August 2011 - 2nd trimester blooming - not us!

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New thread for us August 11 ladies

Kezz Congrats on finding out it's a baby boy! Must've been lovely.

Anu Also need advice on the cot too, I'm not too sure about bedside cots as I'm worried something will happen, but it would be lovely to be able to go and see lots of them in person!

It seems a lot of us are eager to get shopping and to find out the gender of our bumps! I'm horribly excited and my mother has already been knitting away. I've also been taking a look at some of the reviews on Mumsnet regarding baby stuff.

We have the arms reach universal co-sleeper which I found to be a lifesaver for all the middle of the night feeds/nappy changes - just reach over and the baby's there in bed with you - I could also hold her hand/watch her sleep, etc more easily without anything in the way. We also squashed a change mat in there at the bottom (it was just a bit too long) so I could stay in bed to change nappies in the middle of the night - very lazy I know, but anything that can make that first month less painful is good! DD stayed in it for a good year or so and only got moved into a normal bed because she'd started climbing out of it. She would probably still fit in it fine even now as it's a good size. Seem to recall it was adjustable in height so should be ok for a lower bed, but you should check with the seller. Oh, and get it put together well in advance as I seem to remember it took 3 of us over an evening to work out

AFM well I had a week off work last week and rather than chilling out and relaxing, DP decided we should strip the wallpaper off the spare room wall and redo it so was completely knackered by Sunday night - also had lots of sleepless nights from insomnia and a non-sleeping toddler which didn't help.

Really fed up with work and counting down the days till I can leave, but they seem to be going so slowly! Got my anomaly scan next Monday and the midwife again on Thursday though so 2 days working from home and Friday is DD's 2nd birthday so have taken that off to do something nice. Going to use the scan to tell my boss that he has to take some pressure off me as he doesn't seem to be listening at the moment and is refusing to let me get anyone to help me out - despite me currently doing the equivalent of 3 full time roles.

Ok rant over!

Great to hear all your scan stories - really want to find out what flavour too but DP putting foot down!

We plan on cosleeping-Unicef have a basic leaflet on how to do so safely but am currently enjoying reading "three in a bed" too. Think we may get a cot too for when baby can roll and leaving them in the bed without me(when showering/dressing?) might not be clever.

We're not even decorating a nursery. going to wait til toddler is ready for own bed in own room and then put some pics up and make it kiddyfied.

Thinking of going to the babyshow at NEC though ;)

We are planning a moses basket, but the 'armsreach' sounds really good MrsStevo so might have a think about that.

Kezzamo I also had my MW app yesterday and heard the baby's heartbeat. It was so amazing and necessary reassurance. Congrats on having a boy!

Getting really frustrated now with not showing much and just feeling very fat! Come on pop out!

BTW, have other first timers bought much yet? I've been holding off as the 'nursery' was full of boxes (we recently moved house). We've now cleared some of it - phew - so starting to think about making some purchases. We're borrowing a cotbed but want to buy glider chair etc. Going to start looking, so any tips on great places to buy much appreciated.

daisysair - we co-slept (still do really) but weren't comfortable putting her in our bed when we weren't about - ie. for naps and before we go to bed so thought the co-sleeper was a good solution as she had somewhere safe to sleep when alone, but was within easy reach when she woke up. Co-sleeping is the most wonderful thing ever - although we definitely need a bigger bed now we have a wriggly toddler - but there's nothing better than going to sleep holding your baby's hand and waking up to your baby in the morning . Not sure I'll ever want to stop - although having a teenager in bed with us might be a little inappropriate

RugbyWidow7 Am not buying anything until I absolutely have to - maybe in July because if I start then I won't be able to stop. Also, my mum has started buying/stocking all sorts of things already and we are planning to move just a 6 weeks before EDD!

20 Week scan tomorrow! Can't wait to see baby again. He/She (DH and I call the bump Simba) is moving about and I can feel mildly sharp little kicks especially at night. Reading about co-sleeping with interest.

minicorrect we've been spoilt with a superkingsize bed for just the two of us! sure baby will find space though! for others, there's info out on ze web about sidecarring a "normal" cot which might make it financially more of an option. bedrails are the other thing.

Thank you all for your ideas and suggestions! Ive had a look at the armsreach cot and it looks really good MrsStevo! Im going to definitely go and have a look at that one - They seem to do different ones too!

RubyWidow7 - We havent started any shopping at all! All im doing at the moment is making lists of what we need to buy and doing all the research online and asking for guidence on this thread!! We will start to shop in June as i think(and hope!) 2 months will be enough! Its not easy when i go into baby shops though - so Im trying my best to steer clear of them for now !

Hi all,

I've been busy at work all week so not had much chance to post! I'm getting real kicks now and Dp could feel them last night so it was lovely!

I'm thinking of a crib this time as it's more sturdy than a Moses basket and I believe it will have more chance of surviving a toddler attack

We are far more relaxed about buying stuff this time but have a study to convert!

Yes, me too Anu- trying to stay out of baby shops, but it's difficult when spending time with friends with little ones. I'm the same as Rehune, I really think if I start picking things up, it just won't stop, so best to at least wait until I have a proper bump. I'm using that as my guide. However, I am v tall, so bump might hide until pretty late on

Rugby I started shopping after 12 weeks scan! Not bought a hell of a lot, but have got a lot from George as very reasonably priced. Got a couple of things from Mamas and Papas as had a voucher, they're so overpriced!
I have a blanket box to put all the stuff in. I think it spreads the cost if you start early. I did the same for our Wedding, and it made it more enjoyable, and spreads the excitement :)
18 weeks tomorrow, still no bump :( only 5lb gain too

Ah I'm very jealous of your approaching 20 week scans! I'm lagging behind and still have 2 weeks to hear the heartbeat!

I just wondered if anyone else has lost their sense of taste?! It's been bothering me for a couple of weeks but I assumed it was because I had a cold...but the cold has now gone and the taste hasn't returned! I just made a curry with garlic, chilli powder, ginger, curry powder and garam masala and it tasted BLAND! How is that possible?? Just wondered if it's a standard pregnant thing!

Had my 16 week scan today with my consultant. Both babies developing well - 1 is slightly smaller than the other but has been since day one so not of concern just yet. I think I have figured out why I can't relax about this pregnancy - there aren't any 'safety zones' when you're having twins. Like with a singleton, there is a general thought that once you're past 12 weeks there's virtually no risk of mc - although I know some people still have late mcs and other hideous problems. But with twins, you never get that. Because mine are sharing a placenta, one of them could steal the other one's nutrients and the worse off one would stop developing as well etc. It could happen at any time from now until the day I give birth - and apparently is more likely later in pregnancy. I know they scan me every 2 weeks to keep an eye out, but it does make it more difficult to relax and enjoy being pregnant.

Sorry if I sound like I'm moaning. So far, so good so I should count on that. But I can't get over this general back-of-my-mind-niggley-feeling that someone is going to take all this happiness away from me sooner or later :(

Anyway, I'm reading with interest all the discussions about cots straight after birth. I'm still trying to hunt down a co-sleeper one that doesn't cost the EARTH! Why oh whyyyyyyy is everything about babies so expensive?! I can't WAIT to actually start buying things and getting the nursery ready :) Must keep focussing on the exciting stuff!

Just posted a topic in AIBU, I've posted a topic there before but didn't get any nasty comments. This time around I guess I wasn't so lucky, and a few users decided they'd like to say hurtful/prejudice things regarding me and DP.
I've reported my own topic so I can have it removed, but still am in shock that I'd be told by someone on mumsnet that apparently I am 'not fit to bring a child into the world'.
I'm upset that grown adults would even say such a thing.

Perhaps I'm being oversensitive, although I have always been hypersensitive to nasty and abusive comments from people.

Hey all,

Have been following everyone's news with interest, but have been hit by a family bereavement this week, which has shocked us all deeply, and being pg has made me uber-emotional and grief stricken :(

Regarding cots etc, we had a moses basket for DS, but he was only in it for 5 weeks as he was 9lbs5oz born, and didn't fit in it for any longer He then settled quickly into his lovely (and cheap) Ikea cot, and has now progressed successfully into his toddler bed ready for Baby2 to have the cot.

I recommend Ikea for baby things, very reasonably priced, and well made. Another place to check out is freecycle.org.uk (people list no longer wanted items for free, and you can place requests too) great for anyone struggling financially with all the expensive baby stuff.

So of everyone's 20 week scans, just over 3 weeks until mine. Can't wait to see Baby2 again, and hopefully find out the colour!!

leilandri sorry to here about your bereavement :(

yukana thats horrible, just ignore those kind of comments. sometimes people just turn into right bitches on aibu! of course you will be fit to bring a child to the world and will try your best just like anyone else, im sure you will make a great mum

mrs stevo that must be a bit scary not to be able to relax, i hope everything will be fine for you. loads and loads of twins are born totally healthy so maybe just keep reminding yourself of that. does that mean they are identical if they share placenta? i feel i should know this a twin myself but not sure. did you find out and you were having 2 boys or have i just imagined that out of nowhere?!

Hello everyone

Not been on much recently as I'm having a nightmare at work so not much time.

Leilandri sorry about your bereavement.

Best place I've found to get real bargins is the NCT Nearly New Sales: www.nct.org.uk/home. Type in your post code and it will tell you about sales in your area. Its brilliant for clothes/bedding etc as newborn stuff is practically new as they grow so fast at that age. Ours is on Saturday so I'm going to get all my stuff there.

I've got a crib for our room which I will put next to the bed and I've also got a moses basket for downstairs so that I've got somewhere safe to put the baby down when the other two are needing attention. Sometimes I wonder what I've let myself in for

Leilandri, so sorry to hear your bad news, take care of yourself

Yukana, AIBU has been really bad recently. There are some proper twats that have turned up. I've an increasing list of posters to ignore because most things they say are fucking stupid and inflammatory. Stick to nicer parts of the site like here.

Leilandri I'm sorry for your bereavement. :( Hugs.

I never expected to have such rude comments last night, talking to a couple of friends about it and getting a hug made it better though. :) Probably the pregnancy making me super sensitive at the moment.

I've felt the baby kicking recently! Anyone else felt any movements? I still have to get the hang of using my doppler that arrived yesterday, but I think part of the reason was the fact the baby kept moving away from it!

I am now awaiting the post as the postman might bring me some baby stuff I ordered today. :)

MrsS Ah, I wish I could give you a hug. I'm positive that things will go fine for you, and you'll have two gorgeous little ones by the end of this. :) I'm sure if you have any concerns as well you can just pop to the midwife/doctor or come on here and talk.
As for the nursery stuff, I don't think babies are too expensive once you have everything bought? Or is that just me being naive. For me it's the 'nursery furniture' that make my eyebrows go through the roof when it comes to prices.

mrs stevo i know it's not what you're supposed to to (there's a lovely IKEA picture on the side of the cot specifically indicating that you're not supposed to do what we did, but hey ho, we're not made of money...) but what we did was buy an ikea cot with an adjustable base that you can also have as a three-sided cot-bed - you're supposed to do this with the base down low but it is structurally solid if you do it higher up - and put it up against the bed with one side off and the mattress as high as it would go. We needed to prop it up on some books to get the exact height right (I believe we used a a copy of Des Lynam's autobiography - husband runs bookshops - under each leg) so DD had her own "extension" of our bed.

think it helped with getting her to go to sleep on her own and also with midnight feeding/waking although i would say, based on our experience with DD that initial hassle and pain of getting them to settle at night without your arms around them is probably worth it in the long run - there have been very few nights when our dd hasn't woken up wanting us - she was 3 at new year. but that said, co-sleeping felt like the right thing to do at the time.

I've been thinking about a cot for the side of our bed, but we are a bit skint, and already have a Moses basket which we used for DS. There just isn't room in our house for any more baby stuff really. Can't co-sleep because DH is a heavy and fidgety sleeper.

Went to see the happiest midwife in the world today. She always says 'awwwwww' when she hears the heartbeat on the Doppler. She just lives babies and pregnancy so much. You would think the novelty would wear off after a while, but no, she always acts like you're her first patient. Next appointment with her is in May, which seems odd because I thought after the 20 week scan the next appointment was at 28 weeks. May is 25 weeks though.

Hey all, I've been to see the midwife this morning and heard the heartbeat! It was so lovely and I feel all gooey now

If any of live in the North website lists nearly new sales in the area xx

Shall I start that sentance again!! If any of you live in the North this website lists .... ha ha

I can def recommend borrowing as much of the newborn/first 6 months stuff as you can - by this time next year you'll no longer need a moses basket, activity arch, playnest etc, much better to be able to give them back so you don't have to give them house room, or put them in your loft and think "glad I got that at a nearly new sale" rather than realising how much you spent on newborn stuff. You'll suddenly be hit by needing to buy a highchair and second stage carseat which you'll have for longer!
We had a crib for our DCs (a regular one, not a special bedside one) and hope to shamelessly borrow use it again, it was so easy to reach out and pick the baby up for a feed and pop them back in again without needing to get out of bed. Co-sleeping doesn't appeal to us at all so we put the DCs in their own room from when they were sleeping a good long stint at night, but its one of those really personal areas of parenting where what's right for one person is totally wrong for another.