November 2011 - more hand holding, scans and 2nd trimester chat coming up.....

[Katiebeau]

New thread chatty girls.......

Had the scan - all good. Was shaking when I came out so glad DH could make it. So much ore detail than 9 week scan - little arms and fingers just so amazing. NT was 1.6 so good news there but have to wait two weeks for bloods. Hoping if it puts me into high risk I heard sooner.

Good luck to everyone else going for their scans. Absolutely shattered now. Told work would try to make it in this afternoon but going to lie down and rest now and see how I feel as can get some work done at home.

Hello all

Sorry i have been awol, been really busy and had a few problems. All ok now though thank heaven..

Can I come back

cookie yay for a good scan.

bumps hi, glad problems have been sorted.

Caz, I have had bad dreams too but not about the baby. We have a house let out to tenants who have just moved out. and I dreamt that I inspected the house and it was wrecked. Toilets all blocked and full of toilet paper and sanitary towels, sections of the walls cut out and generally filthy. I was crying as I was feeling too sick to clean it!

I have felt some tiny movements but not every day. Baby was kicking away in the scan though.

Hello ladies

Briefly skimmed the posts and congrats on all the good scans and fingers crossed for all those with scans coming up.

Am 10 + 5 today and still feeling horrendously sick and the worst thing being that i am retching several times a day and esp in the morning am hunched over the toilet and "being sick" at least 5 times but nothing comes out except for the tiniest amount of water or bile. Sorry if TMI. It's really hurting my stomach.
Had my MW appt at hosp last week and have scan on 23rd May which i was a bit sad about as will be 13+4 and really hoped i only had to wait until 12wks!!! Silly i know.

Sorry to not name check - have not read all posts thoroughly yet.

daiso I had ms like that too... and it really hurts to be sick!! Can you eat things that are easy to have come back up (I ate zoodles and the like) when you have food in you its not as bad. :( Hope you are able to eat!

caz and cep I have been having very vivid dreams. Sometimes about baby (I always lose him/her and then end up with an animal instead??)

Has anyone reached the second trimester yet? I have 8 more days (unless scan today sets me back a bit), but I feel like thats when all the fun will start!!

Have my scan in 3 hours:) so excited to see the baby look like more than a blob... sometimes it doesn't feel very real, but i think it will soon!

I've graduated to the second trimester club I think, am 13+3 today :)

Feel free to tell me I'm totally ahead of myself, but have started to look into nurseries, visited one today and am seeing one tomorrow, have to find a five day a week place and there are only a couple of suitable nurseries around my village, so thought I'd better start looking now! Is anyone else doing the same?

Congrats to those who've had god scans! . Good luck to thosw with them coming up. Voodoo My kids are really excited about me having another one. The girls more so, and I suspect that they would be just as pleased with a puppy or a kitten!

I'm 12 + 4 and have definitely been able to feel the baby move for over a week now. I had been feeling quite confident about my 12 week scan because of the movements until someone posted that they thought they'd felt flutterings in an earlier pregnancy, but that it turned out the baby had died by then. When I had my scan I realised that I was definitely right about feeling the movements as I could feel them as I saw the baby move on screen. I was confused at one point as I could feel it moving, but it was not moving at all on the screen... then I realised the sonographer had frozen the screen to take measurements, and the baby was still bouncing around! . It isn't just waving an arm or a leg though, it's launching it's whole body up and down my womb like it's a ping pong ball! Was hoping for a girl, but am thinking it's behaving like a boy! The movements are all internal. I can't feel a thing if I put my hand on my tummy, even when I know it's on the go.

Hi everyone !

Just a quick update! Happy scan news! We've seen our little baby, looking so much bigger and baby like than before!

Baby was bouncing and jumping and waving and kicking all over the place! DH said "Oh my God! Can't you feel that!?" lol!

So busy busy telling all the family on the phone now!!

Hope to here good news from the rest of todays scanners!!!

Jack how young are you thinking of putting baby in a nursery? I haven't started looking - or thinking - about it yet but it's my first and I don't want to miss out on all the good ones!

When is everyone going to start on the nursery (at home)?

Congrats to all the good scanees :)

I reckon I can feel movements too - 13+2 and have been for about a week but prob only once a day max.

I will put name down for nursery as soon as I am happy for DS to know - he is 4 so waiting til about 20 weeks so its a bit more tangible and not too long to wait - I don't want to confirm to his nursery before then in case thet let it slip to him. Round here you need to get names down before baby is born even if you're taking a whole year off work - its crazy - same for things like NCT classes and waterbabies!

Our whole primary school admissions are in crisis there are so many young families - we were incredibly lucky to get into our first choice school but so many friends missed out with furthest places being offered around 400m from school

I've worked out with a bit of scrimping throughout my leave that I can afford to stay off until the baby is nine months, assuming that I can work right up to October, have enough holidays that I could have a month off beforehand if I have to, although I'd prefer to have the time at the other end IYSWIM?

It's a bit different for us as we live in a village and I want to make sure that bump gets into one of the two nursery's that other kids in our village are likely to go to so that he/she will hopefully have friends to go to primary school with. I guess that if we were in a bigger town or city there would be a bunch more choice.

I have friends in Ireland and Australia who told me today that they have already put their kids name down for primary and secondary schools and more than one of each so that they are guaranteed to get a place, at least I am pretty certain that we will be able to get into the primary school in the village which I can see from my kitchen window :)

I haven't dealt with the antenatal class issue yet, have my booking in appointment on Thursday so thought I would ask then what was the best option.

Glad it's not just me, I asked cos partly I wanted a little reassurance and also because I was bored at work one day and looked up a council website on childcare to see that most places around here have a waiting list for the baby room, so thought I would mention it, even though it really is early days!

Obviously I would much rather be wondering what babygro's to buy, but I guess when this is done I can relax a bit more.

I have the room at home half cleared out of the junk that we put in there when we bought the house, but doubt that I'll do much more till right before the baby is born, given the timing I might even wait till the xmas sales for furniture etc, baby wont really need a cot for the first few months I hope and would be good to get things with money off as there is so much to buy!!! Bare in mind though that not having ever had a baby before I don't actually know what I am talking about and will bow to those who have the experience :o

Hi all

I've had my scan today and all was fine so have announced on facebook and loads of nice messages. The scan put me at 12+5 so my EDD is still 11/11/11.

I can feel my little one moving around especially at night but as it is number 3 thought it might be because my stomach muscles aren't so good.

My dreams have been very vivid but not bad - actually they are really erotic and fabulous - has anyone else been having this type of dream?

I am very calm and chilled, my hair has gone all thick and glossy and manageable, my skin is glowing, I feel absolutely great at the moment. It is really nice to have the scan out of the way and to be able to tell people.

Hope everyone else's scans went well today. I have tried to upload a picture of my scan into my pictures but not sure how you access these?

Hi all,
Another one here with a ridiculously large tum second time round. First time a colleague asked me when I was scanning in my 20 week scan pic at work - oooh whose baby is that? This time, I'm maybe a size 12 now instead of the 10 I was pre-pregnancy and it will literally be a race til my scan on Thursday before I get outed as being pregnant by friends just because of the size of my tum. It too gets bigger and smaller but compared to last time it's mahoosive! I'm blaming those wrecked abs.
TwoJacks I guess if you've got to do it you've got to do it but can I just say that the last place I'd want to visit while pregnant would be a nursery! Hand foot and mouth, slapped cheek, chickenpo, measles - they're teeny tiny biological warfare labs! Personally I think I'd maybe wait til post 20 weeks when the risk to the baby from say measles is reduced but I may just be overthinking it all. I just know from friends with wee ones that they are generally sent home with a bug or another once a week or so!
And finally movement I'm sure I'm feeling it again too. Already!! It feels like going over a humpbacked bridge, or someone blowing bubbles in milkshake. Lovely.

Haven't been on in a while, but at opp end of spectrum to busyboys atm. Headaches last few days, DH irritating me beyond belief, tired and fed up with feeling like a bitch, spots have come back and hair looks revolting. Still no bump, just look like fat cow, no feeling of baby moving, scan not until Fri when in theory will be 13+5, but reading too many negative things in books and online, paranoid baby not there at all/is dead/has terrible abnormalities to which DH keeps saying "don't worry", but honestly can't help but prepare myself for the worst. Have tonnes to do at work this week, big deadlines, etc., yet can't motivate myself to get past this scan. Sorry to be so negative, but need to vent somewhere where the response won't be "we'll cross that bridge..." or I will thump him storm out of room like enormous fat child (again)

Busyboys, would you please not come on here and boast about your fecking glossy hair and lovely skin! I look pale and ill and my hair is like Medusa's! I reckon I look about 20 weeks at the moment.
jamama, I was exactly the same before I had my scan. It's difficult not to worry but there is every chance that your baby is perfectly fine.

sorry chipmonkey - if it's any consolation I have piled on the weight and my husband is irritating me beyond endurance!

jamama I was the same before my scan - it was a real worry but I am sure everything will be fine, have a hug from me, it's an emotional time at the moment isn't it?

I tend to retreat into myself at times of high stress so have been very distant I think so feel total relief today now the scan is done and there is a baby in there who is looking so far so good.

Oh Jamama sorry you are having such a hard time, I think it's hard for DHs to really 'get' how you are feeling. I know mine feels a bit helpless as I am still being really sick a lot and there is nothing he can do. Hopefully all will be well at your scan and you can start to enjoy it more. I do know how you feel though, my skin has been awful (I have eczema and it's really flaring up) and I'm tired a lot plus the sickness gets me down from time to time - can't wait for the 2nd trimester blooming!! Am very of you BusyBoys and hoping I can catch up soon!

Also, I got a letter at the weekend to say I'd tested positive for GBS (Strep B) and as there were no MWs to talk to due to the bank holidays, I Googled myself into a bit of a worried state and DH had to take the internet away from me and get me to agree to stop over thinking it as I couldn't speak to anyone until today. I spoke to a MW and they aren't overly worried, I may need antibiotics now and then probably intravenous antibiotics during labour, which makes having an active labour a bit more of a challenge but the MW was positive and said she doesn't think it should be a problem.

Our scan is on Saturday when I will be 12+1 based on current calcs. At the early scan we had the sonographer thought I might be a few days behind that so will see what they say. I've had a few wobbly moments when I've worried about getting bad news, but am trying to put it to the back of my mind. I did have a moment this morning on the way to work when I started crying at a song that came on when listening to my ipod and thinking how I would feel if the scan does not go well - oh dear! Had to pull myself together pretty sharpish.

My boss is on holiday this week so work is very busy for me. Of course, it's also the week when my MS is bad too. Have struggled to get through a few meetings today and in my last meeting of the day (was back o back with the previous one) I was genuinely worried I might have to excuse myself to be sick. Luckily I managed to hold it together until I got out of there, but it's really not nice. Couldn't keep my lunch down (or even a glass of water this afternoon) and it's been really strong retching, like Daiso said it really hurts and also leaves me feeling quite shaky for a while.

Am going to take myself off to bed for a nice early night and be thankful that there's only 3 days to go until the weekend. Our scan is 0930 on Saturday morning and all being well, we will be heading back up to the Midlands and telling lots of people our good news. We had some friends to stay last weekend and told them (the not drinking and being sick would have been far too awkward to avoid doing so) and that was lovely, they were really happy for us, although it felt a bit odd talking so openly about it!

Right, sorry I've gone on for so long - was catching up after being offline for a few days Great news about all of the lovely scans, am hoping ours will be equally fabulous!

Just a quickie as in bed and exhausted. Just to say scan went well, wee thing was bouncing around the place. Got a new EDD a little further on than thought and in second trimester now, so will update tomorrow.

Phew bloody phew. I feel I have to start to enjoy growing the baby rather than freaking out all the time. Luckily no bleeding for weeks and what will be will be.

Good luck scanees tomorrow...cep? et al...

nighty nighty guys...it feels like we're all turning a corner...and I like it.

Glad to hear about all the scans have been going well:) Ours was great, saw five toes and five fingers and the nose etc... really cool. Baby was moving a lot and is big considering my LMP but all is good.

Made the facebook announcement and got lots of lovely messages.

folic I agree, feels like we are turning a corner:) Yay 2nd trimester!

busyboysmum that you are having great dreams and thick glossy hair:) I have neither, but here's hoping that we all get the 2nd trimester bloom soon!

morning ladies so glad scans have been going well.

jamama sorry you're feeling so low at the moment, it is completely normal, so many hormones at the moment. You will get passed this part,

I'm also into 2nd tri am 13+4 today.

thanks folic for the good wishes, is tomorrow though. nearly there. fx for those over the next few days.

Morning all! Been so busy last few days not posted but have been lurking. Had a fab long weekend with DP and DD, now back to work.

Great news about scans everyone and fingers crossed for everyone's today.

We told MIL and DstepDD and her hubby at the weekend. Went down okish. DstepDD has trouble accepting me (even though she's 21 and DP and I have been together since she was 13) and I think she was very shocked we were still having sex
MIL looks after DD 2 days a week and her first words were 'well I'm too old to look after this one'. She apologised afterwards - twas the shock I think. We'd been prepared that this baby will have to go to nursery full-time, but even so I had hoped she might offer one day a week as DD and her have such a fantastic bond and by the time I go back to work, DD will be in pre-school so she wouldn't have to have both.
Anyhoo - c'est la vie.

We put DD's name down for nursery when I was 7m pregnant. It's a great nursery - in the grounds of the local college and is subsidised by the council. Even so, if DD goes FT when she gets her pre-school funding and this baby goes FT, I'm looking at £800 a month until DD gets her full school place. Gulp.
I'm quite lucky that we live in N Wales and have quite a few good schools in the area. Atm I have a choice of one in walking distance which rates highly for pastoral care but low on educational excellence and one that is a 5min drive which is much smaller and rated excellent for education. Decisions decisions.

Truffkin I wanted to comment on your strep B result. I had +ve strep B with DD and had to have IV antibiotics during labour. DD's labour and birth was horrific but wasn't anything to do with strep B.
But - why on earth are they testing you for strepB now?? It's pointless and many many women carry strepB in their vagina and tbh, it comes and goes. You could quite well be -ve by the time the birth comes and it's just an extra risk factor to worry about now.

NHS tests for strepB are notoriously inaccurate (50% error rate), which is why they don't offer them routinely plus they should only be done around 37 weeks when it's pretty certain you won't have the time for it to 'go away' IYSIWM.

Try to put it out of your mind and get a private test done yourself around 36/37 weeks. It's a cheap simple test (about £40) which involves swabbing yourself at home and sending it off to a lab. They will then text you your result. Much better than the NHS test.
To remove the strep B you can try inserting a garlic clove on a piece of string up your fanjo every day. Don't laugh, it's supposed to work. I'm going to try it myself but I won't be testing until 37 weeks.

Btw, if your baby gets strepB during the birth it can be serious but more often than not, there's no problem.

Oh and before i go, whoever mentioned erotic dreams - that's me! I'm having quite nasty nightmares alternating with very sexual dreams. The other night I had a lovely 4some with 2 men and a woman I was delivering a package to!
I am also incredibly horny - and DP's bloody knackered atm! Arrgghhh.

Looking forward to a week on Sat when I have my nuchal scan. Still feeling very nauseous (not vomiting) and tired but worried about baby's growth.

. So we went to Harley St yesterday to have the nuchal test re done and the odds went from 1:60 to 1:20. He also couldnt do the CVS there and then so we had to come home (130 odd miles) and will go back in this afternoon to have it done. DP was absolutely, completely and utterly useless but thankfully my BF was with us who was great. The waiting is just killing me but hopefully will all be over by tomorrow.....(well, we'll know one way or another)

Hello again, thanks to all for supportive comments - am trying to get through the working days with sufficient water, dried fruit 'treats' and toilet trips so that my headaches aren't so bad, and will do my best to restrict urge to tear DH to shreds (again) this evening.

And sorry to busyboysmum if that read like I was cross with you for being in a good place - am happy that so many are now over the initial hurdle and have seen their healthy babies, I guess a little that I'm not there (in terms of scan or the feeling great bit) yet. Right, spose I'd best get on with some work!

LK, sorry I xposted there with self-absorbed drivel, I am sorry. Glad that your BF is there to help, am sure your partner is feeling just as lost and scared as you are really. My heart goes out to you and I hope that this journey and wait is over soon, fx for positive news. Thinking of you.