October Baby Bus - Part 5

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Another thread!

i am finding it hard now, the pain/discomfort is getting to me. struggling to do anything by myself now and the fact that im on my own isnt helping much! not heard from this little ladies dad now in over a week, starting to feel like not even telling him when i go into labour as i dont even feel like i want him there anymore. maybe thats cruel, but its just how im feeling right now

Groovy do you have SPD? some times they will induce for that if it gets really awful. May be worth having a chat to your MW when you see her next? hoe you feel better soon - the end is in sight!

Scheh - it sounds very promising. I lost plug a day before having ds2. It's frustrating being so close but feeling like it could be ages. Keep active, do you have a ball to bounce on? From what you've posted I don't think it'll be too long.

Groovy - I asked midwife at consultant clinic yesterday about pelvic pain and she said it's because baby is right down there now and all loosening up. She said about spd but a wait to see physio and would only give a belt to support bump. Trying to look at pain as a positive sign that body getting ready.

This thread moves quick, hard to keep up :)

Well some hospitals say if you go in three times for reduced fetal movements then they will induce you...but you will probably find your going to go into labour on your own soon..and then you will have your little girl and you can put all this stress behind you! I cant imagine how hard it must be on your own..but I think your a very strong woman :) And tbh if the dad can't be bothered to keep in touch don't keep him informed...He needs to make an effort before and after the baby is born...but if you want to be the bigger person...you could say something like "the baby is coming..if you wanted to know!"

On a lighter note do you have any names yet?

Mpops - Greece is still far, not like just down the road. Relieved hubby not travelled this time. Re breastpads, milk came in after 2-3 days so I was home then and hardly needed them in hosp. I'd prob pack 10-12 just incase. I'm also packing super thick maternity towels as had episiotomony last time and gave some comfort. Also a great tip I had was Vaseline for babies bottom when born, meant the meconium didn't stick to him.

Scheh - whereabouts are you? Asking cos of ikea. We have a new store here at soton, I'm by the new forest x

I've been having a crying day

Just tired DD slept badly (10:30-4:30) I slept worse and as well as being awake I had a really painful sharp pain running across the bottom of my stomach. Think she is coming out with a cold, that or a random burst of snot.

If you're in pain e.g. SPD then I know some people do get induced early as I hear it gets quite intense and ramps up a lot near the end

sorry the thread has moved on since I last refreshed

wheels ive never been told that i do def have spd, when i went to have my anti d injec at 27 weeks, i mentioned to the mw there that i was having alot of pelvic pain. she didnt really suggest much other than to contact the physio myself but be prepared that it may take a while to get an app! i decided against it and looked up on how to try help things. no more heavy lifting, rest etc. as i say, it did ease up alot and hasent been much of a bother until the past few weeks again but last night is the first time ive actually woken up due to the pain when trying to turn! when i saw my mw last tue, she was very confident that she wasent engaged yet then i spent 6 hrs in hospital last thursday due to lack of movement all day. mw there said the same, that she wasent engaged yet. consultant i seen after all the heart monitoring said that if i had been a week further on, they could look at induction due to decrease in movements but as i was 37+4 at the time, he felt it was still a little early!

getting bad back pain now so maybe things are picking up again. would honestly rather go into natural labour by myself as ive read so much about inductions making things more complicated but the thought of another month at most is making my eyes water!!

thanks ladies, just feeling down today xx

scheh i might call you zade, cos i can never remember how to spell even those 5 letters! i always have to scroll back. such a baby brain......
it doesnt sound like a show to me . it sounds like your waters. ive had my watera break but never seen a show, so im not an expert but i would think that a show wouldnt be that much liguid at all.
groovy shame on lo's dad not enquiring about you in a week. i'd be like you- tempted to not tell him. or at the very least he would get a very terse text about me being in labour. have you got a back up birthing partner?

remember me saying that my dp was supposed to be going to dubai 4th oct, and i said, can someone else not do it? well, i found out at the weekend that he is still going. not happy at all, but apparently there is no one else. said to my mum if i go into labour, im not gonna bloody tell him- he can just find out when he gets back. (so pissed off) he has 4 weeks off when the baby comes, so asked him if the baby comes before then does that mean hecwould have to come off leave and fly to dubai? he said he didnt know. i think the answer is no he wouldnt, so therefore there is someone else to do it. umph.

good god! i missed 6 posts whilst reading catch up!

penguin so sorry you're having a rubbish day- tiredness is a killer. ive had a few weepy days myself. not long ago i think id cried 3 times before lunch.
i hardly needed breast pads with twin pregnancy cos both breasts were being emptied all the time, but with dd1 i was in big trouble if i didnt wear them and woyld often wake up to a drip drip noise as they ran all over the bed!

sassy yeah, I never wanted him to be birth partner. He was happy to be at hospital when I went into labour but I told him I would rather my mum was with me as I would find it to uncomfortable him being there when we are not even together anymore! I might just see how it goes, he knows due date! I had on fb the fact that I was in hospital last Thursday for 6 hrs which I am fairly sure he would have seen (or even his sisters would have!) but even that didn't prompt a text! Everything has been fine and civil until the last few wks. Och, I dunno how their minds work!!

That's crazy about your dp and the whole Dubai trip!! I would be very annoyed aswell. Leaving the country when he prob doesn't 100% have to so close to your due date would have me aswell!!!

Men eh?!

This thread is going so fast!! Lol

groovy i wouldnt bother then. have your mum with you and text him when shes born . if he cant make the effort to find out about when HIS daughter is going to be born- why is it YOUR problem? straight answer.....it isnt.

same with my dp, its bad enough if my waters break he could be 3 hours away, but if he wants to risk being a day away or more- thats his problem.

Groovy I wouldn't let him know anything on principle if I was you (maybe not most mature advice but hormones can excuse it!)
sassy grr Dubai that's miles away how long will he be gone for?
penguin sorry you're feeling weepy, I've been having days like that
rebel god bless you still at work I finished Friday (we've same due date) and I don't think I could have carried on.
BB3 yay for taking babies home
Welcome to the newbies.

Midwife appointment today all fine baby not engaged yet but nearly. She confirmed I've got SPD but the local physio here is crap and has already given me a belt so she couldn't really help me any more and pain is getting worse .
37+3 today and still loads to do. Anyone else struggling to get used to mat leave? I feel guilty all the time....

I've just been round for a chat with next door, and she was showing me round her house (theyre redecorating), and am utterly exhausted now! Was really getting on well with keeping busy, and now I've collapsed on the sofa with a cold drink and can barely move!

DP back in half an hour, then its off to ikea for storage and meatballs! next door is lending us a chest of drawers so we have somewhere to put baby stuff!

On/off BH, not timing them, don't seem to have lost any more waters...

TMI....
...... drops o fproper blood in knickers. It's just been very bloody mucus previously, whereas this was proper blood drops, plus a glob in toilet. So I think we'll be keeping an eye on it tonight. Am desperately trying not to get my hopes up, and just keep thinking "5 more weeks, 5 more weeks".....

37 weeks today and feeling hopeful!

littlepebble SPD is horrible. Only things I found that helped were not hoovering/pushing/lifting. Keeping off feet and a hot bath every day. Careful when turning over in bed, and keep pillow between knees! Stuff you probably already know!

scheh you shouldnt be bleeding. dont mean to alarm you but i would ring mw now.

scheh I predict you will have your baby in your arms by weekend! Ahhh! How exciting lol

4 days pebble

sassy is not proper bleeding, was just a few drops. Don't worry - I am a big wuss and if get alarmed then will ring pregnancy assessment unit :)

Oh no, groovy my body is far too fickle for that, plus you read on here loads about women who get going, then stop, then going for weeks! Haven't told anyone apart from DP (and you lot on here!) as don't want to jinx myself!

groovy am in same situation you have your mother
With you for the rest let him do the effort otherwise he
ll never docteur

Sorry for spelling my phone is funny

groovy sounds like you could have an induction then if it became something you really wanted? sometimes it doesnt take much to get things started so can be not that different from going into labour spontaneously. Sounds like you have done well with the pelvic pain so far - have you tried sleeping with a pillow between your knees? Physio provision for SPD can vary enormously unfortunately - so if you do start to struggle please insist on an urgent referral. Normally SPD patients do not have to wait ages because there would be no point. There are a few really useful websites out there with information such as www.pelvicpartnership.org.uk that might help even if it is not 'full blown' SPD. And re your birth partner, have your Mum. You need to be able to feel completely at ease during labour as you will have enough to think about!

scheherazade will keep my fingers crossed that this is it for you!

Hi everyone - I was on here ages ago but real life has been getting in the way somewhat with finishing work, DD starting school and having her 5th birthday and her party, plus DS has had a nasty cough and cold.

Congratulations to bb3 and cupoftea and so pleased to hear the latest news.

Like scheherazade I spent last night up at the hospital - was having dinner with my MIL and suddenly started getting contractions every 8 mins for about 1 min each. Am booked in for a section due to a small rectal prolapse, previous 3c tear and previous big babies, and have a history of fast labour so rushed up to hospital quickly. Contractions showing on the trace, all looking good - apart from the fact that they weren't doing anything at all. Not a thing. Cervix closed and posterior. So obviously false labour! They kept me in overnight just in case things changed and was still having regular contractions this morning but still not dilating so have come back home.

Just had a show and the pains are back so am going to see how it goes... Fingers crossed!

groovy I know someone who was induced at 39 wks due to bad heartburn - she wasn't sleeping, very under the weather etc and her health was suffering as a result. So I'd say it's rare but not unheard of.

Friend of mine had her 3rd DC this weekend - thought she might be in labour then delivered her 10lb5 baby on the bedroom floor half an hour later! A bit f a shock but a brilliant tale to tell!

37+2 here.

scheh hopfully it's green for go!!!

wheels thanks for all the info, yeah I sleep with a pillow between legs and one wedged under bump! I think I will see how things go tonight and if the pain is still bad (like when I move just now, I feel like someone is stabbing me right in the pubic area!) then I'll call and speak with midwife. How do you then ask to speak with a consultant? Just ask? Sorry, I'm clueless!!

fleecy hi! You must have thought last night that it was all happening! Scary story of ur friend delivering on her bedroom floor, didn't think these things really happened!!!