August 2011 - 2nd trimester blooming - not us!

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New thread for us August 11 ladies

congrats mrs vidic great news!

Congratulations MrsVidic!!!

Congratulations mrsvidic, fab weekend for you!

I've still not told anyone but parents and best friend but after the scan next Friday I'm planning on telling everyone I see!!! Only problem is, one of the girls in my group of friends has just confided that she's pregnant but will be having a termination...(she has her reasons and I am not there to judge but to support her). I'm just not sure how to tell the other girls...we have a dinner planned for 2 weekends time where I was going to announce it...but my friend will be there and I feel that it will be too insensitive. I want to have my girly "moment" with my girl friends but feel like I may have to hush it up a bit? Any advice? (by the way I did tell her about my pregnancy when she told me as I didn't want her to hear about me in a weeks time and look back on our conversation...who knows whether that was the right thing to do-she said she understood)

Grrrrr can't sleep :(

I feel so rotten at the moment, so tired and emotional, that I actually mentioned terminating this PG to DH earlier today, as I just can't see how I'll cope with a 2yr old and a baby.
We talked it all through, and he was great, but I still can't shake this feeling that I'm biting off more than I can chew. My DS was a right little b*stard today which didn't help at all :(

Sorry for the downer, but really needed to vent.

Congrats to MrsV and for all the good scans :)

Congratulations MrsV :)

Oh Leilandri, you poor thing - I was awake too with my 4yo continually calling out as she couldn't sleep ... grr, definitely brought out all those how will I cope if she does this and I add babies to that thoughts. Hope you get a break today.

Thank you for all the kind words again everyone, it's been a great weekend albeit a bit of a stressful hiccup today, but nothing that important. I feel like my mood has improved a bit and I'll be able to do some tidying when I get home!

Congratulations MrsV! Ahh that must be so exciting. I'm just waiting for the day when DP does the same. I hope you two will have a happy life together. :)

Oh Leil, I'm sorry things are a bit much to handle at the moment. Feel free to vent anytime, and maybe think about something which could get you to relax? Retail therapy, going away for a night or two, spending the day out with lunch in a cafe and cinema in the evening. We're here for you!

Kate I almost cried twice yesterday, once was at a romantic comment DP had made, which I managed to stop myself by sticking to his shoulder like superglue. Secondly at a movie we were watching - one of the death scenes in Battle Royale. ...It's a Japanese slasher movie, with lots of blood. ( )

Congrats Mrs V - what a lovely announcement!

Leilandri - also feel depressed and miserable, maybe it's a hormonal thing. Everywhere hurts and I can't get comfortable at night, DP and I are arguing constantly and I really can't shake the feeling that we're drifting apart properly, work is just an extra burden I could do without and I have no idea how I'm really going to cope with what's ahead and how on earth we'll manage financially. To rub salt in the wound my mum told me I must be into my 3 months' cheery stage now last night. Erm....!!!

Lozza - sorry about your friend - I think you sound like you're being very sensitive to her feelings and are doing the right thing.

Yukana - can't offer advice, but use food for comfort and am really struggling at the moment as I'm miserable and have gone off everything except sweets. Not a good combo! Take care of yourself and get some professsional help if you need it.

My DD isn't quite 2 but seems to understand the concept there's a baby in my tummy - she keeps kissing and stroking my belly button and when I pointed out some baby rhubarb in the garden she said "bubby" and pointed at my tummy. Which makes my heart completely melt of course!!!

Hope you all have a good week :o

hi everyone, leilandre im expecting no 3 and i keep feeling very anxious about how i will cope with 3 under 6, before my scan i also mentioned about terminating as i felt dp was not even excited about the baby, but after the scan i have chilled out and feel much more in control of my hormones for now anyway, thats the worst early symptom for me struggleing with hormones, but i get really bad pmt too so i guess its similar and it doesnt help that all anyone says is"your Mad" when i tell them im pregnant, getting quite pissed off with them now!!! We will manange and it will be all ok in the end! thats my current mantra!!

Had a lovely weekend, dp gave me my valentines flowers on friday as he had got mixed up and thought it was sunday not today!! they are gorgeous and he bought the kids a single rose each to give to me which they loved!

got my nuchal results today 1:56000 which im really reassured with and got my 20 week scan booked for 1st april woo hoo!
Does anyone know the best time to have a 4d scan is, its just for the kids to see thier baby brother/sister so im guessing the later the better?
DD5 made a beautiful butterfly picture on friday at school and had written "nooww bon beebi" (new born baby) on it, i told her that the baby was so lucky to have the most lovely big sister in the world!

yukana glad ur feeling a bit better, i have periods of feeling very down and anxious so can understand how u feel, but ive no experience on the food side, im the opposite and eat too many cakes and biscuits! but glad ur on the up, take it easy x

Morning all. Well, for someone that has not been sick at all, I am a little confused. This morning, got up, showered all as usual, then started doing jobs around the house instead of my usual bowl of cereal and OJ. Felt really faint and knelt on the floor of the bathroom, and just heaved into the loo with a tiny bit of flem coming up (sorry if TMI, and I know that's not how you spell flem!)
Now I am totally confused, do you think it was as I hadn't eaten and needed some sugar?
I am fine now I have had something, but just made me panic a bit!
Never re the 4d scan, I think they are around 25 weeks onwards, I can't wait to have one!! :)

Mrs V congrats. Lovely news. What flavour Hula hoop?? I always imagined you were married already because of your name.

Major and CapCarrie thanks for the first person views on telling someone who is finding it difficult to conceive. I am seeing my friend later in the week, so I will tell her in person. I will then let her set the pace from there if she needs a bit of distance from me. She is such a good friend and I am pretty certain she has guessed already but is not wanting to broach the subject (understandably). Bryher, the only thing I am sure of is that I need to tell her now. She will be truly devastated if this cycle does not work and I don't want to add to that. Also as Annie said about her friend, I don't want her to look back on conversations that I have had with her a feel that I have been holding information back.

Annie I think you can't really avoid all your girlfriends being excited for you and you are entitled to receive that support from them, just as your friend is entitled to feel supported in her decision. There aren't many moments of unadulterated joy in life and I think under playing it almost makes it more awkward.

Lei it does feel bloody hard at times doesn't it? My DS veers between angel and demon in the click of a finger. He was a tough baby but I finally feel as if he is my little companion and I am really concerned about upsetting that balance with another baby. mini I reckon pregnancy can be a bloody hard time for relationships. Unless you have a really empathetic DP it is really hard for them to comprehend how fed up it can make you feel.

Still not told either set of family here and really must soon. Sounds awful and I don't mean it in a depressing way at all but really can't be arsed .

Epic post sorry

Ps Yukana I am the least well placed person to offer advice on eating disorders but I hope you get really good advice nd counselling.

LifeofKate, crying at 'You've been framed'!!! You win hormonal pregnant woman of the week award

KLou yes, I think it was probably blood sugar related - the same happens to me when I'm pregnant if I have a shower without eating first!

Thanks for the advice bellamys good luck with telling your friend.

Yes, klou I've had the same thing this weekend - I'm 11+5 and feel more sick than I have before...i thought that would be on it's merry way by now! Every mouthful was a struggle and I just felt rotten. Hopefully that will be gone soon! X

Congratulations MrsV!

It really is so, so difficult to know what to do when you are so happy & you have a friend that is in turmoil at the same time. A good friend of mine had a stillborn baby just after I found out about this pregnancy & I have been agonizing since over what the right time to tell her would be. I think that if I was in her shoes I would find it hard to feel happy and instead feel a little resentful. This in turn would cause feelings of guilt that she's not feeling happy for me and guilt is the last thing I would want to put upon her.

For those of you worrying about how you'll cope with two I can happily say that I find two DEFINITELY much easier than coping with just one. I too used to worry about how a new baby would affect the bond between me & DD1 and couldn't imagine how I could possibly love another baby in the same way. I have a 19 month gap between mine and although the first few months were really hard, its a breeze now (well, most days anyway) & I wouldn't have it any other way.

congrats mrs V what a gorgeous proposal!!!

lozza you sound like an amazing friend!!

sleepyowl hope yesterday is a sign of things to come

Yes I ate it
It was a beef one- very nice

I sometimes worry about having a second but I think if my dd had the choice she would always choose a brother or sister over having me to herself.

Im in a bit of a downer today as I wanted to tell my boss about our preg but she was in a meeting so I'm going to have to tell her on the phone as the news will get out tomorrow

I am getting really excited about my 20 week scan

I've got my scan date! It's next Monday. I'll be 14 weeks by then, so it's a bit late, but better late than never.

Booking in took an hour and a half today, and I had to wait another half an hour afterwards for my bloods to be taken. I'm shattered.

15w 3d: Today is the day that everything changed...

I was feeling particularly uncomfortable in bed last night and when I woke up, my belly had popped significantly. After losing a stone earlier in my pregnancy due to morning sickness, I now look properly pregnant. My DH and I spent about 5 hours in Glastonbury shopping today - very casually with breaks - and towards the end, I couldn't move another step. My belly feels bloated and my lower back, hips and pelvis are so sore. So, I guess this is it now...

Bring it on!!!!

Just told work I'm pregnant, I only started 6 weeks ago and I was met with stunned silence. I'm going to get a call tomorrow but the news has gone down like a lead balloon

mrsC I knew you'd end up with a scan before me even though you booked in later! Very happy for you though!
I phoned up today to see if there were any cancellation appts I could have this week, but alas not. Only 14 more sleeps til scan...
My free prescription certificate arrived today. Its so weird that there's still no 'proof' of this pregnancy, they're just taking my word for it!
Bring it on indeed wishwales, all hail the elastic clothing!
We've got less than 18m between DD and DS, and I would say that 2 is def easier than 1 - even with a newborn there's just more interaction in the house and I found it easier to play with DD. Now they're thick as thieves and play really well together, so glad we had two. Hopefully I'll be as glad we're having three...!

Ah, such nice posts from you all :)

MrsV so many congrats - well done.
Yukana don't wait for him to ask you, just organise the wedding. I waited 10 years to be asked (we've been together 14 now), then just got so pissed off with him I moved out and told him I wasn't coming back until he had a ring and a date. That was August 2009. We got married in April 2010 . But I hope you can get past your eating thing.
KLou having not had even a spot of sickness so far (lucky me) I have in the last 4 days started feeling REALLY ill in the mornings. Do you think it's low blood sugar? I'm up 3 times in the night for a wee, I can't have to get up to eat as well, surely?!
Bellamysbride as someone who was the first to decide to have children in our friend groups, then finding out after some long and arduous tests and watching all (I mean ALL) my friends fall pregnant before me, that I am "sub-fertile", then it taking another 2 years to get pg with this one, just tell her. She may well be upset, but she's not upset at you, she's sad for herself. She will be, as I was for my friends, happy for you, but she will appreciate your honesty, and you taking some time out to tell her. Whatever you do and to echo Carrie above, don't text or write to her, tell her in person. The worst thing I always thought was that all my friends would stress about how to tell me, and they would all discuss how to tell me, which meant I just felt further pushed out than ever as they all knew and I (officially) didn't (altho I always knew!). Like you say, she probably already knows anyway - we subfertile ladies can smell a pg a mile away :)

Jesus, a v long post... sorry :)

Anyway - scan today and it was all good! Perfect measurement for 13+5 at 7.74cm long, nuchal fine at 2.0, bloods will be back next week when I see my midwife again, but sonographer said she didn't think there'd be any issues. Biscuit had to be prodded, a lot, to wave an arm, and then it was exactly like trying to wake DH up - moved its arm up in a "fuck off, I'm sleeping" gesture. DH was phsl :) pic on my profile if anyone's interested.
Did a couple of those gender predictors online yesterday (while avoiding dusting/hoovering/washing up) - all came back as a boy, which I'm convinced of anyway.

TTFN everyone, good luck to everyone coming up for scans xx

I use too many smileys.

Glad it's not just me then Jenni, I thought I would get through this whole pregnancy without a snitch of sickness! Will have to see how I am in the morning. Am hoping it was just because I hadn't eaten before I started doing things.

Glad your scan went well today :)

Yukana my DH finally proposed when we had been together 8 years, got married the day after our 10th anniversary, now been together 13 1/2 years. It does come.......eventually!! :)

Wishwales you have a bump overnight, roll on Sunday (15w3d for me)!!

Smileys are good BTW!!

Wishwales I have the soreness and pain problem in my lower tummy and back when I walk/sit down on non-padded seats with little back support. Congrats on the bump!

Klou, Jenni Indeed, it does come eventually! I've bought DP a ring that will be on his ring finger, now it's just him saving up for a ring for me. Must say I need to hide my excitement, I'm sure it'll be beautiful.

14 Weeks and 5 Days here! Got a large bump, even XL clothing from Primark can be not so baggy/less comfortable than I thought because of the huge size of it! Got my midwife appointment in two days, looking forward to it.
Had a nap on the couch soon after getting back home from the hotel, and woke up to a smile from DP and a packet of Jelly Tots! Bliss. :)