Thanks for the embryo care everyone! I think freezing and unfreezing is tough on embryos which is why they may not survive, plus they weren't top quality embryos so i think they think there is a higher risk of mc. However, we've had 4 top quality embryos put in and have only 2 children (including this little one on the way), so there are no certainties with IVF anyway. And we have a friend who has had perfect child from imperfect embryo, so i don't think there is any way they can really know. They advised us to bin them as it was a waste of money to freeze and use them, but as there is no way they can possibly know they aren't a potential baby we are giving them a go. IN a couple of years' time!
On antenatal, i did both here (the NHS was just a drop-in talk really), and am really glad we did NCT ones just to have an idea about birth positionsa really. Agree that not great for actually looking after a baby. Our breastfeeding lady told us that breastfed babies don't need winding, which, with the knowledge I know have was an unbelievably incorrect thing to say. DD was sicking up masses of milk til my mum persuaded me to listen to her and just wind her! Maybe some bf babies don't need winding, mine certainly did! The other issue I have, with hindsight is the NCT teaching on the syntocin injection you are given to help the placenta come away after the baby comes. NCT presented it as an option not to have it, which is fine, it is an option, and means baby gets more cord blood and so more iron. HOwever, both of us on our course who opted not to have it haemorrhaged and needed blood transfusion, which is what used to happen in the olden days before the injection and mums died. So, although DD got more iron, I was severly iron deficient for weeks and found it very difficult to look after DD and function. (it wasn't necessarily not having the injection, i do know that). SO, i'll be having the syntocin injection this time.
If all that made you panic or go HUH? don't worry, just have the injection!
Anway, after all that, i'd still recommend the NCT, but do listen to other voices and advice which may contradict them as they aren't perfect! And as someone else said, if you don't have any clasees, don't worry, just read mumsnet, stay upright or on all fours in labour, use gas and air and tens to start and see how you go, and watch breastfeeding vids on youttube!!