Due in june - 42 down and just the 2 to go

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Thought we'd better start a new thread until the last two are here and then we can move to post natal.........

One more thing to share for anyone who feels the need to get out of the house - check your local cinemas for Parent and Baby screenings. Generally run in the mornings, lower sound, lights up so you can feed etc, noone stares at you if your LO kicks off - am planning to see Harry Potter next week and sooooo looking forward to that...will seem like a bit of normality

Thanks misshooha- I'm glad that my DD's are my first so that I don't know any different but to do double everything. Luckily got a pretty useful DH and my mum has been very supportive. I do sometimes think wow this would be so much easier with one. Breast feed them together but also feed them EBM. Love LO's name choice btw!

Hmm definaltely have a love/hate relationship with the dummy kara. Bet it's hard having two children of different ages- big balancing act!

Sorry to hear you are having difficulties BPprincess hope it starts getting easier and if not sounds like you are willing to get support- take care.

Jasmine51 leaking when you hear babies cry is something I get too- do you get a tingling feeling!?! Can't manage without breast pads!

Breastfeeding mothers does your DD/DS always come off the breast when they are full? My DD's rarely do so after I've been sat here for an hour I have to do the old finger breaking the seal job . Never sure if they have had enough then. They are putting weight on though so must be okay.

nurse sounds a bit wierd but if you push yourself to act more outgoing and confident (even if it's not natural) in order to make friends, then you will start to feel more confident and outgoing naturally. When I was at school I had a good group of friends but I didn't really talk to anyone else (bit of a wall flower) when I started college I decided that was the old me and when the first day at college came I purposely made sure I was confident and not shy to talk to strangers and very quickly the majority of the time it came naturally and I've not looked back. Good luck xx

jasmine mentioned parent baby screenings to DH and he said he thought that girls were too young- he thought they would be watching the film- duh!

Clarkiee I used to do that fake it till you make it thing but I feel as though I've lost a lot of confidence recently. Won't get it back by staying at home though so will have to push myself.
RE bfing, DD usually comes off herself unless she falls asleep but then it's obv she's had enough. Are they still suckling or just lying there not doing anything? If the latter then they've probably had enough, I'd imagine.

Yeah nurse hopefully it'll only take a bit of pushing before you meet some new people because I bet lots of the mums you meet will be in a similar boat.

Sometimes they fall asleep and if they have been feeding a while I'll stop- but sometimes they might have only been feeding for 10mins so I wake them up a bit and they always carry on. Sometimes they are just lying there so I start to take them off and they bloody start sucking again . Started sky plusing films so I'm not too bored when I'm sitting there for an hour.

I've got a new guilty pleasure tv- Dinner Date!

bprincessI'm really sorry to hear you may have PND. I was going to advise you firstly to ensure that you let someone in rl know how you've been feeling but am glad to read you have already been so sensible in informing your healthcare providers and family.

I can completely sympathise, I have to watch myself carefully as I have a history of depression and an anxiety disorder. The anxiety is awful and at times all consuming. I understand completely how you feel. I know it's easier said than done and I've said it on here before, but please try not let guilt ruin these early days with your lo. I did this with dd and have such regret, as a new mother you will feel guilty about everything (yes you are completely normal) and you'll need to just give yourself a break! I took my own advice with ds and now dd2 and it's so much nicer - Just enjoying them! None of us will do everything perfectly - just our best (that sounds obvious but it took me some time to embrace it). I suppose I've learned that although I've made mistakes and have been far from the perfect mother, my kids are confident, secure, affectionate and very happy - we must be doing something right.

I see what you're doing - by asking what you have to look forward to - I think this is so clever of you and believe it's a good way to get through the haze - to focus on when it'll get better and if will - it's going to get so, so much better and easier - thats a given -your baby is going to get older. the newborn stage is hard. Remember that you not only have a small baby to care for, you are also recovering from pregnancy and childbirth!. Just think "this too will pass" - in a couple of short months/ weeks (and believe me they fly by) your baby will be sleeping through, he'll then be eating solids etc, wait til he starts interacting back at you and shouting "mama" and kissing and cuddling you, in no time he'll be running about.

It's brilliant! Your life has changed so much but I swear to you it has changed so much for the better, you sound like a great mum and there's loads to look forward to. (it also gets easier with each baby IMO).

You sound so much like I was after dd1 (now 5) and my heart is breaking for you. Make sure you keep talking to us here and those at home about how you're feeling.

Sorry for rubbish post. Am on phone

I remember when ds was 14 weeks life got easier. My problem is mainly around baby sleep a d my own sleep deprivation. I am convinced someone else could train my dc to sleep better and I am making a rod for my own back by feeding / rocking dd to sleep. Weird I know but am obsessed. Today is a bad day. Think I might chat to hv but she is not the greatest.

Sorry you're having a bad day Halle, its important to chat about it though - so even if you need a rant, make sure you come here and let some steam off, we all do understand.

For what it's worth I can guarantee you that no one could train your baby better than you - you know your baby better than anyone else in this world. I can say this as I've had to adjust my parenting for each child - to extreme ends of the spectrum, as opposed to just trying the one method with each - because they are completely different/ completely unique from each other - what worked with my dd1 (would cry to be put down! Slept 12 hours a night from 4 weeks old) would definitely not have worked with ds for instance (had to be rocked to sleep, held constantly, slept through sometimes from 3 months old but then regressed and started to look for night feeds again).

The point I'm trying to make (not very well) is that someone else would come in with s single method to try, I spent 24/7 with my babies and knew them best/ what they needed best - exactly like you do.

Sorry you're having a bad day Halle, its important to chat about it though - so even if you need a rant, make sure you come here and let some steam off, we all do understand.

For what it's worth I can guarantee you that no one could train your baby better than you - you know your baby better than anyone else in this world. I can say this as I've had to adjust my parenting for each child - to extreme ends of the spectrum, as opposed to just trying the one method with each - because they are completely different/ completely unique from each other - what worked with my dd1 (would cry to be put down! Slept 12 hours a night from 4 weeks old) would definitely not have worked with ds for instance (had to be rocked to sleep, held constantly, slept through sometimes from 3 months old but then regressed and started to look for night feeds again).

The point I'm trying to make (not very well) is that someone else would come in with s single method to try, I spent 24/7 with my babies and knew them best/ what they needed best - exactly like you do.

With ds he is an ok sleeper so I must have done something right but it was trial and error I suppose.... anyway I am going to try and use the sling more so if she is being a velcro baby I can still do things with ds. Ds was good at night but until he was 9 months old only slept in my arms / carseat or buggy during the day.

Babies I think this will be my last. I can deal with them when they are bigger but not tiny. Doesn't help that both mine were premmie and newborn for longer.

Thanks Barbie xx

Hi all - I feel very much out of the loop as I hardly have any time for computer-action it seems, but am trying to keep up with everyone. Confessions my thoughts go out to you, it must be very difficult for you dealing with a newborn and your DPs illness - you sound like you are doing a wonderful job though.

Bprincess sorry to hear about your anxious feelings - hope you are feeling some relief and it sounds like you are doing all the right things to deal with everything.

Halle I know how you are feeling - I am so exhausted - I was stumbling around the house last night like I was drunk! I don't feel like I've got the right to complain really as Ruby is pretty good at sleeping for a two-week old, but she is cluster feeding in the evenings and it is exhausting me, and I feel like the lack of sleep is really catching up with me. She fed from 5.30 til midnight yesterday and screamed every time I stopped . I am feeling quite pissed off with dp, as I don't feel he really understands how tiring it is bfing and doing all the night care - he isn't doing a massive amount around the house either (after doing loads when I was in hospital) and I really feel like the babymoon period is over now .

Anyway, rant over .

Nurse I hope you achieve your mission of getting out there and meeting some Mums this week.

Big Hellos to everyone else, and I hope we hear from the two MIA ladies soon with news of their new babies .

Hi to all my Mum flew back today think DS could be more difficult from now on as he's had lots of attention which has enabled me to get on with looking after DD.

Barbie some very wise words.

BPrincess like Barbie I suffered with PND after DS. I also have a previous history of depression so have to watch myself carefully too. For me the big difference between PND and my previous bouts of depression was the anxiety as I'd never suffered from that before. I did get some help and took anti-depressants (which were fine for bf'ing although thats not an issue for you). My biggest problem was over DS weight gain (or lack of) and I struggled terribly. He also wouldn't take a bottle which left me exhausted. Keep talking to people and don't be afraid to ask for help. I'm doing ok most of the time this time but have to catch myself sometimes. DS is also very confident and loving little boy plus a little monkey !

Had a couple of smiles before but these last few days my girls have started doing some huge beams

Clarkiee I've had some of those today too. It's amazing isn't it.

Morning all.........
I get occasional beams and they are just wonderful :)
I think supersunny is due to be induced today if nothing had happened over the weekend.....if so Good luck for today.
Lisascat hope you have your LO now.......thinking of you if not

Well I had a bit of a mad day yesterday. Started getting crampy pain in my lower abdomen and felt a bit sick and as though I was going to faint if I stood up. Took a couple of paracetamol and tried to eat something. It suddenly got a LOT worse and I was literally writhing around on the sofa in pain. Thankfully dd was asleep as I wouldn't have been able to pick her up, I couldn't stannd up straight. Called the mw who came round and called the out of hours gp for me as she had no idea what was wrong. Luckily my mum was on her way over for a visit anyway and could drive me to the gp.
Turns out it's just a bladder infection so have some antibiotics and feeling a bit better now.

Am taking dd to see an osteopath today as apparently they are good for forceps births.

Halle I think it's all just trial and error really. And as Barbie says, no-one could do it better than you.

Bprincess Hope you're feeling ok today. Thinking of you.

8rd Can you talk to dh and let him know you need a bit more help?

Hope supersunny and Lisa are doing ok.

Congratulations supersunny......... fantastic news, we just need to hear from lisascat now.
nurse that sounds scary, hopefully you will be completely better soon

Well done Supersunny, congratulations and welcome to baby Alex

Yey Congratulations Supersunny!! Keira was 9lb 1 but I was no bigger than when I had DD1 who was only 6lb 8. If I'd known she was a 9lb er I'd never have been as relaxed during my home birth as I was.
Well done xxx

Well done Supersunny hope you are getting some reasonable rest and we look forward to hearing from you when you resurface.

Sorry to hear some of you are suffering from bad sleep deprivation. I can relate to the lack of DH understanding - mine is in his armchair at the moment having a snooze because he's 'exhausted'....errr, he went to bed at 10 last night and got up at 8am...and I didnt notice him up with me 3 times in the night bfing and rocking!
After my issues with William not sleeping on his back or in his moses basket I broke all the sleeping rules last night (not telling you exactly what I did!) and felt really guilty...but he seems so much happier today and much more relaxed. Wont tell the HV though.

Have been in tears alot today - my friends baby who is just 3 weeks old has a heart problem and has been taken to hosp in blue light ambulance 3 times in the past week and is currently in special care. They nearly lost him a few times with an out of control heart rate and she is completely distraught, not to mention exhausted. I look at William and cant imagine how frightening that must be. Hope they get it sorted quickly.

Congratulations Supersunny

Jasmine don't worry about it - sometimes you just need sleep! Sorry to hear about your friend's lo. I have never been so relieved as when we were told Rosina's was ok so can't imagine what they are going through.

Nurse hope you are feeling better today. Glad you got everything checked out.

jasmine if you speak to lots of RL people you will hear how many of them put their LOs on their tummy to sleep, a huge nono.......but it worked for them at the time and if your LO isnt sleeping then they wont feed well and grow, you have to get the balance right. My DD sleeps on her tummy all day, but at night i swaddle and put on her back, but if she didnt sleep like that i think i would be putting her on her tummy.

Thanks for the comments - William is sleeping on his side very happily and is not able to roll onto his front as he is wedged in a clever setup I bought off a reflux support website. So if the sleep police turn up I think we are fairly safe. The fact is that if he is on his back, he is either yelling or he wheezes and rasps like an old man and his breathing is very laboured. I'm taking him for a checkup this morning because his noisy breathing has been highlighted by the MW but I'm going to carry on putting him in a position that suits him most. Oh and in that position he's suddenly decided he is happy in his moses basket...strange things, babies!

Moomin is your DD happy being swaddled or does she fight it for a while before dropping off? William will tolerate it if he's already asleep or very tired but otherwise he'll just thrash around and kick off even the tightest swaddle.

Landmark day today by the way....had a shower...can see the lady garden down there if I squish my tummy a bit.....havent seen that for months! Welcome back lady garden!

jasmine DD loves the swaddle, she may make a little prformance being wrapped up but once shes in shes calm and it helps her settle. Not sure how long you can use it for though........shes 4 months now