November 2011 - holding hands, making plans & having scans

[TerrysNo2]

Thread 2 for the chatty lot. Welcome from the first thread and hopefully some newbies too!

This thread is for chats and this thread is for stats!

Continue as you were....

I am like a fishwife with the kids, some days.

haha chipmonkey that made me laugh!
I yell more easily as well... and it doesn't help unfortunately!

I am suffering terribly from insomnia (hence why I am on computer at 6am on Saturday morning, when I should be tucked up in the land of nod).

Anyone got any tips?

I'm a bad sleeper a lot of the time anyway. Under non pg circumstances, if I've had a few sleepless nights, I resort to a Nytol or very occasionally something stronger, to get me back on the right track and my sleeping patterns back to normality.

So, obviously these are out of the question at the moment, does anyone have an experience of this, or any suggestions? I'm knackered, I just want to sleep!

Morning Snoozle,

I had another bad night last night too, hence why I'm on so early!!! For me it was the worry about the cost of things, the nursery costs are shocking, but it's too late now to change my mind!!!

I have an alarm clock next to my bed so that when I wake up too early I look at the time and know it's too early to get up, but otherwise I sometimes just have to go to bed earlier the next night and hope that I catch up.

Are you worried about things, that's usually why I can't sleep, or there might be a noise in the house or outside that is distracting me so once I figure out what that might be I feel better, but sometimes the night is a right off and I might as well get up and get going.

Hope you feel better soon :)

hello everybody. Can I join? Been putting off venturing out of the comforts of the conception thread as just pg after mc in dec. But this thread seems lovely and very understanding of pg after mc so I thought I'd say hello....

So, my stats are Collie2 32 yr TTC#1 pg#2 EDD 25/11/11 (unconfirmed) I'll add these to the list.

I had a bit of spotting last week although nothing since, but have had worrying stomach and back pains for 2 weeks now. Had gp apt weds and been referred to epu for scan Monday, which am sooo worried about. Had awfulnight last night with painful period pains and cramps and feeling faint. In the end wondered if it could be wind as stopped after bowel movement anyone else experienced this?

Sorry to read that some if you are also worried and are bleeding. Good luck for the scans Monday too x

Hope, like me, everyone is having a lovely Saturday lie in. Xx

morning all,

how are we all? haven't been on this week, and haven't managed to catch up on thread, it's so fast moving! sorry. welcome newbies!

I wanted to talk to you about constipation. Oh yeah. I drink lots of fluids but haven't been eating my usual pulses and veggie (all I want is plain comfortfood like mashed tatties and pie)

SO I've been straining to go to the toilet and as a result have been spotting and bleeding when doing so which really makes me worry- although EPU said not to when I called them. Defo out of fanny though and not bum, it's not piles.

Anyone any failsafe tricks to get me moving? It will safe me £65 on a private scan to allay my fears.

TA!

morning all,

collie hey hon, glad to see you here. that sound very reminiscent (sp?) of my first pg. i got horrendous wind at the beginning of pg i got a bad pain and felt faint until i got rid of it. i'd have to force a fart out to feel better otherwise i'd get really hot and faint.

folic some ladies have mentioned fruit in syrup, apparently doesn't matter which fruit as long as it's in syrup.

snoozle not sure, i can only think of making sure you have a good routine, a relaxing bath and warm drink (non caffeine obviously)

has pip been back? i hope you're ok.

Folic prune juice / dried prunes work a treat on DS! The juice is horrid but might be worth holding your nose and downing a glass? Otherwise lots of fibre. I am having no problems in that area as I crave lots and lots of fruit and cannot eat much heavy food!!

Sorry about bad nights Snozzle and Jack - they say its preparing you for a newborn

Welcome Collie, there are a few of us on here who had MC in December so you are not alone. Congrats on your pregnancy and here's hoping for a sticky one this time!

Morning all,

Folic I had terrible problems a couple of weeks ago and the prune juice worked - since then I have put a tablespoon of linseed on my cereal every morning and things have been back to normal since then, touch wood!

Can't offer any advice on the insomnia as I am ready for bed at about 9pm every night and sleeping straight through. Loving the weekend when I have time to lounge around on the sofa.

I got letters with my midwife and scan appts yesterday so seeing the midwife week after next and have my first scan on 4 May. Now we're in April that doesn't seem so terribly far away...

Hope everyone else is ok - welcome collie and other newbies.

Thanks guys, the thought of prune juice makes me want to heave but needs must. I spose could get some prunes for porridge too...

and I'm loving tinned fruit at the moment but buy in juice not syrup, so will try that too...

I too have the farts and the sweats...just want to not be a big ball of wind!

cheers all.

Morning all,

I've been lurking all week reading everyone's updates. Sorry to those who are having a tough time with ms and those that are worrying. Welcome to all the lovely new ladies, the ladies are lovely on this thread :)...they even have parties :o

I feel a bit daft, I am worrying the closer I get to my dating scan (booked in for 19th of April). It was at my dating scan in my first pregnancy that we discovered that i had a mmc. It has been on my mind a lot lately and I'm just really scared that when I go in the same thing is going to happen again :(.

I have had the odd moment of feeling queasy and have been sick twice but it isn't constant (which I know sounds daft but I think it would reassure me if I had it in waves). My boobs have been really sore but that seems to have calmed down too. They are still big and veiny.

DP works shifts and this week he's been on nights and nights are when I think so it's kind of been a vicious circle. We've hardly spoken because he sleeps during the day and I'm in work and when I come home he's already away.

Sorry, I know I sound like an idiot, is it natural to be full of doubts this early on? Sounds pathetic but I just want my Mum (my family live in Scotland and we live down near Eastbourne and she's just gone on holiday for a week).

Anyway, enough of my moaning, going to get a tissue (managed to make myself cry). I hope you all have a lovely weekend.

x

Oh pip
You've set me off!

My Mum lives 300miles away so I know how you feel. Have you got a friend who is a Mummy type?
I work with a lovely lady who has 5 children and is my idea of a perfect mother and whenever I'm feeling rubbish I go and chat to her! She makes me feel mothered every time I talk to her!
I walked past her consulting room one day and she called my name and patted a chair, said I looked fed up and she was worried, so she made me sit down and chat!
And to answer your question, yes, its very normal to be doubtful. Its a huge responsibility, and you're heading into the unknown. All of us are.
Every time you get pregnant it can be totally different to the last so no one is 100% sure and confident all the time.
Go easy on yourself Lady, you're doing just fine xx

Pips that is one of my biggest fears, going to the dating scan to be told that I've had a MMC, i can get tearful just thinking about that scenario- let alone you, who has lived through it. That must have been truly horrific.

...Of course you'll be very worried about it, and not seeing partner will be making you feel even more alone. As Wuzz says are there any RL people you can talk to for reassurance? and also chatting on here can help.

Also, what about an early scan? done privately? I've been mulling that over, particulary as have had spotting. At least it would take the total fear out of the dating scan for you, and will give you peace of mind?

Thank you ladies

I have calmed myself down now, I took myself out for a walk and enjoyed the sunshine while DP sleeps (last shift last night so we now have the weekend to enjoy together).

Wuzz and Folic I do have a few really good friends who I can chat too about my worries, they themselves are pregnant (7 of my close friends are all in varying stages of pregnancy) so I have been asking them random questions, both been really supportive.

Tbh DP has been my rock, I'll serve some crackers with that cheesy comment but it is the truth.

Folic we did think about getting the early scan done privately but my dating scan is before 12 weeks and DP has said that if I can hold off that little bit longer we can go for a private scan later in the pregnancy all going well. I know that it is over 2 weeks away but at least I can now say it is this month :o

I'm very sorry for being down earlier, I think i'm just emotional and a bit tired, might go for a nap later on today.

Take care and I've glad I've got you all :)

JackRussell its funny you should say you think your sleepless nights might be due to worry, I think I'm possibly in the same boat myself. Investigated childcare costs the other day and discovered that when combined with my travel costs they will outstrip my salary. I love my job, and don't really want to give it up. Had thought that I might get tax credits to help with costs, but it seems that our joint income is too much. It just makes me frustrated, as dh and I have always worked hard, and are well qualified but due to a combination of bad luck, and living in a part of the country where salaries are low anyway, we have never attained the sort of careers we would like, and although I'm thrilled to be pg again, I'm scared this will be the final nail in the coffin of my already fairly non existent career. . I know there are much worse things, and I don't mean to be insensitive when so many others on here have much bigger worries, but its just how I feel at the moment.

Hello,

Hope it's OK to join as I just found out I'm pregnant and due on 19th November. Bit of a surprise but know I'm very lucky, reading through the thread.

SnoozleDoozle I know what you mean. I got made redundant a year ago and although I'm now working, it's on a contract which finishes in October so I will only get Government maternity and not sure what the situation will be trying to find a job when I'm ready to go back, particularly as employers will prefer people who want to work full time and don't have babies at home. Is your job something you could do freelance or from home?

Just a flying visit ... I suffer from insomnia when I'm pregnant. I find it's best just to get up, have hot chocolate or hot milk and watch rubbish tv. I get back to sleep a lot quicker that way rather than tossing and turning.

Hi ladies, glad to see some good news about scans in the last few days and to see more new joiners to the thread!

Pip if you're about hope things are ok with you. Have been thinking of you in the last few days.

So my sickness has got a lot worse in the last few days. Thursday afternoon and yesterday I just couldn't keep any food down and started to worry a bit. Was sick again this morning but although I'm still feeling queasy I've managed to keep my lunch in my stomach so far! I've tried ginger biscuits, sipping water and sucking boiled sweets. Might try ice cubes if it comes back.

I've also got my scan appointment for 7th May, the lady I spoke to on the phone was lovely and offered me the weekend appointment as we were struggling to make mine and DH's work schedules match up! I've also got a midwife appointment for 13th April but will have to change that too as I'm away with work for a couple of days that week. Wonder how long I'll be able to keep up my usual pace

Hope everyone is enjoying the lovely warm weekend weather. We've been for a walk this morning and had lunch in the garden at our local pub. My Mom called to thank us for her Mothers' Day gift (naughty Mom opened it early!) and chatted baby stuff for half an hour. I think she's more excited than we are. It's so cute!

Right, I think I might try for an afternoon nap to stave off tha nausea that's threatening to creep back in. Hope to pop back on yomorrow to keep up to date.

Hello everyone

thanks again for all the MS tips...may I suggest 'hint of fruit' flavoured sparkling water for anyone else also suffering. Bizarrely, I can't handle plain old water, but maybe it's the slightly sparkling-ness...anyway it's got me drinking fluids again

Terrys congrats on the scan! your comment about 'dildo cam' made me spit (lightly flavoured) water all over my screen! I too can't wait for a proper 'jelly belly' scan

Pipsbump Hello! Congrats and welcome. I see the lovely ladies on this thread have already given you a big hug! They've all been wonderful to me, I don't know what I'd have done without this place sometimes!

Snoozle Wish I had advice for you...I've been getting insomnia too. And yeah, the cost of childcare is freaking me out already! The thought that I might have to stay at home while DH brings home the bacon has already occurred to me...We're just going to look into a few things though, there might be something. Have you looked at moneysavingexpert.com? They have good advice for all the tax credits/benefits you can get. But don't let it get to you...this should be the fun exciting part!

hope you all have a lovely weekend! x

evening all

welcome LittleMissExcited24 and congratulations.

pipsbump i know how you feel, it was at my second scan i got the bad news last time and i have my second scan on tuesday i'm a bit wetting myself worried about it. am gritting my teeth. it seems so long away and i have to go to work before, not looking forward to it.

hi all, just checking in with nowt much exciting to say, empathising with the sick ones - this is the first week i havent felt poisoned, and wishing luck to everyone with scans. Weirdly I havent felt pregnant today, but know it comes and goes. Tomorrow will be my first mothers day without my mom who died on New Years Day and have been dreading it but off to see my delightful god daughter, so I hope you all have great days in the sun .....catch you all next week

Hi all,
We had a relaxing quiet day at a monastery in the middle of nowhere today without DD. Was very nice. Came back home and walked to the ice cream van with DD and had bright red bleeding again... it seems that I really can't do any lifting or effort or it starts again...
I feel so helpless not being able to do anything to stop it and having to wait till Monday morning to now everything is ok and where the bleeding comes from.

I can really do without stressing about anything as the smallest stressful situation or effort seem to be causing bleeding!

I am also going to ring the MW on Monday to tell her about the bleeding and hopefully she will want to see me way before 16 weeks, because tbh I can't really wait until then to hear our LO's heartbeat.
It's my 2nd pregnancy but I feel so much more insecure now because of the bleeding

Pips glad you got out for a walk, and hope you have cheered a wee bit and have a nice evening with OH. My OH works shifts too so i know that feeling of waiting impatiently for them to wake up!

Blue I do hope they give you an early scan, are you in any pain? is it much blood? i've spotted on and off red and brown and totally get that feeling where you are having a great time and then suddenly plunged into worry after a trip to the loo. I'm considering an early private scan (having already had an NHS one 3 weeks ago) if that is an option for you, you may want to do that?

and welcome littlemiss!

thanks folicacid I am having another scan Monday morning. I am not in a lot of pain, it is not constant bleeding, but earlier it was a pantyliner full, sorry if that is TMI...
going private isn't an option, as I'm the only one earning atm and not having a lot of spare cash...