Charters Anonymous Graduates Volume 2! – No more temping!

[Iwish]

A nice cosy place to accommodate our growing bumps and little wrigglers.

Woohooo well done spilt! Fab news. So pleased for you and dp. Enjoy your wonderful newborn cuddles.

Congratulations spilt and DP :)

So pleased to hear spilt has had her little girl!! Can't wait to hear details.

I am 37 weeks today!! So weird to be at "full term".

Congrats to jaggy really pleased to hear your news. Here's to a happy trouble free pregnancy for you

Yeh pippa it's getdown then you then me! Eek!! I'm 34+2.
I think you are supposed to bounce a little on it, rocking and also rotate your hips. That's what I do anyway lol. probably look like a complete tit to anyone who walks past and looks in the window!!

Ooh getdown full term!! Could happen anytime from now :) are you getting excited/nervous?

Well I've been in the hospital today. I went for my usual midwife appt and when she was listening to little mans heartrate it was a bit too fast, it went up to almost 200!! So off they sent me to the antenatal day unit to be monitored. (I went 2 weeks ago as it was up to 179 and my bp was also a bit high but all was ok so they sent me on my way.)
Well this time they hooked the monitor up and listened to bubba. After about an hour they decided that they were happy with him. They then decided they didn't like the look of my extremely swollen feet (they look like elephants) so they did another urine test and bp which were fine. They were also concerned that my tummy looks v big so decided I should have a growth scan to check baby and waters!
Anyhow... Baby is measuring spot on and waters aren't too bad but there is quite a lot so could explain the big belly! They want to see me again next Friday at the day unit to check all is well.
It's so good that they are so thorough, I came out feeling v well looked after.

Sorry about the essay ladies!!

Oooo me next!! Gulp! Hi iwish i am actually feeling pretty calm about it all really. I think the hypnobirthing is really helping me, I feel a lot more confident than last time.

Sorry to hear your little boy's heart rate has been up a bit and you've had high BP. Glad you are being looked after. Remember to try and elevate your feet as often as possible and keep drinking lots of water as it can ease odema Have you finished work now ?? (sorry can't remember)

I'm glad you are feeling calm about it all. The hypnobirthing must be working a treat. Do you know what flavour you are having? My memory is rubbish!

I went in feeling slightly calmer than last time. Last time I went in, my exhaust fell off the car so couldn't get to the hospital, I ended up phoning DP in total hysterics panicing about baby and he ended up coming home from work and taking me to the hospital!
Lol I have been being told off from my mum, friends, colleagues etc about putting my feet up too! I'm currently lay on the sofa with 4 cushions under my foot
I finish work on Friday next week, can't wait! I'm sleeping so badly that I just can't wait to stay in bed!!

Iwish dehydration is a cause of high hb. i had exactly the same problem and then drank 5l of water and it came right down.... sounds similar to me,. BP issues, then ok again, then erratic bp again... with protein in wee and then none and then a trace back again.. with v swollen everything...

Drink Tons honey.... and this should help otherwise they could end up sticking you on a drip (thats the advice i received )

Because of all these issues i was effectively induced (after waters went) and babies hb was far too high.. anyway, it all ended well !!! :))

SPILT !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

YEY for the safe arrival of baby girl. Huge congratulations to you and dp xxxx Hope you are enjoying newborn snoogles as we speak x

that would be high fetal hb,not mine!!

Ill have to drink more then. I didn't realise that not having a lot to drink can cause bubbas HB to be high! I try to drink a lot but it makes me pee a lot too lol. A normal nighttime consists of 4 wees between 12:00 and 7:00am lol.
The swelling Is a right pain in the bum. It's not half as bad when I'm not at work so roll on mat leave!!

How are you doing? Is little one doing well? X

it may not be the causefor you IWish, it was for me but then it was very very hot. I wasnt aware either until they kept me in hosp for monitoring (aqnd forced me to drink tons of water!) something to consider if it happens again x but hopefully it wont x All i know is when i was being monitored the baseline was 175 (varying between 190 and 160) and they wer elooking for 140.

Nightime weeing is a bloody nightmare isnt it,.... dont miss that bit!!

Doing fine thanks lovely, little fella is a real sleeper. Been asleep most of today having to wake to feed every couple of hours. Hes gorgeous...:) spit of his bro when he was born but noticing strong differences now... ie nose and face shape! Tis bizarre, they are soooo alike but totlly different in temperament.

getdown yey for full term xxxx Hope those feet are up x

Suppose it can do no harm to drink a bit more just to be on the safe side so thank you nix And yeh the night peeing is a nightmare. Along with waking up in pain with SPD its fab lol!
I'm glad you are doing ok and little one is too. Is he a good sleeper at night?

hello all.

just being nosey after reading thread title :) - when did you all step away from the thermometer after your BFP?

i think i kept going for nearly two weeks last time round and still haven't got out of the habit yet this week...

hope everyone is doing well. :)

I hate the getting up in the night for a wee too. I have also discovered I am unbelievably uncoordinated when I've just woken up, and I literally STAGGER from bedroom to bathroom, sometimes crashing into things Ooops! Also the peeing whilst laughing / coughing / sneezing / walking / moving of any kind is a blood PITA

nix so glad to hear your new little boy is a good sleeper I want one of those please!! Your FB pics are gorgeous. I would like your tips on how to look that glowing and fabulous immediately after giving birth please My friend gave me a top tip of "touch eclat" - but haven't got any as too expensive !!

Hope spilt is doing ok.... keep thinking of her cuddling her little girl and makes me go all gooey, can't wait to hear from her. I wonder if she's home yet.

hi there jaggy I think we all were guilty of a fair amount of mentalling with our thermometers post-BFP. I think in the end we had a bit of a group slap and decided to stop temping! It saves your sanity. Otherwise every slight dip sends you spiralling into a pit of despair and doom So, my advice is to stop.... but of course completely up to you! My DD found my thermometer the other day. It was under our bed covered in fluff

i think i will consign mine to the drawer too. DS loves making it beep when he finds it!

I've managed not to POAS for 3 whole days, so I'm sure i can crack not temping as well. :)

i don't remember weeing more this early last time, but I've been waking up at 4 or 5 bursting! oh well it's good practice for later on where you are now getdown !

jaggy I think I stopped temping after a week but I did poas for about 8 weeks .

getdown the nightime peeing is getting on my nerves lol. I too am a staggerer. Get up and have to walk v slowly to stop myself walking into doors etc lol. I pee loads during the day too. Shame all the peeing doesnt sort out the fat swollen feet!

Hello everyone, thank you for all the congrats, I see DH put you out of your misery

Freya Alexandra was born (eventually!) at 14.41 on Monday afternoon, 7lb7oz, healthy and gorgeous. The birth was actually all very straightforward, just so darn long. I was asking to be shot for about the last 4 hours

We got home last night after staying in a few days to try and get feeding going, as that's proving tough but I think we're getting somewhere now.

Will post birth story in due course. Love to all xx

Ah spilt I am soooo happy for you. Glad birth was straightforward, if long. I love the name Freya, just enjoy your cuddles and glad bf getting better. :) can't wait to hear updates whenever you have time.

jaggy I stopped temping about a week after bfp but I had loads of pg test cheapies so I POAS for about 2-3 months to use em up!

Big day/night tomorrow. DD will be 3 in about 3 wks and she's staying overnight with her nana whilst DP and I have a night away for the first time since she arrived. We've both been away on our own for work but not together and DD hass always woken up to one of us. Can't wait but also a bit nervous. It's about bloody time though! We have a table booked for dinner at Michael Caines restaurant in Manchester and we're staying at the V&A. We've deliberately gone for room only as I want a morning where I can sleep as long as I want. In almost 3 yrs I have either been woken up by DD or had to get up for work.

Ahhh spilt that's so lovely I love her name, it's gorgeous!

Seeeeeee - 7lbs 7oz is a perfect weight - you can stick two fingers up at everyone saying you were small now And I bet you pop back into shape quicker too

Glad to hear the birth was straightforward in the end. Look forward to hearing about it when you are ready.

Re. the feeding - I know what you mean, it can be hard, much harder than you anticipate sometimes. DD wouldn't latch on and it was a real pain being given different advice by loads of different midwives / HCPs. The most important thing is to stay relaxed, and remember you know your own baby best

xx

getdown out of curiosity, did you get DD to latch on eventually and if so, how? I ask cos DD never latched on, she either got so hungry she panicked or she fell asleep. I was recovering badly from an EMCS, exhausted and told i wouldn't be allowed to go home unless she fed, either breast or bottle. I'd been in hospital for a week, they were cup-feeding her donated bm (I wasn;t allowed to feed her myself that way) and I just crumbled and gave her a bottle.

We later found out my milk never came in due to bp tablets.

I'm not on bp tablets and am very keen to bf this time. What do you do if a baby just won't latch on?

Hi there MrsA so sorry it was so difficult for you last time with the feeding. I sympathise we had a nightmare with DD too. It must have been hard for you to accept donated BM as I remember feeling so strongly the need to feed DD myself and when I couldn't I felt like such a failure. How awful that they didn't even realise that the BP medication stopped your milk from coming in.

I did have enough milk, but our problem was DD - she was so sleepy and uninterested in feeding that she wouldn't latch and then if she did she would suck for a couple of minutes and then give up. I think in retrospect it was because they'd given me two doses of morphine during the labour (despite me specifying on my birth plan I wouldn't have it if there was a risk of making the baby sleepy ) and it had made her very dopey.

Because she was quite tiny we were told we really needed to feed her every 2hrs night and day, and each feed was taking an hour because it was so difficult to rouse her and then get her to take anything. So it was basically and hour on, an hour off all through the night and day which was gruelling. We carried on like this for 3 weeks before eventually being told by the GP it was bottle feeding or back into hospital .

I was absolutely gutted to have to give up bf Cried when I gave her the first bottle of formula. Felt so crappy as a mum. I'm sure it contributed to my PND.

But - look at her now, she is a bouncing healthy bright girl, no allergies, no health problems. She is fit as a fiddle. I really don't think that formula did her any harm.

I'm going to try my hardest to make it work this time round, but also try not to beat myself up over it if it doesn't work out

Congratulations Spilt!!! I bet she's gorgeous, lovely name too. Can't wait to see some pictures. Feeding can be tough in the beginning but if you persevere it becomes so much easier with time and is really worth it in the end just because it is so easy to not have to take bottles with you/get up in night etc. But I found it tough for first week this time round and i bf DS for 2 and a half years so really wasn't anticipating any problems. How are the nipples holding up? Try and be really strict about latch if you can. Use lansinoh. And get help if you need it.

Congratulations again

And not long for you either Getdown.

Is so exciting!!!

Looking forward to seeing pics too

I have a really stupid question that you'd think I'd know the answer to by now My due date is September 26th. Does that mean that I am 40 weeks pregnant on the 26th? Or does the due date come at the END of the 40th week of pregnancy? Does that question even make sense?!

The reason that I ask is that I always thought the first day of week 40 is the due date, i.e. Because my due date is a Monday I am, today, a Friday, 35+4. BUT all those stupid automated emails from Boots Parenting Club, Bounty etc always say 'You are X no of weeks pregnant!' and they always say a week ahead of where I think I am! So my emails on Monday of this week congratulated me for being 36 weeks pregnant. They have my correct due date. The only way this makes sense is if the due date comes at the end of week 40, iyswim? It isn't a big deal I suppose, except that it made me wonder whether, if I've been getting it wrong, my midwife visits are all out of whack?! I have a 36 week visit next week for instance, but should I have had it this week? Because I changed midwife half way through and my new one hasn't worked it out for herself (first qu each appointment is 'how many weeks are you?') it is conceivable I've been wrong for ages now...

As I said, probably not important, but it's driving me nuts!

Hope everyone else is ok and not worrying about inane details

I go away for a bit and look what happens!

Congrats spilt!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! So deilghted for you, sounds like a loooong labour but that you did great, and what a lovely DH you have. Beautiful name, and lovely weight. What is it like being home?

Congtrats jaggy! Yes step away from the thermometer and the pee sticks! When is your due date?

Thinking of you Getdown as next up. I have a feeling you will have a very breezy birth as you are so chilled out and positive. Sending you breezy labour vibes.

All ok with me. Anomoly scan Monday (nervous!) am having it early (18 weeks) due to previous problems. Now can't fit in to my normal clothes and have been in mat clothes for a few days now since my big shopping spree at the weekend. I now know every maternity line going in all the high street stores. Wasn't mucho impressed about the choice I must say!

pip I think your due date is that day you hit 40 weeks... but now you mention it you have me questioning whether I have it right!

Is bfeeding going well for you now then LadyGG? How often does he need a feed in the night, and can you feed lying down? Do you find you can kind of doze whilst feeding or do you have to properly wake up? With DD I woke up properly as it was such an effort with her. Am hoping this time I can learn to feed lying down

Pip yes you are 40 weeks pregnant on 26th of Sept - 40 weeks exactly on the date of your due date. But this is the start of your 41st week, hence the misleading emails from marketing companies!! I've got a book that says "you are 36 weeks pregnant, or in your 37th week". Hope that makes sense!

Wow raven your pregnancy is skipping along nicely! Really hope your scan goes well. Will be so amazing to see your little two. Did you say they were non-identical? Will you find out the sexes do you think??? Please pop back and let us know how you get on!!

Thanks re. me being chilled out! Don't know if you'd think that if you met me in real life!! (have had big probs with anxiety in the past) but am really really trying this time to be relaxed. And hypnobirthing has helped a lot. Plus giving up work 5 months ago has helped a lot too Really hoping birth this time will be a totally different experience than last time. The only thing that's worrying me is that apparently there is a baby boom in September round here this year, and it may mean they are hideously over-stretched.... have horror thoughts about having to labour on the ante-natal ward, or worse, being turned away because they are full ....