Due in june - 42 down and just the 2 to go

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Thought we'd better start a new thread until the last two are here and then we can move to post natal.........

Jasmine - sorry to hear about your friend's baby :(

Supersunnyday - congrats on the safe arrival of baby Alex!!

Any news from Tinyk? Hope you are okay!

Just a couple of hectic days, went to see the DH's family - his M&D, DB and his 2 dds and ds, MILs 2 sisters and brother and DH's 2 cousins and their children, so quite a crowd. Kids played very well, in particular DS played lovely with his little cousin who is 4 mo younger than him, nice to see the boys playing so well together!

First evening without DH last night, it was a bit traumatic with overtired DS stropping and refusing to go to bed despite falling asleep in the middle of the hall, fortunately dd slept through it all!

Well done on getting through it kara! And a massive wahey for supersunny for avoiding induction, c-section and all the rest and getting the birth you wanted! Wekcome to the world Alex!!!

Typing this one-handed with DD in my arms. Can't believe how lucky we've been-she feeds and sleeps without routine but is usually easily appeased and it's amazing to see her getting more and more lively and alert. She's very calm so far, and gorgeous. Today the health visitor came and Isobel is weighing 8oz above her birth weight. She's only 9 days old and she only weighed 7lbs to begin with so she's gained 7% already! Very proud mummy over here :)

Sorry for those of you whose DPs aren't pulling their weight. Don't stand for it! Parenting is 50/50 in my book and if you're doing the hard yards bfing all the more reason the DPs should change the nappies, rock the babies to sleep, and cater to your every whim!

Good luck tinyk if you haven't had your LO yet!

PS - jasmine, all my thoughts and wishes to your friend and her baby. I am crying at practically every advert involving babies or children at the moment - I think we must all acutely feel how precious they are when we have our own newborns, and I really hope the baby is over the worst and in the best hands now for recovery.

And to those of you suffering from PND, or who have suffered from depression before - it sounds like you are all doing just the right things and making sure you keep communicating with your loved ones and keeping yourselves safe and listening for the warning signs. bprincess you sound like a heck of a mum and I'm glad you're keeping tabs on things. Just remember all this is a huge rollercoaster and it is completely normal to feel all over the place and to feel negative emotions as well as positive ones. Everyone proceeds as if you're supposed to have a 'textbook' baby but nobody's baby is textbook and if there was a textbook then it would say that what people usually label 'problems' and 'disasters' are actually very much par for the course and part of what is normal.

Jasmine so sorry for your friend. Just remember how incredibly resilient these little people are. Hopefully baby is on the mend now he's in the scbu.

bprincess How're you feeling today? Do check in regularly. Are you on the fb group?

All being well DH will be home on Friday and back to some semblance of normality . Though I will miss having the bed to myself (when DD isn't gatecrashing).

I was going to do the birth story thing but DD is snuggled on my shoulder between feeds so will try again on the next day or two.

Coaf very pleased to hear dh will be back soon and hope things settle down a bit soon.

Kara dh rarely gets home before bedtime/bathtime. We've had some good ones and some with meltdowns from either ds, dd or me! Slowly getting used to being a family of 4.

Ttl fantastic news on the weight gain.

TTL - that is great news on the weight gain, see you are doing a fantabulous job!

Confessions - that is good news!

TMI but my stomach went a bit hairy when I was pregnant and it's all still there. There isn't much there but the hairs quite long and its dark. Thinking that shaving would be a mistake so think i might bleach it- presume it'll go- anyone know?

Morning all
TTL well done on the weight gain. I think my own weight might be competing with your LOs...after initial big loss I seem to have gone rounder again!

William is having problems atm. I'm pretty sure it is reflux that is causing his constant hiccups, writhing (how do you spell that?) and violent spewing. Trouble is he's thrown up his entire last 3 feeds so I'm watching him carefully today until the MW comes over. Bless him, he has been doing so well but looks a bit pale and drawn today. Has anyone got any tips for good winding positions - I do the sitting forward one, over the lap one and the over the shoulder one but rarely get a burp. Will is obviously troubled by wind but I cant seem to help him - ideas?

we were shown 'tiger in a tree ' position by hv. mind you DD hated it. rest them on forearm, on their tummy, head supported in hand, arms and legs eitherside and gently rock from side to side.
Have you tried infacol?? worked for us to help with burping

Moomin I tried that position but either my arms are too short or I have no muscles left because I just couldnt fit him in there or hold him up! He does like laying over my lap with his legs dangling off one side whilst I bounce very gently on the birthing ball...would that be similar do you think if I persevere until I get a burp?
I actually bought some infacol the other day but havent tried it yet - I'll dig it out and read the bottle.
Have just read the Reflux suport thread and I'm now a bit scared as he has all those symptoms - weird that alot of the remedies revolve around peace, quier and reducing stress rather than digestive ones.
Ho hum, hes about to wake up again - deep breath....

DD also has reflux.......and diagnosed colic! she is on gaviscon which has helped with the sickiness but not stopped any pain, screams or trumps!

We have just been weighed.......9lb 4oz whoop whoop whoop. I am so proud of her :) But looking at the size of her i cannot believe that some of you lovely ladies have had to push that out LOL

Moomin Yay for Flo's fab weight gain! Sorry she's got reflux and colic though Did the dr suggest anything which could help?

Jasmine I have to tap dd's back reasonably sharply when she's over my shoulder to get a burp, rubbing doesn't work. Other than that, no helpful advice I'm afraid. Hope poor Will doesn't have reflux.

Myself and dh are seriously considering separating . By his own admission (and all of his family's) he is an incredibly thick man (thick angry not thick stupid) and is progressively getting worse and worse with age. I've been with him since I was 18 and have tried so hard but think its finally hit home that things are never going to get better. His attitude to this is "yeah I'm very thick but sure, that's just the way I am".

I love him very much but he treats me like utter shit, some of his behaviour over the past 2 years in particular would shock people if I told them.

Despite never mentioning anything, his own mother recently said to me (fishing) "I'd day you have a very hard life with dh", I changed the subject as honestly, had I said "no, I don't " I'd just be lying. I feel sad saying that about my husband

Sorry for off loading here, I know it's not the place.

Barbie very very for you. Am sorry it has come to that. But if you are comfortable offloading here then please please do so. We are all here to listen to you as you need.

Offload all you like Barbie. Sending huge (un-mumsnetty) hugs to you.

I can't really offer much in the way of advice, but if someone treats you badly, then you really are better off without them. It's not a huge leap from treating your partner badly to treating your DC's badly.

Has he/would he seek help such as counselling?

Hi guys! Sorry for the radio silence, and also that this won't be very personal: I haven't caught up with everything, sorry sorry sorry!

To those with baby blues/PND I really hope you're getting all the help and support you need, both from family, friends and professionals. My heart goes out to you.

For those with reflux, again i hope you find a solution that works for you and your baby. If there's one thing I'm learning it's that your instincts are the right ones.

I had an annoying icident with aidwife this week. She tried to tell me I wasn't feeding enough (I'm feeding on demand) and then change her mind when she discovered he PUT ON weight in the first 5 days!! Oh, and we're having about 10 poos a day!! I knew he was fine, but it's really upsetting when a health professional tells you your neglecting your baby. she also implied I didn't have a good enough milk flow, but soon changed her tune when i was showing her our latch on and milk literally sprayed DS in the face. my boobies get upset when they gear crying.

Well, hope your all doing OK. I'll try to catch up later!!

Barbie So sorry you're feeling like this. You shoukdn't, and don't, have to put up with being treated badly. You don't deserve it and your dc don't deserve to see their mother being treated that way or their father losing his temper all the time. xx

Barbie you absolutely have our support in whatever you decide to do. However, you and your DC deserve to be treated well, with respect and to be happy - if DP doesnt play his part in this picture then perhaps you are better off apart - after this length of time only you know whether the issues can be worked on or are past help....but sound off on us any time you want.

tiny at your MW...seems like a case of 'engage brain before speaking' is required. It sounds like you are doing a fantastic job so to the health professionals.

Off this afternoon for some cranial osteopathy for little Will. He is a totally different baby today after all the screaming yesterday but I have been told that a bit of CO might help him chill further. Also read a really interesting paper on breast feeding techniques and colic/wind which I'll summarise once I dont have a sleeping lump on my lap and I have more than 2 fingers to type with. Was written by my local breast feeding support centre which I wanted to go to today but its closed for a couple of weeks grrrrr.

Oh and DH has been offered a job...not in Iraq this time, would be a civilian role in Abu Dabi (sorry re spelling). Not ideal but sounds interesting and not as risky.

Have a good day all
xx

Barbie I hope you always feel this a safe place to offload, I know we can't offer practical support, but we can try and offer you emotional support.

Tinyk - congrats! at crap MW, still you showed her!

Jasmine - what happened with the other job your DH applied for, think it was in London? Would you move to AD?

Hi all, very sorry for disappearing for so long. Thank you to everyone for the kind wishes whilst I was in labour and for the congratulations following Will?s birth. I can?t believe he is already 16 days old. He is such a sweet baby and generally very peaceful (as long as he gets milk and snuggles on demand!), so I feel pretty lucky.

It was so great to get the home birth we had planned. Everything went really well. I have written up about half of my birth story; I?ll finish it and share it as soon as I get the chance. DH went back to work this week, so I?m getting used to being on my own with DS. I?ve been making sure to get out of the house every day, which is sometimes quite difficult, but really helps to keep me in good spirits as otherwise I feel like all I get done in a day is breastfeeding!

We?ve only really had one problem so far, as DS hasn?t regained his birth weight yet. He had quite a high initial loss (just over 11 percent), but has been slowly but steadily gaining since then. I had a rough few days after my milk came in as it took a while for his wet and dirty nappies to properly transition, and a couple of the MWs I saw (I?ve literally seen someone different at every visit!) suggested that I might need to top up with formula. I thought that was a bit extreme and unnecessary given that he was gaining weight, but it did upset me. I saw a BF counsellor who made a few helpful suggestions which have helped improve the efficiency of our feeds, and his nappies were quickly sorted. Unfortunately one of the techniques is breast compression, which means that feeds now take two hands so I can?t really do anything other than watch TV!

In any case, I have managed to catch up reading what I missed the past couple of weeks, but so much has happened I won?t be able to make up for lost time, so just a few comments from me.

Congratulations to all those who have had their babies! Especially pleased for Confessions, Supersunny, and any of the other late June/early July mums who managed to avoid being induced. Also really please that you got your home birth Millie. Excellent choice in name, Jasmine! Any news from Lisascat? Is anyone else still waiting?

Thanks to those who have continued to share their birth stories. Some of you have had some really traumatic experiences, and my hat goes off to you for being so strong despite getting off to a rough start.

Barbie, so sorry about what you?re going through. You absolutely deserve to be treated better. Please do offload here as needed. I hope you have plenty of RL support as well.

Prisoner, sorry about your rough patch with your DP. You also deserve to be treated better, and he needs to step up and act like a parent.

Also sorry to BPrincess and any others who feel like they might have PND. It?s great that you?ve recognised this could be an issue and are seeking the support you need. Please do check in regularly.

Sounds like I?m being summoned for yet another feed, so better go.

Sorry I've not been able to keep up and apologies for the me post but wondering if anyone else has experienced this...

DD2 was born 12 days ago and my discharge was brown but still quite wet. I've just had to ring the hospital delivery suite as it felt like my waters had gone again so I rushed to the loo and lost a load of fresh red blood. MW said to just keep an eye on it but it did seem like alot to all come at once especially after 12 days :( I've had period type ache aswell today so not sure what's going on.

Hi guys!

Baby world seems to be calming down a bit and I'm feeling better about the birth. It was a bit tricky, but Elliot is healthy and normally quite happy (except when he is being a grumpy little so and so!). Hopefully I'll have a bit more time to check in from now on. Not sure I'll have time to catch up on all the news though so where are we at with babies? Hope you have all been keeping well.

Apologies from me too.
Been busy with baby and kids off, and financial issues.
Have managed facebook bbut will make more effort on here too.
Off to catch up on thread - hope you're all well

I think it is safe to say we've all been busy!!!