April 2012 babies!

[RosyRosie]

Hello, not sure if there's a similar thread already but just thought I'd create somewhere for nayone else expecting in April 2012?

I actually conceived about 3wks ago but I think this counts as week 5? Just staring to get symptoms - headaches, little stirrings of nausea, getting tired and grumpier than usual lol.

A little bit concerned because I have a LOT of work on from now until October and maybe beyond - and I think I'm just going to want to sleep and puke through it all - hell! :( d'oh.

So sorry knittymum, what sad news. I'm glad you can have the treatment you want ASAP and you feel you can move on soon.

Great news Empusa, you must be relieved.

So strange congratulating good news and hearing such sad news at the same time :(

knittymum I'm really sorry to hear your news. Look after yourself. x

Empusa, glad everything is ok with you.

I'm so sorry to hear your update knitty, all the vey best for tomorrow... It's heartbreaking that some of us aren't going to make it til April. You know, I value MN so much through these crazy journeys, RL is so tough, particularly when you can't tell people what's going on and feel so lonely. I'm so thankful I find such support from total strangers on these boards... (forgive me, uber emotional today...). I'll button it now...

(whispers) Good news Empusa!

I agree LaTristesse. Yesterday coming back from the hospital I was in floods of tears, so upset and didn't have a clue what was going on and what to think. After speaking to people on here, it helps so much. It helps so much to know you're not alone sometimes, especially as I tell everyone in RL I just want to be left alone .

i just worked out what RL was! :)

knitty and whenskies i'm so sorry to hear your news. i've typed out my story from earlier in the year, so similar to loads of other people, twice now, but somehow just can't bring myself to post it.

that said, you will feel better, this is hard, but you will get through it. my thoughts are with both of you at this difficult time xxx

Knitty so sorry to hear your sad news, I hope tomorrow goes as quickly and painless as possible.

Whenskies I'll also be thinking of you tomorrow and keeping everything crossed for your little bean.

I am so sorry to hear all the sad news. My thoughts are with you all xx

knitty I'm so sorry, I missed your post in my excitement. :( Really wish you'd had better news.

Thanks again everyone, the waiting is nearly over now. I have been trawling the internet to see whether it is possible to get a positive pregnancy test at 1 week, and its not looking good :( suppose there is no point in speculating, will just have to wait. What I'm not looking forward to is the wait for the phonecall between 12 and 2 tomorrow afternoon. I can't believe its the kind of thing they will tell you over the phone.

Trying to distract myself with some transfer deadline news, but supporting Everton, there's not much to distract me! Sorry if that goes over anyone's head!

Had a lot of catching up to do.....

knittymum sorry to hear your sad news.

Whenskies good luck for tomorrow I hope that you get good news.

After reading everything that is going on for other people it just makes me glad that I haven't really got anything to report I am just thinking of all of you who are having a tough time with worry/nausea etc.

According to the GP I am due 1st May, however, I still think my dates are pretty accurate (they were last time although was admitted early) so I think it will be towards the end of April so I hope its ok for me stay put here. I can't get an appointment with the Midwife until towards the end of September so don't think I will be having any scans very early either!!

Knitty so sorry to hear your news. My heart goes out to you. Take a few days to look after you and have a good cry. Hope tomorrow is as painless as possible.

When skies best of luck tomorrow, keeping everything crossed its good news for you.

Empusa what a relief, great news.

I'm having my 9 week scan tomorrow. Not sure I'm going to be able to sleep tonight.

My friend has just texted me to say she has just found out she is pregnant, due 8th April :( is obviously great news, but can't help feeling a bit sad :(

caramel good luck with your scan tomorrow!

whenskies oh poppet i get sad when friends announce pregnancies. I wish I didn't but all I can think is 'they'll go on to have that baby and I probably lose mine soon and then have to watch them get bigger while I try and get pg again.' I'd love to be happy for them and be thinking 'yay we get to be on maternity leave together!' but sadly my experience has tainted my excitement.

Six years ago my boyfriend was told the tumour had returned and he was pretty much certainly going to die. He asked us not to cry, so I was sitting numbly by his bed when I got a friend's text message: Baby is here! 4000g, healthy... Needless to say I cried at once.
He died two weeks later - and now I forgot his anniversary with the excitement of finding out I'm pregnant again! I would normally have called his mum but I know she will be delighted for me, and anyhow, his birthday is more of an anniversary for both of us I think.

I found a discussion on the web somewhere about the opposite of Schadenfreude - is there a word for being happy because of someone else's good fortune? Whatever it might be, it is impossible not to feel sad when you're going through such a difficult time at the same time. No need to feel guilty, whenskiesaregrey.

skies that must have been very hard for you. don't feel guilty, it's perfectly natural to feel how you do. It doesn't mean you aren't happy for her and her baby, just that it has rubbed in how you are feeling about your own situation. Wishing you all the best today.

caramel good luck with your 9 week scan, hope it is good news.

knitty thinking of you today, hope it goes ok.

Does anyone know much about this frequent urination thing? I am always needing a wee. Sometimes when I get there I can't do much. According to nurse at GP I don't have a urine infection. I was expecting to need to go more often but it is quite literally taking the piss now.

kat I have no idea how frequent is normal, but it has certainly kicked in for me as well. And insomnia (coupled with daytime tiredness of course). And I've gone off my coffee.

Hi ladies, I could do with some advice please!

I feel so ill all the time, constant nausea, vomiting several times a day and also a horrible bubbly feeling in my tummy all the time. I'm thinking about going to see the doctor to beg for some anti-sickness pills but I've heard that they don't like to prescribe anything for ms until its severe enough to need hospital treatment. Do you think its worth going anyway and seeing if I can persuade him? I've tried ginger tea and tablets, vitamin b6, fizzy drinks, sea bands, eating little and often etc and its getting worse instead of better. I'm not losing weight or dehydrated bit my poor ds is being neglected while mummy spends all day with her head in the toilet!

I feel bad for moaning about something so trivial when others are going through something awful so apologies if anyone is offended by my pathetic whinging

kat I need to wee all the time.

I think it's a combination of two things - blood volume increasing so you have more fluid needing processing, and your expanding uterus reducing bladder space.

I suppose it is the latter that means we don't pee much when we do. I've been told it helps to rock back and forth and side to side on the loo once you think you've finished, just to ensure your bladder really is empty and to reduce the risk of an UTI.

Thank you digitalgirl, thusnelda and kat for reassuring me I'm not entirely bitter, not yet anyway...

Had the blood tests, now just waiting for a phone call. Do they really tell you this kind of stuff over the phone?!?

whenskies in a previous pg I was called the day after I had my second hcg test to confirm it had dropped. I hope they call you soon, the waiting must be agony.

Kat I was told the bladder is a rather 'stupid' organ whereby any pressure it feels, whether coming from inside or from outside - makes you feel as though you need to wee. zwitterion's advice on the rocking back and forth is good though.

Hi everyone, not good news. Hormone levels have risen from 850 to 910 (or there about) so they have said its likely to be a failing pregnancy. As levels haven't actually decreased they can't rule out ectopic completely, but the midwife said she is confident its not. Just a plain old mmc. Got to go back on Sat for yet more hormone tests, and a scan on Tues. So it will drag on and on, whoopee.

Thank you all so much for your words and advice over the last few days, I have appreciated it so much, and appreciated those who gave personal experience, it can't have been the easiest think to reminise (sp?!) about.

Feel a bit alone atm, don't know who I should tell. I think it hit DH on Tues, so today not so upsetting for him. Tbh, it is the same for me, but now I have the worry about what is going to happen to my body? Does anyone know when I start bleeding, will I get any warning, like a period, or will it be sudden? I don't know whether to go to work tomorrow? And I don't know what to do about the new job I was meant to be starting Monday? Tbh, I just want it to start happening now and then i can move on, like DH is doing.

I am so sorry. I guess you kind of pretty much knew this was coming but that doesn't make it any easier for you to deal with, it is still very horrible.
Hopefully your scan on Tuesday will be able to confirm the miscarriage and then you will be able to move on. It's usually a 20mm empty sac where they draw the line.
My advice is to phone your new employers and tell them (or get your DH to do it for you if you can't do it yourself) Whichever way the miscarriage happens you are going to feel pretty bad and will need some time off to recover both physically and emotionally. Do not go to work tomorrow unless you absolutely have to.
Nobody will be able to tell you when you will start bleeding. It could be next week, it could take several weeks. As your hormones are still rising slowly as opposed to falling I'm afraid your body may not yet realise that the pregnancy has failed and will take a while to catch up. You are likely to start with light bleeding that will then escalate.
Did the midwife talk to you about the options available to you? Given your new job and the fact you want to move on, you may not want to wait it out and it may be best to choose either medical or surgical management so that you don't have to wait for weeks. If you aren't happy with that you may be up to starting work while you are waiting, but I know I wouldn't have been able to do that. Everyone is different though.
Sending you wine, ice cream and chocolate to get you through the next few days. be kind to yourself and get lots of cuddles from your DH.

Thank you kat. The midwife just said they would give me a week's grace and scan again.

To be blunt, this is over isn't it? No-one is actually saying it. Everyone keeps saying 'quite likely' and words to that effect. Those hormone levels wouldn't exist in a normal pregnancy would they? I just want to get a bottle of wine :(

whenskies so very sorry . I think yes, the pregnancy is most likely not viable given the levels have remained fairly static. But if you haven't started bleeding before your next scan they may offer you the option of an erpc. I wouldn't go into work - could you work from home if it helped take your mind off things? Hopefully things will happen quickly and naturally for you. Take good care of yourself, rest lots and treat yourself. Sending you lots of hugs.