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RosyRosie · 25/07/2011 09:32

Hello, not sure if there's a similar thread already but just thought I'd create somewhere for nayone else expecting in April 2012?

I actually conceived about 3wks ago but I think this counts as week 5? Just staring to get symptoms - headaches, little stirrings of nausea, getting tired and grumpier than usual lol.

A little bit concerned because I have a LOT of work on from now until October and maybe beyond - and I think I'm just going to want to sleep and puke through it all - hell! :( d'oh.

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Empusa · 01/09/2011 16:12

whenskies I am so so so sorry :(

Bearcrumble · 01/09/2011 16:15

So sorry, whenskies - I wish they would be more honest, we are adults ffs. With all the info available it doesn't sound like there's any chance it will suddenly resolve into a healthy pregnancy.

I think you deserve a couple of glasses of wine. I really am sorry.

However common it is to have an early miscarriage, when it's a much wanted baby it doesn't make any difference at all that it happens to lots of people - it is a horrible, sad thing to go through and it is your right to grieve.

I hope your next pregnancy happens soon and is a happy, straighforward one.

knittymum23 · 01/09/2011 16:16

thank you everyone for your kind words - we're back home now, and I'm feeling strangely positive, I've drawn a line under all this (it's like the end of the chapter) and am going to make sure it doesn't get me down (but if I want to have a cry, I will!) - hubs is with me - the whole procedure was done in an hour (I left my room at 9.30, came around at 10.00 and was back in my room at 10.30!) and I was back on the ward quickly.. it just took forever to be discharged (2.30!). (thank god I had my Kindle with me!) I want to make sure the next chapter starts as soon as we can (though realistically probably not until the end of the year, give us all a bit of time, I think - they did say one cycle and we could try again). It's definitely given me closure.

whenskies - that's horrible they can't tell you it directly. A midwife yesterday said to me that sometimes when they confirm it's over, your brain processes the news and your body can do whatever it needs to to make things happen - it's almost like you've got the closure so the process can start.

Bleed-wise, from experience it's been something which starts slowly but then gets heavier as things progress (but that you'll know) - and you just have to rest up and take paracetamol (which I found was the LEAST effective thing ever).

I really hope they give you answers you need, and that things aren't too awful for you. Please ask if there's any questions I can help with.

For all you other mums-to-be, good luck with everything - I hope it's all as trouble free and you have a fun time - and enjoy your little one(s) when the time comes - I'll be thinking of you all next April

xxx

kat2504 · 01/09/2011 16:42

It is very hard when they can't tell you directly, especially if they do it in a way that gets your hopes up unfairly. But of course it would be even worse if they gave someone an erpc and in fact the pregnancy was viable so they do have these cut off criteria. This is one of the reasons they don't like to do scans too early unless ectopic is suspected.

knitty glad you are back home from the hospital and it all went ok. Glad you are bearing up ok and I hope that you will be back on ante-natal before you know it.

Cutelittlecatlover · 01/09/2011 16:53

Whenskies I'm so sorry for your loss Sad . I don't have any experience so can't offer you any advice but wanted to let you know I'm thinking of you.

Knitty I'm glad it all went smoothly for you today

Uglymush · 01/09/2011 17:35

Ladies, I don't have the vocab to help in times like these, but all I can say is I am crying my eyes out reading your stories. I really don't know how you are all bearing up so well. Please look after yourselves and make sure DH/P give you lots of TLC

HollyPockett · 01/09/2011 17:36

Ladies, I'm so sorry to hear all your sad news :(

Don't really know what else to say, i'm just really really sorry

x

Thumbelina79 · 01/09/2011 18:21

I am sorry for your loss

whenskiesaregrey · 01/09/2011 20:09

Thank you for sharing your experience knittymum, today of all days. I hope you are okay, and this is the closure you wanted. Good luck for the future. You are my inspiration at the moment!! Hope to see you soon elsewhere on MN!!

And thank you to everyone for your kind words. I appreciate them all. This has been such a weird time. Combined with the holiday, I'm struggling to recall what day it is at the moment!!

I may continue to hang around for a few days until it really is over, but I am all too aware of exhausting everyone's sympathies and outstaying my welcome Wink Thank you all for being there. Good luck in your pregnancies, and as knittymum said, I will be thinking of you all in April also.

kat2504 · 01/09/2011 20:14

you won't be outstaying your welcome! It's a tough time, especially when people in RL have no idea about the pregnancy and the internet is your only source of advice.
The miscarriage board has lots of helpful people on it who are either in the same boat or have been in it recently. People on there have been really kind to me in the past.

whenskiesaregrey · 01/09/2011 20:18

Thank you kat. I have a thread on the miscarriage board at the moment, and there are two very kind posters on there that have been very helpful.

Uglymush · 01/09/2011 20:36

This is going to sound really selfish, especially given Whenskies, knittymum and others sad exeperiences at the moment, I do hope things are positive for you in the very near future. I'm sorry but I need someone to tell me I'm not going mad!! My job is HR Manager in a school and classed as senior management and as such feel as though I need to dress fairly smart to work. I normally wear suits to work, but now I only have one that fits, it's been ok as the kids have been off for the last 6 weeks so worn jeans, but the kids and majority of the staff are back next week. I am desperately looking for maternity wear, but I can't find any suits under about £100 and I refuse to spend that much on clothes I won't wear for long. Am I being realistic in my wish for cheaper decent clothes or am I being a tight northerner?? Please be honest.

kat2504 · 01/09/2011 20:55

Do you really need to fork out on Maternity wear at this point? if you don't want to fork out on a maternity suit, get a nice smart jersey dress and put a jacket on the top of it. The dress will stretch nicely over the tum for a few months. Next usually sell that sort of thing, I also have some from Dorothy Perkins and from Boden and also H&M I think. Wrap or mock wrap is a good style to go for. When you get big you will be able to wear them over your maternity trousers and still look smart.
Also have you thought of looking for maternity clothes on ebay?

Uglymush · 01/09/2011 21:16

Thanks Kat. Stupidly I had already started to put on weight, was meant to be dieting this summer but got a BFP so that put them plans a side (much happier with a BFP than a diet!!) so thought it best to get mat stuff rather than jumping 2 dress sizes. I will have a look for dresses, thank you for your help

AprilAl · 01/09/2011 21:33

knitty and whenskies, there's nothing I can really say that hasn't already been said, but I just wanted to add my condolences and let you know I'm thinking about you.

Take care of yourselves

x

SurprisEs · 01/09/2011 21:57

knitty ever so sorry to read the bad news. Hope you have a speedy recovery. Make sure you look after yourself. Take a couple of weeks off and concentrate on coming to terms with it and don't prioritise anyone else. :(

empusa great news! Let's hope the rest of your pregnancy goes smoothly and without frights :)

SurprisEs · 01/09/2011 22:10

whenskies just read your post. Like everyone has said, this an awful situation to be in and we all feel for you. A warm hug.

Today was a better day. I have felt sick, but not us much and not as often.

I've noticed my trousers are getting uncomfortable, but I'm confused about it. It's just fat not a bump, but I've been eating less as I feel so sick?!? So why the weight gain?

Getting frustrated as I still haven't booked an appointment with my GP. Can't seem to leave work on time! I've asked DH to do it for me tomorrow, he finishes work much earlier.

bronzekitten · 01/09/2011 22:33

Hi all

Can I join??!! My due date is 20th April and this is my first pregnancy, I have PCOS too so am super paranoid about things going wrong although struggling to keep the news to ourselves. A couple of friends have sussed out by me not drinking, volunteering as designated driver for EVERYTHING we have planned for next few weeks!

So sorry to read about some difficult journeys, hope things are going ok for others. Still waiting to hear from midwife, they left a message before bank holiday but haven't phoned back yet. Feels like I've known for ages but nothing happening - except being exhausted and pukey!!! Just want to ask for some slack at work, hard without saying why though!

Empusa · 01/09/2011 23:43

This is a really weird one, and I suspect not actually pregnancy related, but I thought I'd see he anyone else had the same. I appear to have gained weight, but above my belly button. And when I'm all crampy it feels more solid. I've also got a swollen mons pubis and outer labia. I seem to be ballooning in strange ways!

Zwitterion · 02/09/2011 05:21

It probably is pregnancy related Empusa. I tend to gain quite a lot in the first trimester, even though I'm not eating masses more. Progesterone slows your digestion down to extract every nutrient from food, and your body lays down fat stores at this stage too. In odd places as I remember!

Zwitterion · 02/09/2011 05:22

Welcome and congratulations bronzekitten

Cutelittlecatlover · 02/09/2011 11:13

I've given in and made a doctors appointment. I'm just praying I can convince him to give me something, I've never felt so ill Sad . Please keep fingers crossed for me on Monday morning!

Snowy27 · 02/09/2011 14:38

Hi all
Had a mini-breakdown yesterday evening- grumpy and down all evening the started sobbing into my dinner, no real reason, well lots of reasons but none of them logical, and therefore not able to explain them to Mr S who is a very logically brained bloke, he was reduced to general patting and making soothing noises.

Anyone elses hormones going mad?

Thumbelina79 · 02/09/2011 15:15

YES constantly. I'm a right moody b**ch.

My physical symptoms are better though. Still queesy but if I keep topping up my belly I manage to avoid the worst of it :) - Anyone elses getting better?

Also ran a mile yesterday! Tortoise slow. It would have been 3 miles before.

Back at work and just want to tell everyone... but I'm not going to. My Nana has bought some wool to knit a blanket - the woman is psychic!

Seven weeks now eeeek...

Bearcrumble · 02/09/2011 17:51

I am feeling a bit better too - less fatigued for sure. I was terrible on Wednesday - could hardly move and felt very sick. Nausea is still there plus rock hard constipation (TMI, sorry) and I've been having very weird, vivid dreams. Last night I dreamed that there were all these extra rooms in my house that I didn't know were there and they were painted pink!

I was sure I was having another boy but less convinced now...

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