December 2011 - Bring on the 2nd trimester

[jomouse]

Lets get with the glow :)

Thanks everyone, I've only lost 1lb and feeling much better today.

We found choosing a boys name easy but are still stuck for a girls name, the only 2 we can agree on are ones I'm not sure about. I really love Charlotte but DH doesn't like it. He still likes Elizabeth but I know if it gets shortened to Liz or Lizzie I'll regret it.

For people with lazy babies...my DD2 was very chilled before birth and was the most amazing sleeper, without any help from us she started sleeping through at about 9 weeks, just one or two quick feeds per night before then. She is a very chilled out little girl even at 2 (although as she's trying to drop her nap her sleep is all over the place at the moment!).

I have a feeling that this one is going to be more like DD1, who was an 'interesting' sleeper.

oooo yeh bring on the lazy baby and great sleeper fingers crossed

How is your sister hun? xxx

Thanks Ladies, Isobel is DP choice, I wasn't keen at first but now i'm coming around to it I quite like it. Will prob be shortened to Izzy but i'm fine with that.
Boys is a different matter theres lots of names I like and none DP likes so that is going to be a challenge on what we agree on.

DD was sleeping thru the night at about 3weeks old. Last feed about 9pm at night and woke at 6am for a feed and then back down till about 9ish. Still sleeps from 7:30 till 7:30 now :) just hope the next one will be the same.

Seven my bump changes all the time, one day I look pregnant, next day just look plumpy.

Mizza Have everything crossed for you

darcies i really liked izzy as a name... thats why i suggested isobella to OH, who dashed my dreams!!

and also hun, out of interest did you follow a routine with DD?

Kri5ty I think our OHs like to do that. DP seems to do that very well with boys names. I love Rafe, Rupert, Hugo, George, Henry & Lachlan and its either a def no or maybe which equates to a no anyway :(

Has anyone got any cravings? I crave everything I shouldn't really eat. However, have at least 2 apples a day which I wouldn't normally. What I really want is crackers with Brussels Pate on top yum! Just wish I could bring myself to eat it.

Routine: Yeah I have to have routine or my whole day goes out of the window and funnily enough if DD's routine goes out the window her behaviour goes out the window too

Glad other people's bumps change too, some days I don't even look pregnant, just wobbly! Think it must be depending on where they are lying. Cravings-wise, its more 'tastes' for things, rather than full on craving: pickled beetroot, branston pickled (not together), salt and vinegar crisps.

Loving reading all the baby names, people seem almost cross with us that we haven't decided on a name - got a handful of what we like, and are going to wait till the birth to decide: see what it looks like.

Anyone feeling movement on the outside yet? I get plenty of kicks on the inside but DH actually said he feels a bit left out as he can't feel them yet...feel sad for him, but am sure it wont be long

Candle DP has felt baby and seem him/her kick and move

i agree darcies i am a firm believer that (and people will shout at me) babies have to learn from the day they are born.. they sleep during the day in the womb, so they need to learn to sleep at night!!

a few friends have followed the sensational baby sleep plan, and all their LOs have slept through from 6/8 weeks :) fingers crossed for ours!

I've just started reading Gina Ford The "contented baby something or other" - a colleague swears by it and never suffered sleepless nights and had a very contented baby. I think Gina is known letting the baby cry, but I've not got to that part of the book yet, but she does say at the beginning that she does NOT advocate leaving a baby to cry forever... we shall see. (I don't like the idea of leaving a baby crying for a long time, and my colleagues did not do this.) But the book is all about having routines to train the baby to live to a schedule. It sounds good to me! :) What I've read so far sounds like common sense, i.e. feeding a baby before it screams to be fed, calming a baby and putting it to bed before it screams because it's over-tired.
Some mums I know - who fed their babies on-demand - just roll their eyes at me and say you can't train a baby. I suppose I'll find out who's right!
I've not heard of the Sensational one.

Can I just jump into breast feeding counsellor mode for a second!

For some mothers, feeding to a schedule will be detrimental to their milk supply; if you are planning on breastfeeding we recommend that you wait until your supply is well established before trying to establish a routine. This would be 6-8 weeks providing that you don't have any feeding problems in the beginning. Obviously, some women can breast feed on a schedule from birth and have no problems, but I would advise caution in doing so if breast feeding is important to you.

resumes normal service...end of BFC bit

My personal opinion is that the problem with routines is that babies often come with more personality than I realised before I had my first. DD2 would have taken to a routine happily had I wanted one, DD1 no chance!

I'm aware that as a Home Edding lentil weavery type I'm in a minority on here, but I'm hugely grateful that I haven't come in for the criticism on here that I've had on some other websites ante-natal bit!

hey everyone! I lost sight of this thread for a while. How is everyone doing? Scans going well? Mine is in 10 days - v. excited!

Missbuggy - as a first time mum-to-be I appreciate all advice/knowledge. Home-educating - that's brave! I respect that. When I speak to people out and about and then find out they are teachers, i usually end up shocked and making mental notes to not send my (future) kids to their schools!
You keep on weaving your lentils missus, the world will be a better place for it!

OiMissus thank goodness someone mentioned Gina Ford! Been reading it for weeks in preparation and am very keen to put her advice into practice, but was soooo scared to mention it on here as she seems to get a lot of flack. The thought of doing things on demand terrifies me.

msbuggy I find it very sad that you've been criticised on other sites for being lentil-weavery, surely the only relevant fact is that you're pregnant, like the rest of us. FWIW we also plan to HE, but as DS is only 3 it isn't 'official' yet. I'm more mainstream than lentil-weavery but who knows where we'll end up once we go down the chickens and HE path?!

WRT routines we used a relaxed routine with DS from 5 weeks old. Every night he had a bath, bedtime bottle then a story and we put him down in the Moses basket in the bedroom. We still let him feed on demand (every 3 hours like clockwork!). Other than a couple of nights of resorting to using controlled crying when he was 2 we've never had a problem putting him to bed and I'm convinced it's because he's always had a bedtime routine.

seven SO much criticism over the years. I've been using parenting websites (various different ones) since I was pregnant with DD1 6 years ago, I've had people make badges saying things like 'detatchment parent' (to put on their signatures) as a direct result of me just talking about the way we do things.

I'm perfectly happy to say that the way we do things isn't for everyone, but I have good reasons for what we do and as a BFC a lot of knowledge that others might find useful too. I do present an alternative viewpoint on babies and children to the mainstream, but had it not been for others doing the same when DD1 was newborn there is no way I'd have managed to nurse her or to get out of the awful PND I had at the time because my baby just wouldn't do what babies are supposed to!

Thanks for everyone crossing fingers for me :-) I'll find out on Sunday what they are naming the baby.

I never really had a routine with either of my first babies but I'm wondering if that might have to change with baby no. 3. So much of my day is structured now around school drop-offs and pick-ups etc that my own time is much less flexible than it used to be...

Hi everyone,

My 20 week scan is on 4th so just over a week But i had a letter to see consultant on the 3rd and then the scan on the 4th! DH can only have the 4th off so i hope they dont do the scan on the 3rd to save time. I will be 22 weeks for my 20 week scan

Msbuggy i agree with the breastfeeding on demand and not getting the baby into a rountine untill older. With my first i have never got him in to a rountine i'm lucky to be a SAHM so we are free to do as we please. I just follow his natural timings. When he is tired we sleep, when hungry we eat and he plays all the time. I think children have alot of structure when they start school so they dont need it untill 3 years old.

Do you have any tips on tantum feeding? I'm still feeding my 2.5 yo on demand and 21 weeks pg. I'm worried that feeding will bring on early labour? Also i normally feeding in bed but soon my bump will be too big so i'm worried about positioning. But then at 2 i'm sure he will find a way to get feed.

velvet I'll be tandem feeding for the second time round this time! Feeding can't bring on early labour, there is some doubt over this for women who have cervical incompetence or previous history of pre-term labour, but otherwise there should be no problems.

I've found that mine just re-adjust themselves around the bump! I'll have two age gaps of 2 and 9mths so similar ages to yours, they manage perfectly well. I found that positioning two once DD2 was born was tricky, but we found that DD2 in rugby hold and DD1 sat on my knee worked well, or when lying down the big one 'pops over' from the back and feed the little one as normal.

I've had so much fun tandem feeding, DD1 weaned last month aged 4.11 so we did it for just over two years.

msbuggy that's awful but I say bugger 'em, lifes too short to be someone you're not. Your views may be 'different' to a lot of other people but that doesn't make them wrong, after all as parents aren't we all just trying to do what we think is right for our kids?

Hiya girls. msbuggy how rubbish that people give you a hard time online. Mind you, I cloth nappied my two and something I found was that some people assumed I would try to "evangelise" them into using cloth, so they became naturally defensive about it. And let's not get started about baby slings :o)

Am very annoyed to have picked up a cold. Not fair when it's nice weather and I'm about to get my first holiday in aaaages! Sniffle snuffle grump and no *** decongestants!!

I would imagine at 2 he will find a way to feed comfortably. I have known of lots of women tandem feeding and have been fine. Try not and worry about it.

IME no baby does as it is supposed to do. As I always say to people 'babies can't read they don't know what they are supposed to do so do it their way' Its just a pity more people won't let mum's do it their way. Within reason of course.

Sorry I am a little grumpy after being told what a terrible mother I am this weeks so excuse my snippiness.

Hello all,

Not been on much but have been following your progress. Congratulations on your wedding mrsxstitch hope your twatty ex isn't giving you too much bother. You're not a terrible mother, but you know that don't you?

20 week scan today. Bit nervous tbh. Just hope everything will be ok. Will it be a 3rd boy or our 1st girl. DH says he wants a boy... I'm wavering.. would be lovely to have a daughter, but would be much easier to have a son. Just want to see a healthy baby wriggling around. I think I probably will have a momentary wobble if he is a boy - just because I'll know then that I'll never ever have a daughter. But I know that after the wobble I'll be able to get on with choosing his name and getting things ready for him, and I KNOW that once I hold that little bundle with that wonderful wonderful newborn smell in my arms there could only have ever have been him IYSWIM.

Apologies - wibbling - obviously more nervous than I thought!