August 2011 - 2nd trimester blooming - not us!

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New thread for us August 11 ladies

Agree with the comments above - we also know no-one else with kids really but since moving out of London have been going to toddler and baby groups and this has helped. Still don't really "know" anyone with similar aged kids, but it's better than it was in central London. Plan to go to bumps and babies groups when I'm further along and have finished work to get to know more mums too - hard when I work full time+ anyway so hopefully this time will be better.

As a second-timer, I have panics about how we'll cope with a demanding toddler and newborn so I don't think the worries ever really go away even when you know what you're doing. Perfectly normal and a good sign I would say as it shows you care!

Totally agree with your second paragraph, minicorrect, in fact I'm think I'm worrying more as I know this time what I'm letting myself in for!! :o

It's much less of a shock to the system second time (in my opinion anyway). You are used to sleep deprivation and do lots of 'baby jobs' without thinking, they are second nature rather than having to be learnt like the first time. I was worried about how DS1 would be when DS2 arrived and it was fine. No jealousy, he had loads of attention from visitors and after the first few weeks it waas obvious that baby adored his big brother, loads of smiles and general hero worship.... There were bad days sometimes but that was mainly when I felt exhausted from waking up at night.

We're having a third and I'm much less concerned this time because I've seen how DS1 and DS2 get so much out of having a sibling. We've gone for the same age gap again as it was so good last time, fingers crossed it is again!

Klou, where are you in Wales? Are you near Cardiff? I saw you are looking to meet other mums-to-be and so am I. Anyone else near Cardiff?

Hi wishwales I am in Carmarthen, so just over an hour from Cardiff I think :) shame though x

first time worries are horrible, i remember them vividly. I used to dream i was the only survivor after a plague and i kept finding babies! I met all my mummy friends who are now more my best friend group at breast feeding support group. I would second the toddler group suggestion too. I am now in my maternity, breast feeding underwear as my boobs have grown Lots! I went on a run this morning and realised i need to wear 2 sports bra's again. Ouch!

oh nickster mum i am not v slim :( but i might just ask anyway just incase? worth a try

and i agree with the babies, toddler groups things too i think if you go to under 1s group especially then you can meet loads of little ones the same age and its nice you will get to know mums in your area. i only really started to go alot with my 2nd one as with my 1st i met more with my own friends (loads of friends have babies similar ages but dont live that near though..) but getting to know more local people is lovely. personally i would really recommend childrens centres if you have one locally, they are the best groups, most welcoming, nicest.. if you go alot you will meet loads of people and i think it really helps

i am like misslozza now though not too worried, as have coped with 2 so im sure 3 wont be too bad... hopefully. i worried alot about my 2nd how the older one would adapt but found it much easier than expected with jealousy etc, but i think its natural for people to worry about that

Well, I know it's just a bit of fun, and probably a load of tosh, but just done about 6 different sex predictors, and every one said I am having a girl! Ha ha, we'll see (in about 26 weeks)!!

I'm not that slim f!! :) x

Just seen these links about what not to eat when PG on another thread and thought they were worth sharing:

[[http://www.eatwell.gov.uk/asksam/agesandstages/pregnancy/]

www.guardian.co.uk/society/2007/may/29/health.medicineandhealth

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well im back from apt and despite lack of slimmness was able to hear the heartbeat so yay and i am now thinking girl cos of the fast heartbeat (160), dont know whether anyone believes any of these old wives tales but you never know there may be something in it, so i am guessing girl for now based on that and lack of sickness, and everything was fine so now nothing til the next scan

klou what are the gender predictors you did?

Someone asked me galloping horses or something else the other day... Ours was 156 bpm galloping is a girl apparently ... Pooh will google :) x

The heartbeat thing - galloping or trains is rubbish btw. Doctor explained it to me. It sounds different depending which way round baby is lying at the time. Sorry. And the heart rate thing is also rubbish. Babies have slower heartrates when they are sleeping to when they are exercising - same as adults. Didn't stop me doing a load of predictors yesterday though . One said boy, the other girl. I guess it's 50/50 either way!

There are loads of old wives tales aren't there! I recall being told in both pregnancies, (sometimes several times a day!) by different people I was having a girl because..... or a boy because..... Even some of the midwives believe the heart thing I think - one told me she was certain DS2 was a girl based on his heartbeat - well he wasn't! Don't get me started on that theory about hanging your wedding ring on a piece of string and seeing how it moves, nonsense! I suppose it's part of the fun though, I always like to have a guess what friends are having, but it is just a guess, I don't have any reasons, how would I know??!!

Mine had a 155bpm on wednesday when he was awak (scan) then a 145bpm on thursday (sleeping) (scan) so yep... pronbably right G!

Such a lot to catch up on after only a day!

Annie, I'm feeling similarly to you! Not so much freaking out about actually becoming a mum (mostly because it still doesn't seem real yet) but we moved to Lincoln 5 years ago on a whim and didn't know anyone or have any family closer than 1.5hrs away. We've obviously made friends in the meantime but none of ours have children. I've joined NCT in a bid to meet other mums and plan to join as many mother and baby groups as I can cram into a week once ours actually arrive.

LadyGG I'm with you on the dreams thing! The majority of mine are rude at the mo

Went to see Milton Jones last night and was hooting with laughter at various points. Then I got an unusual feeling in my baby-factory area which felt a LITTLE bit like movement. Just teeny tiny, but different from all the other aches and pains I've had. Haven't had it since though ... maybe the babies know I'm only fake laughing now to get them to do something

I also have been getting the first time worries, so you aren't alone Annie!

I remember vividly when I found out when I was pregnant, it was unplanned but I did want to be. However when on the two tests I bought, it turned up as 'Pregnant' - my heart stopped slightly and I felt both overjoyed and terrified at the same time. I told my mother first and she couldn't get her head round it either. I spent most of the next week trying to get over the shock!

Even now, sometimes I still think, 'I'm actually pregnant, this is quite amazing.' and get that surreal feeling.

I just googled baby sex predictor Firawla, but I know one was Bounty.com and one was babyexpert.com (think they were both the same thing though). I lot of them are for when you are a bit further on so couldn't so them, but I managed to find about 6 I could do that were slightly different. Prima I think was another one :)

I'm going to have to apologise for yet another depressing post, I'm getting sick of myself for making these!

I think my depression is affecting me pretty badly at the moment, and it's getting worse I think.
Currently I'm having issues with wanting to eat, or I just sit here for hours/most of the day feeling hungry. This used to happen often with my eating disorder.
I'm probably just not strong enough to deal with this on my own, and I think at my next appointment I'm going to ask for some help. Probably some help for a cooking/baking class of some kind, antenatal classes, something to motivate me to eat, cook, and do something. Perhaps someone to talk to, as well.

I'm going off food faster than I'm eating it, so I'm worrying myself.

Feel much better for having a cry on DP (like I did last night ).

I might go out and do something with him tonight, he's calling work to tell them he's not coming so he can stay with me.

Does anyone else think their DP/DH keeps them sane sometimes?

mrsstevo the sonographer told me to cough in a very unladylike fashion to get hte baby to move...also if that helps. I dont think mine is getting much sleep at the min as coughing for england :( :)

Yukana i think perhaps you need to try and get some advice/help for eating. I know nothing about eating disorders or depression (why dont you post in either the pregnancy thread, or find the topic thats most relevant to your issues?) But, you have to tell yourself you are pregnant. Baby needs food to grow. I do the same but its nothing to do with eating disorders... i just dont fancy whats in the cupboards! Until you can get the guidance you need then i suggest you do eat what you feel like, even if its crap or takeout in order to get some energy inside you. Vicious circle am afraid, the less you eat the worse you will feel xx

Confession....i've just had the tiniest sip of DH's cider and now I want the whole bottle!! Been 'sober' since 11 Nov except a little bucks fizz at Chrimbo. I'm not a big drinker, but that was goooooooooood!

Yukana - I second everything nickster has said, you could do with some good advice from people a bit more in the know.

KLou - Definitely don't worry about one sip, it will do the baby no harm :o I'm not sure why the government has gone so heavy handed with their advice about drinking, you actually have to drink a fair bit and do it regularly to do any damage, yet their advice is not to drink at all FWIW, I'm teetotal, so not trying to make excuses here :o

I'm tee total anyway too Kate, but I had a lovely glass of shandy the other day and it was yum :)

I watched pissed and pregnant recently and was horrified that the case studies they were filming were more in their 40's than teens!