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[GetDownYouWillFall]

Hello ladies ? bit nerve wracking moving over to ante natal but thought I?d be brave! Here?s to a trouble free 8 or so months for us all! And hoping lots more of us move over very soon.

Step away from your thermometers ladies. That way madness lies.

Sits back. Feels a bit lonely. Waits for others.

Due date is 20th-21st August. I'm hoping to be at home from 6th June (1st full week after the last bank holiday) Hopefully I can save a couple of weeks of A/L so that my ML starts late June. I'm not intending to bravely battle on until 38 weeks or anything!

And no not at all immoral to be hoping to resign and choose not to say anything yet. It is a long long time between now and when you would need to hand in your notice and all manner of things could change in that time - financial circumstances, living arrangements etc and no one would expect you to give up your option to return to work over 18 months before you have to do so. Don't worry

Hello to all!

spilt sorry you've got a rotten cold. Also pants about not being able to take redundancy. Take the maternity leave as much as you are entitled to, and don't feel bad about resigning afterwards. That's totally understandable.

I have been pleasantly surprised following flu jab - expecting to feel rough but have been totally fine. Was glad to see what nix said about it giving baby immunity for a couple of years after birth as well, that is good news.

Congrats to tory so pleased for you!! Try not to worry about lack of symptoms... I haven't really had much sickness at all, and was so worried that the bean wasn't growing or that there may have been something wrong, but was very reassured by an early scan last week where we saw the little blob and a good strong heartbeat I think different women's symptoms are so different - and they can be milder if it's not your first pregnancy too.

Well I am now 10 weeks and still haven't had so much as a whiff of an appointment through or any contact from a midwife whatsoever Boo hoo, no one cares about me!! I am seriously annoyed by the service round here. I was on medication before I got pregnant, and as far as they know I could have been taking it throughout my whole first trimester (I actually stopped it myself). It annoys me that by the time you get an appointment round here, the most important time in terms of baby's development has already passed. Ah well

Hope everyone is doing ok xx

Hi all.

Hope you all had a lovely weekend and are ok.

getdown ring them again, that's shocking you still have nothing!

I have felt less sick the last few days, although last night felt crap. So of course I am now crapping myself thinking something is wrong as I feel ok today, only have the odd bit of nausea. Feel like I have been sucking on a 2p tho.

A friend went in to have her little one this morning. She got to the hospital at 5:30am and had her at 5:45am!! Flippin eck.

Blimey Iwish that's a bit of a frenzied hospital arrival! I hope it wasn't really traumatic for her - sometimes the really fast deliveries leave people totally shell shocked.

Cold still stinking and sinuses hurt so I have stayed home today and slept all morning and been in the bath for the last nearly two hours! I do appreciate that this is one of the luxuries of a first pregnancy and probably one of the last illnesses where I will get to be totally selfish and look after myself only. It would have been a grim day with a toddler on the loose.

GetDown sorry your lot are so useless. My hospital were pretty useless initially (better now I am actually "in" their system and have been seen) but our community midwife team are fab. No hassle to get appointments, I just phone the receptionist and book one. I saw them at 5 weeks and 6 weeks and then at 9 for booking in. It would be so much more stressful having to fight to be seen at all. At least I could do all my initial panicking right when I needed too!

spilt sorry you're still feeling rubbish. Glad that you are looking after yourself - it's good that you can relax and take it easy today, don't feel bad about it. When I'm ill with a toddler around I usually resort to CBeebies TV makes it a lot easier!

So you had your first appt at 5 weeks??! Did you contact them or did they contact you? I am totally at a loss who I am even supposed to contact. The hospital I rang only knew about their particular system, and not the system of the local one where I actually want my scan I'm worried I'm going to miss my "slot" now and they won't be able to do the nuchal scan or something.

Iwish I think it's normal for nausea to fluctuate quite a lot as your body gets used to the hormones. I always feel a lot less nauseous after a good night's sleep or if I am just sitting still for a bit, or if I've just eaten something. That's amazing about your friend having the baby 15 mins after arriving at the hospital!!

Sorry you are feeling so crappy split. I hope you enjoyed your long soak and hoping it made you feel a little better. No she was quite happy. Little one was 7 days overdue.

Thanks getdown. It always helps when you guys reassure me and it just happens that after lunch the nausea set in again and ive spent all afternoon eating buscuits of chewing gum which seems to help.
I first saw my midwife at 5+5 and have an appt at the hospital at 10+4. I went through my go and booked a midwife appt there. Could you try that?
Yeh 15 minutes and she was 9lb 12oz too

Yes GetDown 5 weeks. My MW runs an antenatal clinic 1 day a week at my GP's surgery so I just rung the receptionist and said I would like a midwife appointment please and they gave me one. Round here they tend to see you once very early for a "pre booking" appointment where they estimate due dates, give you your notes, send off for your scan appointments and make the booking appointment. Booking in is then at 9-10 weeks and the scan pretty much dead on 12 weeks if you've got your dates right. It works really well I have to admit.

at 9lb 12oz! Well done her!

Iwish I agree with GetDown that the sickness fluctuates from day to day and time to time and is not necessarily telling you anything at all. Also agree that it gets easier as your body aclimatises to the hormones. I found both times that the first week of sickness was the worst by a mile and I just lay in bed and waited. After that it became manageable for me and started tailing off at about 10 weeks. Basically gone completely now unless I am tired or stressed. (14+1) How many weeks are you now?

Hey split. I'm 7+3 now . I think it just freaked me out because it was so bad all day every day for a week and then over the last few days it's been a lot more manageable. Can't win can we??!! Moan about the symptoms then moan when they have gone.
Wow 14+1! time seems to be going so quick (apart from my own time haha). So have you felt movements yet or is it too early?

Ah don't worry, I understand! The symptoms are vile but unnerving when they disappear.

It's still early to be feeling movements but I'm starting to wonder if I can? Hard to know with nothing to compare to. I know this one is now pretty much the size Bobbie was at birth so I feel I've got a fair idea of how weak the legs would be and so how gentle the movements would feel. I read on here people saying that the early movements felt a bit like the gentle pressure of a baby frog leaping from your hand. I'm not so windy now so I'm not just putting everything automatically down to gas, and reckon I may have felt Kermit moving when I was in the bath. Gave him a poke just in case!

I know what you mean about everyone else's pgs going fast... can't get over Lady being more than 18 weeks now, and I would have guessed you were more like 5! Pregnancy is a weird timewarp.

I am very of everyone else's highly efficient maternity services. Round here just seems to be a case of luck... and knowing who to badger! (and I don't seem to have either at the moment )

I think with DD I first felt movement at 16 weeks, but it was so slight I wasn't sure. I was definite by 20 weeks. The way I describe it is like - you know when you get a muscle twitch in your eye? Like something is spasming? It feels like that. A little flicker.

Then of course by 35+ weeks you are being pummelled!! I remember having my bladder being kicked repeatedly that was particularly pleasant.

Oooh I bet they were little movements, it'll have been the little monkey doing somersaults. I bet you can't wait for the obvious kicks in the ribs hehe. I remember your bfp, seems like it was only yesterday.

getdown where about in the country do you live? I'm in the northwest. Up to now my maternity services seem ok. Apart from the shutting of my mat ward in April. :)
I can picture just what you mean about the eye twitch feeling, eek I can't wait! Do the kicks hurt when the little one gets bigger or is it just uncomfortable?

Apparently it depends where they are kicking. I'm told straight down into the cervix is rather ouch. My mum says that when she was heavily pregnant with me I managed to stick my foot between her bottom two ribs (don't ask how!) and leave it there for ages and that hurt. When I came out with my foot pointing the wrong way and got whipped off to see a paed her response was "serves the little bugger right!"

I am really looking forward to feeling movements I am sure are movements, I think then I will get less jumpy and nervous about the baby having died and me not knowing.

Oooh between the ribs sounds painful. split you were a naughty baby!!
I bet you will feel relief being able to feel the little one move. I hope it will be soon for you.
Are you going to find out the sex?

My mum was telling me she felt sick with my little bro but not with me. Wonder if I'm the same and I'm having a boy. Or if it's just not related...

I actually saw a kick today! Was just a little twitch on my belly but felt it from the inside at the same time. Even the big kicks aren't usually painful so don't worry - as Spilt says the odd one in cervix, ribs or bladder can be uncomfortable but not really painful.

Did you decide whether to get a doppler or not, Spilt? Might help with the nervousness, especially when baby being shy/asleep and not kicking much.

I feel for you in the sicky phase, Iwish - is my least favourite bit of being pregnant I think. But hopefully will be over in few weeks.

I am soooooo of how many weeks you all are! And I can't believe how fast it's going. I'd have never guessed you were 7 weeks already iwish.

I will be 5 weeks tomorrow (time going slowly for me). Had some cramping over the weekend which worried me a bit but I think it was wind . I am super aware of every tiny twinge.

Seeing a kick sounds amazing LadyG!

Oh ladyg I bet that was amazing!

Im happily (although still moaning) putting up with the sickness as being reassuring. I just want the weeks to hurry up so I can see my little one on the scan screen.

Hi mrsp! Don't worry time is going v slowly for me too. I have also had cramps, they were just like af cramps so I was a little scared but I now only get the odd one so looks like they are trailing off which they may do for you too :)

Just when I thought I could take a break from the worrying.... brown blood this morning Just a little bit - more like watery coloured discharge really. 3 wipes and it was gone, but enough to worry me Never had any blood at all with DD.

mrsp I felt time went really slowly too in the early weeks, it seems to have sped up these last few weeks though!

Wonderful about seeing the kick lady

Iwish I am in Hertfordshire. Don't know if I've just been unlucky or if they are particularly bad round here. With DD I didn't get a booking in appt till 12 weeks either.

Movements in the later stages are not painful as such, but they can be rather uncomfortable. I remember driving to work and there was a particularly tricky junction where I had to look over my shoulder for ages to try and get out into constant traffic, and it was really uncomfortable with little feet sticking in my ribs!

Oh Getdown I swear they do this to try us. Brown is bit of old blood though so sounds unlkely to be a problem, especially as you have had your scan. I would still be tepted to call EPU though - could maybe chase up the midwife at same time!

I remember later on when DS would brace his feet against my ribs and streeeeettttch with his head on my cervix. THAT is a weid sensation. And also when your belly starts to lurch violently from one side to the otehr later on. I have no idea how people dodn't know they are pregnant and give birth on bathroom floor as I had an anterior placenta as well and there was no disguising it!

Yey for the kicks lg :)
Don't worry too much get down sounds a bit like what I had at 14 weeks, focus on scan but contact mw/epu for reassurance x

It seems to be a pattern of ladies bleeding during of post mc,sadly!

Thanks lady and nix I am holding on to the fact that I saw that little heartbeat and trying not to worry.

Don't think I will call EPU just yet as DH is away until thursday and don't want them to tell me to come in (don't want to go on my own).

I would ring a midwife - if I had one!!!

GetDown what a nightmare. Not sure if you'll remember but I also had a small bleed at 10+5, seems to be a commonish time for it to happen. Like you say, no bleeding in previous pregnancy so assumed it meant bad news, but the 12 week scan would disagree. Brown is a good sign. Fingers crossed you have nothing to fear, but I do know how scary it is.

I haven't got a doppler yet Lady, still umming and ahhing. I don't want to get one too soon and frighten myself by not finding a HB. Also the one I was looking at is about £60 and I have to talk myself into a purchase of that size!

getdown I hope you feel ok and reassured by these lovely ladies. Maybe if you mention it when you chase the hospital they might get their arses in gear

Well I'm a little miffed. I've cone home today to a letter from the hospital saying I have missed an antenatal appt on 18th feb??!! I havnt even had an appointment through!! They have rebooked it for this Friday at 9:45. I've not even told my boss yet...

Getdown in the words of the gynae at A&E when i went in,.. he said "brown is good" how brown can be good i dont know, but apparently it is! Clear would be better... but hey ho !

good on you for your positivity x

Iwish you dont have to tell your boss! Tell em you have a doc apt or something xx

Hey nix hope you are ok.

I will need to tell my boss so I can take the time off. Otherwise I would have to male my time up and would rather not if I don't have to.
Just been to my parents house, it's my mums 50th tomorrow so just dropped part of her prezzie off and my dad bless him said 'will you hurry up and get that scan done, I'm getting all excited and want to tell people'. How sweet

Ooooh I am in Hertfordshire too getdown! Hope you're feeling reassured by all of the comments. It's not something I have experience of but I have heard it said that brown is good.

Been having a worry again today with some more cramping. On the positive side though my boobs really hurt and I can hardly keep my eyes open. Could have quite happily gone to sleep on my desk this afternoon!

Hope everyone is ok.