April 2011 - we'll shop til we pop!

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Continuation from our old thread here

So maybe this thread we'll see some babies?! And definitely lots more shopping

arch that's fab news! Hope you can get your HB now.

lucie You'll know if you're due a glucose test - it's done on fasting blood sugar levels then 2 hours later so you'd have been told not to eat. Mine was a whole battery of things but the important ones are the iron and rh+/- I'd have punched the tosser but part of me thinks he probably has a point anyway.

Sarah mine is transverse and they're at the point where they're starting to get concerned and talk about ECVs/possible CS because it won't budge no matter what I do. Either the head or the bum moves (I think it's the bum) but the other part is practically glued to my right hip. Scan in 3 weeks so I'll know more then but I'd say 28-32 is when they start making noises about the fact it should have turned. In general head down or breech seems to cause less concern than transverse because if it's gotten itself turned from being sideways to being up/down it should but able to somersault by pushing out whereas there might not be space to move from sideways because your ribs might be in the way. I think. She was talking v fast and there was a lot of handwaving and gesturing going on throughout the explanation but that was the general gist! They can turn right up to the last minute though! Both ways...

On the bikini wax my beauty therapist moved away and I haven't wanted to go splay my legs for anyone else but I really must because either you go in dehaired or they scrape at you with a blunt bic whilst you're in labour. I'll do it on my own terms thanks!

Weighing I get done every appointment. They're a bit obsessed here though and looked at me very strangely when at 20 weeks I had no idea what my pre-pregnancy weight was! I think I've out on around 8kilos, which is good as I was probably a bit under to start with but it's a bit of a moveable feast depending what time of day I weigh myself.

Antenatal class today involved some very odd visualisations, the development of the baby (I'm nearly 30 weeks, why are we covering this?!) and a tour of the service. Anyone seen a birthing room and thought they really don't want to be in there?! I wish HBs were the done thing here.

I would just say about waxing, I have it done mainly because I go swimming and both shaving and those creams give me a rash, rather than being overly bothered ab out what my midwife has to say about the state of that area, although that is a bonus. Would also like to add my need to do this is not related to why I'm called the thefurryone

salted thanks for the tips about anti-D, my appt tomorrow is with community midwife at the GPs, so also have an appointment at 30 weeks at the anti-D clinic at the hospital to get that injection (for some reason there are certain things you have to go to hospital for in my area). Although fingers crossed I won't need it as we're 99.9% certain that DH is also Rh-. Will find out for sure at the anti-D appt when I'll get his blood test results.

Ohhh you don't need a kick Lis you need a hug!

SPD is crap, not being able to see family is crap, feeling crap is crap, being around shiny happy people when you feel less than shiny is crap. Therefore you're entitled to a little bit of misery.

Besides, if you can't self-pity on here, where can you?

thankyou salted. i havent got a clue my doctors are pretty slow with results to tell you the truth. just suspected my iron level might have been low, as im always tired and seem to be getting palpitations. and i was anemic last pregnancy. but then again it might just be cause of all the sleepless nights lol

LisaMcA sorry to hear you're feeling so down. I'm also quite far away from my Mum and friends and I find it really isolating a lot of the time, it's such an exciting time and not having loved ones around to share it with is hard.

So, you're allowed to feel down and rubbish sometimes, but I hope you feel better soon.

Also, I would say that these women probably aren't enjoying it as much or finding it as you think they are, just as I have to pretend that I enjoy being pregnant when I'm in public (don't get me wrong love the fact I'm having a baby it's just the pregnancy process I could do without).

Aw, LisMcA, big hugs. I wonder why we all end up feeling like it's a competition and use words like "worst" pregnant person to describe our fragile selves?! It's so random how our bodies react, some are just luckier than others, not more virtuous. Give yourself a big treat and a pat on the back for getting to a class with your SPD in the first place.

We have our first NCT tonight - feeling excited but rather nervous, despite all that I just said above!! Hope it's not all too much for DP, he's very game and interested but I'm not sure he'll enjoy role-play or divulging of personal details!!

I had a self-pitying misery session the other day when friends organised different things without me (everyone thought everyone else was busy kind of thing), then i bumped my head and it all just felt too much, ridiculous but i was teary all afternoon cos of that!

Some of you are just starting to find out that motherhood is one long competition to some people, starting at how fab they are at pregnancy. Sad but true, women can be the meanest to other women.

Have cancelled my orchestra tonight, too tired & not feeling like it, seriously lazy when i have months more to go, but starting to lose enthusiasm.

hi all, I am due on 25th April and have been hanging out on the May thread as I was originally dated as early May. Decided to have a little look on here as I am always the first one to go through anything on the thread, so think they might be sick of me.

I am now 28+3. Suffering from SPD and also something to do with my abs (big spilt and a ridge if I accidently use my tummy muscles). Really started to hurt this week - just quite an achy bump.

Really good to read about 28 week appointment - got mine tomorrow. First time I have seen anyone medical since my 20 week scan and paranoid they'll tell me I am diabetic. Eating a lot of sweet stuff, which is generally unlike me.

SnapFrakkleandPop my baby also appears to be lying across my lower abdomen and hasn't moved away from this position. Not had one blimp above my bellly button...or even close. Thing is, I am huge, and short. So your comments about not having enough room to move makes me worried - I am 5ft 1. Hmmmm. We'll see what the MW says - I am really looking for some serious reassurance that I am not huge and that baby is all OK.

Still loving every single sick/punch/wiggle...even though much of it is now hitting my bladder!

x

Thank you! I think i need a good blub and a bar of chocolate. Tomorrow will be a better day I'm sure!

Furry I'm like you, over the moon to be expecting, but not enjoying being pregnant. I try to make everything a bit of a joke. Ha ha! Yes I know I'm walking like a duck and think its hillarious being unable to put my trousers on. When secretly I just wan to lie down and cry.

On a lighter note, I decided to take my bikini line into my own hands recently. I usually just need a trim everyso often, but have gotten a bit hairier throughout pregnancy. I shamefully have to admit I Veet'ed the lot DO NOT do this ladies. I now have ingrowing hairs that I can't get to and have had to ask DH (he really really loves me, I now know this for sure) to sort out for me and double

Frakk thanks for the hugs, you are so far away from your family, I feel a bit silly whinging on about being 150 miles away!

4 weeks on Friday til my mat leave starts. I'll be 33 weeks. Does anyone think that bringing that forward will leave too much time before baby arrives? I'm considering saying I'll leave earlier, but I'm worried I'll bore myself stupid waiting for his arrival? Opinions appreicated please!

Look I feel better already! Thank you thank you thank you!

Darn, I was hoping Veet would sort it!

I'm not massively close to my family even when we're not very far away but I think them being near but far would be worse in many ways. My mummy said she'd drop everything and come if I needed her though!

Hi LittleMilla :)

arch - really pleased that your glucose came back ok :)

Lisa - I am useless at being pregnant. Somewhere in between DS and getting pregnant this time I had forgotten just how useless!
People are so bloody competitive about it all, it drives me mad. Those same people are probably feeling equally down inside at times, but just putting on a brave face.
If I put on some makeup and nice clothes I can look quite 'glowing', but inside I am knackered and I just want the world to go away and leave me alone. If anyone asks then I tell them the truth, because you don't get a medal for remaining 100% cheerful right up to delivery!

I started mat leave with DS at 33 weeks. Even though I went two weeks over I didn't regret it. I had dreadful SPD and I was exhausted. I pottered in the house, read books, had lovely naps in the afternoons, sorted out all my recipes and photos, cooked meals that took longer than 30 minutes to throw together, stocked up the freezer - basically all the things that I haven't had time to do since!

I've never had my bits waxed, can't bear the idea of a stranger peering down there - midwives and Drs are different
I have a shaver thing which means I can have a trim and get things under control - although I need a mirror now because I can't see what the hell is going on down there

You start ML whenever you feel you need to. There are pro's and con's for starting it early and others for starting it later. If you are finding things physically hard (SPD) then that's something else to take into consideration.

I ended up having about 5 weeks ML before DS arrived (he was late) and I wasn't bored once.

I made sure I did something everyday - even if it was just a trip to Tesco's.

Luckily I also had 3 other friends on ML and my NCT classmates were all pretty local. I also took the chance to blitz the house and do all of those little jobs I never seemed to get around to. I got my hair cut and coloured, used some beauty vouchers I had, went to a chiropodist and got my feet sorted so they were as soft as a baby's bum, went to the dentist, and batch cooked and froze a shit load of meals for when the baby came. I also relished cooking really nice meals everyday as I knew they would be the last for a while.

Getting all of those things done also meant that DH and I could spend the last few weekends before baby arrived doing things and going places we wouldn't be able to do for a while. I hate to use the phrase 'quality time', but you know what I mean!

Hello littleMilla, welcome

Oh, and I'm not a fan of being pregnant either. It's a means to an end. I do not bloom, I just grumpily gestate and love the end product

ILTMI - 'I just grumpily gestate'

Love it! That describes me perfectly.

LisMca KICK UP ARSE! no way do you need a kick you need a hug. It's hard to believe that 10 weeks can seem such a lifetime away when it seems like 2 minutes since we all found out our wonderful news . It's always the last bit that drags when your heavy and feeling it. Find lots of treats you like, pictures, favourite food, day with friends, coffee morning invite everyone on a weekend round to yours and get out the baby clothes, if you collect something start a hunt for another. Anything free if you don't have the cash and put it on your calendar and count down to exiting little things one or two per week to keep you distracted. Why not ask a friend to stay over and cook together, look at photo's etc. Sorry going on a bit but you get the idea, distractions lots of distractions! hugs to you xx

Sarahjinx I think it's from about 32/34 weeks that they start recording the position.

Wow that was a lot to catch up with! Good days, then, All?!

Hello LittleMilla - I'm the April Family equivalent to you, I'm actually due 25th March, but everyone's just SOOO brilliant here, I haven't decamped!

I've had an exhausting, frustrating & hilarious day at work today. 2 weeks, 3 days till half term - come on!

Glad to see i'm not the only person who's never had a wax, it seems the norm these days and I was starting to wonder if the midwives would think I was some hairy old freak. I just give myself a good trim with some round ended nail scissors (sorry if TMI) I also have very sensitive skin and just don't fancy having an itchy fandango. Don't worry about the midwifes having to shave you either it's not routine everywhere, I wasn't shaved last time round.

My pregnancy hormones are raging well. I had a word in the supermarket car park at lunchtime today with someone parked in a Parent and Child space. The spaces were all full but a lady was leaving so I took her space. As I parked a man in his 50's was about to get into the passenger seat of the car next to me. Being the helpful person I am I rolled down my window and politely said "excuse me, do you realise that is a parent and child space". We were directly in front of the sign so they couldn't have missed it. He responded "well it isn't me driving" and got in the car.
The old bag lady in the driving seat then wound down the window and shouted across that in her day nobody ever gave her priority parking and when she had children she never had any special treatment blah,blah,blah. I responded calmly that I really didn't think her language was appropriate in front of my toddler and would she have found it acceptable if people had spoken like that in front of her children in "her day". I also pointed out that they hadn't had car seats in "her day" so she hadn't needed priority parking and if they found it that hard to walk the extra few metres from the regular parking spaces perhaps they should apply for a disabled badge.
Wrong thread now I know but AIBU to have really enjoyed telling her what for.

Good for you Liv! I'm STILL regretting my restraint with that woman on the tube.

Popping in as haven't for ages. Been keeping up but not posting. Great that everyone is so active on here. Was admitted last week to the maternity unit. GP wanted me monitored for risk of prem labour. All seems ok at mo. Seeing someone twice a week at mo.

Bit embarrassing really. Had mw and DR looking up my fandango with a torch Weirdest bit was being told that it all looked beautiful up there Well it's the only bit of me that does at the mo - and my luck that and no-one else will see it.

Hello

LisMacA - I feel for you, I have felt awful today, totally tearful, hormonal, anxious (in the process of selling our flat and looking for a house) and being 30 weeks.

No wonder I feel so out of control. I wonder if some women have a sudden hormone surge in the third trimester? I haven't felt like this before.

Sleeping less doesn't help and the fact that I'm working up to 37 weeks before Maternity leave starts doesn't help (I may have bitten off more than I can chew)

I hope everyone will be feeling better soon xx
I have to mention - It's good to hear that it's not just me struggling with the emotional side - I thought I'd be enjoying the pregnancy more. xx

Morning all

Welcome littemilla we have a stats thread with our due dates and where we are etc if you want to pop yourself on (and any other newbies who havent come across it yet) www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/1066719-April-2011-stats-so-we-can-chat-in-peace

Lis hope today is a better day for you hugs

Furry hahaha re 'that's not why i am called furry'

Livv well done you on your fabulous retorts. I hate it when you think of something to say hours after the event. Excellent work.

I had my blood test last night ahead of my 28 wk MW appt on Tuesday coming. MW gave me the form at my 24 wk appt.

Couldnt get up this morning so missed my train my a minute. Next one was packed and n sign of 1st class so i didnt get on it. Next one was late so i was late (got in 1st class tho) Then got offered a seat at Bank, one stop in which was much needed after being bumped. Grrr. MRA over.

Back onto the subject of bikini waxing (about which I'm clearly obsessed ) my groupon email offer this morning was for a bikini wax and "intimate jewelling" apparently you can have Swavorski crystals applied that last for up to five days, now that would give the midwives something to talk about

ahahahahahahahahahaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

Had a terrible driving lesson yesterday, haven't driven that badly for months. Everything that I could have done wrong I did wrong
I think Dad's lecture must have bothered me more than I realised. I have another lesson tomorrow and am determined to be back to test standard.

Welcome to the latest newcomers - nice to have people still joining. I have a theory that we won't have any babies born on this particular thread as now that we're all in or coming up to thirty weeks and onwards it's all getting a bit more juicy and real and there's more to talk about in a 'holy-crap-I'm-going-to-have-a-baby' kind of way. Hmmm. Or perhaps I'm just in total denial that I'm going to have a baby at the end of this.

Don't all hate me but I LOVE being pregnant. I love the whole energy and 'niceness' of it all. Everyone is just so lovely to you, or maybe it's just a case of me wandering around in a perpetual daze. Also I made a pact with myself when I was doing IVF first time around that I'd bloody enjoy it if it killed me, having leapt through so many hoops to get there and knowing quite a few friends who never got as lucky as me. Plus it's my last pregnancy when I thought I'd never get another 'go' so I'm rather thrilled at my final, fertile swansong.

Re: waxing I'm continuing with my usual 'all off' policy. Probably too much information but, bizarrely, most of my bikini line never grew back post-caesarean, which may have been related to the nerve damage in that area. Anyway, the upshot of this is that very little grows so it's just easier to keep stripping it all away. And it doesn't hurt either (contemplates desensitised pubic bone with puzzlement).

Littlemilla sounds like you have a diastasis recti (split in the abdominal muscles). I had this with the twins. It's basically where the linea alba, the connnective tissue between your rectus abdominus (if you envisage a 'six pack' then the linea alba is the vertical line that runs down the middle and joins the two sideways bands of muscle called the rectus abdominus) stretches or tears and leads to muscle weakness. It's pretty easy to resolve afterwards with the right exercises (google the Tupler Technique) but you have to make sure you avoid standard abdominal crunches and curls and obliques as these can make things worse and/or fix the separation.

Maternity leave I'm going right up to the wire - as long as I can basically. This is largely due to the fact that I get more rest at work than I do at home leaping about after two four year olds but I appreciate that if this was my first baby I'd want to enjoy some maternity leave beforehand. I say do whatever feels right. I'd also second Iliketomoveit and say use the time to meet with friends, laze about in coffee shops and batch cook some nice food/cakes/easy suppers for your freezer. This is a godsend post-birth when you realise that as well as caring for a demanding newborn you've also got to somehow keep yourself alive with food and water. Digging a shepherds pie out of the depths of my freezer was about my limit for weeks!

This baby also either breech or transverse (resolutely refuses to even try head-down for a nanosecond). My consultant says that they'll easily turn before 35 weeks. He's also said that if it's still breech at 37 weeks he'll try and 'turn it' - can't wait for that one!!