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RosyRosie · 25/07/2011 09:32

Hello, not sure if there's a similar thread already but just thought I'd create somewhere for nayone else expecting in April 2012?

I actually conceived about 3wks ago but I think this counts as week 5? Just staring to get symptoms - headaches, little stirrings of nausea, getting tired and grumpier than usual lol.

A little bit concerned because I have a LOT of work on from now until October and maybe beyond - and I think I'm just going to want to sleep and puke through it all - hell! :( d'oh.

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whenskiesaregrey · 30/08/2011 17:40

Thank you bearcrumble, that's positive that you got a positive results so early, so maybe there is hope. I think they were concerned about ectopic more because there was fluid in my pelvis? I have no idea what could cause that, although they did suggest that it nay have been caused by me drinking a load of water before the scan. I drank 3 pints in the hope I'd avoid the transvaginal scan, that didn't work! I really hope its not ectopic the most. Obviously I hope its not a mc, but ectopic petrifies me.

MichaelaS · 30/08/2011 17:49

oh whenskies what a worrying time. :( I hope you get your results back soon and they are good. Sometimes the scans just don't see what's there - its not an exact science. maybe another scan in a week or two might be different?

I'm planning to go for a private scan at 7 weeks just to make sure everything is in the right place - it only costs about £100 so worth it to lower the stress i think. good luck!!!

LaTristesse · 30/08/2011 18:02

Oh whenskies, I'm so sorry to hear your update... It sucks big time. Fwiw I opted for the chemicals when I was in that position, and it obviously wasn't the nicest, but I couldn't have dealt with the alternatives. If it does come to that, make sure you have someone to take care of you and plenty of painkillers... All my fingers crossed for a good result for you...

And hi to the other newcomers, pleased to have you along. I'm seeing the mw in the morning, not looking forward to occupying DS for an hour while we go through the paperwork etc...

whenskiesaregrey · 30/08/2011 18:06

Thank you Michaela.

If you can afford the private scan, its definetly worth it for the piece of mind.

womanlytales · 30/08/2011 18:07

whenskies - what a terrible time - I have everything crossed for you.

whenskiesaregrey · 30/08/2011 18:37

Sorry digitalgirl and LaTristesse I've only just seen your posts for some reason. I could have sworn they weren't there before, I hope I haven't missed anyone else's. Thank you so much for sharing your experiences, I'm sorry to hear about your mcs :( digitalgirl, I hope you are right about the ectopic, a couple of people have said that now so hopefully its the case. And thank you LaTristesse, I know what you mean about the alternatives, there is just so much to consider :( it brings it home just how common miscarriage is when you here how many people gave been through it. I can't thank you enough for sharing your experiences.

Thank you for your thoughts womanlytales.

Thusnelda · 30/08/2011 18:39

I'm so sorry, whenskiesaregrey. I hope it all clears up one way or another as soon as possible. I don't think the risk with an erpc at such an early state is very great (if that is what is needed). Miscarriages really are very common, even if not often spoken about in real life. I know quite a few women in real life and here on mumsnet who had a miscarriage and then a successful pregnancy within a few months. That doesn't mean you can't be in pieces about it now, I'm sure I would be. Especially the limbo situation is very unnerving. xx

Empusa · 30/08/2011 18:41

Should say, a friend of mine had an ectopic, found out really late, so it was touch and go. Within a year she was pregnant again, and went to term with no problems. So even if it is an ectopic, there's still hope.

whenskiesaregrey · 30/08/2011 18:45

Thank you Thusnelda. So the risks with erpc is lower with an earlier pregnancy?

Does anyone know, if we find out on Thurs it is a mmc, how long will they give us to decide how to deal with it?

whenskiesaregrey · 30/08/2011 18:51

That's reassuring Empusa, thank you.

I just wish i knew what I was preparing for. Have took tomorrow off work and going to spend the day doing all the things DS loves. Burst in to tears when he got in from nursery, he asked if mummy was poorly :(

Thank you all for your kind words, I feel better than I did before. Just taking DS to bed, will check back in later.

VintageNancy · 30/08/2011 18:57

I'm just catching up...

So sorry whenskies - I don't have any advice to add to what the others have said but just wanted to say I'm thinking of you.

Welcome MichaelaS - hope you get to see a consultant soon, crap that they were so difficult.

Hi Momface and Slinkysista too :)

kat2504 · 30/08/2011 19:12

whenskies very sorry to hear your bad news. The not knowing and hoping against hope is the absolute worst. If it is an mmc you have plenty of time to make decisions. You don't have to have any procedures, you can wait it out, but it could take you a few weeks before you miscarry naturally. The first time it happened to me I had the erpc. It isn't really a risky operation as far as your future fertility is concerned, of course there are some risks, but they are very low. It has the advantage of getting it all over with and you are asleep during the worst of it so less pain. I also had the medical management the second time. That was more painful but I was keen to avoid the surgery and the general anaesthetic and I was only 8 weeks that time.

In the unlikely event that the pregnancy is ectopic, losing a tube is the last resort. There is medical treatment that can be tried first. Obviously in an emergency, surgical intervention is necessary to save your life sometimes. But there are other options they can try first.

Thinking of you, take care of yourself and I hope you get your answer soon.

knittymum23 · 30/08/2011 19:47

whenskies - really really sorry to hear your news.

Sadly it looks like things might be similar for us - have started to bleed these last couple of days, so we're at the local EPAU tomorrow to find out what's going on.

:(

Thumbelina79 · 30/08/2011 19:55

Hello, you will be the first people we have told!

Due early April. concieved 4 weeks ago, we think. So that's 6 weeks!?

Morning, Afternoon and Evening sickness :( No sick yet but lots of promise of it.

We found out mid honeymoon - yipee but no booze for mummy --all the way around the guiness factory and not a sip.

Anyone suffering from headaches? OUCH. I used to drink buckets of tea but it makes me gag now. So I'm having a bit of diet coke when the headaches are really bad because I reckon its caffine withdawl?! Anyone any experience.

But baby = Exciting!!

mumofwilliam · 30/08/2011 20:28

whenskies so sorry to hear and fingers crossed for you. We had a MMC before DS1 and had a ERCP and although not nice i would say the quickest and easiest way (although it was on holiday and they wouldnot let me fly home otherwise!). My sisterinlaw has just had 2 MC and with the first was bleeding so heavily she passed out with her DS there as was trying to pass but ended up with ERCP anyhow, hope this helps.

But on the positive - fingers crossed the dates were just wrong!

hope all the rest of you ladies are ok.

A friend of mine just gave me loads of maternity clothes - hope am not tempting fate! (was going to try them on but will maybe wait a bit!)

mumofwilliam · 30/08/2011 20:30

thumbellina - headaches are normal in early pregancy think its something to do with blood vessels but can't remember what. Mine have finished now though so fingers crossed!

Thumbelina79 · 30/08/2011 20:35

Thanks for the tip!
So excited!
Glad yours have stopped, hopefully mine will v soon.

Have people started to tell people?

LaTristesse · 30/08/2011 20:42

I meant to say, Uglymush, you were king about how to deal with MIL... Being brutally honest I'd put my foot down now and tell her to butt out! This is your pg, your baby and you should call the shots. If you let her get her way now she'll be a nightmare later on! In-laws can be helpful to have around when you're in need of some help etc in the early days of having a newborn, but it has to be on your terms, or they tend to take over! Your choice obv, but I would defo try and make sure she knows her place now! Good luck!

Personally we're not telling anyone yet. We waited with DS till the scan and will do the same this time, although it is bloody lonely in RL!

LaTristesse · 30/08/2011 20:43

King = talking - stoopid iPad...

Thusnelda · 30/08/2011 21:41

knittymum, so sorry. Maybe it's a false alarm, fingers crossed.

Empusa · 30/08/2011 21:53

Oh knitty hope everything is alright!

Thusnelda · 30/08/2011 21:59

I've added the newbies to our April 2012 stats thread
Welcome on board!

BeyondTheLimitsOfAcceptability · 30/08/2011 22:21

Hi guys
Been away for a few days so have some catching up to do. Can see from this page that some have had some bad/possibly bad news. Am so sorry for anyone that has, and keeping my fingers crossed for anyone that is unsure at the mo :(

Unbelievably knackered so I'll catch up properly in the morning!

Nat x

PS Not good for morning sickness = DS climbing up me to give me a kiss, giving me said kiss, then being sick in my mouth!!
Envy (sick, not envy)

digitalgirl · 30/08/2011 22:37

knittymum sorry to hear your worries too - hope scan tomorrow is good news.

Welcome newbies, it's lovely to see so many happy ladies. I'm still not quite BFP = baby yet, but looking forward to the day when I can start getting excited about this pregnancy.

Feeling a bit more nauseous today which is reassuring. And also told my boss, as I have a big project starting just after my scan next Weds - so need to make sure they can cover me if it's not good news and I need to take time off.

SurprisEs · 30/08/2011 22:48

To knitty and whenskies hope everything is ok. Maybe it's just a little bump on the road. My thoughts are with you.

I was off work today. Feeling really guilty as I haven't been very patient with DD. But I feel terrible. Back to work tomorrow, not looking forward to it.

DH told all his family a week ago. I don't know why as I was 5 or 6 weeks (not sure about my dates). MIL reacted as badly as I expected but atleast she didn't insinuate I should terminate like she did last time!

Had to tell work as I am not being able to cope. I'm a waiter and the working conditions are harsh IMO. Can't wait to get out of it.

I'll be phoning my GP tomorrow and hopefully I can get a quick appointment. I sooooo wish I could afford a private scan. Just for the heartbeat, how reassuring, isn't it?