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Due in Dec 05 - thread 10. The one where we all become friends!

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sweetheart · 03/10/2005 16:40

A new thread for all us friendly Dec ladies

We sit and we type,
And we stare at our screens;
We all have to wonder
What this possibly means.
With our mouse we roam,
Through the rooms in a maze;
Looking for something or someone,
As we sit in a daze.
We chat with each other;
We type all our woes;
Small groups we do form,
And gang up on our foes.
We wait for somebody
To type out our name;
We want recognition,
But it is always the same.
We give kisses and hugs,
And sometimes flirt;
In PMs (IMs) we chat deeply,
And reveal why we hurt.
We do form friendships -
Yet why, we don't know;
But some of these friendships
Will flourish and grow.
Why is it on screen,
We can be so bold?
Telling our secrets
That have never been told.
Why is it we share
The thoughts in our mind
With those we can't see,
As though we were blind?
The answer is simple;
It's as clear as a bell.
We all have our problems
And need someone to tell.
We can't tell real people,
But tell someone we must;
So we turn to the computer,
And to those we can trust.
Even though it is crazy,
The truth still remains:
There are Friends Without Faces,
With odd little names.

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ebbie22 · 04/10/2005 19:02

Wow,took me ages to catch up with you lot....huh,chatterboxes...
Welcome owl,sorry to hear your pregnancy isnt plan sailing either.....
Will be thinking of you tonight ninah xxx
Hey tb,how you been?
Sw i ahve the same worries as you regarding children,dd was an angel and am sooo scared that wont beable to cope with 2..

dramaqueen72 · 04/10/2005 19:05

s/h -thats what I always said about calpol should of got shares in THAT!!!
welcome aboard owl mother. its abit crazy here forgive us.
s/h lord help us if you aspire to my domestic heights when you stop work......your dh will prob leave you!!!
dd2 will clear up her toys if i bribe her, 'do you want to go in the garden/watch this movie/have this biscuit?'
'yes'
'then pick up the toys into the basket -quick'
and she does. its wonderful. it will wear off tho, as have dd1 who is 11 and her room is a NIGHTMARE, certain to make me really mad if i go in it.
bonkerz, blimey take it easy hun, sounds manic!!!! glad youre getting away for abit.
george, ditto baby on bladder, altho seems to crush ribs too when i sit down and i get pain there too,.must have long baby!!
15 days til my scan.................

LucyJones · 04/10/2005 19:18

(sorry to lurk but Sweetheart do you know you can get Gaviscon on prescription, there's a htread atm, sorry again)

sweetheart · 04/10/2005 19:35

Lucy can you!!!!!! Where's the thread, please show me - it's costing me a small fortune!!!

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bonkerz · 04/10/2005 20:20

NO PRESENT Dh says he has bought it but left it at work. I havent commented to him and will just wait patiently for tomorrow!
14 days till my next scan!!!! Thats when i aim to harrass my consultant about an elective c section too!!!
Am off to bed now cos hip is really sore and cant get comfy on sofa!

sweetheart · 04/10/2005 20:40

Ninah - I've seen you around. Are you still on?

time for a quick chat if you are?

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Scraggyaggy · 04/10/2005 21:35

Hello, I hope you don't mind me popping in. I've been asked by Sweetheart to tell you about my water birth.

PRACTICAL STUFF

I was initially interested in a water birth, as it was something that we could do at home and it seemed like a nice way for our baby to enter the world. I found that there are many different types of pool and various options available. The best thing about having the birthing pool is that you can use it in those last few weeks when everything is aching and you just need to relax.

Before you start, you need to think about where you are going to place the pool. It has to be on a floor, which can take the weight ? so not normally upstairs! We had ours in the living room and had a series of pipes running outside and then back into the kitchen window. That?s the other thing, you need to know how you are going to fill it and make sure that you can access the water supply. We were supplied with a pump and extra long hoses so it was really easy to fill and empty.

Most companies offer an unheated pool, which you need to top up with hot water to control the temperature. The logic with this is that bacteria is more likely to breed in warm water and therefore you need to use some form of chemical to keep the water clean, which the companies says goes against the ethos of the type of person who would want a home birth. The advantage of using these sorts of chemicals is that you only have to change the pool water every 7 days, so you are unlikely to get caught out!

I would recommend getting a disposable liner to go inside the pool as it means that after use you don?t have to pay to clean the pool or clean it yourself.

You need to know what kind of support you?re going to get. These things aren?t the easiest to put together, despite getting lots of instructions. Our lady was fabulous as she was on hand pretty much 24-7, gave us her mobile number and told me to feel free to ring her in the evenings and weekends.

I would definitely recommend a few practice runs. You need to know it all works, how long it takes to fill, empty, how long it stays warm etc. We had a small mishap with our pool, and ended up with a leak as I hadn?t tightened one of the connecting pipes properly and we ended up with a very soggy carpet for a few days!

Generally you need to book the pool at least 4 weeks before the birth, if not longer. When I was ringing around many companies weren?t sure if they?d be able to supply me with a pool. I found that local delivery was normally free and nationwide was about £50.

Lastly, you need to get some plastic sheeting for the floors (to protect your carpets!) We found cheap shower curtains were ideal.

MY BIRTH

I was very fortunate with my birth, as I didn?t have any complications and it was relatively quick.

Whilst doing my birth plan, the midwife ha to carry out a home assessment to make sure it was safe for them, and they came round to check the positioning of the pool once it was set up. I was also given a list of midwives who had water birth experience, as one of them would have to attend.

On the day, we decided that I was in labour about 1 o?clock-ish, so we called our midwife and I put my TENS machine on. (Most of the birthing pool companies offer them for hire - I paid £20.) I didn?t think the TENS would work at all, but I was pleasantly surprised. It did take a while to build up, but after about 20 mins I was definitely feeling the benefit. I lasted with my TENS machine until 5pm, although the last half an hour was really hard as the pain was really intense and the TENS machine was beginning to irritate my back, more than it was relieving the pain.

At 5pm, my midwives changed shifts and the second midwife brought some gas and air with her. We then decided that I would get in the pool, so had to time it right with the contractions to get the TENS off and me in the pool! As soon as I got in the pool I felt better. It?s a bit like putting a hot water bottle on a sore tummy, that kind of relief. As the water supports you completely, there is no pressure on any part of you, which is sheer bliss. This gave me a break before the next stage in my labour.

It felt as though I started pushing as soon as I got in the water, but I don?t really remember. I know that my waters broke shortly after getting in the water! I wanted dp in the water with me, so he put his shorts on and got in, which was very brave considering. I?m not sure I?d have done it if it was vice-versa! He ended up sitting behind me and I pushed against him and our little girl arrived at 6.30pm.

Having her in the water, and all of us being hugged up together was just magical. The midwife had left us to pull her up out of the water and on to my chest, but unfortunately the cord was a bit short so I couldn?t reach her! So mw placed her on my chest. They cut the cord while I was still in the water, then dd and dp got out so they could check dd over, and then I got out so the placenta could be delivered (they don?t let you do that in the pool so they can monitor any bleeding). As I didn?t have the injection they put dd to my breast as soon as I got out of the pool to help things along. At this point I remember being extremely cold and shivering a lot, but they wrapped me up in plenty of towels and I soon warmed up.

Lucky for me, dp cleaned the pool up, emptied it, etc. He said that there was practically no mess at all and it was very clean. I know that this was a big concern of both his and mine beforehand!

Originally, I had thought that I would use the pool after the birth as well, but realistically, I just didn?t feel like it, so we packed it up and sent it back a bit early.

So, in summary I would definitely recommend it, although please bear in mind that I don?t have anything to compare it to, and I did have a relatively easy birth. The company I used was Aquabirth although there are others. They are a bit pricier than some, but you get a heater, pump, ?friendly? tablets and solution for the pool, good service etc.

I?m sorry this is so long, but should you want to ask me anything else, please feel free to CAT me.

Scraggy x

ei23mummy · 05/10/2005 02:16

hey ladies!! its 2:09 and i cant sleep again!! iv been having b/h's since about 12 and they dont seem to be letting up!! should i be worried?? theyr about every 15-20 mins and i cant get comfy with them gosh u dont get a break when your pg do you!!
i havent been around much the past few days! dp's family is over from america and wev been getting acquainted with them so it been pretty hectic- theyv brought us over some really lovely baby clothes and blankets etc so thats good!!
did anyone watch that thing on itv class of 76?? wasnt it soooo strange! its weirded me out a little!! also i got my results back from the assignments that i handed in a few weeks ago and i passed one but failed the other so iv gotta redo it!! my own fault tho cause i left that one til the last minute!! ah well thats life eh??!!

yellowbear · 05/10/2005 08:05

Just a quick apology to bigeyes, didn't mean to delete you, still getting used to this too!

redheadmum · 05/10/2005 08:09

hi DQ

forgot to add the practicals, when you hire a pool they also give you a hose attachment and hose to fill the pool and another hose and a pump to empty it.

Also as I had a local agent, if you have any problems getting the pool together or anything really you can call them and they'll come round if necessary. It's all done so it's as simple as p ossible!!

I thought the pool was great for the Dh as he could do a bit of teccie stuff to keep him occupied before and after the birth!! (but nothing to do during as I wanted him there)

my pool was one that you had to top up with warm water to keep at the right temp, but I was so quick I knew I wouldn't have to worry about that. You can get pools that have some heating mechanism....but sounds like you'll be quick too?

dramaqueen72 · 05/10/2005 08:43

aw thanks birthpool ladies, how lovely and helpful. scraggy -if i think of anything else I'll ask you and redhead, am seeing midwife today so she may prompt me asking something else. v excited about it now. thankyou so much for calling in.
ei, ugh, know the feeling, hope you got some sleep. the tiredness KILLS the next day.
hey yellow bear, hows it going?

ei23mummy · 05/10/2005 09:37

hey everyone
how are you all today?? well i got up late again for uni and have also forgot to ask dp to lend me bus fare so im stuck in the house again!!
is anyone else having really disturbing nightmares? i had three last night(when i finally managed to get to sleep!) the worst one was i got up to go the loo leaving dp and our newborn (and the cat!)asleep in the bedroom then when i tried to go back upstairs it was on fire and i couldnt get to any of them it was horrible im all upset now and cant stop thinking about it!

bigeyes · 05/10/2005 09:37

Thanks yellowbear. Gud morning all I am off 2day as I have given in to the mild SPD i think Ive got, its like a nagging toothache down there and the toilet visits are just getting v v silly now. Spoke to MW she thinks its a ligament but is refering me to physio all the same. Generally I'm enjoying being preg (1st baby) but omg I can't wait to see him, still prob have three months to go!

I got a bit upset yesterday though at work cos some of my students suggested I might be expecting twins - we were but lost one at 11wks and this caught me off guard a little bit as we had further scares with Lewis earlier we just pleased to have got this far and concentrated on looking forward.

Oh I'm all over the place - frustrated cos I'm not v mobile and can't do jobs around house and can't even nag DH to do them cos he's in a lot of pain cos of his back. I think I'm to be subjected to Lord of the Rings box set - well he can naff off cos I do like to watch the babies on DH&L!!

Oh he's kicking The doc who examined me last week (27+3) said my babys head was down, is this a good sign?

OOOOO DH just come back downstairs and has nicked the best seat on sofa ( - I usually get that one)

bigeyes · 05/10/2005 09:40

dq - have a gud visit hope you get al the support and advice for your waterbirth

ei - oh dear, it's really funny how dreams stay with you and can affect your mood.

ei23mummy · 05/10/2005 09:44

i no its so strange i feel as if it was real a little bit so ive just caught the cat and give him a big squeeze- he wasnt v pleased!!
im on my first baby aswell bigeyes and am only a couple of days ahead of you! its really exciting isnt it!!

kangel · 05/10/2005 09:45

Morning all...

Yes ei..... I had one the other night where I had 2 boys and a girl but the girl had a really scarry face like a mangled cabbage patch kid doll. It played on my mind the whole day and has got me spooked!

Couldn't get on here yesterday as was in meetings all day, am feeling really ill today, have got another cold and cough and generally feel like I could collapse but am stupidly still sitting at my desk!!! Will stay home tomorrow if I still feel like this. I managed about 3 hours sleep last night, baby wont let me lay on my side and I have never been able to sleep on my back so am not getting any sleep, and my legs.......they just wont stop when I lay down - aarrrgggghhhh Thats my moan over with!

How is everyone today? Hello to those new names I picked up on, Sorry I still haven't managed to catch up on what I missed on the last thread yet.

Nemo666 · 05/10/2005 09:51

bigeyes..it is good baby is head down but they still have lots of time to move around..lol

How is everyone
DQ hope mw is very helpful.

I spent half last night awake and the other half dreaming I was in labour. Someone I know from on here[and in rl] had her baby yesterday 3 wks early which i think is what triggered the dreams as in my rl friends it was her, then my friend em then me..arghh one down. Really panicky now as am totally unprepared for the baby and fretting about coping with 2

Nemo666 · 05/10/2005 09:52

bigeyes..it is good baby is head down but they still have lots of time to move around..lol

How is everyone
DQ hope mw is very helpful.

I spent half last night awake and the other half dreaming I was in labour. Someone I know from on here[and in rl] had her baby yesterday 3 wks early which i think is what triggered the dreams as in my rl friends it was her, then my friend em then me..arghh one down. Really panicky now as am totally unprepared for the baby and fretting about coping with 2

sweetheart · 05/10/2005 09:52

Just rang the Dr sugery and been told I can pick up a prescription for gaviscon later in the week - I don't even need to see the doctor So thanks very much to LJ for lurking with that piece of info

bigeyes, it is good that your baby is head down, although it can move position alot still at your stage and probably won't stay head down until around 34 weeks ready for birth. So sorry to hear you lost one of your babies, it must have been so hard for you.

Ei, I hate it when you remember a bad dream so vividly that it brings you down when your awake. Try and put it to the back of your mind sweetie, perhaps some chocolate might help

Scraggy - thanks for popping in with the info. Give your lovely little dd a cuddle from me

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sweetheart · 05/10/2005 09:53

Just rang the Dr sugery and been told I can pick up a prescription for gaviscon later in the week - I don't even need to see the doctor So thanks very much to LJ for lurking with that piece of info

bigeyes, it is good that your baby is head down, although it can move position alot still at your stage and probably won't stay head down until around 34 weeks ready for birth. So sorry to hear you lost one of your babies, it must have been so hard for you.

Ei, I hate it when you remember a bad dream so vividly that it brings you down when your awake. Try and put it to the back of your mind sweetie, perhaps some chocolate might help

Scraggy - thanks for popping in with the info. Give your lovely little dd a cuddle from me

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Nemo666 · 05/10/2005 09:56

bigeyes..it is good baby is head down but they still have lots of time to move around..lol

How is everyone
DQ hope mw is very helpful.
SH glad you got prescription sorted.

I spent half last night awake and the other half dreaming I was in labour. Someone I know from on here[and in rl] had her baby yesterday 3 wks early which i think is what triggered the dreams as in my rl friends it was her, then my friend em then me..arghh one down. Really panicky now as am totally unprepared for the baby and fretting about coping with 2

Nemo666 · 05/10/2005 09:58

bigeyes..it is good baby is head down but they still have lots of time to move around..lol

How is everyone
DQ hope mw is very helpful.
SH glad you got prescription sorted.

I spent half last night awake and the other half dreaming I was in labour. Someone I know from on here[and in rl] had her baby yesterday 3 wks early which i think is what triggered the dreams as in my rl friends it was her, then my friend em then me..arghh one down. Really panicky now as am totally unprepared for the baby and fretting about coping with 2

ei23mummy · 05/10/2005 09:58

hey kangel!! everyone was suggesting chocolate as a cure for all ails yesterday so maybe try some (for scientific purposes of course!!)and see if it helps!! gosh your dream sounds as disturbing as mine!!i keep having this other dream where i realise after going out that iv forgotten to take the baby with me!! its so strange as i wake up feeling like iv forgotten something irl!!

bigeyes · 05/10/2005 10:00

ei - oh I'm really tickled we'll have to see how we go!

kang - get yourself home, it took various people to convince me yesterday i shouldn't be there (wasn't even teaching any lessons yesterday) You poor thing must be v v tired. Your description reminded me of the Real Families program last nite - with the harlequin baby, looked v poorly - its scary stuff.

Being a first time mum I sometimes despair on a daily basis at all the things there is to worry about - i think I could write a book about differing degrees of worry. Whilst convelessing (exc sp) in staff room yesterday I entered into a converstation with a mum of two who got me worrying about a)if I'd end up on crutches re spd and b) how I will deal with my mother in the role of grandmother dear me what am I like!!

Nemo666 · 05/10/2005 10:00

grr sorry about double posts mn is playing up on me