August 2011 - yellow, pink or blue, which one are you?

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I'm yellow

mrsstevo regarding heartburn avoid tomatoes and acidic fruit, you can get prescribed ant acid which I found fab last time!

Ooh littlemissw I'm nervous about those forms now as I've only been self employed since last May! Hope they're not too bad. I've printed them off as a job for another time.

Well I had the most amazing experience yesterday, I actually saw the baby kick my stomach up several times, which I wasn't expecting yet! It was brilliant. Plus it then seemed to huddle to one side and push outwards, so I got a huge bump to one side of my tummy - amazing - I kind of cupped it in my hand then I took a picture for DH. V special. The pregnancy is suddenly really exciting again!

Same here Littlemissw, we multi-let properties for professionals, so although I won't be 'working', we'll still be earning the same, but I won't officially be working, so we've got to go in and ask about it all. Very
If you go through the form though, it tells you if you answered yes, go to blah blah number.

Sorry no answer for heartburn, but any excuse for a magnum sounds good to me :)

Nappies turned up today, they are the CUTEST little things!! Put one on a teddy to show DH, with a nappi nippa, and he said, god that was easy. Let's see if it is in RL :)

When are you due Rugby as I'm due 11th August and as long as I was self employed from 4th May, I think it was, it was OK.

I'm due 21 August and became self employed 15 May 2010 Klou. I think I fall 2 weeks short

I should really look at the forms again - maybe it will come out differently like you say worked out on them

Rugby thats so nice when you see them kick like that and bump moving, i'm looking forward to that.
If you need 2 weeks more for maternity pay you never know maybe you will go overdue and just make it??

Klou aww @ nappies on teddy, how cute

Hoping so Firawla as that would also take me into the next school year (though I bet I won't be saying that at 40 weeks)

KLou which nappies have you gone for?? Did you go to a nappucino first?

I have an anterior placenta, so only a few little pops of movement, definitely no kicks yet :( oh well, the scan pics have me high as a kite everytime i think of them :D

Just had a look Rugby, and if your due date is between 21-27 August it's from 16th May 2010, so you're a day in!!! (They go from your due date on your MATB1 off MW, which will be what you were told on your scan)

Got the Eco Bumbles daisy. Read some really god reviews on them, they dry really quick and have a fleece liner so no need for separate liner. Obviously need booster at night etc. which you can put in an old cut up towel etc in the pocket. Only cost £15 for 5 delivered from Easy Peasy Nappies, so I got 20 to try.
They are supposed to be birth to potty too, but think depends on how big bubba is.
Nappy Lady told me Little Lambs, but read bad reviews about them falling apart and someone also said that on here (can't remember who). If I'm spending that sort of money, I want them to at least last us the 2 bubbas we're planning to have!

Oh thanks Klou that's brilliant news! Sounds like it'll make it all a lot simpler for me. And the simpler everything is for me the better at the moment! I even managed to buy the same pregnancy magazine twice the other week

Hello all, got some good and some bad news.

Bad news is that the house me and DP had reserved was taken off 'for rent' and the agency backed out so we no longer have somewhere to move into. Good news is that DP has spoken to the Royal British Legion and they have said they can probably help.

I honestly don't think I can cope right now. I'm stressed and having regular mood swings, my mother doesn't seem to be coping either and I just received a letter from ESA after making a new claim that 'They will not be able to pay us from 12th of February' meaning they cannot backdate my claim even though that was the date I first spoke to them to make my claim. They didn't state any reasons, and that was about the only piece of information on the letter. After a whole month of waiting eagerly for their response and getting that, I want to burst into tears. I cannot work and we cannot afford to let DP go to college. There are no part-time courses that are funded and if he goes into full-time education we'll have almost no money at all. I'm tired, stressed, sore from sleeping on the floor on a thin mattress and am struggling to cope. I am sorry for posting all of this here but after posting a rather deep and what I'd consider depressing topic when I couldn't cope previously in the Mental Health section, I couldn't face up to doing it again.

I still haven't gotten round to getting my doctor to refer me to some sort of helpful mental health professional as I don't trust my doctor with any kind of personal information besides things about my pregnancy. I have struggled to go out for years and now when I'm struggling less even if I do feel horrible, public transport is too expensive.

I don't know what to do and our room has needed a clean for ages but I can't get myself motivated to do it. Is there any advice or help we can recieve? We are all stressed and at the moment having DP there and my baby kicking away is the only strength I have.

Again, I apologise for being so utterly down in the dumps and the last thing I want is to bring others down with me. I shall read the recent posts a bit later, and hope you are all well. Good to hear the beans are all safe and sound too.

Been gone for a while, just desperately trying to keep on top of work etc. What with feeling so blinking tired all of the time (napping when I get in from work and so forth) it's all I can do to stay on top of the marking let alone anything else.

Had my 20 week scan today and baby was wriggling all over the place. Have been feeling movement regularly for the last couple of weeks but it was nice to see that it wasn't all a figment of my imagination.

Sonographer was really lovely and talked us through all the measurements she was taking and it was just wonderful to be able to see so much detail, tiny toes, lips etc. We were both slightly awe struck, by the fact this little baby is there and by the glorious technology that allows us to see it.

She said she was very happy with what she saw as far as baby is concerned. However she did say it seems that the placenta is currently "blocking the exit" (her words) and I will have to have another scan at 32 weeks to see if this is still the case.

yukana I have to deal with dwp claims for residents at work all the time. The best advice I can give is call them, record everything you send them and keep getting them to update your file each time you call.

I'm doing very well ATM, my inny belly button is now an outy! I look pregnant and feel like it's real! I still feel like I need a kick up the ass getting the study renovated for the nursery though!

I also need a new car, thinking of the golf, but if were planning a 3 rd dc in a few yrs should I opt for something bigger!

I answered the door last night to a sales man who asked if my mum was in. I replied probably but she lives 40 miles away! Cheeky sod!

Yukana nothing helpful to say except (hugs)
MrsV I have a Touran which is a bit like a Golf on stilts and I love it. It's a 7 seater with 2 folding seats in the boot which gives great space, or a huge boot. Only down side is if you have it as a 7 seater the boot space is tiny. You can easily get 3 car seats across the back though so no need to use the boot seats most of the time.

Yukana I can't really offer any advice other than you need to be strong and persistent with govt organisations. I would ring them, ask them why they have said this in their letter, ask for the person's name, and tell them you will call them back. Then have a think about their reasons, and call them back in a couple of hours once you've had time to formulate a response. It seems unfair they can't backdate your payments, and you need to fight that. I would also ask that you don't let your depression get in the way- I know we had a little chat about this on an earlier thread - if you can't motivate yourself, don't look at the whole mountain to climb, break it down into smaller jobs. So if your room needs a clean, start by picking your clothes up and hanging them up. One little job done. Then you can see that your shelves need dusting. Another little job. Then if you can't be bothered to do anything else, you'll feel better for a couple of little things, or you may find momentum takes over and being a little bit active helps? I hope so. Also try freecycle and see if you can get yourself a better mattress. And get your dp to help you and support you- tell him you're feeling blue, and have a hug and a cry. Lots of hugs to you :(
Btw, I am not saying you live like a minger like I do with clothes all over the place and undusted furniture
anyway... Lots of good scans, well done people! Mine (and carrie's? And someone else?) is on Monday. Can't wait. We're finding out. After 18 weeks of being positive it's a boy, I've changed my mind this week and decided it's a girl. DH has also changed his mind the other way! Lots of regular kicks this week that can be felt on the outside, but as soon as DH puts his hand on my tummy they stop. He says it's his calming influence and it's going to be exactly like that when s/he arrives. That would be good!
Bought a Moses basket on eBay last week for £26 (m+p one, worth £90) so pretty chuffed with that. Off to a nearly new sale in an hour at the university too, even DH wants to come altho we'll see what he says when I try to get him out of bed!
This week's latest stress: DH has horrific eczema (currently residing on his hands) and I'm really fretting that a) the baby will have it too and b) that DH will struggle to hold the baby, never mind change nappies, bathe him/her. Anyone have miracle cures? Tbh, he's had this since birth so I doubt much will help him.
Who mentioned a Yorkshire meet-up? We should do that :)
Sorry for long post, on iPhone and can't see when I'm going on!
Good luck for scans and shopping this coming week! X

Jenni regarding your dh's escma run his bathwTer through porridge oats, avoid dairy, avoid false climates like heated rooms, avoid chlorine etc

For the baby bfeeding really helps prevent it as with ff you don't know if there's something in there to irritate it. Also don't wean before 6 months as this could make it worse. The doctor will prescribe you oilatum products which are fab and avoid anything jhonsons like the plague as it is very drying. Also talc can irritate.

I sometimes get it and dd has had a little on occasion but it's really easy to manage! Especially if you know your likely to get it

yakuna try phoning citizen's advice bureau for an appointment. They should be able to help you chase a backpayment (or check if it is due to you) and also help with housing information.

LMAO MrsV about the door salesman!! Great comment!

Sorry about all your worries Yukana hope it all falls into place for you soon.

sleepy my mum had the placenta 'down there' when my brother was born (he is now 37). It was the one thing she asked me to ask at the scan (even though they tell you anyway, but panic-mum kicked in!) They didn't have scans in those days so they didn't know 100% where the placenta was. But when she went into labour and went into hospital, she thought her waters had broken in the bed as she was all wet down below, and when they looked, she was haemorraging as the placenta was in the way. Don't let that scare you though, but they do have to keep an eye on it these days BIG TIME. It's so good the technology these days that all should go without much of a hitch so please do not let it worry you wherever your placenta is :)

Thank you for the advice everyone, and sorry for offloading everything on here (again), it's a bit hard to deal with sometimes. I'll see if I can phone CAB or some kind of legal advice and arrange an appointment with a different doctor. Do you think it would be possible for another doctor to refer me to a mental health professional? There is a very nice doctor's surgery about 3 miles from mine and I actually feel more comfortable there than in my own village one!

Anyone finding it really hard to wake up in the mornings? I feel like these past few days trying to wake up before noon is a bloody nightmare. Or, maybe I'm just lazy.

Got another letter from ESA today so first thing I'm doing on Monday is calling them. Someone in the village apparently also has a vaccum cleaner for me, so that saves me £60 or so. :) Trying to keep myself positive. DM is buying me fudge for easter so I shall look forward to it!

sleepyowl Glad to hear your scan was a lovely experience. :) I know your placenta is blocking the exit but I can't help but feel slightly that you have another scan coming up!

Jenni I laughed a little when I read what your DP said about the baby kicking. Team pink here and she likes to kick me when I'm lying on my back occasionally, although she kicks me in the bladder and it forces me to move.

mrsS you can get Gaviscon Advance on prescription from the GP - its stronger than the over the counter stuff, and free! I swig it straight from the bottle .

DD's 4th birthday tomorrow so I've been busy baking!

I was told to have a really full bladder for the scan. 48hours and counting!!

yukana i hope you manage to get everything sorted out, must be quite stressful but im sure you will get things sorted in time

i went to see a flat today and for once it actually looked better in person than the pics rather than the other way round, so might go for it. would be nice to get moving out of the way and just settle in with plenty of time left.

carrie happy bday for your dd tomorrow! hope she has a great day

glad everyone's scans gone well & hope everyone is well x

just a quick one, we had the scan on fri with a not very cheerful sonographer,her first words were "get on the bed we have a lot to do" she didnt talk at all and hardly showed me anything, the baby was so wriggly she couldnt see the heart or the face and said she couldnt do any pictures! so I have to go back next thurs, which is really good as we get to see baba again but its going to be the same miserable sonographer again!

Neverlookback Ugh, I hate miserable sonographers. You'd think they'd have some sort of customer service training like I give my staff in my shop... "doesn't matter how you feel - the customer's in here looking for a smily happy pleasant experience". Do they not understand that there are BABIES involved here??!
When I'm queen of the world, I'll make it the law, as well as moving Wednesday to between Saturday and Sunday (makes sense to me, weekends aren't long enough )
Yukana I'm getting a bit worried about you. You're sleeping till noon because you're depressed . Please go and see someone, and yes, of course you can go and see a different doctor if you're not comfortable - just explain that to the new practice. Please pm me if you think it will help you x
32 hours till scan, whoop! Am getting beaten to death from the inside now though. It's starting to freak DH out as my tummy's started moving (in a week, I've gone from not being sure they're kicks to this!). He's making the standard Alien references, but as long as he's being entirely innappropriate about everything, I know he's fine with it (he's a bit of a Peter Pan and struggles with grown-up stuff!)
Just been checking out cost of insurance and everything at the new house... my car insurance is going to come down by 50% and my house insurance by 70%. That's what getting an HG1 postcode does, instead of living in the ghetto :)

Good morning all mummies, how has your mothers day been so far? Happy first mothers day to all first timers! Dp and dd have indulged me to a bath and a lie in which has been lovely. were all off to my mums for lunch so should be fun!

I'm knackered today, running round after dd certainly tires me out more than the gym any day! The nice weather has been a great excuse to don my summer maternity dresses!

I can't believe how fast this preg is going, I am seriously worrying were not going to have sorted the nursery before she arrives! Dd and I went clothes shopping yesterday and she chose some baby grows for the bump! So cute