2011 12:44

mamainthemaking.....well i had 2 big jam doughnuts early this morning plus 2 pieces of toasts for my breakkie...i was ssstttarrvvviiinnng marrrvviinnnggg. i pulled a ligament on my belly last nite when i stretched over far to turn the lamp off on the other side of the bed and it hurts! ouch! so its a bit tender today.

MammaInTheMaking · 17/10/2011 12:48

oh goodness Big that must be painful. Make it better with some doughnuts. :o

Have a bowl of minestrone soup infront of me. Even looking at it is making me feel revolting. Only heated up half a tin because it turned my stomach when i opened it. Oh well, here goes...!

Kayzr · 17/10/2011 12:51

Goldrill I hope you are ok.

mymama I hope the scan shows a different outcome to what you are expecting.

thedogwalker · 17/10/2011 12:53

Dalryrmps sorry about your SIL, sending hugs to you and her as you both need them to stay strong, but please dont feel guilty, you have no control over other people's destinys. Florin congrats on taking your 2nd POAS and it coming up BFP again, glad you are now convinced. MyMama, how did your appointment go? I'm still hoping for you and Goldrill, have you gone home/gone to the doctors, I do hope you are ok. Please let us all know that you are fine and well.
I had my doctor appointment this morning, very quick, took blood pressure and weight and signed me up for the midwife, not got a booking there yet, got to wait for them to ring me. I HATE waiting [hwink]. He had me down as 4+6 but I know I'm 5+3, makes all the difference in my world [hgrin] and I know exactly when my DH was home and the deed was done Grin Grin. Take care everyone xx

Kveta · 17/10/2011 13:04

I have no idea how many weeks/days I am!

am going by mc starting on 27th August, and cycle of 28 days, then am due on 2nd June - but my cycles have been all over the place recently! and mc may have started on 24th August, as I started spotting then - but proper bleeding was on 27th. will see what midwife says on thursday! that would make me 7 weeks anyway, so am sticking to that for now!

although my CM said a horrifying thing the other day - her SIL apparently was pg with twins, lost one, and at her dating scan found she was about 5 weeks further on than anticipated! So CM was saying 'maybe you're actually ~12 weeks already!'. doubt it, but she's sewn a seed of doubt in my mind anyway :o

Miniangel · 17/10/2011 13:17

Dalryrmps sorry about your SIL, please stay strong. Don't feel guilty as it was not in your control. I know how hard this must be for you but you have to think about the little life inside too.

Florin - I did 2 internet cheapies and 3 digi ones so far. I did one yesterday and it still says 2-3 weeks. I am hoping it will go to 3-4 weeks later this week.

MyMama & Goldrill - All our best wishes and prayers with you. How did the doctor's appt go, Mama? Goldrill Please go to the doctors. All our best wishes with you.

I woke up feeling sick and am feeling quite sick on and off. It's a day full of back to back meetings but have kept snack stores. Hope I can eat regularly. Have been helping my Mum move this weekend so feel extremely tired.

ReadySteadyDrink · 17/10/2011 13:23

Goldrill - let us know what happens. I really hope you are ok.

MyMamaToldMe - I am so,so sorry you have been bleeding. I really still hope for good news. However, if it's not meant to be, then this is not your fault. It is because this just wasn't meant to be.

My thoughts are with you both. xx

Kayzr · 17/10/2011 13:23

Dalryrmps I am so so sorry about your SIL Sad Please try not to feel guilty, there is nothing you could have done. Much love coming your way x

Rrrrayray · 17/10/2011 13:28

Thinking of you mymama and goldrill

I too had my GP appointment this morning dogwalker but she didn't do much, not even weight nor blood pressure. Simply checked I knew what to eat, no complications first time round & said midwife be in touch. She also calculated me as less, but I too know the exact date of conception as i thought we'd missed the boat as I was in Spain when I thought was ovulating, so must have been the day I got home!!!! Grin

Those struggling with maternity Jean issues. I found leggings a hundred times more comfy, but if it's Jeans you'd like ASOS have a pretty good, recently priced range. Or, in the mean time how about those elastic waist Jean extenders? You can buy on EBay for CHEAP!! X

MyMamaToldMe · 17/10/2011 13:33

Had the scan and they found a pregnancy sac. Couldn't detect any heart beat but said that it was because it was too small. I have to go back next week for another scan. I personally think its an incomplete miscarriage as how can I bleed so much and still have life? I don't feel positive. Sorry to be all gloom and doom.

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