Due in june - 42 down and just the 2 to go

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Thought we'd better start a new thread until the last two are here and then we can move to post natal.........

wow it is quiet!

Nurse/crazy and anyone else who lives in/around Sheffield, how about we have a meetup, I can do 1st week of august as Dh is off that week so I can take his car (free fuel!), I was thinking of Meadowhell as although I learnt to drive and passed my test in Sheffield, I hate driving there. Can do any day except the Monday.

Oooh yeah I'm up for that Kara. I think 79Monica lives nearby as well? I can do any day but thursday.

millie not sure what to say - good you checked with mw but go to the GP if you're still not sure. It never hurts to check. DD is 12 days old and I'm still bleeding, though the flow has been tapering off. I didn't have stitches so most of it is the small tear to the perineum I think - could you have opened a wound a bit?

perpetual I am they told you to top up with formula so quickly. Round here the breastfeeding police are on every corner and would rather see your baby waste away than mention a bottle! Luckily for me DD is a glutton and getting fat , but just to say I had a couple if days where the nappies went from the yellow back to brown and I was told to do compression too. Did it for a couple of days and now the milk is pouring out of its own accord, so there's hope you'll get your hand back! I recommend a bfing pillow too-I just bought one and it frees your hands up - DD is feeding right now and I am hands free!

Hope everyone else is well. I can't believe how much I am loving motherhood, and I know a lot of it is down to DH, who gets up in the night, changes nappies, does skin-to-skin, makes me food,keeps on top of the housework, and is generally textbook dad in all respects. It's definitely given me and Isobel a calm and happy environment in which to sort ourselves out, and he's got a lovely bond with her already which makes me feel relaxed that even if I fuck it up she has him to fall back on! I'm sure there's a catch somewhere though ... (answers on a postcard!)

I'm still having a small bleed, 4weeks and 4 days on! It is only very light, and has been so for the last couple of weeks but occasionally I get a bit of a heavier bit but it tends to coincide with extra activity.
If it is smelly, Millie, do get help as it maybe an infection. Best to be safe than sorry.

I thought things had been very quiet on here recently so had been sticking to our facebook group! Then I realised my phone has not allowed the page to update for days - doh!
So I have missed a bit on here (unless it was also mentioned on fb) apologies! when I get on computer I will catch up.
Regarding the bleeding - I am 10 days since failed forceps and emergency section and still bleeding, its less and a little smelly, but blood seems fresher when I pee (sorry tmi) it also really stings when I pee, which is getting worse. I mentioned it to midwife this morning but she dismissed it and discharged me I am now thinking it may be worthwhile getting checked by dr?
Also very [grr] got a copy of letter from hospital to dr yesterday and it said complications in birth were because the cord was wrapped around emmas neck! We were never told this!!! first time I'd heard it! This ontop of the crap we already had in hospital like when they badly scratched babies head after not realising my waters had already broken! Or ripping the tap out of my hand in surgery by mistake, or the giant blue bottle that landed on my face while I was open in surgery - that my dh had to catch and kill while the hospital staff looked on open mouthed... I could go on. Thank god for the one good midwife we did have! rant over

Curiouselle that's awful, are you going to complain?

It stings when you wee because of the acid in your urine and Cranberry juice has something in it that neutralises the acid so if you don't mind the taste try and drink a little throughout the day and it'll make it sting less. Xx

Curioselle You might have a urinary tract infection so do go and get checked by doc as you would need anti biotics. In the meantime cranberry juice will help as milliesuggested.

Thank you Millie Ill try the cranberry juice! I will send a letter of complaint but haven't been able to face writing it yet. The hospital has a 'reflections' service where you can talk to a midwife about your birth, but not sure if it would help - has anyone else done anything like this?

whoops cross post nurse might make dr app on mon - thank you!

Couriselle that is awful!

Do make a few notes now while it is still fresh, even if you are not up to writing the letter now.

TTL re your textbook DH...which textbook is that in? Lol, think my dh is working from a different manual....but he's still being a complete star so cant complain.

curiouselle if you feel your wee is irritating your outside bits get a little jug and pour water on yourself as you pee, it dilutes things a bit and can make things a bit more comfy.

Comedy moment yesterday with little Will. We went into Oxford to register him, and in the multistorey carpark I decided to feed and change him before we went to our appointment. When I had his nappy off, he projectile pooed, right over the top of the changing mat, out of the open car door and straight into the side pocket of the car door. What a shot! I made DH get his hands in with the wet wipes and clear it out!

Update on my friends LO. He is out of hospital now after a stay of a week and is on various heart drugs. Poor soul, he's got a wait of 6 wks to see if it stabililses before they try and reduce the drugs so his parents are obviously on high alert. If anyone knows about these things, he has SVT.

LOL jasmine it's the TakeThatLady textbook of fathering, and must be obeyed at all times in this house. Impressed with your DH's poop-scooping - that's in the advanced level section of my textbook and I don't think DH has made it there yet

curiouselle I am at what you said! And especially at the bluebottle! If it wasn't a serious situation it would sound like a scene from a sitcom - farcical! Are you complaining? The cranberry juice will help in two ways - a) if you do have a UTI it helps get rid of it or control the pain (though if it's developed you will definitely need medication/antibiotics too) and b) if you're peeing on a wound and that's what's hurting it will, as millie says, neutralise the acid. Definitely go to your GP if it persists over the weekend, I think.

I haven't much news here - all going well :) Has anybody else repeatedly been told that BF babies don't need winding? This, it seems to me, is a lie, judging by the amount of burping Isobel seems to need assisting with and by the constant spit-ups ...

jasmine I am so pleased about your friend's LO making progress, and have all my fingers crossed for the next six weeks. I don't know much about SVT but it sounds like your friend is being unbelievably brave and courageous and I pray her LO stays well.

HI all, just a quick update - think I'm feeling a bit better and getting better sleep. I have a prescription for anti-depressants, but now doubting whether to start on them. Anyone have any insight?

Hope everyone is feeling ok and coping. We're at 6 weeks now and smiles are getting rewarding. Still can't envisage any let up to the routine though... anyone any tips on getting to sleep through the night? She's still on every 3 hours or so, through the night, and takes a while to settle so you're lucky if you get a half hour in between feeds...

Thanks for all your support
Oh, and pls let me know how to join the FB group

Jasmine Am so pleased your frien'ds baby is out of hospital

bprincess am glad you're feeling better. Amazing the difference sleep makes isn't it! I would say keep an open mind about the ADs, maybe hold off for a week and see how you feel? Please don't feel bad if you decide to take them though. I was on them before I got pg and they were literally a lifesaver! Would not hesitate to takec them again if I felt I needed to. Will PM you about the fb group

BPrincess - it's up to you but the ADs can help level your moods, they can take a couple of weeks to start working and you will need to wean yourself off them (the GP will help with this) if you feel you don't need them anymore.
It is difficult to make a baby sleep through the night, but only thing I can suggest is if your baby is still asleep when you go to bed, wake her up and feed her, at least then you will a three hour stretch then! She may be doing this anyway, but generally Cara is still asleep when I go to bed and I find waking up and feeding her at 11pm means we will both sleep to about 2/3am most nights.
Generally sleeping through the night happens when they are ready though...

Jasmine - good news about your friend's baby being out of the hospital, poor little thing though
at Will's projectile poo though!

Could someone PM me about the FB group too? Thank you :)

bprincess I'm glad you're beginning to feel better. No advice on the anti-depressants but I'm glad you're getting smiles :)

PMed you ttl

Thanks nurse. Have been reluctant to join and out myself, but since I managed to write Isobel's full name, including her surname, on this thread (!) when I was still probably high on pethidine, it's too late! LOL :)

Oh more people joining us on FB...how exciting. BPrincess the ADs will help. I took them for quite a long time a few years ago, I wasn't sure they would help, but they do.

Elliot is still being a nightmare to get to sleep, he just gets too excited by everything going on around him and fights sleep all day and then he is completely over tired by bed time and can't settle down to sleep at all. DH and I are both exhausted and I'm getting so frustrated with it...I'm just not sure what to do. I feel like crying - this is supposed to be a pleasurable experience isn't it?

Hi guys, catching up sporadically!!

curioselle what an awful experience, do make sure you complain, if only because it may prevent some other mother going through a similar experience!

Joanzepan (sorry about spelling, I know it's wrong but on the app so can't look back at the thread to check!!!) we were given a white noise- producing sheep by my mother in law. It saved our lives, as was the first thing to get the LO sleep at all when we got home from hospital. It's called Ewan the dream sheep! Might be worth a try for you? I think a fan left on pointing away from the baby might perform a similar function by creating a low level of background noise, or maybe a radio tuned to static? Good luck!!!

BPrincess ad's definitely helped to stabilize my mood when I took them so I think worth a try.

Rosina is very unsettled and we've had some awful bouts of her just screaming it still seems to me like reflux so am off to see the pediatrician this week.

joanne the sleep thing is a killer! emma alternates between good and bad nights. I found to keep my sanity sleeping on the sofa during the day and getting small breaks when my mum came round invaluable. at 9 or 10ish dh and I turn lights lower ( dimmer switches are fab) knock volume down on tv and talk in bed time voices, she is taken to bed slowely and not taken in the bedroom if screaming. feeding her lying down during the night sometimes helps keep her dozy rather than alert. not sure if this will help - it only works for us sometimes, I also agree about the white noise, like the shhh noise you make a milluon times a night :)

I second (3rd/4th) the white noise comment joanne have used the fan a few times and put the hair dryer on for 10 min the other day whilst I finished dressing myself. The sheep sounds amazing tinyk I had a mobile light projecter thing from VTech that played nature sounds (water running, bird tweets etc) was great, until the batteries ran out.

Those people who have been able to let their babies sleep a bit longer at night (and who are feeding in a routine rather than on demand) do you drop a feed? I'm currently feeding the girls 6x a day (unless they need a random top up) and at the moment I'm letting them have a 6 hour sleep at night so still managing to feed 6 times over 24 hours but when they start to go longer wondering what to do. P.s doing a 'mixed' feed thing at the mo (3x breast 2x EBM 1XFF).

curroise not suprised you are shocked to find out that the cord was round Emmas neck!?! I can understand if they might not have mentioned it during birth (as not to painic you) but they coud have told you later. Someone asked me if either of my two had to be resussitated with being born so early (bit of a question) and wasn't sure but later read paper work that said not. My mum has said a couple of times that if Ciara had been born years ago (at 32+5wks) she wouldn't have survived!! Wish she wouldn't say that it upsets me

Good to see you've joined fb group ttl you can join without being fbook friends with anyone (other than administrators) so you can still keep your non MN life private

Went to Next sale at 5am yesterday morning- had been up feeding anyway so thought I might as well go for it. Didn't get in there till 6am. Got lots of fab baby stuff but mainly in smaller sizes (which is fine for this time, wouldn't be any good if I went at that time next next sale). Saw a friend leave as I was queueing she's got lots of good stuff but had started quqeing at 3.45am!!! Also treated myself to a coat- which when I looked at my receipts realised they'd not charged me for, felt a tad guilty but mainly very chuffed