November 2011 - more hand holding, scans and 2nd trimester chat coming up.....

[Katiebeau]

New thread chatty girls.......

Pic posted - the only one the sonographer would let us have!

what a mixed bag of news - am caught up now and mixed emotions. fx for LWW and Norfolk for light at the end of the tunnel, and there are so many of us thinking of you.

Norfolk and LittleWhiteWolf So sorry about your news ! I hope you both have happy endings soon. 39 is not running out of time for most women. I got pregnant naturally just before my 47th birthday, and there are plenty of women having babies in their forties.

Congrats to all those who had happy scans.

So sorry Norfolk and LWW Nothing we can say that will help, but I have been there, and know how devastating it can be. I hope you have all the support and sympathy you need in RL.

Congratulations to all the positive scanees, I'm hoping to join you tomorrow. I arranged an early scan privately since I am going to be on my own for the dating scan. I hope I get the results I want, so that my worries can be shelved.

hugs and kisses to anyone needing them, xxx ((()))

Just wanted to pop in to send lots of love and hugs to Norfolk and LWW for such awful news. Hope you are being kind to yourselves and best of luck for a happier time, next time xxx

So sad to for you both norfolk and lww xx

So very sorry to hear your news norfolk and lww!:(

Very sorry for your news today norfolk and lww. Thinking of you both. x

Really sorry for your bad news norfolk and LWW. Hoping for sticky beans next time

Oh Norfolk and lww I can't imagine what you are going through. Be kind to yourselves and I hope time is a healer.

39 is not too old. My boss had her first baby at 43. Try not to panic, easy to say I know. Hugs to you both

Glad to hear some good scan news from yesterday

Really sorry to hear your loss norfolk & lww make sure you look after yourselves & let others look after you too x x

Very sorry Norfolk and LWW for your sad news. I hope you are both getting great support and cuddles in RL. Let your friends and families support you xxxx

So sorry for your losses norfolk and lww, the ladies on the mc threads are lovely, they helped me so much, fx

My scan is in an hour so trying to drink as much fluid as poss without being sick :(

Will update you all later :)

Norfolk and lww... Sorry to know you are having to go through this. Thoughts are with you for some positive news in the future.

Lizzy and hills, good luck with scans today. Hope to hear some good news later xx

Oh Norfolk & LWW I am so, so sorry to hear your sad news. I have been in your situation. Be kind to yourselves and I'm keeping my fx that you're back in no time xx

Just another voice really - I'm so very sorry LWW and Norfolk.

lww and norfolk sending you love and best wishes for a sticky bean next time.

If ever there was news to jolt me out of feeling down its that.

THanks everyone for your hugs and support. Have had a much better week, done lots of nice stuff, sickness is easing and DP is back on Saturday (finally) after his nearly 3 months away ....

Norfolk and LWW so sorry to hear your news. Sending you hugs and love and hope you are surrounded by lovely friends and family. Take care xxx

All - i really need your help (and I'm so sorry for asking twice in a week). Just had a call from the MW with a 1 in 60 downs risk. I'm distraught and panicking. Cant speak to DP because of the time difference and best mate currently has 12 11 year olds marauding round her house so diff too. We're supposed to be going on hols next week and looks like we will have to cancel to have CVS and I know that should be am inor thing but DP has been away since the day we found out about baby and hols was his 'welcome back'. Can anyone help calm me down or make sense of this? If it helps, I'm 35 and nuchal measurement was fine at 1.2mm.....

Oh lk I don't have any real advice but some virtual hugs. try to stay calm, I assume it was the bloods that give you the higher risk as the nuchal measurement was fine?
Try to think of it as you have a chance of 59 out of 60 that your baby is absolutely fine.

What did the mw say? Can you email DP or talk at all, despite the time difference? Do you want to know for certain whether the baby is that 1 in 60?

I wish I could make that decision for you but I can't. I don't think your age has anything to do with it - the risk increases slightly at 35 but it really is slight. It only starts to go up alot once you get to 40 and even then most babies are fine.

If it were me, I would probably want to know one way or the other so i could prepare mentally but that is just me. Perhaps post a thread on the pregnancy boards as I am sure there will be people better able to give you good advice.

I am so sorry you are alone today.

no, DP cant talk at mo - its about 4 am I think there .....

yes must have been bloods as nuchal measurement fine, apparently they dont take nasal bone into account so no idea there ......

i went for an early pregnancy scan in harley st as I have a history of miscarriage and so I phoned them - they can re-do my bloods on saturday and then see a consultant on tuesday. MW has provisionally booked me in for cvs next thursday. so holiday def up the wall now and will spend week worrying rather than relaxing .....

think i need a walk to the shop for an ice cream to cheer me up ...

lk Like MrsA said, there is a 59 out of 60 that the baby will not have Downs Syndrome. My aunt had even lower results (1:20 I think), had the same amount of stress your going through, and her little one was one of the 19. And even if s/he is the 1, there are many services these days that help most people with Downs Syndrome to have full, happy lives.

Did you discuss with your partner about what you both thought if these circumstances would come up?

Have your ice cream and walk, which will hopefully help you feel better and give you space to think.

Ik sorry you have had stressful results, as MrsA said, 59 out of 60 are good odds really. With regards to the CVS do you know what you would do if it were downs. You don't need to answer here, but if you think about the question and the answer it might help you decide where to go from here. We are always here to talk, sorry DH is away.

No idea how that all was bold?!!?

Ik Sorry to hear about your concerns. Nothing you can do but wait for more definite information and concentrate on the fact that the probabilities are heavily in your favour. If I were you I would work out what I was going to do in all circumstances and then try my hardest to force myself to think about other things as worrying won't help at all. Can you manage even a couple of days away somewhere not too far so's you still have a bit of a holiday at least?

I had my 12 week scan today, and all seems to be well. My nuchal measurement was 0.9mm, but now I realise I'm not out of the woods until I get the results of my bloods, and am taking my own advice and resolutely putting it out of my head until then.