First-timers due December - new thread!

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Had to start a new thread, as our old one got too big to post anymore.
yay figgy - your scan sounds great! A wee boy - now you only have to think about boy names. Woohoo.

I make old lady groaning noises every time I sit down, stand up, reach for something, put on underwear/tights/shoes...

38 or 83?

There are no nice preggers trousers that I've found yet, so I have recwently invested in woolly and opaque pregnancy tights to wear with dresses. I hadn't quite realised how much hard work it is to get into tights, and how much harder is it going to get???! (week 28 tomorrow!)

Plus, zipping up my boots is a bit of a tight squeeze. This better not get any worse!!

I suppose putting on socks is going to be a big challenge in a while. I find even bending down a challenge now. Am going to have to go professional for grooming purposes instead of my usual trusty depilator. I suspect that there will be a bit of a lack of grooming down there seeing as I can't even see it!

mopsy - re: down there... alarmingly down there has been pulled up slightly with the stretching of the belly. I can't see it, but I'm sure it starts a bit higher up than it used to! Definitely needs professional attention!

I've opened a new thread for the December 2011 thread here: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/1296042-December-2011-the-end-is-in-sight

Tomorrow i will be 3 months to the day before baby is due, it feels like a massive landmark but cant believe it is still so far away. Husband and i have been living together 8 years today we were going to go out for the evening to celebrate as on our wedding anniversary we had the 12 week scan but have decided to be good and stay in and put the money towards nappy funds. Husband now has a huggies wipe mountain in our nursery morrisons have them on 3 for the price of 1 so he bought 6 last night not kidding we now have about 30 packets from previous offers he has seen.

Talking about "down there" what are you supposed to do for the birth about hygiene when you cant see it!! Not having a wax or going through the indignity of them having to do it for you are you supposed to get a mirror out to see past the bump and then hack away???

Im working out of a different office today and there is a lady here due to go on leave tomorrow and she has a lovely petite beachball shaped bump whereas i am just Jabba-ing out so jealous!!! I am the size now i wanted to be at the end!!!

Congrats figgy on 8 yrs living together! And congrats on having a DH who is actively involved in planning! My DH is certainly interested and excited, but happy to leave everything to me.
I'm real-nappying. I've been researching options, and am now a little bit closer to deciding. The advice is to wait til the baby is here and try a few out and see what works best for the baby and you. But I want to be organised and ready and want to buy the "system". It will be a big initial outlay of about £300 maybe more, but over the years should save thousands (especially if we reuse for a second child).
There's not enough time for planning! Stupid work gets in the way and I'm too tired at night!
As for down there... I've never been waxed, but I think I'm going to try it in the next few weeks, and work it out from there... I certainly do not want midwives/nurses getting involved.
And another thing - when the contractions start I am demanding an enema! I do not want DH or me stressed out and violated by floating poos in the pool!

Oi I would say, given all the advice from friends, don't buy the system before the baby gets here!!! You really need to try the various nappies to see if they fit your child. I want to get the bumgenius but am waiting to see if they fit.

Midwives and nurses don't shave you anymore, they used to for our mothers' generation but this is no longer the case. So we can be as messy as we like :)

I am worried too about poo issues and labour - ugh! Is it not horrible enough?!

I cant believe how many people say i wont care if i poo myself in front of people err i will NEVER be in so much pain i wont care about that!!!!

Those considering the reusable nappies i tip my hat to you it's a great idea not for me though.

thanks mopsy... I filled in a questionnaire on www.thenappylady.com and she recommended Totsbots Bamboozle Stretchies based on my answers. (!) But as you say, maybe it's best to buy a few different types to play with first, and a few packs of disposables to use whilst we decide...

The idea of there being poo at the birth scares the sh1t out of me. (he he he!) It's just wrong. DH and I are close, but there are some things we should never share! And if you go over your due date, people recommend a hot curry - but then what would that be like????!!! I'm going to take my own enema tablet things just in case!

I did the same! Can't remember what she recommended. But I definitely wouldn't buy the whole set, it's expensive if they don't fit. Also, apparently it's really hard for them to fit until baby is about 6-8 wks old (depending on size of baby obvs) so it might be easier to use newborn disposables until then before trying the nappies out. Think is what I will do. I also think it's good to try a few different ones to see how quickly they dry etc. And the other reason I am waiting, apart from all of the above, is to make sure I am happy with using non-disposables.

I also was wondering about the curry thing - ugh! I really really really don't want this to be an issue for me either. It totally freaks me out.

We're going to buy Smartipants reuseable nappies, and use dispoables when DH is looking after LO alone/his parents are (it's not really fair to make MIL wash shitty nappies....is it?)
Also getting 'eco' baby wipes for home use (aka cutting up flannels), and using the biodegrable ones when we're out (another thing DH won't do, and he's dismissed as me being a crazy lentil weaving hippy).

Congrats to figgygal & figgyman!
For the birth, DH will be immac-ing my lady area (I don't think DH will mind me poo-ing infront of him in labour)...although I don't think I'll be eating curry beforehand, planning a home birth & I don't really want anyone to be cleaning that up!

I'm 25wks today, in 12wks there will be a full term soon-to-be person nesting in my bowels It feels like only yesterday I was peeing on a stick & getting negative results!

Aw! Taking me back to that peeing on a stick moment - so long ago! I knew I was pregnant, my boobs were sore and I'd fallen asleep everynight in front of the TV at about 8pm for 4 nights in a row. When i woke up on the couch, I said, that's it, i'm going peeing on a stick (didn't bother about where I was in the cycle or testing the first wee of the day). DH thought I was crazy. I came back down stairs with a 3+ week preggers reading and DH was totally amazed. Que?
As for little babies and reuseables - the nappy lady has videos and in one she uses a muslin as a nappy. Most impressive, cheap, simple - it'd almost be rude not to try it! www.youtube.com/user/thenappylady#p/search/0/cx7bmXuj5tM

Oi that's so weird - I too had a wave of exhaustion at 8pm every night and my boobs went from a B to a DD overnight! I found out I was pregnant about 4 days before my period was due and the boob growth/tiredness had been happening for well over a week so I think they happened literally at implantation.

Wow re: muslin - she makes it look so easy! Will defs try it!

re: muslin - I know! A friend gave me about 12 large muslin sheets that she had never found a use for. I just need a couple of outer wraps and some of those clever snapper/grabby things and we're sorted. (And I'm sure the addition of a bit of liner wouldn't go amiss either)

My baby is kicking me so hard I can see my belly move!
The only issue I have with muslins for first couple of weeks is the washing element. Might just give myself a break and use disposables for a few weeks til I get my head around having an actual baby to take care of.

figgy oh my gosh i cant wait for true blood, someone has downloaded them for me, im just waiting for them to be passed over!!

Hmm i have done no pelvic floors what so ever!! I know its bad but im too lazy! I plan on getting an electric kegel machine thing after the birth so it will do the work for me hehe

i have lost my appetite the past few weeks, feeling really low too, so thats annoying me, but i havent put weight on for a while now... maybe its coz i put loads on in the 1st trimester?? i'm creeping in to double figures on the scales now haha

as for private rooms, does anyone know how much they are??

ps on the pooh issue... i had planned on trying for a poop whilst in hospital before i needed to push... but now as i have to have an early epidural i will be lying in a bed for hours... no chance of poohing before :( i will have to make sure dan doesnt look down that end!!

Sorry to hear you're feeling low kri5ty. How is the dizziness? any better?

No idea about private rooms. I hope I don't have to spend more than a night in the hospital. Ideally would be in labour during the night then just spend 6 hours there and get out. That would only be if everything went smoothly though and of course I can't plan when labour starts/how long it is!! But you can leave fairly swiftly now if all is well.

I have put on a stone so far but was already chubbed up before I got pregnant due to a combination of fieldwork far away from home comfort eating and then a bad muscle tear which meant I couldn't walk for weeks and then couldn't exercise for weeks. So I am hating my fatness at the moment :( Double chinned weeble, that's me!!

its still the same hun, but at least i dont have to worry about work now, or having to drive :)

dont hate the fatness, you will lose it eventually hun! Plus i have put double of that on :o hehe

Also hating the fatness get out of breath really quickly.

I got an email from boots today saying congrats on 27 weeks and by now i could have put on between 16 and 22lbs which made me feel a bit better

I had a significant tidy up down there before our little break, but from now on will just use trimmers and a mirror...two words of warning ladies: Ingrowing. Hairs. The thought of having them down there, and trying to sort them out/them being seen just makes me wibble with horror.

As for the poo question- please God I get a c-section anyway, so it's not an issue, but if I don't then I pray I'm one of these women that kicks off labour by puking and running to the loo! I never thought I could think of a situation where I'd pray for that, but at least doing it at home, in private is better that all over DP/nurse/self...urgh....

Am huffing and puffing today, especially as my sciatica's been so bad- all down right leg and throbbing behind kneecap, set off by- hard chairs in Pizza Express. Feel definitely elderly today.

mopsy- is it not the freakiest thing ever watching your belly leap around? Sometimes I see my little boy do a sort of drum roll across my stomach, so odd.

And we'll need to get agreement on moving over to new thread, set a date for a mass exodus or something...

Northen, mospy, I feel like John Hurt in Alien when stomach bounces around, I find it quite offputting to be honest (I don't think I'm a naturally maternal type)!

Northen did you manage a whole meal at Pizza Express? I have to eat little snacks, can't manage a full plate; anyone else like this yet?
Sorry about your pain, DH thinks I'm exaggerating the rib pain, in order to get massages!

Hi, has anyone else had that OMG I am having a baby!!! panic or is it just me?

I had a am I mad what on earth am I doing moment so went and had a huge shopping spree buying sweet girlie baby clothes made me feel better.

Mmmm might have to reassess the buys or there may be a new outfit for every day LOL, I need 2 snow suits its a December baby......

AWCH getting that way. If I eat too much I get really uncomfortable.

Seeing my tummy move freaked me out a bit also! star I keep having reality check AGH moments. Particularly about my PhD. It is going to be hard to finish with a baby but I am finding it hard to crack on properly with it now as I feel so tired and achey all the time :(

Still haven't bought anything. Even if I was interested (which I am still not - is there something wrong with me? haven't had a single urge to buy a cute clothe) I can't be bothered with town/shops! I seem to be the only uninterested-in-shopping-for-baby on here though. I am very interested in the baby part, just not the buying stuff part!