Any May babies?!

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I only did it a test this morning and have not even told my husband yet!

Hope everyone is doing well and surviving the tiredness and feeling sick. At least the weekend is here.

I had my booking in appt this afternoon and am now feeling really apprehensive - looking for some reassurance!

I was worried as appt about 30 mins on the bus from where I live but no one ever returned my calls from the main hospital helpline to try and change this to a clinic nearer me. The place was awful - filthy dirty, boiling hot and revolting waiting room. My midwife took my bloods and then went to wipe my arm with a bit of cotton wool that I thankfully noticed was already stained with somebody else's blood! I then noticed she had a few bloody bits littered over her desk.

English was not her first language and there were times when I really struggled to understand her and had to keep asking her to repeat things.

I now feel really scared that this is going to be a reflection of care throughout pregnancy and the birth itself and this evening actually feel pretty terrified by the whole thing.

Can anyone who isn't another first timer give me some reassurance pls?!

elizabethtailored I've not experience with that, but I know you can request different health visitors so I would have thought you could request a different community midwife. To be honest I would be wanting to make a complaint to the infection control nurses about the filthy conditions and dirty cotton wool . Try not to worry, it's probably an example of one midwifes bad practice rather than the whole maternity service (I hope).

Not a great day for me today, had some (well just a little) bleeding when I wiped this morning (tmi?). Got a scan on Thursday, no cramping so fingers crossed. Also got my 12 week consultant appointment through for 31st October (DH will still be here, yey!).

Did this spotting thing last time , it's so flippin scarey.

ElizabethT that is TERRIBLE. You must complain, you can choose wherever you want to have your baby. I really am shocked.

No definite answers for me. I had an ultrasound and internal scan yesterday, which the sonographer could see a pregnancy sac but it was small and doesn't match my dates of 8 weeks, it was measuring 5w +3d. They have said it could be that I'm miscarrying but also because I was on the pill and have no idea of what my monthly cycle is that there is also a possibility that I'm not as far on as we thought.

The doctor examined my cervix, which was closed. Apparently that is a good sign. I also had bloods taken to determine hormone levels, I will have more blood taken tomorrow. They will then compare the results and hopefully habe a better idea of what is going on.

I am praying for the best, but sadly prepared for the worst and spent most of the night awake and in tears. This is some heck of a rollercoaster.

No definite answers for me. I had an ultrasound and internal scan yesterday, which the sonographer could see a pregnancy sac but it was small and doesn't match my dates of 8 weeks, it was measuring 5w +3d. They have said it could be that I'm miscarrying but also because I was on the pill and have no idea of what my monthly cycle is that there is also a possibility that I'm not as far on as we thought.

The doctor examined my cervix, which was closed. Apparently that is a good sign. I also had bloods taken to determine hormone levels, I will have more blood taken tomorrow. They will then compare the results and hopefully habe a better idea of what is going on.

I am praying for the best, but sadly prepared for the worst and spent most of the night awake and in tears. This is one hell of a rollercoaster.

This sounds very similar to me Cacacaz - lmp 1st August, had some bleeding just over 2 weeks ago and a scan just showed a sac, they called me back a week later. I was sure I was further along and they should have seen a heartbeat or so I was preparing myself for no change but then there it was, a week later, an apple pip sized baby, putting me at 6w. I would have said 8w.

So, cycles and dates are strange things. Implantation bleeding very common at this stage. I'm still spotting but nothing more so I'm staying positive and hoping the pip is still growing.

I won't say try not to worry as I know that is impossible but just thought I'd share my tale as it might give you reason to hope.

Do a search for bleeding at 6w on here, you'll find lots more like us!

Fingers crossed for you lovely, and don't cry you'll set me off! :)

Keeping my fingers crossed for you Cacacaz. Cycles can be all over the place after you stop the pill- my cycles were 12 weeks long when I stopped taking it! It really is a rollercoaster.

Elizabetht- that is not normal. Definitely complain about the lack of hygiene and maybe ask about your choices of care at your GP surgery if they are friendly. Also, do you know anyone locally who has recently had a baby that you could talk to in confidence? Or your local NCT branch might be able to advise you. I did an early pregnancy class with them and it was helpful- it was just one day for people up to 24 weeks pregnant. It was great to meet other first time mums that are as scared as you, plus as it's earlier on than regular antenatal classes you get a chance to bond before the babies arrive! I went to yoga with a lot of my class and got a couple of great friends out of it that I still see 2 1/2 years later. I don't know if all areas run them or not but you should be able to find out through the NCT website.

No bleeding here but plenty of cramps and lower back ache. Due to the extra, ahem, moistness you get in pregnancy I'm constantly worried I'm bleeding. I know cramps are normal as everything is growing but one was bad enough to wake me up. If they don't get better I think I'll ring the midwife to see what her advice is.

Hi Cacacaz - just like skinnymuffin, it sounds very similar to my story. My lmp was 4th August, and I should have been further along when I was scanned, but they could only see a yolk sac. They also thought it was coming off of the pill that probably meant I'd ovulated later than I thought. They relied on the increase in blood hCG levels and the fact my cervix was closed too to send me on my way....

Try and keep positive- and hope your blood tests are soon, and that they get the results back quickly for you. After my last major bleeding, I asked the doctor to ensure I was phoned as soon as the results came back, in order to make sure I knew as soon as possible.

I hope mine and skinnymuffin's stories have made you feel a little more positive (if possible). Thinking of you, and hope it all goes well.

Wrigglebum I have that problem with the 'moistness'. That plus the fact I have been bleeding makes me a nervous wreck the majority of the time... have also been cramping, which I find quite worrying. I suppose I should feel grateful that I'll know what's happening on Monday (hopefully)...

elizabetht definitely complain! The cotton wool thing in particular makes me shudder.

Elizabetht - how horrible! I had a bad time with the community midwives last time but it was just general incompetence - bad hygiene is another thing entirely and should be reported. Cacacaz - hope you can draw some comfort from these other ladies' experience, it must be so hard to stay positive.

I feel shocking today. No energy, and raging nausea. Dh has gone off for his Saturday sport-playing-and-injuring-self day leaving me grumpily dealing with an exuberant toddler and a Dad who keeps ringing me up every five minutes to witter on about the roof that needs fixing on the family holiday home and I just don't have the mental or physical capacity to deal with it at the moment. He just doesn't understand why I'm so grouchy, even though I keep explaining. Men! Men! Men! Aaargh. I want to go to bed. But I have to mow the lawn while dd is asleep. Sigh.

musicalmrs just wanted to say good luck for Monday, keeping fingers crossed for you. Hope you are able to relax and enjoy the weekend in the meantime, it's 30 degrees in our garden so I'm making the most of it :)

Thanks skinny, most kind. I've had a busy-ish day today, and tomorrow I'm visiting my mother and sister in law, which should keep my mind occupied. Even if they do sometimes drive me a little batty, and I think the hormones are making me more argumental and snappy.. oops! Will have to be on my best behaviour...!

titan - u dont have to go fully private if u only want a scan. if you google pregnacy scans im sure youll find out lots of labs who can offer one for some £££. never had one of those but i understand they are about £100

elsbethtaylor - you should ask your hospital about the tour of maternity. every maternity does that. they take a groupof pregnant women around the labour ward and the ante/post wards. that way you can decide whether you will be ok in this hosp or if it is worth finding an alternative.
i am not going to the closest maternity, i go to one a little bit further which is much much nicer. you also have got the choice of going in a birth centre (some are independent hosp units) or u can even give birth at home in which case u have all ur appointment at home (in my area at least)
hope the cramps are better

caracas - thinking if you xx

about me - i cant wait to move out of the area where i live, there is trouble every day/ night.. just been woken up by some peopleshouting, banging on doors and arguing... realllymessy neighbours...
also i had my gp appt and she puts me bak two days (22nd instead of 24th).
im only 6.5 weeks and i def look pregnant even though i havent put on weight yet... maybe it isbecausethis is my third in less than three years?? i am clearly not going to be able to hide it for much longer... :-(
still feeling rotten all day/night...
and finally, sometimes i wonder ifwe are not crazy... 3 kids under 4... thats going to be callenging .... and family really far away (ie notin uk). at least we can afford some help and i am wondering whether we should get a nanny... presumably a live in nanny who be able to help me mornings and evenings? and help with laundry??? thatd be perfect!! but then we wouldnt have much space
what about a live out nanny, cuz i think ill need more help in the am and even more in the pm... shed have to live not far though... anyone had experience with one?

sorry about typos!!!

Hi all, fell off the thread again, trust a family weekend to get in the way of mning!
Keeping fingers crossed for those with spotting/cramping
Tostaky - you will be fine, DC1 was 3y and 4mo when DC3 arrived - its a bit chaotic but he'll be just over 5 when this one arrives! and my 2 boys giggle together already which is lovely, trying not to hope too hard that this one is another girl so that DD isn't left out too much.

Just checking in. I actually feel as if I have a bit more energy this weekend. We're trying to keep it all a secret for as long as possible. Is that normal?
Elizabetht - are you in London? Sounds utterly unacceptable. Complain in writing, even if you don't go there, others might and that is appalling. A home birth might be nicer in your circumstances.
Musicalmrs - I'm glad you're still here, I was thinking of you the other day.

Hi all!
I hope you don't mind another newby joining you?
Was looking to join last week, but after some spotting and cramping I didn't want to tempt things. Thankfully I had an early scan this morning and was totally shocked to see this little alien looking thing with a heartbeat. Even more shocking, dates are bang on! Bring on May 4th!
After a couple of mc in the past year of trying I am still parinoid, and send my thoughts and best wishes to those who are still spotting, but am keeping fingers crossed it all comes right in the end.
After 3 weeks off work between the most horrendous morning sickness and then waiting with feet up for the scan, Im looking forward to getting back to normality tomorrow. Am no longer underestimating how horrid pregnancy can make you feel!
Hope you are all coping better than me with the food issues....
Thoughts are with all in the last few weeks of trimester one.

My worst fears have been confirmed, it is a miscarriage.

Bleeding all weekend, and this morning passed a large clot which staff at the epu think was the sac. I had an ultrasound and internal scan, which has confirmed miscarriage.

Im not in a good place right now, heartbroken.

I'm so, so sorry Cacacaz. I don't know what to say. I hope your DP is looking after you.

I'm so, so sorry Cacacaz. I don't know what to say. I hope your DP is looking after you.

Cacacaz I'm so sorry. That's so sad. I hope you are getting plenty of support from your nearest and dearest.

Hi Malibu, welcome to the thread.

I'm so sorry

Cazacaz - sending you big hugs. xx

Thinking of you Cacacaz - hope you've got plenty of good support around you. Take care of yourself.

I'm so sorry Cacacaz, my thoughts are with you.

Oh Cacacaz I am sorry, I had really hoped that wouldn't be the case :( I hope you have good support and some time to take care of yourself.

I am still spotting, more like bleeding today at times, I now have a third early scan booked for Wednesday. Getting totally worn out with this now but still hoping for the best.

Love to everyone x

Meant to ask, musicalmrs how did you get on today lovely? Been thinking about you x