feb 2011 - waving those pom poms

[slowangels1]

just to start a new (and possibly last) ante natal thread - come on knitta

AIBU question here - DH comes home from work and moans at me that the house is messy as he sees me at home all day and thinks I should have time to do all the chores etc. I'm now in floods of tears as I honestly try to do as much as I can - like I strip the bed sheets this morning but not have the chance to put clean on yet....put washing on but not managed to hang it up etc etc. I keep getting side tracked by a certain LO needing nappy changed/feeding etc etc and it takes me ages to get anything done. I actually felt I wasdoing well but now I feel like a failure. I keep being told by everyone to enjoy the early days with LO but how can I when I feel pressure from DH to do everything in the house? SOrry for rant, just really upset and thought you would know if it's me or him being unreasonable .

Another one here who stares at walls and grunts a lot! We have a mobile type thing above her mat on the floor she seems to like too. Dp and I are also constantly worrying about milestones pinkie - "should we be doing this/should she be doing that" etc etc, think we need to chill about it but its difficult, you want to do the best for them :) Oh and I couldn't get dd to take gripe water, even got a little syringe from pharmacy and she still dribbled it all out

Oh and glad the runny yellow poos are normal thanks for the reassurance!

slow believe me its not you!!!! Thats very unfair. Maybe you should take a day out on a sat or sunday and see he how he gets on, then he may sympathise. I am lucky as my DP works from home, so he is very hands on. I wouldn't be able to do everything by myself. Don't feel you should limit your time with LO now, do what YOU feel best, otherwise you will regret this very precious time!!

ponyo maybe its a reflux thing?? i read so many things about early signs of autism etc..that i am constantly analysing everything she does, poor thing!!

To be fair i would not want to be taking gripe water...smells gross. Her face is a picture when it goes in her mouth!!

Ugh angels that is so bloody unfair - yesterday dd screamed all day, especially when I tried to put her down, I didn't even have a shower let alone clean the house, if dp had said anything I would have screamed at him I think!

So your dh is being an arse, sorry but its true. I agree that you should maybe let him have her all day and see what he gets done? My bet would be not very much. Please don't feel you are a failure - not at all and he shouldn't be amking you feel like that (intentionally or not).

If it makes you feel any better my floor hasn't been mopped for at least 3 weeks - luckily my dp doesn't notice or care

pinkie at early signs of autism - i'm not going to google it because I'll just worry myself too
Did you mean the refusal to take gripe water could be reflux thing? BTW dp drank some and said it was nice

No, i think the not taking gripe water is a baby thing. They are so young....i mean the grunting thing is a reflux thing maybe??

Whoops sorry...never listen to me, i google everything! I actually have googleitis...

slowangels, pinkiepoo, way too early for milestones , you will all give yourselves heart attacks!!! Anna grunts, has just started to move her hands, but mostly cries for food and sleeps, sometimes she turns her head if she hears me but only sometimes. I think its harder if its your first and you are on your own with them. DD1 did nothing for months apart from sleep (ah happy days), dd2 did a bit more earlier because she was always watching dd1, Anna watches dd1 and dd2 and tries to follow them with her eyes. I haven't even put her on her baby mat/gym yet

For giving gripe water etc - try getting a teat pipette to drop it in, I sometimes give A Infacol and she usually takes it really well, the other two wouldn't have touched it!!

Ah yes, the grunting :) Can I ask if your lo has been diagnosed with reflux? On our bad days I am convinced she has reflux (my googleitis has confirmed this with lists of symptoms ) but then on good days I think shes just grumpy...

Angels your dh is bring a class a idiot, dont worry about it! Men don't always understand how much work a tiny baby can create. My dh has been off work this week and I still haven't managed to cook us a decent meal or do anything apart from washing. When I had Ben my midwife told me to leave the housework and to just keep the kitchen and bathroom, I am following that rule this time!
Jane I m so shocked by your FIL, I suggest you avoid him for the near future to allow you and dp to grieve and recover, no matter how long it takes.
As for milestones, I found the book What to expect in the first year really great. They tell you the milestones but also state that not all babies will reach them at the same time. Noah is really into staring at faces and looked at the window for about 20 minutes yesterday! He grunts but doesn't make any other noises apart from crying!

I measure the gripe water in a little cup then tip it into his mouth (like cup feeding) in 3 or 4 doses. L doesn't seem to hate the taste, just looks confused.

I'm tempted by the Dr Browns bottles but I think DH may if I come home with any more bottles. We already have a nice collection of TT and Breastflow bottles. The Breastflow bottles force him to drink slower and work for the milk and he vomits less. I found them at TK Maxx for £9 for three.

wiggle i know i feel like a am a pushy mum in training, getting her to try all sorts. In one of my books it says by week 5 she should be holding her head up on a mat, follow objects, and 'oohing' and aahing...so for past week every day i have been trying to train her, ha ha....she sounds like a puppy. Maybe i should relax then. How many weeks is DD3??

ponyo i am the same as you. Health vistitor said she had possible reflux but as she was gaining weight we shouldn't be worried. Still considering trip to docs as like you say, some days she seems ok, others its definite reflux...like today! She is sick a fair bit, not aggresively, but usually some will come out when i lay her down. But today she has been grimacing ALOT going bright red, then doing blow offs straight after...not sure if that is reflux or bad bottom?? So confusing!!!!

PinkiePoo A is 4.5 weeks, can't believe how quickly the time has gone!!!

Bensmum I follow the kitchen and bathroom rule of cleaning To be honest it was pretty much my way of cleaning before the dds!!

Have been slightly stressed by sister's wedding extravaganza. Sister and Mum have been sniping at each other, both being way over sensitive over the silliest things. Have been stuck in the middle a bit, but managed to soothe any ruffled feathers and of course now they are the best of friends

pinkie our dd's sound so similar, I've also been told because shes gaining weight not to worry. Its horrible when they're in pain though isn't it. Dds symptoms sound very similar to yours too. I'll let you know if I decide on trip to docs or not, yesterday I decided I was definitly going today and demanding infant gaviscon because she was so grumpy, but todays been so much better so i've not gone!

wiggles how long now til the wedding and all the stress is over Hope you're ok

ponyo A week on Tuesday, am really excited and happy for her but timing has been a bit of a nightmare and much as I love her she is a huge bit of a drama queen and I know it's her big day but she is a bit "me, me, me"

Have lots of lovely things coming up soon, best friends babys 1st birthday, Easter, Anna's baptism, but the wedding is a bit stressy as sister and Mum are perfectionists a tad fussy Although vvv happy with my outfit and girls will look lovely also future bil makes my little sister so happy that it would bring a tear to even my cynical eye!!!

oh dear...woke LO up at 8.15 for nappy change and bottle. Was really hot, so stripped her, was REALLY grumpy and crying....gave her bottle and she did usual grimacing half way through, then got to end of bottle and the whole thing came back...projectile vomit. Poor thing, looked really frightened....

am worried now she is ill?? seems ok now, just laying down next to us on sofa.

PinkiePoo how's she doing now?

Just laying on sofa in and out of sleep. :-(

Sure she's fine, just keep an eye on her, how's her temperature? If its any help feel her chest and back for temp xx

I took it earlier and it said 36.5.

Maybe it was gripe water?? Too scared to sleep now!!

Could have been the gripe water, A has only thrown up a few times, when feeding but it has been after taking Infacol!!! They do look really frightened when they throw up, their eyes go really wide, its as if they don't know what to do . Have been meaning to use this all day , good luck tonight xx

Morning all. LO slept well and had all her feeds so hopefully projectile was due to gripe water. However feeding her at 6 this morning, with just her body suit on, she decided to do the worlds biggest, runniest shit! All over me, her, carpet even ended up on my head... Not sure how! She has it in for me.. Why not on DP!!! Grrrr!

Sorry PinkiePoo having a bit of a giggle, glad you had a good night. Just about to change Anna, not smelling too pleasant

about how pinkie can have carpet on her head and glad lo is feeling better

thanks for dh feedback - he did finally apologise after i had a hormonal crying breakdown, but, the fact that he even thought i was lazing on my bum all day i find quite upsetting. maybe it's as some days this week when alice has slept well in the day i've managed to make proper homecooked meals and make his sandwiches for his lunch at work whereas other days when she needs lots of attention i only seem to make mess maybe he doesn't get how babies can vary day by day

speaking of giving medicines to babies - when we give alice infacol she does a big loud lip smack type noise

pinkie i ordered a book online where i think it goes through babies development in the first year or so and gives ideas you can do to help babies development at each stage - once it arrives I'll let you know if it's any good.

Right,ive sorted out janes fil-hes in the hospital.Am now on my way to see mr angels
You had me all wrong anyway,yesterday i did the shopping and bought some fat jeans as ive given up getting into my 14's ebver again.I avoided Delilah as she was doing my nut in and left dh to it.
Today is the big day,i am excited but daunted at the thought of packing up D and E stuff to go on their overnight trip.
I know i usually moan about him but dh has been an absolute gem,i can only assume he thinks im seriously mentally unwell as he has just done everything.I can thoroughly recommend letting him have a day at home angels dh was still in his dressing gown at 2pm yesterday and totally understands the limited time you have to do stuff.
D will hardly ever be put down and also doesnt really sleep in the day so we are pretty much tied to the house.Her change of meds seems to have made her worse i think it needs increasing but the consultant isnt in until Tuesday so ive re started the old stuff as she was better on that.
D's pooh smells like a blokes after a few beers and a kebab, i thought it was the high cal milk.
She was 9lb4 yrsterday which is a pound in a week so its working.
Hope knitta comes on soon,have a good day all.Ill have a glass of champers for you all-every one of you-hic xx

angels whats wrong with you? NEVER MAKE A MANS SARNIES!!! [sends angels to the feminist boards to meet with dittany]

Pinkie glad she is feeling better. It's horrible when your children are ill but they are very resilient most of the time and bounce back quickly. It's so much easier though when they can tell you what's wrong!

People, don't put yourself under too much pressure re milestones etc! You will drive yourself mad. Children do things at their own pace and just because they do something a bit later than their peers, it doesn't mean that there is something wrong. DD1 was always the last out of the babies at baby group to do physical things (last to roll over, sit up and then walk) BUT she was the earliest to start talking and I'm forever getting told how bright and independent she is at preschool [slightly bragging emoticon] so it swings and roundabouts really.

Jane I'm so sorry about the way that your FIL is acting . It amazes me the stupid comments that people can come out with to somebody who is grieving a loved one and the way that they behave. Could your OH have a word with him, it might be that he is trying his hardest to help, in his own screwed up way, and doesn't realise that his behaviour isn't appropriate?

DD2 went to her first toddler group the other day . I hadn't taken DD1 to any groups since having DD2 so she was desperate to go! They all loved L and she was passed around from pillar to post!